so how bad is it for a guy to find out his ex is doing his best friend?

CptMackey

I went out with a girl for two months, then we both went or separate ways.
My best friend then approached me about 6months later saying that he had met here in a club and would I mind he he asked her out. Didnt bother me and now they are getting married.

So once the original relationship wasnt serious I think its fine

evil_seed

and ye'll be eskimo brothers haha

BigZeb

Dublin_Gunner wrote: »

Its an unwritten rule, never to be broken.

i agree with this

what sort of a friend would reopen the can of worms that was your previous relationship.

in my current 'group' of friends, this line would never be crossed. however, i know groups of guys and girls that pass partners round like snuff at a wake.

if you feel hard done by, do your mates sister

Columbia

Depends on the person too. If I found out my best friend was sleeping with any of my exes, I wouldn't care.

Le King

One of my m8's ended up with a girl I was with for a year before. Didn't piss me off because I had no feelings for her at all. In fact I felt sorry for the guy for having to do it (She's gone into major depression and weight problems since I last seen her). However, now as I'm older, I ten to choose my girlfriends wisely. If any of my m8's even started texting a girl I was with since I was 16, that would be me done with them and btw it has happened.

Handsome Bob

Osu wrote: »

One of my m8's ended up with a girl I was with for a year before. Didn't piss me off because I had no feelings for her at all. In fact I felt sorry for the guy for having to do it (She's gone into major depression and weight problems since I last seen her). However, now as I'm older, I ten to choose my girlfriends wisely. If any of my m8's even started texting a girl I was with since I was 16, that would be me done with them and btw it has happened.

That's a tad much, chances are if you've been with a girl for a long time then your friends will inevitably become her friends too. I wouldn't see texting my mate's long term girlfriend as a problem if it was innocent.

seanybiker

He is your mate, she is an ex for a reason. Be proud your mate is getting an ould ride for himself.

Dr Galen

Osu wrote: »

One of my m8's ended up with a girl I was with for a year before. Didn't piss me off because I had no feelings for her at all. In fact I felt sorry for the guy for having to do it (She's gone into major depression and weight problems since I last seen her). However, now as I'm older, I ten to choose my girlfriends wisely. If any of my m8's even started texting a girl I was with since I was 16, that would be me done with them and btw it has happened.

tbh thats ridiculous. Without wanting to sound preachy, it makes you sound possessive and insecure. Not good qualities dude. I think you need to take a lot at what makes you think like this and try and deal with it.

LD 50

I don't see the sense in this rule. It wouldn't bother me in the slightest if a friend was going out with an ex. If anything it'd be better than a randomer I didn't know. that way I could make sure he was treating her right, and slap him silly if he wasn't.

irishejit

I think every man has one ex that he'd be p*ssed off at at mate. I know me and all my friends have at least one ex that'd cause major friction between us all.....although I think if its a true friend they'll already know how that person still effects you

Dave!

I was thinking about this recently, cos my mate's missus is a ride , and I reckon even if he said it was okay, and even encouraged it (along the lines of "I'd rather she was goin out with you than some randomer"), I'd resist and just never do it.

It has too much potential to go wrong and result in resentment, jealousy, and other such messiness.

There's other fishies in the sea

NothingMan

I've kinda been on both sides. When I was 18 I was dumped and saw my best mate with her a week later and I was very upset and extremely annoyed. They did obviously suit each other better and went out for 2 years but I had just been dumped and was still very upset. Didn't talk to the guy for years but would be friends now if a lot more casual.

I met my gf now through a school friend she was in college with. I asked him before for her number but before I asked her out they kind of had a thing going on. When we finally did get together I wasn't worried for 2 reasons. I had cleared it with him first, and he had got with her friend while she was on holidays so it would have been very hypocritical for him to be annoyed. But he wasn't annoyed and 4 years on we're both still with the same lovely ladies and we're still good friends.

Mr. Presentable

Best of luck to him. She's a b***h and a lousy lay anyway. Plus I gave her the clap.

Seriously, unless it was a very acrimonious split and I had to see them a lot, no problem.

CDfm

This is one I thought about being divorced and all that.

I have no problem what my ex wife does or whatever and we are not friends and i dont want to be. If a mate went of with her it wouldnt bother me but i wouldnt want to either know of be involved in the socials.This is not being petty or whatever its realistic as things get over complicated and messy with her.

We have kids and things have to run like a railway timetable with her.

So I dont feel it would be any of my business but just dont involve me and life will be grand.

Seaneh

Man rules:

1) no sisters
2) no ex's.

t4k30

Lets look at it this way... Wether or not you or she made the split is irrelevant. What you need to look at is her motives for getting with your best friend. Most women are "bitches" when it comes to asplit. She is more than likely getting with your friend, not because she genuinely wants/likes him. It is more of a ploy to let her know that she is still on the scene, and that men, such as your best friend still find her attractive. It is all about the proximity of her strike. She's basically digging herself in to rub it in. Score her best friend and watch how quicky she'll leave your best mate.
Remember this "Women don't hit hard, but when they do, they hit low."

Tigger

Seaneh wrote: »

Man rules:

1) no sisters
2) no ex's.

man code


1. If you've known a guy for more than 24 hours, his sister is off limits forever! Unless you actually marry her.

2. When questioned by a friend's girlfriend, you need not and should not provide any information as to his whereabouts. You are even permitted to deny his very existence.

3. Unless he murdered someone in your immediate family, you must bail a friend out of jail within 24 hours.

4. A best man's toast may not include any of the following phrases, "down in Tijuana", "one time when we were all piss drunk", or "and this girl had the biggest rack you ever saw".

5. You may exaggerate any anecdote told to your friends by 50% without recrimination, beyond that anyone within earshot is allowed to yell out "bull****!". (exception: when trying to pick up a girl, the allowable exaggeration is 400%)

6. Under no circumstances may two men share an umbrella.

7. The minimum amount of time you have to wait for another man is 5 minutes. The maximum is 6 minutes. For a girl, you are required to wait 10 minutes for every point of hotness she scores on the classic 1-10 scale.

8. Bitching about the brand of free beverages in your buddy's refrigerator is forbidden. But gripe at will if the temperature is not suitable.

9. A friend must be permitted to borrow anything you own - grill, car, firstborn child - within 12 hr notice. Women or anything considered "lucky" are not applicable in this case.

10. Falling on a grenade for a buddy (agreeing to distract the skanky friend of the hot babe he's trying to score) is your legal duty. But should you get carried away with your good deed and end up getting on the beast, your pal is forbidden to ever speak of it.

11. Do not torpedo single friends.

12. On a road trip, the strongest bladder determines pit stops, not the weakest.

13. Before dating a buddy's ex you are required to ask his permission. If he grants it, he is however allowed to say, "man, your gonna love the way she licks your balls"

14. Women who claim they "love to watch sports" must be treated as spies until they demonstrate knowledge of the game and the ability to pick a Buffalo wing clean.

15. If a mans zipper is down, that’s his problem, you didn’t see anything!

16. No man shall ever be required to buy a birthday present for another man. (in fact, even remembering your best friends birthday is optional)

17. You must offer heartfelt condolences over the death of a girlfriends cat, even if it was you who secretly set it on fire and threw it into a ceiling fan.

18. While your girlfriend must bond with your buddies girlfriends with in 30 minutes of meeting them, you are not required to make nice with her gal pal's boyfriends- low level sports bonding is all the law requires.

19. Unless you have a lucrative endorsement contract, do not appear in public wearing more than one Nike swoosh.

20. When stumbling upon other guys watching a sporting event, you may always ask the score of the game in progress, but you may never ask who's playing.

21. If your girlfriend asks to set your friend up with her ugly, whiny, loser friend of hers, you must grant permission, but only if you have ample time to warn your friend to prepare his excuse about joining the priesthood.

22. Only in a situation of mortal danger or ass peril are you permitted to kick another member of the male species in the testicles.

23. Unless you're in prison, never fight naked. This includes men who aren't wearing shirts. If your buddy is outnumbered outmanned, or too drunk to defend himself, you must jump into the fight. Exception: if during the past 24 hours your friends actions have caused you to think "what this guy needs is a good ass wuppin", in which case you may refrain from getting involved and stand back and enjoy.

24. Friends don’t let friends wear speedos. Ever. Case closed.

25. Fives must be called at all times when getting out of your seat. If not, your seat is up for grabs. However, "house rules" may come into effect, in which case it is left up to the owner of the seat.

26. Shotgun can be called on anything where a shotgun applies., as long as you are in eyesight of the object, or it is at a reasonable time.

27. When picking players for sports teams it is permissible to skip over your buddy in favor of better athletes- as long as you don’t let him be the last sorry son of a bitch standing on the sideline.

28. If you ever compliment a guy's six pack, you better be talking about his choice of beverage.

29. Never join your girlfriend in ragging on a buddy of yours, unless she is withholding sex, pending your response.

30. Phrases that may never be uttered to another man while lifting weights:
"Yeah, baby, push it!"
"Come on, give me one more, harder!"
"Another set and we can hit the showers"
"Nice ass! Are you a Sagittarius?"


31. Never hesitate to reach for the last beverage or pizza, but not both. That’s just mean.

32. Never talk to another man in the bathroom unless you are on equal footing: both urinating, both waiting in line for all other situations an "I recognize you" nod will do just fine.

33. Never allow a telephone conversation with a woman to go on longer than you are able to have sex with her. Keep a stopwatch nearby, hang up if necessary.

34. You can not rat out a friend who show's up to work or class with a massive hangover, however you may: hide the aspirin, smear his chair with limburger cheese, turn the brightness on his computer way up so he thinks its broken, or have him paged every seven minutes.

35. If you catch your girl messing around with your best friend, let your country's crime of passion laws be your guide.

36. If your buddy is trying to hook up with a girl, you may sabotage him only in a manor that gives you no chances of getting any either.

37. Before allowing a drunken friend to cheat on his girl, you must attempt one intervention. If he can get up on his feet, look you in the eye, and deliver a "**** off" then you are absolved from all responsibility. Later on it is ok that you have no idea what his girlfriend is talking about.

38. The morning after you and a babe, who was formerly "just a friend", go at it, the fact that you're feeling weird and guilty is no reason not to jump on her again before there is a discussion about what a big mistake it was.

39. If a buddy has lint, an eyelash, or any other foreign object on his hair or face, under no circumstances are you permitted to remove it. However an appropriate hand gesture may be made to make him aware of it.

40. An anniversary is recognized on a yearly basis, under no circumstances will anything be celebrated in an interval other than a year

41. When using a urinal in a public restroom, a buffer zone of at least one urinal will exist at all times. If the only empty urinal is directly next to an occupied on, then you are still required to wait. (Exception: at a sporting event where a line has formed to use the pisser)

42. When coming to a room which you know is occupied by your friend and possibly another girl, you must knock and wait for an adequate response. If no response occurs, and the door is locked, a 10 minute period is required before knocking again.

43. The only time dicking over a buddy for a girl is legal, is when the girl ranks a 8 or above on the 1-10 scale. (exception: a girl may rank from 5-7, as long as there is oral sex involved).

44. A mans gotta scratch what a mans gotta scratch. This applies to picking as well. Let the man be.

45. No man shall ever watch any of the following programs on TV:
Figure skating
Men's gymnastics
Any sport involving women (unless viewed for sexual purposes)

46. If you accidentally touch or brush against any part of another man below the waist, it is an understood accident, and NO apologies or any reference to the occurrence is necessary.

47. No man shall spend more than 2 minutes in front of a mirror. If more time is required, a three minute waiting period must be allowed before returning to the mirror.

48. Any dispute lasting any longer than 3 minutes will and must be settled by rock, paper, scissors. There is no argument too important for this determining method.

49. No man will ever willingly watch a movie in which the main theme is dancing, and if a man shall happen to view such a movie it is only acceptable if its with a girlfriend.

50. Only acceptable time when a man is allowed to cry:
when a heroic dog dies to save his master.
after being struck in the testicles with anything moving fast than 7 mph.
When your date is using her teeth.
The day Anna Kornikova chooses a husband.


51. If a bet is made, and the challenge is completed, then the bettor may recoup his money by immediately completing a more daring challenge. If he refuses the challenge or chooses not to propose one, then and only then, must the money be paid.

52. Masturbate often.

53. If a hot girl shall happen to pass by while you are in an arms reach of your buddy, you must, and will, tap him on the shoulder to make him aware of the babe.

54. A man's shoes may not intentionally match any other article of clothing on his body.

55. No comment shall ever be made to a man about how much he is sweating. In fact, there is no need bring notice to any body part which he may be sweating from.

56. No man shall ever allow anyone to speak ill of The Simpsons or any Rocky movie. (Exception: Rocky V)

57. You have not made any mistake if you find that there are extra pieces after reassembling or assembling an object. In fact, you have just found a way to make that object more efficient.

58. There are is never an occasion in which any shirt without buttons may be tucked in. (Exception: when you are participating in a organized sporting event)

59. Unless you are under the age of 11 or wearing a bathing suit,, DON’T wear whitey tighty's. It still escapes all reasoning as to why they even make them in adult sizes.

60. Any object thrown with reasonable speed and accuracy, MUST be caught.

61. No man shall ever keep track of, or count, the amount of beers he has had in a night.

62. Under no circumstances may two non-related men share a bed or anything which can be perceived as a mattress.

63. In an empty room, car, ect., a man can not ask another man if he is mad because he isn’t talking.

64. If you jiggle more than twice, your playing with it.

65. A man shall never help another man apply sun tan oil.

66. The guy who wants something the most is responsible for getting it.

67. If your friend says "Lick my nuts" as a way to put you down, don't try to be funny by saying "OK" and moving your head towards his crotch, two homosexual references in a row are just plain scary...

68. If you say ouch, you are a pussy!

69. It is the God given duty of every man to assist any other man that may be in need of assistance in obtaining every guys dream (threesome with two girls)

banquo

Even if I didn't like it, I wouldn't hold it against them. They're independant people, and an ex is a thing of the past. And if it's not worth holding against them, why be concerned with it?