Gym flirting..no go or go go?!

missmise

So, my friend and I spotted the cutest guy on the Irishtown Stadium gym on Thur and we were chatting about it after woth some more friends and couldn't figure out if it's a good idea to try to get chatting with him. Looked like he was a trainer so does that mean he probably takes it all seriously & wouldn't be interested in that while working out??

And if it is okay to make a move, what's the best way?!

When I say hot I mean this guy was in spandex leggings and still looked damn fine!!!

Kyle Maynard

OMG.

That sounds like me!. I train in the same place, and regularly wear spandex leggings (I know they are awful looking things, but soo comfy). Well flirt and see what happens.

See you around hopefully.

corkcomp

missmise wrote: »

So, my friend and I spotted the cutest guy on the Irishtown Stadium gym on Thur and we were chatting about it after woth some more friends and couldn't figure out if it's a good idea to try to get chatting with him. Looked like he was a trainer so does that mean he probably takes it all seriously & wouldn't be interested in that while working out??

And if it is okay to make a move, what's the best way?!

When I say hot I mean this guy was in spandex leggings and still looked damn fine!!!

just smile and say hello.. let it at that and you will know soon enough by the reaction if he might be interested. Us guys dont mind being approached in the gym as long as its subtle and not full on

Hail 2 Da Chimp

missmise wrote: »

When I say hot I mean this guy was in spandex leggings and still looked damn fine!!!

Transform?!?

the drifter

So thats where hanley has been secretly training......

Naos

corkcomp wrote: »

Us guys dont mind being approached in the gym as long as its subtle and not full on

OP if this advice was serious, then disregard it.

Full on and nont subtle is what a guy needs - we're terrible at picking up the hints.

corkcomp

Naos wrote: »

OP if this advice was serious, then disregard it.

Full on and nont subtle is what a guy needs - we're terrible at picking up the hints.

speak for yourself! if a stranger comes up to you in the gym and smiles and starts making small talk, then there is a good chance you could be onto something

The_Kew_Tour

My mate first met his wife in gym.

He good looking chap in fairness (the boll ox;)) and I have to say she was fit in every way too;) (of course would not say that to him now)

LOLA08

I a lot of people meet in the gym, T/F can be more like a dating agency than a gym at the best of times. why not go for it. sure you have something in common already keeping fit. plus it cuts out a lot of crap that you get in pubs/clubs, drunken gribble.

digme

missmise wrote: »

So, my friend and I spotted the cutest guy on the Irishtown Stadium gym on Thur and we were chatting about it after woth some more friends and couldn't figure out if it's a good idea to try to get chatting with him. Looked like he was a trainer so does that mean he probably takes it all seriously & wouldn't be interested in that while working out??

And if it is okay to make a move, what's the best way?!

When I say hot I mean this guy was in spandex leggings and still looked damn fine!!!

Don't chat too much as he might get bored.Show him what you can bench maybe.

Prezatch

My suggestion would be to stick on a tight pair of tracky bottoms and ask him would he mind spotting you on a squat lift. They'll have to stand right next to your butt when you squat down. If they're not talking to you after that then forget about it :P

Boston

A good GYM is hard to find but you can hook up anywhere. That would be my view.

davmol

Theres no hard and fast rule but the one i adhere to is if youre hot i dont mind if youre a minger dont bother

JohnnyMustang22

davmol wrote: »

Theres no hard and fast rule but the one i adhere to is if youre hot i dont mind if youre a minger dont bother

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAH Classic......

corkcomp

davmol wrote: »

Theres no hard and fast rule but the one i adhere to is if youre hot i dont mind if youre a minger dont bother

I wasnt going to put my head on the block by sayin that, but yeah its what we were all thinking :pac:

missmise

Haha love the honesty!! Not harsh tho, no1 wants an ugly girl!! Don't think I'd fall into that category though thankfully!! Still don't hav a clue how to get talking in a gum though! It's not somewhere people ate open to conversation!

Right, it was a tight little top last time....guess it's time to break out my own spandex pants!!!

itsallaboutheL

missmise wrote: »

Haha love the honesty!! Not harsh tho, no1 wants an ugly girl!! Don't think I'd fall into that category though thankfully!! Still don't hav a clue how to get talking in a gum though! It's not somewhere people ate open to conversation!

Right, it was a tight little top last time....guess it's time to break out my own spandex pants!!!

"Hi mr man can use show me how to use this machine"


Simples


a girl once came over and asked me how to use the stairmaster.... oh how i laughed

amacachi

itsallaboutheL wrote: »

a girl once came over and asked me how to use the stairmaster.... oh how i laughed

Why? I find them confusing as ****, I get how they work for going up stairs but if you want to go downstairs there's no screen for time etc. Very annoying.

itsallaboutheL

amacachi wrote: »

Why? I find them confusing as ****, I get how they work for going up stairs but if you want to go downstairs there's no screen for time etc. Very annoying.

I weigh ~100kg and was lifting something rather heavy at the time.... not the best person to ask about stairmasters!!

rccaulfield

Another reason to have a home gym. Avoid people who don't go to train!

brianthebard

adrian280582 wrote: »

My mate first met his wife in gym.

He good looking chap in fairness (the boll ox;)) and I have to say she was fit in every way too;) (of course would not say that to him now)

Got a bit lax about training after she landed a man and gained a few stone did she?

Hail 2 Da Chimp

Ask him to show you how to use the leg abductor machine - maintain eye contact all the time you are using it!

brianblaze

I go to the gym to work out, not pick up girls...

On the occasions that a girl does bat the auld eyelids, I just ignore it. In the pool or the steam room, I'll talk to anyone, working out, if you're voice isn't coming from my iPod, then I can't hear you.

d'Oracle

It strikes me as a bit odd that someone would ask someone is it alright to flirt in the Gym.

Is it ever alright?
Is it ever not alright?

I mean surely how and when people get together is pretty much up to them.

billyhead

Yeh,
Same here I go to train hard not to chat up girls. Leave your ego at the door

d'Oracle

billyhead wrote: »

Leave your ego at the door

Eh?

Jimmy Bottlehead

billyhead wrote: »

Yeh,
Same here I go to train hard not to chat up girls. Leave your ego at the door

OP is a girl.

billyhead

Sorry,

I just said it so that lads should not be just going to the gym to chat or look up women. Your there for one thing only. Go in train hard and get out.

Chet Zar

billyhead wrote: »

Sorry,

I just said it so that lads should not be just going to the gym to chat or look up women. Your there for one thing only. Go in train hard and get out.

Agree that you shouldn't go to the gym JUST to chat up women (who would do that anyway) but no harm in a bit of flirting if the chance presents itself!

Red Alert

I don't actively seek out women at the gym, but if they talk to me then I'll talk to them.

itsallaboutheL

Jimmy Bottlehead wrote: »

OP is a girl.

Girls have egos too...

They also like other girls sometimes..

giggidy...

Floppybits

LOLA08 wrote: »

I a lot of people meet in the gym, T/F can be more like a dating agency than a gym at the best of times. why not go for it. sure you have something in common already keeping fit. plus it cuts out a lot of crap that you get in pubs/clubs, drunken gribble.

What TF is this? Just curious.

Hanley

Floppybits wrote: »

What TF is this? Just curious.

I'd imagine it's Sandyford. The quality of the girls up there is much better than the others.

I do know someone in Blanchardstown VERY guilty of using the gym as his own personal dating pool, and being rampantly successful at it, the boll0x.

cardio,shoot me

Hanley wrote: »

I'd imagine it's Sandyford. The quality of the girls up there is much better than the others.

I do know someone in Blanchardstown VERY guilty of using the gym as his own personal dating pool, and being rampantly successful at it, the boll0x.

Degsy? :P:P:P.

and i cant say ive noticed if attractive girls use TF sandyford. i rarely notice anyone in the gym!

corkcomp

cardio,shoot me wrote: »

Degsy? :P:P:P.

and i cant say ive noticed if attractive girls use TF sandyford. i rarely notice anyone in the gym!

unfortunately the pretty girls are normally to be found at the opposite side of the gym floor to the free weights! jsut as well tomorrow morning is my cardio day

Hanley

cardio,shoot me wrote: »

Degsy? :P:P:P.

and i cant say ive noticed if attractive girls use TF sandyford. i rarely notice anyone in the gym!

Don't worry dude, once ya hit pubery these things will come together for ya!


:D:D:D:D:D

Red Cortina

corkcomp wrote: »

unfortunately the pretty girls are normally to be found at the opposite side of the gym floor to the free weights! jsut as well tomorrow morning is my cardio day

Bloody hell!! You wouldn't want to be too sensitive around here!!! It is so bloody hard to actually go and use the bloody free weights section in TF Sandyford as a women not to mind hearing this!!! There are f-all women in the free weights area in this gym as it is! This post is certainly going to send them running to hills now!!!

cardio,shoot me

Red Cortina wrote: »

Bloody hell!! You wouldn't want to be too sensitive around here!!! It is so bloody hard to actually go and use the bloody free weights section in TF Sandyford as a women not to mind hearing this!!! There are f-all women in the free weights area in this gym as it is! This post is certainly going to send them running to hills now!!!

no one cares if your a girl in the free weights section!

cardio,shoot me

Hanley wrote: »

Don't worry dude, once ya hit pubery these things will come together for ya!


:D:D:D:D:D

whats pubery James? and i dont know how i didnt see that one coming...

G86

corkcomp wrote: »

unfortunately the pretty girls are normally to be found at the opposite side of the gym floor to the free weights!

The cheek....!:pac:

Oh and in response to the topic at hand, there's no harm in going up an having the banter with someone in the gym - so long as it isn't when they're half way through a metcon:mad:

Casey_81

fell off a treadmill once when i was checking someone out in their relection in the window... not exactly the best way to pick someone up, but definiately got noticed

Needless to say I dont go to that gym anymore... tend to swim instead now. I HATE when random people talk to me when I'm swimming

Nervouspriest

OP you seem very dedicated to your gym work if this is all you have to worry about.:rolleyes:

Hanley

Nervouspriest wrote: »

OP you seem very dedicated to your gym work if this is all you have to worry about.:rolleyes:

There's been a few comments like this and I have to say they've annoyed me.

You've no idea how hard the OP's working. Even people training at their absolute limit have warm ups, cool downs and time between sets where you don't need to put any actual concentrated effort into what you're doing and you can let your mind wander.

If you see someone who catches your eye, what's the problem?

Most guys would be incredibly flattered to have a girl approach them in the gym. Guess some people are too hardcore for that tho.

Nervouspriest

Hanley wrote: »

There's been a few comments like this and I have to say they've annoyed me.

You've no idea how hard the OP's working. Even people training at their absolute limit have warm ups, cool downs and time between sets where you don't need to put any actual concentrated effort into what you're doing and you can let your mind wander.

If you see someone who catches your eye, what's the problem?

Most guys would be incredibly flattered to have a girl approach them in the gym. Guess some people are too hardcore for that tho.

It just seems very desperate. There is a time and place for everything.

Hanley

Nervouspriest wrote: »

It just seems very desperate. There is a time and place for everything.

Surely it's the opposite of desperate? If a girl's confident enough in herself to go and talk to a guy in a male dominated envoirnment, where she's probably not looking her best - power to her.

I'd call some girl drunkly stumbling around a club looking for a quick score off any guy who shows interest a golden opportunity desperate.

:D

And don't forget, it's not the same for girls. THey want all that romance crap... the chance meeting with the guy of their dreams unexpectedly and all the stuff that develops out of it.

Nervouspriest

Hanley wrote: »

Surely it's the opposite of desperate? If a girl's confident enough in herself to go and talk to a guy in a male dominated envoirnment, where she's probably not looking her best - power to her.

I'd call some girl drunkly stumbling around a club looking for a quick score off any guy who shows interest a golden opportunity desperate.

:D

And don't forget, it's not the same for girls. THey want all that romance crap... the chance meeting with the guy of their dreams unexpectedly and all the stuff that develops out of it.

Well I would regard it as desperate/needy/someone craving attention.

If you got chatting for whatever reason in a gym then that is fine, but to actually go out of your way to flirt etc with them, is a bit forward and would make the other person feel slightly awkward.

Some of the Polish girls in my gym would make me think twice though:) They all seem very into their fitness.

Hanley

Nervouspriest wrote: »

Well I would regard it as desperate/needy/someone craving attention.

Why tho? If it's someone she's attracted to then what's the problem? If she just wanted attention/validation etc she'd be all over any guy she could get near.

If you got chatting for whatever reason in a gym then that is fine, but to actually go out of your way to flirt etc with them, is a bit forward and would make the other person feel slightly awkward.

Some of the Polish girls in my gym would make me think twice though:) They all seem very into their fitness.

Not all flirting's gonna be a girl jumping on a guy either tho... Like if she just strikes up a convo with him is that alright? Girls can be a lot more subtle than you give them credit for. They only need to be stupidly up front at times because most of us guys are blinder than Stevie Wonder.

I'm gonna keep arguing this point by the way... :D I don't like the distinction between "clubs/bars for meeting people" and everywhere else for just going about life.

Chet Zar

Nervouspriest wrote: »

It just seems very desperate. There is a time and place for everything.

This is why you're not meeting enough women.

And I don't mean you personally (although maybe it's true for you too). Why compartmentalise? Why not chat up a woman in a gym, or a supermarket, or waiting for a bus. Done in the right way then it's not different to chatting to someone in bar.

corkcomp

Red Cortina wrote: »

Bloody hell!! You wouldn't want to be too sensitive around here!!! It is so bloody hard to actually go and use the bloody free weights section in TF Sandyford as a women not to mind hearing this!!! There are f-all women in the free weights area in this gym as it is! This post is certainly going to send them running to hills now!!!

well obviously you are a tad sensitive! if you actually read my post I was NOT saying its a good thing for women to avoid the free weights area, the opposite in fact. anyone who would run to the hills to avoid weights based on my post above is merely looking for an excuse tbh

emmm, back on topic - of course there is nothing wrong with chatting someone up in the gym

BobbyOLeary

Red Cortina wrote: »

Bloody hell!! You wouldn't want to be too sensitive around here!!! It is so bloody hard to actually go and use the bloody free weights section in TF Sandyford as a women not to mind hearing this!!! There are f-all women in the free weights area in this gym as it is! This post is certainly going to send them running to hills now!!!

Because some randomer on boards looks at you to see if you're attractive? Really?

Nervouspriest

Chet Zar wrote: »

This is why you're not meeting enough women.

And I don't mean you personally (although maybe it's true for you too). Why compartmentalise? Why not chat up a woman in a gym, or a supermarket, or waiting for a bus. Done in the right way then it's not different to chatting to someone in bar.

That's just the way it is in Irish society, it will never change. Our attitudes for the most part, can't understand why someone would chat someone up outside of a bar/nightclub environment.

I don't need to chat anyone up anyway, as I am the type of person everyone wants to be around, helps that I am very good looking and have an amazing personality.:)