Is there a limit on the amount of friends one should have

Tail Wagger

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Don't give a fukc about them, and certainly don't be worrying about them
you'r still only a youngster and you have your whole life ahead of you.
By the time your 30 you will have forgotton more people in that time and
you'll still only have only about 3 good friends. Most of the people around you are only two faced anyway.........:cool: so fukc them all .. hope that pick's you up.

sashafierce

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Dudess

No, there isn't a limit on the amount of friends one should have.

I don't know what you mean about the whole age thing. I have way more friends now than I did when I was in school. And it's nothing to do with college.

shellyboo

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Yeah, but... I have friends and I have a laugh. I also make new friends - I just don't make them at work. Work is the one place I want to be able to leave behind when I leave the office, I want to have work and social life separate because work is work.

I don't think you can look down on people just because they're not interested in being friends with you, tbh. I have a fairly busy life, I barely have time for the friends I have... Making new ones is not high on my to-do list. That doesn't make me a bad, nasty person.

JuliusCaesar

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"They usually consist of an inner circle of five "core" people and an additional layer of 10, he says. That makes 15 people - some will probably be family members - who are your central group and then outside that, there's another 35 in the next circle and another 100 on the outside. And that's one person's social world."

rachel

Dudess wrote: »

No, there isn't a limit on the amount of friends one should have.

Agreed. Rather than focusing on the quantity, I would focus on the quality.
I have a core group of friends, all from school & we're still as close as ever, if not closer, despite time spent by nearly everyone in different countries, completely different career paths etc. I can't imagine ever not being friends with them.
I've also met some great people over the years, some of whom have come & gone so don't limit yourself, just don't spread yourself too thin to the detriment of your best friends.

Misticles

I think Ive lost alot of my friends and I effin hate it...
We drifted apart when I went to college and they went working full time.

I did try to go out with them but I was working weekends too and its not the kinda job youd get away with having a hangover in.

But now they just dont include me in anything- like I dont exist and it really bugs me. I make the effort to say hey, any news etc and I get nothing back so basically my friend pool has decreased alot

hhhmm so in relevance to the statement ha... theres no limit, I wish I had lots more

how sad lol

blondie7

im the same misticles all my friends had babies young and stayed in the town we were from, i got a job and moved away and when i went back home at weekends i had nothing in common with them anymore and we drifted apart.

im so much younger than anyone i work with so no friends there to be made.

i def agree with the OP girls are usually in cliques and dont want to let anyone else in. making friends in Dublin anyway is tough i think.

Misticles

yep it is.. cliques are everywhere... I find college grand, but wouldnt have much in common or hang out with many bar 1 person.
When I was in college before.. when we finished up, country people went back home-- only 3 of are from here.

And the ones I had a fallen out with are my school friends...

It actually depresses me that I dont have as many mates as Id like..


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blondie7

i no how you feel my best friend is in college in mayo i saw her for the first time just before christmas in nearly a year and found we didnt have that much in common anymore.

its sad to think the first time we have all been together in about 3 years was when my dad passed away at the start of the year and they were all great but they have gone back to there lives and ive had to get on with mine and havent seen any of them since.

ella87

Misticles wrote: »

I think Ive lost alot of my friends and I effin hate it...
We drifted apart when I went to college and they went working full time.

I did try to go out with them but I was working weekends too and its not the kinda job youd get away with having a hangover in.

But now they just dont include me in anything- like I dont exist and it really bugs me. I make the effort to say hey, any news etc and I get nothing back so basically my friend pool has decreased alot

hhhmm so in relevance to the statement ha... theres no limit, I wish I had lots more

how sad lol

t's not sad I wish I had more friends aswel

NothingMan

There's plenty of friends to be made in Dublin, just that there are so many crowds that it is tough to get to know anyone. I don't think you need to have a whole lot in common with people to be friends. I have friends that on paper I would probably avoid like the plague but I love them and they're some of my good mates.

Also there are plenty of social events on here too. I've never been to a Ladies Lounge or After hours beers but from what I read there have defo been some good friendships made and everyone always says everyone is really easy to get along with.