Chatting up someone on Luas...

CorkFenian

This might come across as an unusual question.Last few weeks of my Luas route, two girls on different days (around 4 times).Both started to make small talk (different times etc), i was a little bit fazed by this and fact it was early in morning etc. But I talked away etc (I am single after a long term relationship)...Went well etc..Have saluted them since..Since then I have caught them really checking me out ,(well what I would define the term as)..My question is how would a girl feel being asked out while on luas\commuter train etc..Its something I would try abroad but would be fairly mortified about in Ireland...Advice appreciated..What are the signs??? :-)

minidazzler

You think they are checking you out right?

So fceking ask them, what's the worst that could happen TBH?

They say no, then you move on. If you wanna ask then do it. You will only regret what you DON'T do.

Blush_01

As Mini said, what do you have to lose? Ah g'wan, then you can post that you're loved up for Christmas in the "Single or Loved Up" thread.

CorkFenian

minidazzler wrote: »

You think they are checking you out right?

So fceking ask them, what's the worst that could happen TBH?

They say no, then you move on. If you wanna ask then do it. You will only regret what you DON'T do.

I 100% agree with what you're saying and I try to live that way in most aspects of my life...The thing is with my previous gfs, they have asked me out, or any girls I'm with they make it very obvious..I wouldnt know where to go at 8.30 am on the luas if they said No...I'm not as pushed as I once was I guess, then again I would have never asked someone out like that before...Thanks for the reply.:)

stovelid

Stroll over, raise an eyebrow and say maybe we're heading to the same destination?

Tell us how you get on.

minidazzler

CorkFenian wrote: »

I 100% agree with what you're saying and I try to live that way in most aspects of my life...The thing is with my previous gfs, they have asked me out, or any girls I'm with they make it very obvious..I wouldnt know where to go at 8.30 am on the luas if they said No...I'm not as pushed as I once was I guess, then again I would have never asked someone out like that before...Thanks for the reply.:)

I'm gonna say this once so I don't sound like I am being condescending. Grow a set of balls man.

Just ask, if she says no, then smile, say that's OK and feel good that you tried.

Garuntee you will be the envy of every man on that tram for having the cajone's to ask.

CorkFenian

minidazzler wrote: »

I'm gonna say this once so I don't sound like I am being condescending. Grow a set of balls man.

Just ask, if she says no, then smile, say that's OK and feel good that you tried.

Garuntee you will be the envy of every man on that tram for having the cajone's to ask.

Thats fine, I asked the question...Theres more than one way to skin a cat as they say....
Thanks for the advice, maybe I will ask her to go for a coffee or something...

krudler

Ask her out, whats the worst that can happen? she says no, you're in the same place you are now, she says yes, you have a cool story to tell people about how you may have met your future missus

Fago!

Ask her.

If you don't, you'll be kicking yourself in the future thinkin "What if I had asked her?"

As Abba said "Take a chance, take a chance, take a take a chan chance"

mikemac

You gotta ask her OP

I guarantee every man on the Luas who overhears you will admire you for doing it even if you get rejected

minidazzler

mikemac wrote: »

You gotta ask her OP

I guarantee every man on the Luas who overhears you will admire you for doing it even if you get rejected

Some may even offer to shake your hand once you get off

Now that's just plain old strange right there...he want's to ask her out, not screw her on the Luas! :P

mikemac

True, shaking their hand was a bit much
You get my point though, it's around the whole admiration for having the guts to do it.

Libertewhite

mikemac wrote: »

True, shaking their hand was a bit much
You get my point though, it's around the whole admiration for having the guts to do it.

If I overheard a guy asking out a girl on the luas, I would definitely shake his hand! If the girl was gone off of course!

I would never have the guts to do that! So fair play:D

Pretty_Pistol

Ask the girl out. If she was comfortable enough to start making small talk with you on public transport having you ask her out for coffee will more than likely not faze her.

Go for it.

sickpuppy

Use a decent chat up line like wanna go halves on a basterd and im sure youll be fine good luck.

CorkFenian

Didnt see her today...Up late and got the later Luas...Will see what happens.... :-)

morninwood

keep us posted. would be interested to hear how it turns out.

best of luck man.

daveyboy_1ie

Dying to know how it turns out, best of luck!!!

As 'they' say, whats the worst that can happen? (don't drink Dr. Peppers when asking............)

horsebox1977

This is what I’d to –
Ask her “Can I use your phone” – she should say yeah
Ring your own mobile number and end call
Take out your own phone and text her if she wants to go out etc!

It will save you from being rejected in public – TBH id say she is game ball anyway

morninwood

horsebox1977 wrote: »

This is what I’d to –
Ask her “Can I use your phone” – she should say yeah
Ring your own mobile number and end call
Take out your own phone and text her if she wants to go out etc!

+1 nice one. i have to keep that one in mind for the next chat up situation.

horsebox1977

morninwood wrote: »

+1 nice one. i have to keep that one in mind for the next chat up situation.

No worries...
all you need to do is stand their with a cheeky smile on your face
she wont be able to resist..

daveyboy_1ie

Well?

Killme00

horsebox1977 wrote: »

This is what I’d to –
Ask her “Can I use your phone” – she should say yeah
Ring your own mobile number and end call
Take out your own phone and text her if she wants to go out etc!

It will save you from being rejected in public – TBH id say she is game ball anyway

morninwood wrote: »

+1 nice one. i have to keep that one in mind for the next chat up situation.

Thats ghey and a bit wierd.

Carefully remove your tampon, while you are at it check that you still have a set of balls. If you do then ask her out, its quite simple "Would you like to go for a drink sometime?"

morninwood

Killme00 wrote: »

Thats ghey and a bit wierd.

Carefully remove your tampon, while you are at it check that you still have a set of balls. If you do then ask her out, its quite simple "Would you like to go for a drink sometime?"

I see. Someone needs a cookie to cope with a troll moment. You probably have your user name for a reason sunshine

EDIT: Just figured out why you're so moody sunshine. Last week has been the worst of weeks and it ended in an appropriate manner Sunday when you again lost in competition. Sorry to hear that. Now where did I put that cookie?

Killme00

morninwood wrote: »

I see. Someone needs a cookie to cope with a troll moment. You probably have your user name for a reason sunshine

Troll..no

Do you not think a girl might find it a bit wierd if you ring your phone from hers just to get her number? Just ask her out and if she says yes then you'll have the number but at least she has the option to say no without giving out her number to some randomer from the Luas.

morninwood

First of all obviously would have to be fairly confident that she's interested in you and won't mind giving you her number. But then I think the move is slick and something different.
But that's neither here nor there. Back to waiting for an update by CorkFenian.

Porkpie

Why don't you say "I like luas women". Loose. Get it? Okay where's my coat?

CorkFenian

No sign of her today...Funny thing is some good talent on the luas....Takes your mind off it :-)

Warfi

Porkpie wrote: »

Why don't you say "I like luas women". Loose. Get it? Okay where's my coat?

Brilliant but he might have to write it down to get the double meaning across, which might take from the spontaneity of it all

daveyboy_1ie

CorkFenian wrote: »

No sign of her today...Funny thing is some good talent on the luas....Takes your mind off it :-)

Maybe she is a Boardsie, knew what you was planning

stovelid

horsebox1977 wrote: »

This is what I’d to –
Ask her “Can I use your phone” – she should say yeah
Ring your own mobile number and end call
Take out your own phone and text her if she wants to go out etc!

It will save you from being rejected in public – TBH id say she is game ball anyway

That's a little strange and may come across as a little duplicitous.

It also doesn't require that much more effort than just asking them for their number anyway.

daveharnett

CorkFenian wrote: »

What are the signs??? :-)

I suppose rule 1 would be out of order round here?
Sign 1: Starting a conversation with a stranger on public transport!

Power-surge

Is this the Stephens green luas or the Tallaght one?

pikachucheeks

Power-surge wrote: »

Is this the Stephens green luas or the Tallaght one?

Is it really relevant to the op's question? [I'm sensing if it's the "Tallaght one" ... The stereotypes might come out to play.]

OP, I say go for it. If the person's making eye contact with you, being in any way smiley ... Why not strike up a conversation? You could just start with small talk and see how it goes. You'll soon know how interested they are, by how much they communicate back.

Magic Eight Ball

horsebox1977 wrote: »

This is what I’d to –
Ask her “Can I use your phone” – she should say yeah
Ring your own mobile number and end call
Take out your own phone and text her if she wants to go out etc!

It will save you from being rejected in public – TBH id say she is game ball anyway

That's seriously creepy!

You ask a girl if you can have her number, you don't take it from under her nose.

Fukuyama

I'm actually dying to find out how this goes!! :P

CorkFenian

Power-surge wrote: »

Is this the Stephens green luas or the Tallaght one?

The Tallaght line, from Connolly onwards,I don't go as far as Tallaght though...

sweet-rasmus

ooooh! hope you catch her tomorrow. fingers crossed

RunHomerRun

CorkFenian - good luck
As soon as you see her - ask her.
Try not to over analyse or over think, when you see her - when the heart is racing and anxiety is increasing - just ask her.
Don't wait another til another time - it'll wreck your head.

And wreck all boardsies heads to be honest.....:)

thebiggestjim

when you are talking to them next, direct the conversation to what bars she goes to. Then suggest meeting there on a friday evening. your not completely putting you head on the block and she will prob feel more at ease.

g'luck

nkay1985

This is brilliant. All of us living our lives through a randomer on The Luas!

Anyways, go for it, I'm mad to hear how it goes!

krudler

I'm just waiting for a thread to pop up in Personal Issues from a girl who is torn about accepting a date from some guy on the Luas

Rookster

Life is short. Ask her out!

Warfi

CorkFenian wrote: »

The Tallaght line, from Connolly onwards,I don't go as far as Tallaght though...

Why don't you say to her just before her stop 'Hey I always have a great chat with you, pity the journey's so short. Do you mind if we swap numbers so we can meet up and chat some more?'

It'll show her that you want to get to know her some more, it's polite and you're not stepping on any toes. Paves the way for a polite response from her too (unless she's a total loon, but you wouldn't be asking for her number anyway if she was a total loon)

daveyboy_1ie

Well did you see her today Corkfenian?

Porkpie

I could understand your reluctance if you were the one making the first move, but come on, the girls actually initiated conversation with you! How often does something like that happen? Take the bull by the horns....or the cow..... whatever, you are MAD if you don't talk to either of them.

You could shout at her angrily "Where do you get off?". Then politely say "No, seriously, what stop do you get off?"

Or you could say "Go fuk off ee". When she says "WHAT?". You say "Would you like to go for coffee?"

Yes you can tell I've been in these situations before

yourdeadwright

this is thread of the year, can't wait to see how it goes, you better not bottle it,.

RacoonQueen

Irish men and never having the nads to ask women out. I don't think I've ever been properly asked out by an Irish guy whereas I've been asked out by guys from other countries a lot. What is it with the Irish and in general not being able to start a relationship unless it involves a drunken get together with loads of people just so you can cover up the fact you want to be there with just one of them? :rolleyes:

RunHomerRun

Any update CorkFenian???? Did you see her this morning on the Luas?

Lo23

Dying to see how this one plays out!

I wish someone would chat me up on the luas

CorkFenian

RunHomerRun wrote: »

Any update CorkFenian???? Did you see her this morning on the Luas?

No sign of her again this morning...Plenty to look at though!! :-)