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Living in Oz but so homesick..
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20-04-2010 11:10am#1Hi guys,
Im originally from Dublin and emigrated to Brisbane, three years ago with my husband and two kids. I know there are probably a lot of people who would kill to be where i am now, sunshine, beaches, outdoor life blah, blah, blah...
Yep its got all that but you also have to work, pay the bills, endure peak hour traffic, put the kids in childcare, pay the rent as house prices are insane so no hope of buying, etc etc..
I've been really homesick lately, and no matter how pretty or how sunny the country is that you're living in, it doesnt cure it.
I've come to realise that its the people that you're with, not the place that you're in that means everything.
I know how bad the irish economy is at the moment so im thinking it would be the worst time ever to move back, would i be right?
Am i mad to even think it?
Is there no jobs at all?
I'm a nurse and have heard that there are no jobs at all for nurses and that everyone is leaving,is that true?
Give it to me straight!
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Im originally from Dublin and emigrated to Brisbane, three years ago with my husband and two kids. I know there are probably a lot of people who would kill to be where i am now, sunshine, beaches, outdoor life blah, blah, blah...
I wouldnt kill to be in your position, all those spiders and snakes? you can keep them :pac::PI've been really homesick lately, and no matter how pretty or how sunny the country is that you're living in, it doesnt cure it.
I've come to realise that its the people that you're with, not the place that you're in that means everything.
I know how bad the irish economy is at the moment so im thinking it would be the worst time ever to move back, would i be right?
Am i mad to even think it?
Is there no jobs at all?
I'm a nurse and have heard that there are no jobs at all for nurses and that everyone is leaving,is that true?
Give it to me straight!
I'd rather be poor and happy than rich and miserable.0 -
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miss niamh wrote: »Hi guys,
Im originally from Dublin and emigrated to Brisbane, three years ago with my husband and two kids. I know there are probably a lot of people who would kill to be where i am now, sunshine, beaches, outdoor life blah, blah, blah...
Yep its got all that but you also have to work, pay the bills, endure peak hour traffic, put the kids in childcare, pay the rent as house prices are insane so no hope of buying, etc etc..
I've been really homesick lately, and no matter how pretty or how sunny the country is that you're living in, it doesnt cure it.
I've come to realise that its the people that you're with, not the place that you're in that means everything.
I know how bad the irish economy is at the moment so im thinking it would be the worst time ever to move back, would i be right?
Am i mad to even think it?
Is there no jobs at all?
I'm a nurse and have heard that there are no jobs at all for nurses and that everyone is leaving,is that true?
Give it to me straight!
op as much as id love to visit oz, its now way too over run with irish people..paper headlines over here saying irish are heading there in there tens of thousands..people getting arrested and sent home cos theres way too many etc.
the weather here is actually lovely here too, if u really miss it just come home, after all..home is where the heart is!0 -
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actually op i dunno if u were looking at the news but europe is closed due to a big magic smoke cloud!
on a serious note tho, my bro went to canada for about a year a couple years back and eventhough he said they are a lot more genuine race to the americans..he said it would have been impossible to live there as the place (montreal) was very polluted, had propper ghetto areas, horrible wage..when he came home (to Limerick city), he said the people are so much more genuine and real and realised he couldnt leave unless it was with loads of irish as the people just made the place what it is!0 -
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actually op i dunno if u were looking at the news but europe is closed due to a big magic smoke cloud!
on a serious note tho, my bro went to canada for about a year a couple years back and eventhough he said they are a lot more genuine race to the americans..he said it would have been impossible to live there as the place (montreal) was very polluted, had propper ghetto areas, horrible wage..when he came home (to Limerick city), he said the people are so much more genuine and real and realised he couldnt leave unless it was with loads of irish as the people just made the place what it is!
definately dave, irish people are definatley more genuine and real, what you see is what you get. its taken me nearly 3 years to crack the aussies, lovely people once you do, but jaysus it takes a long time..0 -
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Agree with the Come Home Call.....Life's too short to spend it on the other side of the world from where you want to be. Was in Oz for long enough myself and eventually ended up feeling the same way.
The way I see it people that complain about living here (In Ireland) either
1. Have not travelled or lived abroad for a decent length of time
2. Really don't know themselves what makes them feel happy
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3. Just complain about everything because they can & because everyone else does!
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Ive been away nearly a year and do get bouts of serious homesickness. Sometimes its based about one particular thing, sometimes its more general. Like I miss the random conversations you have with people on public transport.
Around the time of the Thierry Henry hand ball I got very homesick. The next day I know the entire nation was talking about it. Every office, pub and workplace was a buzz but I went into my office and no one even knew about it.
I suggest you find some Irish friends and hang out with them a bit. There is an irish bar near where I live, and I am going there to for a few pints tonight and to talk to a few people I have met who are Irish. I dont think I have ever been a regular in bar where everyone was genuinely pleased to see me when I went in. Maybe find a similar niche of Irish? Be it a bar, or a club or something.
I read in an expat survival guide that homesickness comes in about 4 different phases and that the final phase occurs 3-5 years in the country. According to the article it is concidered the worst of all the phases, but once you get over it, people generally settle down and homesickness fades away for good. I dont know if it is true, and obviously everyone is different, but it sounds to me like you are in that phase.
Economically, you would be mad to consider going home right now. However never say never. I think if you say to yourself your never going home, that would make things feel worse.
Is there anything in particular that you miss?
I've had bouts of homesickness since ive been here but this is definately the worst. Thats interesting about the survival guide, it kind of makes me feel a bit better knowing this.
The main thing i miss is the family, missing out on all the family occasions, wedings, births etc. I feel bad that my children are so far away from grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins
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Agree with the Come Home Call.....Life's too short to spend it on the other side of the world from where you want to be. Was in Oz for long enough myself and eventually ended up feeling the same way.
The way I see it people that complain about living here (In Ireland) either
1. Have not travelled or lived abroad for a decent length of time
2. Really don't know themselves what makes them feel happy
or
3. Just complain about everything because they can & because everyone else does!
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it was probably a huge decision to move your family to australia in the first place, and will be a huge one if ye do decide to go home for good.
I'm in sydney a year now, and can say that i talk to my family and friends so much (phone, text, skype, facebook etc) that i do not get seriously homesick.
Over the next 18 months i will miss my little brother's 21st, my sisters confirmation, my cousins wedding and my parent's 25th wedding anniversary.... that are the hardest things as you said.
My uncle and his wife moved to Perth from Ireland over 30 years ago and their 3 kids were raised here. They had no family here other than themselves, but they still came home once every 2 or 3 years.
Myself, i think Australia is a gorgeous country, and a great place to raise a family in.....so many opportunities here for kids that aren't at home.
Best of luck, i hope everything works out for you! xx
Hi Amy, thanks for your reply.
I would be interested to hear the opportunites that are here for kids and not in Ireland. Thanks 0 -
miss niamh wrote: »I've had bouts of homesickness since ive been here but this is definately the worst. Thats interesting about the survival guide, it kind of makes me feel a bit better knowing this.
The main thing i miss is the family, missing out on all the family occasions, wedings, births etc. I feel bad that my children are so far away from grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins
For me its not grandparents, but my parents. My dad is over 70 and my Aunt around 75, and I am terrified that I will return in a year or 3 and basically come back to a different person(or lose them while Im away). Both have health problems, and while I might hve another 10 great years with them, I could get a call tomorrow that one of them has fallen off their perch and I would never forgive myself.
Niamh, tell us about your reasoning to go to Australia. Why did you go? Whose idea was it?
I'm not trying to shift blame or point fingers but maybe if you tell us why/how you went you might start remembering some of the reasons that attracted you to the country in the first place. Talk of uprooting kids, changing jobs, moving around the globe. You have done it once already, and one would imagine it is easier to do it if your going home(Its probably not, it just feels easier).0 -
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Homesickness can be a tough one, especially when you leave behind family and close friends. I have traveled a fair bit and have lived in 2 countries outside Europe (currently in the 2nd one) Of all the places I have been to there is nothing like home. Even with all the **** going on thanks to our useless Government there is some good in Ireland that I just cant ignore. I guess it's because I'm Irish through and through and the connection is helped by the fact my family still live there. Even the 2 countries that Ive lived in they are regarded as the top places in the world for good standard of living yet I can still see flaws in their systems. No country is perfect, certainly not Ireland but it's the people that count and sometimes being with our close friends and family can outweigh any negativities around us. Ireland just needs to shift into top gear at the mo. People need to start saying this is it we'll take action and stop moaning.
Stay in Oz if you want to but what does your heart tell you, your gut instinct?
Best of luck with your decision. 0 -
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miss niamh wrote: »...I would be interested to hear the opportunites that are here for kids and not in Ireland. Thanks
going outside?
not living in a state that will experience 25% spending cuts for the next 10 years (education, health, social services, law enforcement etc..), not living in one of the most politically corrupt and incompetently managed states in Europe?
feeling homesick might be a drag, but you probably didn't move out there on a whim and for no reason. whatever those reasons were, the ecomonic and political situation in Ireland just made them ten-fold.0 -
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