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Lads' mags.... from top shelf to every shelf.

  • 28-02-2010 9:43pm
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    Closed Accounts Posts: 7,551 ✭✭✭


    When I was growing up men's magazines of the soft porn nature were completly restricted to the top shelf. Now whatever shop you go into you can't help but be confronted with naked women's breasts,torso's and bums.

    Personally when I walk to my local spar to pick up a paper and a pint of milk,Id prefer not to be confronted with Channelle, or whatever Big Bro wannabee is on the front cover this week, flaunting their over-inflated plastic tits.
    The thing I find most offensive about Zoo,Nuts etc is not the nudity in itself but the obscene fakeness of that nudity and the effect it has on men and women.

    The Home Office in the UK recently published a report calling for these magazines to be restricted to the top shelf to try and curb the sexualisation of Children. Whatver about the children, at what age is it ever right for women to be objectified in such a manner?
    On top of this 'ordinary' women are made feel inadequate about their breatss when they are constantly bombarded with these completly cartoonish globes.

    Linky: http://www.guardian.co.uk/media/2010/feb/25/lads-magazines-restricted-home-office-study

    http://press.homeoffice.gov.uk/press-releases/sexualisation-young-people.html

    Would Irish lads and lassies welcome a similar move to confine these mags to the top shelf?


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 244 ✭✭RachPie


    Definately should be confined to top shelf for children's sake - personally I take no notice of these publications as I am well in tune that they are the products of good "marketing" as it were - fake.

    I know what boobs look like and they certainly don't defy gravity as well as "yer ones" on the cover of nuts...


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 17,485 ✭✭✭✭Ickle Magoo


    First of all I think there is a huge difference between lads mags and the sexualisation of children!! :eek:

    Secondly, they don't really bother me. I had a flatmate with an obsession for porn and had heaps of mags lying about the place so I think I'm just immune at this stage. I've never really met anyone who thinks all women should look like they stepped out of a lads mag. That said, I try and avoid going into the newsagents with the kids in tow because I don't want to have to answer questions about why half naked ladies are in those mags, so yes, top shelf or in some kind of subtle sleeve would be great. :)


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 827 ✭✭✭Wolflikeme


    I think they should be confined to the top shelf. People that want them are hardly being put out by them being on the top shelf, whereas certainly, with children in tow it would be a concern for me.

    And yes, most of the women on there are ridiculous looking however, if a woman is made to feel inadequate by a magazine cover then she already has her own insecurities to deal with in my opinion.

    I couldn't give a toss if I don't look like the guy on the cover of this month's Men's Health.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,713 ✭✭✭✭Novella


    I'm not really sure what I think about this. I mean, it grates on me that the covers of such magazines are generally graced by women with huge, fake boobs and a tan that can only come from a bottle but any time I've spoken about this with guys, they've pretty much all said the same thing, that it wasn't their ideal type of woman etc.
    So I'm not really too bothered by it, I guess. I don't see those magazines and think of it as some kind of standard to live up to. I don't want bigger boobs and I hate fake tan and page three girls aren't my role models. Nothing wrong with it at all, I just don't care, nor do I feel under any pressure due to it.

    Confining these magazines to the top shelf? It wouldn't be something I'm gonna fight for. I mean, whether they're on the top, the bottom, the target audience, the men who are gonna buy them, will. Seeing big boobs when I wanna pick up a copy of Vogue, whatever. I'd say I generally look at the top shelf anyway, just in case there might be something interesting up there I'd wanna read.

    Top shelf so kids won't see them? I don't have children so I'm actually not too sure what I think. I don't think hiding away nudity is an ideal though. "Mammy, why are all the nudey ladies at the top?", "Oh, 'cause nudey ladies are bad, honey, you should always cover up"? Sure, the pictures are 'sexy', but they're never anything too extreme or out there. I think if I had a child, I wouldn't want him/her growing up thinking his/her body was anything to be ashamed of, nor is getting your kit off. There's this huge sense of, 'Women who pose topless etc. are bimbos', but I don't think that's true at all. I wouldn't want my children thinking there was anything wrong with it, or that it was out of the ordinary. Maybe I'm just completely wrong on this though, 'cause as I said, have no kids so hard to form an opinion.

    Overall though, I don't particularly care where the magazines are placed in a shop. I don't judge the girls in them, the people who buy and read them so I just don't mind. I honestly probably wouldn't even notice where they are because I simply have no interest.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 7,551 ✭✭✭panda100


    Wolflikeme wrote: »
    And yes, most of the women on there are ridiculous looking however, if a woman is made to feel inadequate by a magazine cover then she already has her own insecurities to deal with in my opinion.

    I couldn't give a toss if I don't look like the guy on the cover of this month's Men's Health.

    You may feel different and start to feel inadequate If day in day out everywhere you went there was pictures of long,big, 'perfect' penises or taut,tight pecs.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 827 ✭✭✭Wolflikeme


    panda100 wrote: »
    You may feel different and ste=art to feel inadequate If day in day out everywhere you went there was pictures of taut,tight pecs.

    There are. I don't care. If I started to feel inadequate then I'd have issues wouldn't I?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 7,551 ✭✭✭panda100


    Wolflikeme wrote: »
    There are. I don't care. If I started to feel inadequate then I'd have issues wouldn't I?

    Your not comparing like and like.
    When national newspapers have daily pictures of perfect penises and pecs,along with the magazine racks in every shop explicitly showing them,then come back and tell me you don't feel inadeqaute about how your penis and pecs look.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 327 ✭✭F.A.


    I read the article in the Guardian on Friday and discussed it with my boyfriend who couldn't really understand the issue. One comment on there, however, finally brought it home to him (and reflects my own opinion very well):
    This discussion lacks objectivity because straight men have never had the experience of walking into a shop selling magazines and facing row upon row of mens faces and bodies smiling and posing for the camera.

    For this is a girls experience from childhood. We are presented with an array of images.... women and girls... looking directly to the camera... faces..bodies, clothed, unclothed.., boots, high heels, long hair, short hair...hairstyle magazines, beauty, weight, fat, thin.....TOP 100 hottest babes...on and on and on....

    So when it comes to Lads mags...girls grow into women..having passed the aisles of shelving...looking up...looking straight at the same pictures...again and again and again...

    Sometimes I like to imagine the shelves of WHSmith stacked with the same magazines..but where every cover showing a woman, shows a man instead.
    So the childhood of all the guys who grow up in this world where naked men, sometimes surgically enhanced, pouting, bending, in underwear and without, ...gaze into the camera and look out from 90% of the publcations in any mainstream shop.

    Of course, Men have never yet had this experience and they do not recognise what this bombardment of 'appearance' and 'attractiveness' as central to identity is. But many comments here reflect the an attitude which suggests a conviction of ownership of this uneven situation...as though they have a right to pleasure and a right to enjoy what they want and how they want it.

    Interestingly British Culture is focussing more and more on desirability in contrast to some other European cultures which place stress on 'beauty' or femininity as ideals-I am thinking of Russia and France.

    True...young women will be allright-they will survive of course but our concern with desirabilty and being 'wanted'/ appearing 'sexy' above all is not something to be valued. Young women need to be supported to enhance their health, and self confidence rather than being trained to be overly anxious about what the imaginary 'gaze' is making of their own physical appearance.

    Enough said. Top shelf it is.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,085 ✭✭✭Xiney


    Novella wrote: »
    Top shelf so kids won't see them? I don't have children so I'm actually not too sure what I think. I don't think hiding away nudity is an ideal though. "Mammy, why are all the nudey ladies at the top?", "Oh, 'cause nudey ladies are bad, honey, you should always cover up"? Sure, the pictures are 'sexy', but they're never anything too extreme or out there. I think if I had a child, I wouldn't want him/her growing up thinking his/her body was anything to be ashamed of, nor is getting your kit off. There's this huge sense of, 'Women who pose topless etc. are bimbos', but I don't think that's true at all. I wouldn't want my children thinking there was anything wrong with it, or that it was out of the ordinary. Maybe I'm just completely wrong on this though, 'cause as I said, have no kids so hard to form an opinion.

    If it was normal nudity I wouldn't really care - but this is not "realistic" nudity. I wouldn't want future children of mine to think that that is what they should look like/be attracted to when they're adults.

    Although I suppose neither are most magazine covers, when it comes down to it.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 827 ✭✭✭Wolflikeme


    panda100 wrote: »
    Your not comparing like and like.
    When national newspapers have daily pictures of perfect penises and pecs,along with the magazine racks in every shop explicitly showing them,then come back and tell me you don't feel inadeqaute about how your penis and pecs look.


    Have you been anywhere that sells magazines lately? There are plenty of magazines with 'perfect' looking men on or in them.

    What about movies where the guy who gets the girl is usually a great looking guy? Even movies (a lot of movies) with younger lads in them who've cut bodies, great bodies actually and fair play to them - and they don't have implants, lipo or whatever (which everyone knows a lot of the time looks silly) like these fake women do - and that's it - many people think they look dodgey to say the least, men included. But there's nothing dodgey about how a guy who's obviously worked on his body himself through diet and exercise and it's admired more than the women on those magazines. Men are subjected to it too.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 327 ✭✭F.A.


    Wolflikeme wrote: »
    Have you been anywhere that sells magazines lately? There are plenty of magazines with 'perfect' looking men on or in them.

    What about movies where the guy who gets the girl is usually a great looking guy? Even movies (a lot of movies) with younger lads in them who've cut bodies, great bodies actually and fair play to them - and they don't have implants, lipo or whatever (which everyone knows a lot of the time looks silly) like these fake women do - and that's it - many people think they look dodgey to say the least, men included. But there's nothing dodgey about how a guy who's obviously worked on his body himself through diet and exercise and it's admired more than the women on those magazines. Men are subjected to it too.

    And how many of these men's (supposedly) perfect penises are shoved into your face on a regular basis?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 827 ✭✭✭Wolflikeme


    F.A. wrote: »
    And how many of these men's (supposedly) perfect penises are shoved into your face on a regular basis?

    It's not just about breasts, penis' etc. It's what both sexes like. Men would prefer to see a woman's ass/breasts whatever. I've lost count of the number of times I've heard girls comment on a mans torso however.

    As well, look at any male underwear ads - perfect body and perfect bulge. They're even on the front of the boxers I buy.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,756 ✭✭✭Jules


    Can we please remember what forum this is and that this thread has been started from a woman perspective.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,658 ✭✭✭✭The Sweeper


    I'd rather they were on the top shelf because I'm bored of them tbh. I'm sick of not being able to look anywhere except to be confronted by trashy mags. The older I get, the more stuff I wish I could just avoid because focusing on it irritates and depresses me. This includes the comments under YouTube videos (the single lowest common denominator on the internet); the up-the-RA revival on Irish teen social networking pages; and the sheer ignorance inherent in a lot of what passes for an 'article' in trashy mags.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,713 ✭✭✭✭Novella


    Xiney wrote: »
    If it was normal nudity I wouldn't really care - but this is not "realistic" nudity. I wouldn't want future children of mine to think that that is what they should look like/be attracted to when they're adults.

    Although I suppose neither are most magazine covers, when it comes down to it.

    Exactly. It's just not reasonable to control to that extent what your children are exposed to. They are gonna end up seeing this kind of thing anyway and I dunno, I think it'd better for them to see it casually on magazine covers in a shop than it to be made into some big secret, 'dirty' affair with their friends or whatever.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 827 ✭✭✭Wolflikeme


    Jules wrote: »
    Can we please remember what forum this is and that this thread has been started from a woman perspective.

    Understood. But the OP did ask for a male opinion and sited 'normal women being made feel inadequate' by these magazines as one of the reasons they shouldn't be so in your face, which I made my feelings on this particular part known also, is all. :)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,756 ✭✭✭Jules


    Oh no i understand that but jsut keeping it in perspective is all!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 37,214 ✭✭✭✭Dudess


    They don't bother me, and it doesn't bother me that they're not top shelf... I suppose I do think the female form is presented/celebrated rather tackily and crassly by them though. But this doesn't offend me or anything.

    I remember making the point before that I thought burlesque and old-fashioned strip-tease was more tasteful as the girls are more natural looking and less likely to have fake boobs, and more likely to have ones that droop a bit... but it was argued that that could also be seen as tacky and that ultimately they're one and the same. I personally disagree though.


  • Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators Posts: 6,376 Mod ✭✭✭✭Macha


    There are a few simultaneous trends going on here:

    1) the images in question are very sexualised and unrealistic
    2) they are practically all of women
    3) they are everywhere

    Personally, I think the problem is compounded when all three trends converge. It isn't to the same level but just open tomorrow morning's edition of Metro and count the young, sexualised images of women and men. I think you'll find one gender is more highly represented than the other.

    Some interesting research I was looking at the other day noted that women tend to have less problems with these images if they live in societies that aren't uptight about nudity. The reason is, that they (and men) have more opportunities to view the bodies of real women and fully appreciate how bizarre and plastic the images in these publications are. If, on the other hand, these are the only images of other women that you see, it's pretty easy to look in the mirror and think you are less than adequate.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    taconnol wrote: »
    Some interesting research I was looking at the other day noted that women tend to have less problems with these images if they live in societies that aren't uptight about nudity. The reason is, that they (and men) have more opportunities to view the bodies of real women and fully appreciate how bizarre and plastic the images in these publications are. If, on the other hand, these are the only images of other women that you see, it's pretty easy to look in the mirror and think you are less than adequate.

    Now that is an interesting point. When I was younger I thought the big boobs/perfect tan etc. women on the noodie mag covers were the most beautiful women in the world. Of course my experience in seeing what womens' bodies looked like was limited as such magazines were my only source of such. Now that I'm a bit older (and a little wiser I would think) the 'ladz mag' stereotype of female beauty just doesn't do it for me anymore. It's gotten to the point where I'm looking at these images thinking, "That's not what a women should look like". It strikes me as unnatural and unnatural is not attractive.
    So basically what I'm trying to get at is that if a guy like me could have been 'taken in' by that stereotype surely many young impressionable women have been too.

    Also, the point was brought up about magazines such as Men's Health. I don't think the comparison is a particularly good one, not because they are rarer than 'ladz mags', but the fact that they serve a different function. 'Ladz mags' are primarily for titilation, where things like Men's Health are proper lifestyle magazines which feature proper articles on men's health and fitness and are bought primarily for this function. It is also worth noting that these magazines do not feature steroid enchanced (that to me is the male equivalent of plastic boobs) men, but rather naturally toned/built men who have woked hard to achieve their impressive physicality.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,265 ✭✭✭SugarHigh


    Could someone fill me in on what terrible thing happens when a child see's an image of a naked person?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 37,214 ✭✭✭✭Dudess


    Well this isn't merely a case of "a naked person" - it's a naked person in a fairly heavily sexualised context, and some deem it inappropriate for children up to a certain age to be exposed (pun not intended) to that, or that it might lead to unrealistic expectations. I personally wouldn't see the issue though - such images have always been around in some shape or form. When I was a kid it was Samantha Fox's gigantic bazookas, and lads at school were always on about them - didn't make much of a difference to us girls though...


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 43,311 ✭✭✭✭K-9


    panda100 wrote: »
    Your not comparing like and like.
    When national newspapers have daily pictures of perfect penises and pecs,along with the magazine racks in every shop explicitly showing them,then come back and tell me you don't feel inadeqaute about how your penis and pecs look.

    I must stop watching Rugby Internationals, the pecs on those guys! :o I feel inadequate!

    I get your point though.

    On the children point, I'd agree to an extent. When I'm shopping in Tesco I'd prefer if they where on the top shelf. Don't know if it would make a major difference to the issue though.

    Mad Men's Don Draper : What you call love was invented by guys like me, to sell nylons.



  • Posts: 50,630 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    K-9 wrote: »
    I must stop watching Rugby Internationals, the pecs on those guys! :o I feel inadequate!

    Ah, but you're comparing fit healthy men with girls who may have gone under the knife to look the look the way they do. I don't think there's a woman here who would have a problem with pictures of naturally fit and beautiful women on the covers of the pages. (we'd love to see g'em every time we walk into the newsagents :D)

    Personally, I don't have problem with it, couldn't care less if I see it all day every day. I would genuinely be less confident when looking at the likes of women's health than Zoo.

    I would have a problem with children opening a newspaper and wanting to know why there is a naked woman pouting on page 3. You see it more and more these days, girls wanting to be famous, rather than succesful, wanting to marry footballers, rather than becoming a doctor. For that reason, I think they should be confined to the top shelf. HOWEVER, I think this has alot to do with how children are brought up, of course society is going to have a big influence but teach your children well from an early age and you can giving them the gift of thinking for themselves.

    Another point: others might disagree, but I wouldn't put breasts on the same level as penises :confused:.
    I mean, you wouldn't bat an eyelid if women walked on a beach topless, can't say the same about a man walking around with his junk out.


  • Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators Posts: 6,376 Mod ✭✭✭✭Macha


    Another point: others might disagree, but I wouldn't put breasts on the same level as penises :confused:.
    I mean, you wouldn't bat an eyelid if women walked on a beach topless, can't say the same about a man walking around with his junk out.
    Actually with Ireland's bizarre laws, if a woman and a man are walking together on a beach and both are topless, the woman is guilty of indecent public exposure while the man is not.

    Double standards anyone?

    Personally, I'm sick of our society's obsession with superficial vacuousness - shallow materialism takes up all our time, money and effort while the really important stuff barely warrants a passing glance.


  • Posts: 50,630 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    taconnol wrote: »
    Actually with Ireland's bizarre laws, if a woman and a man are walking together on a beach and both are topless, the woman is guilty of indecent public exposure while the man is not.
    .

    I did not know that!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 22,048 ✭✭✭✭Snowie


    I realise, that this topic is more so for womens point of veiw. me being male may not have much of an input.

    While yes your thaughts on pictures.... Are all true these girls get payed and well payed for wwhat they do and I dont really have an issue with that...

    But I think the Black and white interveiws they do with them are the more concerning thing.... To take note of while When i was 16 and read maxim my dad tock an interest and read it to for a number of reasons.... One to see what they where saying, and thankfully it wasnt as bad as these days....

    I think the nuts and more glossy page 3 publications rasie Eyebrows... As in what they talk about make the women sound like easy lays now to an 16 year old male I would be more concerned the damage of the wording does to the damage the pictures do... While, yes but the raunchyness of some of the interveiws... are just more so making the girl out to be a complete easy lay... and a suggestionable 16 year old males going to create a soem what fictional and very esxpectent attitude to women.

    I could go into this further but I just wanted to point out that the interveiws are far far worse then the pictures.....


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 34,788 ✭✭✭✭krudler


    Why does a kid even need to go into a magazine shop to see overly sexualised images of women? all they have to do is turn on one of the music channels and you get bombarded with them all day long, do you think the singers in music videos are "natural" beauty? are they fudge, doused in makeup, lit to prefection, the video is graded beyond belief to hide any imperfections, look at a pic of Britney in a video:

    Britney_Spears_Gimme_More_video_screenshot_400x300_091007.jpg

    and then in real life with a camera flash going off in her face where her skin looks like a normal persons, imperfect:

    Britney-Spears-rel.jpg

    Fake beauty sells, its also ironic that people give out about lads mags showing girls with big (not always fake btw) boobs, yet womens mags are full of pictures of buff men on the beach or whatever, I agree completely that theres a double standard about the sexualisation of men and women, but that double standard works both ways. I overheard some women at work talking about some rugby player and one of them said "god I'd rape him" and they all laughed, if I was looking at a pic of a girl and said "yeah, I'd rape her" Id have been fired on the spot.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 17,485 ✭✭✭✭Ickle Magoo


    Dudess wrote: »
    Well this isn't merely a case of "a naked person" - it's a naked person in a fairly heavily sexualised context, and some deem it inappropriate for children up to a certain age to be exposed (pun not intended) to that.......

    Totally agree. My kids are under six, they wouldn't be watching music channels or go on anything other than the Beebies website but walk into the local newsagents and there is just a printed sea of lace thongs and hooker red lipstick right at their eye level.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 7,551 ✭✭✭panda100


    Xiney wrote: »
    If it was normal nudity I wouldn't really care - but this is not "realistic" nudity. I wouldn't want future children of mine to think that that is what they should look like/be attracted to when they're adults.

    This is definately what I have a problem with too.
    I think the naked body is fantastic and something we should be more liberated about in Ireland.
    To me though a Page three girl is not being liberated about nudity as their not real women bodies. Theres not any hair on them for god sake and most women have hair on their breasts,armpits,stomach and pubic area.
    These women are meant to be sexually appealing to men contorting their bodies into all types of positions to apper sexier. Sex is now more about performance and apperances then real gratification and intimicy.


    Also Krudler,the report also called for a curb on raunchy music videos:
    "The report in particular criticises lyrics by N-Dubz and 50 Cent for their tendency to sexualise women or refer to them in a derogatory manner, and singles out the rap artist Nelly for a video showing him swiping a credit card through a young woman's buttocks. But it adds that, while degrading sexual content is most apparent in rap-rock, rap, rap-metal and R&B, it is to be found across all music genres.

    It argues that such sexually provocative music videos are commonplace and easily accessible by children through TV and DVDs. A loophole exempting music videos from the 1984 Video Recordings Act should be closed as well as requiring broadcasters to ensure they are only shown after 9pm"


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,164 ✭✭✭seahorse


    krudler wrote: »
    I overheard some women at work talking about some rugby player and one of them said "god I'd rape him" and they all laughed, if I was looking at a pic of a girl and said "yeah, I'd rape her" Id have been fired on the spot.

    Your issue here is that coming from a woman that would be taken as a joke, whereas a man saying the same thing would not be found light-hearted or funny. There's a reason for that: The vast vast majority of sexual violence in our world is perpetrated by men against women - not the other way around.

    If you think men are hard done by here in the humour stakes maybe consider the reasons for it - and there is no humour involved in that.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    krudler wrote: »
    I overheard some women at work talking about some rugby player and one of them said "god I'd rape him" and they all laughed, if I was looking at a pic of a girl and said "yeah, I'd rape her" Id have been fired on the spot.

    Did you report them? You are entitled too. The legislation is the same for both genders, if it make you uncomfortable in work then report it.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5,361 ✭✭✭Boskowski


    seahorse wrote: »
    If you think men are hard done by here in the humour stakes maybe consider the reasons for it - and there is no humour involved in that.

    It's inappropriate when anyonetalks like that.
    If a woman finds that kind of stuff offensive if uttered by a man then she shouldn't be applying double-standards to herself. Regardless of what gender commits sexual violence more often. Trying to make a case for double-standards here is ridiculous.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,164 ✭✭✭seahorse


    realcam wrote: »
    It's inappropriate when anyonetalks like that.
    If a woman finds that kind of stuff offensive if uttered by a man then she shouldn't be applying double-standards to herself. Regardless of what gender commits sexual violence more often. Trying to make a case for double-standards here is ridiculous.

    More of the usual PC crap I've come to expect on boards.ie :rolleyes:

    There is a WORLD of difference between a man and a woman making that comment. There is no implicit threat in a woman saying that and the reason people find it funny is because it is so unlikely as to be absurd.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 34,788 ✭✭✭✭krudler


    seahorse wrote: »
    More of the usual PC crap I've come to expect on boards.ie :rolleyes:

    There is a WORLD of difference between a man and a woman making that comment. There is no implicit threat in a woman saying that and the reason people find it funny is because it is so unlikely as to be absurd.

    That was exactly my point tbh, a few women laughed at an innappropriate joke, if it was a bunch of men who made the same joke and it was overheard by a female colleague there would be uproar.

    As for the maleon female ratio of violence, theres a good thread about this exact topic on the gentlemens club forum at the mo, makes for interesting reading.

    The debate of whether female glamour model/strippers/provocative music stars are empowered or exploited will go on forever tbh.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    seahorse wrote: »
    More of the usual PC crap I've come to expect on boards.ie :rolleyes:

    There is a WORLD of difference between a man and a woman making that comment. There is no implicit threat in a woman saying that and the reason people find it funny is because it is so unlikely as to be absurd.

    I know of at least 3 men who were forced to have sex with a woman against their will, two of them were asleep at the time and woke up to find the woman had lowered themselves on to them.

    To have sex with someone who has not consented is rape.

    The notion that men can't be raped and will enjoy any sexual encounter forced upon them and that women can't rape someone is wrong and harmful.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,164 ✭✭✭seahorse


    Thaedydal wrote: »
    To have sex with someone who has not consented is rape.

    The notion that men can't be raped and will enjoy any sexual encounter forced upon them and that women can't rape someone is wrong and harmful.

    Those are very obvious facts Thaedydal and I hope you're not suggesting I'm unaware of them. My point is that the prevelence of sexual abuse directed at woman outweighs that directed at men by a staggering degree, and as to the instances of men being assaulted, it is usually men themselves doing the assaulting. This situation leads to a natural acceptance of men's joking in this fashion being less socially acceptable than this sort of crude humour coming from women.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    It happening to women more is cold comfort to a man it has happened to.
    That type of behaviour is not acceptable from either gender, esp in the work place it is unprofessional, breaches work code of conduct and the law and you never know what people you work with have suffered.

    I agree that the media does bombard use with such images and they can effect kids as they hit the pubesent stages, I've seen it happen with mine.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 34,788 ✭✭✭✭krudler


    You know whats really fcuked up? when you see kids wearing tshirts that say "porn star in training" and have Playboy bunny bedsheets and stuff like that, any parent who dresses their kid like that should have them taken off them tbh. Go into any city centre or shopping centre on a Saturday afternoon and you'll see at least one gaggle of teenage girls wearing skirts so short you can practically see their arse cheeks poking out, there last summer me and a friend were going out and dropped his brother, who was about 15 at the time to an "alchohol free" disco, and it was shocking seeing the way some of the girls were dressed, getting out of their mummys SUV and trying not to flash their underwear (those who were wearing any, thats apparently a big thing now at under 18 discos, short skirts with no knickers on underneath) at anyone passing by, I didnt know where to bloody look when we were parked outside.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 17,485 ✭✭✭✭Ickle Magoo


    I think the worst was the silky bra & pant set I saw - aged 3-4... :eek:


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,798 ✭✭✭Mr. Incognito


    I really like that article about women looking at these mags are trying to emulate them and the detrimental effects.

    Fact is it is a moot point where the mags are- walk around the Wes or Dublin on a Saturday night and women are dressed this way.

    Short of bringing in the Burca there's nothing in a lads mag that isn't already walking the streets.

    I have no idea how you get the genie back in the bottle.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 17,485 ✭✭✭✭Ickle Magoo


    Fact is it is a moot point where the mags are- walk around the Wes or Dublin on a Saturday night and women are dressed this way.

    Most young kids aren't around the Wes on a Saturday night to witness it, so it's not entirely a moot point... :)


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,540 ✭✭✭Giselle


    I really like that article about women looking at these mags are trying to emulate them and the detrimental effects.

    Fact is it is a moot point where the mags are- walk around the Wes or Dublin on a Saturday night and women are dressed this way.

    Short of bringing in the Burca there's nothing in a lads mag that isn't already walking the streets.

    I have no idea how you get the genie back in the bottle.



    I've yet to see a woman wearing just boots and a thong walking the streets, but maybe I just live in a really tame neighbourhood.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,798 ✭✭✭Mr. Incognito


    Look lets not argue semantics. Fact is fifteen years ago I remember going to Scotland and seeing women in very very short skirts and skimpy tops and thinking "oh my God!" that would never be seen in Ireland. Now it's common place.

    The proliferation of lads mags off the top shelf is a reflection of the loosing of the moral shackles and the hedonistic modern lifestyle of the young.

    How this affects women's self image is a huge debate, but to argue that it is not affecting their external image is a lie. It is. Walk down grafton Street in the summer at 2 am.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,737 ✭✭✭BroomBurner


    I don't think lad's mags are effecting girl's images of themselves, most girls (especially young girls) don't read these. The biggest threat to a girl's self confidence comes from women's magazines, not mens.

    Also, if people are worried about their children having unreal expectations about what naked women look like based on lad's mags/porn or the likes of OK, then they should be educating their children on the facts behind it.

    I'm sick of this "won't someone please think of the children" bullsh*t.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 17,485 ✭✭✭✭Ickle Magoo


    It's not "think of the children" bull****. :rolleyes: Jeez, spot the childless.

    Why should I have to field questions from a three year old girl as to why some women with her tits out is pouting at her from the magazine next to her sparkly princess one just for the sake of not having the mags on a higher shelf or in some kind of cover?!


  • Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators Posts: 6,376 Mod ✭✭✭✭Macha


    Giselle wrote: »
    I've yet to see a woman wearing just boots and a thong walking the streets, but maybe I just live in a really tame neighbourhood.

    I also doubt they've managed to perfect airbrushing in real life (make up and all the other artifices of the "fake femininity project" can only do so much).


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5,361 ✭✭✭Boskowski


    seahorse wrote:
    here is a WORLD of difference between a man and a woman making that comment. There is no implicit threat in a woman saying that and the reason people find it funny is because it is so unlikely as to be absurd.

    oh right. So what you're saying is when I say that there is an implicit threat and it's not absurd? Do you not realize how ridiculous this sounds?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,264 ✭✭✭✭Alicat


    I remember a discussion very similar to this from last year (referring to mags).

    Loaded, Nuts, Etc

    Went on for a while!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5,361 ✭✭✭Boskowski


    Look lets not argue semantics. Fact is fifteen years ago I remember going to Scotland and seeing women in very very short skirts and skimpy tops and thinking "oh my God!" that would never be seen in Ireland. Now it's common place.

    The proliferation of lads mags off the top shelf is a reflection of the loosing of the moral shackles and the hedonistic modern lifestyle of the young.

    How this affects women's self image is a huge debate, but to argue that it is not affecting their external image is a lie. It is. Walk down grafton Street in the summer at 2 am.

    I don't know about your theory. I'm from place that's always been fairly bohemian and would have had a pretty hedonistic reputation even a hundred years ago. But yet the girls wouldn't go out there wearing this cheap version of half nothing that they sport here a lot. Also people in general and girls in particular would carry themselves with a lot more dignity at 2am. Cue: vomiting and falling about in the same skimpy dresses.
    Don't get me wrong I'm all for skimpy dresses. Everyone to their own.
    Just don't see the relationship between lads mags and girls attire


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