Girl i like...

Former Great

Well lads , question for ye ,and girls if your about.. Theres this girl i like only know her to see never had an actual conversation with her..
Ive been told by others to try and chat her some nite shes out and tell her i like her, but im useless talking to girls i like on a nite out..
This has happened before, i liked a girl 3 years ago , used to have a few words with her if we were out , and im convinced she liked me too but i hadnt the balls to say anything..A year later she ended up goin with some fella and is still with him..
I dont want the same thing to happen again so im thinkin of messaging this girl on bebo or facebook and tellin her i like her... Is this a good idea or bad idea? Any advice???

Pyr0

If you're feeling strange about approaching the girl on a night out if you don't know her very well, add her on facebook and strike up a chat online.

Snowie

My ideals would be if you cvhat to hjer and she chats to you . that means you know you can talk, If it was me I'd be cheeky and ask her when shes going to takeyou out for a drink well after a few Pm messages on face book or something or even get her mobile number text a few times ring her and say so are you going to take me out for a drink or what?

I prefer doing it that way i dunno why prolly cause it can work if women like cheeky chappys...


Going to extreams like random comments like" I like you" may be unfortunatly seen as needy and stuff...

Khannie

+1. Get in touch on bebo or facebook or whatever, but I wouldn't be going as far as "I like you" online. Mostly you just like the look of her for now it seems.

lala stone

Defo add her! and try strike up a chat.. maybe on instant chat on facebook is more casual than leaving a message on a profile...
im sure she will be flattered someone likes her! this is from a girls point of view btw

speedboatchase

Add her on facebook and bombard her with photos of your penis. If you're unhappy with yours, send pics of someone elses. Women like this

Pyr0

I wouldn't start off being cheeky if you're not comfortable with the thought of chatting her normally ! :pac:

Facebook/msn chat seems like the best way to go, keep it casual and don't jump striaght into the "I like you" stuff. If you're getting right signals from her and she seems interested in talking to you then grand, you're on the right track, work from there !

Former Great

Pyr0 wrote: »

I wouldn't start off being cheeky if you're not comfortable with the thought of chatting her normally ! :pac:

Facebook/msn chat seems like the best way to go, keep it casual and don't jump striaght into the "I like you" stuff. If you're getting right signals from her and she seems interested in talking to you then grand, you're on the right track, work from there !

I would feel comfortable chattin her pyro , its just the part at the beginning , wondering if she likes me or not , and the fear of rejection..If she told me she didnt like me id get over it and even find it easier to chat her the next time i seen her cos id know what the story was..

Pyr0

Ah I get ya now. All ya can do is talk to her normally in that case ! How's college/work going for ya. Build it from there, just as if you were talking to a normal friend of yours, you'll get the vibe from her if she likes you or not.

Mackman

Former Great wrote: »

I would feel comfortable chattin her pyro , its just the part at the beginning , wondering if she likes me or not , and the fear of rejection..If she told me she didnt like me id get over it and even find it easier to chat her the next time i seen her cos id know what the story was..

Ah women, they're an enigma wrapped in a mystery.

Whatever you do DONT say you like her before you go out on a date/for a few beers or whatever. That'll probably just scare her away.
Im with the lads, add her on facebook/bebo, chat for a bit, then ask her to go for a few drinks. You'll know then if she's interested or not.

Best of luck dude, let us know how it goes

Former Great

Mackman wrote: »

Ah women, they're an enigma wrapped in a mystery.

Whatever you do DONT say you like her before you go out on a date/for a few beers or whatever. That'll probably just scare her away.
Im with the lads, add her on facebook/bebo, chat for a bit, then ask her to go for a few drinks. You'll know then if she's interested or not.

Best of luck dude, let us know how it goes

What if i said your cute and id like to get to know you or something like that ?

Khannie

Former Great wrote: »

What if i said your cute and id like to get to know you or something like that ?

I'd just chinwag for a bit first. You can drop the cute thing in at any point. No need to rush it.

folan

if you havent talked to her, do you know who she is to add her on bookface?

Bite the bullet. just dont drink too much and then try to talk to her!

get a wing man. women are great at this.

folan

dont use the phrase "Ive wanted to ask you out for ages"

apparently thats odd and stalkery

keane2097

Former Great wrote: »

What if i said your cute and id like to get to know you or something like that ?

Just talk to her like she's a person before coming over all loved up

Mackman

Khannie wrote: »

I'd just chinwag for a bit first. You can drop the cute thing in at any point. No need to rush it.

+1

Definatly dont say it straight off the bat. It might work, depends on the girl, but your better off playin it safe, if the conversation drifts this way (and you can try to make it drift that way if you want) then id slip something like that in there.

Zulu

If I told you you could make a bet, where you didn't have to gamble a single cent, but if you won the bet you'd get a million euros - would you make the bet?

You loose nothing by talking to her, but stand a chance getting together; you loose eitherway by not talking to her.

folan

Zulu wrote: »

If I told you you could make a bet, where you didn't have to gamble a single cent, but if you won the bet you'd get a million euros - would you make the bet?

You loose nothing by talking to her, but stand a chance getting together; you loose eitherway by not talking to her.

And she might turn out to be loaded?

Former Great

folan wrote: »

if you havent talked to her, do you know who she is to add her on bookface?

Bite the bullet. just dont drink too much and then try to talk to her!

get a wing man. women are great at this.

Yeah i know her...

keane2097

Former Great wrote: »

Yeah i know her...

It's really, really important imo that you actually talk to her just as a normal person a good few times before you give her any of the "I think you're cute" stuff.

Just any old bland, run of the mill "how are you" stuff will do, but you have to develop a "relationship" of some sort with her before you make a move.

Beetlebum

keane2097 wrote: »

It's really, really important imo that you actually talk to her just as a normal person a good few times before you give her any of the "I think you're cute" stuff.

Just any old bland, run of the mill "how are you" stuff will do, but you have to develop a "relationship" of some sort with her before you make a move.

As a girl who's been asked out by a few men in her time (on facebook too!), I couldn't agree more with Keane2097 here.

Just add her as a friend and somehow strike up a conversation about music,film, anything that you think she might be interested in. You should be able to judge from her page what she's into.

I've had guys send me messages with stuff like 'Hey, your profile pic is stunning, how are you?' and I delete them instantly. It doesn't matter if the guy looks like Johnny Depp, I lose all interest. Commenting on her appearance off the bat is a huge turn off.

Be mysterious and humorous...that'd be my advice. Overall just be yourself but don't come on too strong. She's just a human being same as yourself at the end of teh day so don't be intimidated by her beauty.

G'luck!!

punkindrublic

I agree with what most others said. Add her and talk to her in a friendly way, don't mention anything about liking her straight off. I'm a girl & i would rather someone get to know me a little before declaring their love lol. Just add her and talk, if you both get along then you might find it easier to approach when you're out.

foxyboxer

What do you have to lose?
Ask her if she'd like to meet up for a coffee. Make some small talk before this though.
Don't ask her straight out. If she declines put it down to experience and move on to the next girl.

It's better to know where you stand than to spend the rest of your life wondering "What If?"

keane2097

tbh I'd even say it's not a great idea to add her at all before talking to her properly in person.

If you have never had a converstaion with her and all of a sudden pop up in the facebook chat box I realy don't think it looks right.

Just have a brief chat with her on a night out or in passing or whatever once or twice, then adding her will be less conspicuous...

As it is I think it will be very obvious what's going on if you add her before talking to her, and it's likely to put her off.

baby and crumble

Ok, I thought I was the only one thinking its a bit weird to add someone as a friend of fb without actually knowing them... but hey, maybe I'm old fashioned!

Beetlebum

keane2097 wrote: »

tbh I'd even say it's not a great idea to add her at all before talking to her properly in person.

If you have never had a converstaion with her and all of a sudden pop up in the facebook chat box I realy don't think it looks right.

Just have a brief chat with her on a night out or in passing or whatever once or twice, then adding her will be less conspicuous...

As it is I think it will be very obvious what's going on if you add her before talking to her, and it's likely to put her off.

I agree with this too. Starting a chat on facebook before chatting in real life is a bit over familiar and intrusive. I worked with a guy before who added me on facebook and whenever I was on he'd suddenly pop up for a chat. I ended up closing my account cause I realised I hate the whole nature of fb. He was a nice guy but it wrecked my head how he would just start talking to me out of the blue.

You gotta take risks and chances but make sure you go about it the right way!! Have confidence that you are worth being with and she'd be lucky to be asked out by you.
Play it cool..

punkindrublic

Can't believe so many people are against the idea of adding someone you aren't bff's with on facebook! I get people I don't know too well adding me every day.. Today I have 15 requests, I don't think anything of it and most of them are people who have seen me out & such and I have no problem talking to them. If I'm not in the mood to talk to people I don't go on chat..simple

keane2097

punkindrublic wrote: »

Can't believe so many people are against the idea of adding someone you aren't bff's with on facebook! I get people I don't know too well adding me every day.. Today I have 15 requests, I don't think anything of it and most of them are people who have seen me out & such and I have no problem talking to them. If I'm not in the mood to talk to people I don't go on chat..simple

He's never even spoken to her

I imagine that vast majority of people would find it weird to be added by someone like that.

punkindrublic

keane2097 wrote: »

He's never even spoken to her

I imagine that vast majority of people would find it weird to be added by someone like that.

Well you could say the same thing about him chatting to her in real life then? He's not looking to propose to the girl like. It's just a chat.

keane2097

punkindrublic wrote: »

Well you could say the same thing about him chatting to her in real life then? He's not looking to propose to the girl like. It's just a chat.

Fair enough, I could be wrong.

I strongly suspect you're in the minority though

punkindrublic

keane2097 wrote: »

Fair enough, I could be wrong.

I strongly suspect you're in the minority though

The whole thread is full of people saying to go ahead & message her on facebook, so hardly.

keane2097

punkindrublic wrote: »

The whole thread is full of people saying to go ahead & message her on facebook, so hardly.

That's conclusive proof alright :rolleyes:

punkindrublic

keane2097 wrote: »

That's conclusive proof alright :rolleyes:

why have you got such an attitude over this? I'm just saying I'm not the only one. The guy has nothing to lose since he doesn't know her

keane2097

punkindrublic wrote: »

why have you got such an attitude over this? I'm just saying I'm not the only one. The guy has nothing to lose since he doesn't know her

No attitude, I just think your last post was foolish.

I also think you're giving bad advice.

That's just my opinion though

punkindrublic

keane2097 wrote: »

No attitude, I just think your last post was foolish.

I also think you're giving bad advice.

That's just my opinion though

well the op was going to message her and say he liked her so I think my advice wasn't so bad compared to that.

Bigdeadlydave

OP just add her on Facebook and if shes like "WTF y u add me?" just say someone did the "recommend a friend thing" or that she appeared in the "people you might know" box. Easy.

Pretty_Pistol

If you have mutual friends then add her on Facebook. But really you should just try and make chit chat with her the next time you're out. See how that goes and if she gives you any signals of liking you. Oh and try not to be drunk - it's very off putting!

Former Great

Pretty_Pistol wrote: »

If you have mutual friends then add her on Facebook. But really you should just try and make chit chat with her the next time you're out. See how that goes and if she gives you any signals of liking you. Oh and try not to be drunk - it's very off putting!

Too late buddy the harm is done... Sent her a msg tellin her she was cute and id like to chat her and get to know her...

keane2097

Former Great wrote: »

Too late buddy the harm is done... Sent her a msg tellin her she was cute and id like to chat her and get to know her...

Please tell me you didn't do this at 2 am...

Former Great

keane2097 wrote: »

Please tell me you didn't do this at 2 am...

No keano did earlier this evenin.. You reckon it was a bad move?

keane2097

Former Great wrote: »

No keano did earlier this evenin.. You reckon it was a bad move?

It's not what I would have done, but earlier this evening is much better than late at night.

I think late at night could come across a bit stalkerish.

I hope it works out for you dude, if it doesn't don't dismay - it was a ballsy move and at least you won't end up mooning after her for ages without ever saying anything.

Let us know if she replies...

Former Great

keane2097 wrote: »

It's not what I would have done, but earlier this evening is much better than late at night.

I think late at night could come across a bit stalkerish.

I hope it works out for you dude, if it doesn't don't dismay - it was a ballsy move and at least you won't end up mooning after her for ages without ever saying anything.

Let us know if she replies...

Thanks for your advice keano , you were sayin earlier on i should wait till i saw her out , but if i did that theres a big possibility of me been half cut when i see her .. Anyway it could be another couple of weeks before i see her out and then aswell as that i mightnt get the oppurtunity of chattin her if i did see her , it could drag on and on ..I just said fcuk it and decided to do it this way , i said to her id like to talk and get to know her and a few things like that.. Feck it i dont see it as creepy, and at least il know now fairly soon if theres a chance of anything happenin..

MrStuffins

Former Great wrote: »

Too late buddy the harm is done... Sent her a msg tellin her she was cute and id like to chat her and get to know her...

I'm sorry, but may i ask, why did you bother coming here for advice?

Everybody told you what to do, everybody said take it easy, treat her as a person and take it slow. Telling a girl you've never had a conversation with that you like her or she's cute might seem weird, as people have been trying to tell you.

I'm not having a go here, but it's 30 odd replies of telling you to do the opposite, why ask?

(ps, i hope it goes well for you)

punkindrublic

MrStuffins wrote: »

I'm sorry, but may i ask, why did you bother coming here for advice?

Everybody told you what to do, everybody said take it easy, treat her as a person and take it slow. Telling a girl you've never had a conversation with that you like her or she's cute might seem weird, as people have been trying to tell you.

I'm not having a go here, but it's 30 odd replies of telling you to do the opposite, why ask?

(ps, i hope it goes well for you)

I agree..should have left out the cute bit. Good luck anyways!

Pretty_Pistol

Former Great wrote: »

Too late buddy the harm is done... Sent her a msg tellin her she was cute and id like to chat her and get to know her...

Let us know how it goes so.

Skuxx

Well did she reply??
I hope that if she didn't you just left it at that, not sent the same message to her again and again incase she didn't get them!!! (ha personal experience, i got the same messgae on bebo everyday day for 17 days, really weird!!!)

Former Great

alan1990 wrote: »

Well did she reply??
I hope that if she didn't you just left it at that, not sent the same message to her again and again incase she didn't get them!!! (ha personal experience, i got the same messgae on bebo everyday day for 17 days, really weird!!!)

No word from her sadly..

Former Great

I guess i would of heard somethin back if there was any chance of her likin me.. May just forget about it..

BArra

u had the balls to go for it

so fair play

Former Great

BArra wrote: »

u had the balls to go for it

so fair play

I dont know if id agree with you there barra . it was easier do it this way than say it to her face..

Dr Galen

has she logged in since you sent it? Maybe she just hasn't been on FB since?