Nastiest/Most Horrible thing ever said to you

UpCork

Inspired a bit, I suppose by the 'Bitchiest thing you've ever heard/said thread?' and the fact that at lunch today we were discussing the most horrible, thoughtless, hurtful, nastiest things said to us (brought on by a story a colleague was telling), I thought I'd pose the question to 'The Ladies Lounge'.

To get the ball rolling:

I am very close to my Mother and we share a lot of things together. I was telling a friend (male) about a weekend away that Mum and I went on together and he said 'You and your Mum are very close aren't you?' (he knew me about six months at the time) and I said that we were, that I idolised her etc and that I didn't think there was one like her in the world. He wasn't very close, for various reasons with his own parents and he turned to me and said 'Why bother being so close to your Mum (read: why bother doing things with her), after all the day is going to come when she dies and then what will you do'.

I remember being stunned into silence by this remark - what a horrible thing to say to someone.

I am sure a lot nastier things have been said to me and to others, but I suppose I remember this the most as it really did hit me.

Feel free to share other stories.

Tupins

Wow - he sounds like a great person

People are so insulting sometimes. You know logically that you shouldn't dwell on what ignorant people say but sometimes you can't help it.

UpCork

Tupins wrote: »

Wow - he sounds like a great person

People are so insulting sometimes. You know logically that you shouldn't dwell on what ignorant people say but sometimes you can't help it.

I agree 'Tupins', that's why a lot ruder/nastier things have probably been said to me, but they may have been about me or my work or something, but because it was a bit 'too close to the bone' as they say, I think that's why I'll always remember it. Funny though, the one person that I would usually tell if I was upset over something (i.e. my Mum), I couldn't because how to you repeat that to your Mother.

Tupins

I used to have a friend who would constantly say nasty things to me in a 'jokey' way.

Some of her gems included:

"Oh I'd hate to have skin like yours"

"Your house is really creepy." (this because i live near a graveyard)

" I normally get my hair done going to weddings but seeing as it's not in a church I won't bother" (- about going to my wedding.)

Needless to say she is no longer my friend.

Just recently I was picking out an eternity ring and was trying to get one to match my engagement / wedding ring.
Snobby woman in jewellery shop looking (down) at my engagement ring:
"it would be hard to get something to go with it as it's so tiny" - that was really hurtful as that ring means a lot to me. It wasn't just what she said it was the way she said it :mad:

Beetlebum

A few weeks after we broke up my ex boyfriend found out I had kissed another guy and he called me up and said with such venom -

'I hope you get Aids and f*cking die'

The really horrible part is that he had broken up with me and had cheated on me with a friend of mine whereas I had never cheated!!

Also had an old school friend of my moms come up to me at her funeral and say 'Do you not feel bad your mom died alone?'.

I had just moved out of home and my mom died 6 days later.
To this day that remark breaks me. What a horrible horrible woman.

UpCork

It is true what is said sometimes it's not what's said, it's the way it's said. I totally agree with such a sentiment. I just think sometimes people are very 'careless' in what they say i.e. they don't think of how it might insult someone else before they say it. Just because you think something is funny doesn't mean I will.
Now, I don't go around screening everything I say before I say it, but I try to be prudent in what I say and think it's always best not to make flippant or 'off the cuff' statements.

UpCork

Beetlebum wrote: »

A few weeks after we broke up my ex boyfriend found out I had kissed another guy and he called me up and said with such venom -

'I hope you get Aids and f*cking die'

The really horrible part is that he had broken up with me and had cheated on me with a friend of mine whereas I had never cheated!!

Also had an old school friend of my moms come up to me at her funeral and say 'Do you not feel bad your mom died alone?'.

I had just moved out of home and my mom died 6 days later.
To this day that remark breaks me. What a horrible horrible woman.

Good God, what a horrible thing to say to anyone at anytime, but at a funeral. Some people are too cruel.

Tupins

This one actually happened to a friend of mine but I know how much it upset her as she told me about it.

Her mother had died a couple of months previous and she had just gone back to her bar job. A customer came in and ordered some drinks from her and then, quite casually asked "Didn't someone die belong to you or something?", "Yes, my mother" she replied, to which he shrugged his shoulders and said "Oh well, these things happen" and walked away.

RxQueen

about 19 at the time, in the local pub and this guy in his 50's who used to work with my dad sometimes called me over, asked "who did i think i was to come into the pub wearing what i was wearing" (i was wearing emo clothes surprise surprise!)
I was kinda stunned, and just laughed it off, and went to walk away.. he grab me by the arm pulled me back and said word for word" nobody would care if you just ****ed off and died, everybody here hates you"
he took a swing for me outside the pub later that night, but people stood in and told him to cope the **** on.. joys of country living!

Funniest one i remember is someone trying to pay me a compliment and it backfired on him(at least he said he was trying to after it!), he said he love my personality and that it was really good for me to have a quirky one, cause usally girls that have big noses are really quite... MEOW!

Beetlebum

UpCork wrote: »

Good God, what a horrible thing to say to anyone at anytime, but at a funeral. Some people are too cruel.

yeah...she was a weapon but my mom always like her cause they grew up together. I told my older sister what she said and my she banned them from teh hotel/reception afterwards! Also, they live in England and were supposed to be staying in our house but my sister told them to f*ck off to a hotel!!
Revenge is sweet;)

Tupins

Beetlebum wrote: »

yeah...she was a weapon but my mom always like her cause they grew up together. I told my older sister what she said and my she banned them from teh hotel/reception afterwards! Also, they live in England and were supposed to be staying in our house but my sister told them to f*ck off to a hotel!!
Revenge is sweet;)

I like your sister

SupaReckless

I think some people can be quiet matter of fact in statements, he probably doesn't have many older friends and thought it strange you'd attatch yourself to an inevitability. They will die, and considering they are older then you, die before you- he was probably Weirdly trying to save you pain and considering that he wasn't close to his family, I don't think what he said was malicious just what he saw as strange behaviour??

on the note of nastiest thing I've ever heard said about somebody. A friend was talking about a girl I didn't know in her college and said she airbrushed her pics, and wore expensive makeup...but[and here's the kicker]..

"she couldn't keep a bloke once the make up came off!!"

I thought that was a little harsh

Pretty_Pistol

After the first year exams at school a teacher said to me infront of the whole class "You're mother must be so disappointed that you're not as good as your brother and sister". It made me cry.

Quackles

My husband is really good at drawing, painting etc, but untrained in any capacity beyond secondary school. The father in law was lamenting one day about how he should have gone to art college and he could be be an artist now. I was trying to say that it didn't matter how good you were, there was a certain amount of luck involved in that career. The father in law is mad into old cinema, so to put it in terms he'd understand, I explained that I could be an amazing actress, I could move to hollywood and try to make it for the rest of my life, but if I wasn't seen by the right people, I'd never make it. He said "Oh no, you could make it - you don't have to be thin and good looking to be an actress!".

LadyMayBelle

This isn't the worst thing ever said to me, but it's the one my mind since it was said to me yesterday by some first year student I had just met ten seconds previous (I'm a second year and qualifying in a few months) in the classroom.

He asked what area of work I was doing my placement in, and when i told him he says "so you have to be really cold to work in that area right?"

Really pissed me off because a) I'm not cold and b) the basis of my job is bout warmth and caring and c) he was some cheeky first year who hasn't a clue what's ahead of him! and d) i took it personally and literally


(sorry if this is a rant, it just really hurt me whether or not it was intended for me!)

The Big Red Button

UpCork wrote: »

It is true what is said sometimes it's not what's said, it's the way it's said. I totally agree with such a sentiment. I just think sometimes people are very 'careless' in what they say i.e. they don't think of how it might insult someone else before they say it. Just because you think something is funny doesn't mean I will.

Yeah it's very true, it's all about how things are said.

A few weeks ago, I met an old lady who I hadn't seen in about ten years. She kept saying, "Oh my, you've gotten so fat, look at the big fat face on ya, I just can't believe how fat you've gotten!!!" I honestly thought it was hilarious, and wasn't a bit offended at it. In her own odd way, I think she meant it as a compliment, so I just took it that way. However I couldn't help thinking that if she said that to a young teenager, or to someone more sensitive than me, it could cause serious problems.

And then again, someone could easily say something that seems quite innocent on the surface, but that has a bitchy tone to it, and it is much more hurtful.

There are only a few people whose opinions of me I really care about. Anything that anyone else says or thinks about me, I'll take it into account if they're making a fair point, but I'm not going to lose any sleep over it. But if it's someone whose opinion I care about, I take it a lot more seriously.

Oryx

Not bad by some of the standards here, but I still think of this and smile at the gall of the guy:

I have a lot of male friends (I'm female) and when I bought my first house, plenty of them used to call around to look at the place, chat, whatever. Nothing unusual or suspect in that. My neighbours, a middleaged couple, were nosey as hell, and always complaining about noise or vibration from the work I was having done. One day, Im loading rubble into a skip, sweating buckets, and my auld git of a neighbour comes to his front door, looks down his nose at me and says 'Youd think with all the men you have coming and going all the time youd have someone to help with that'.

Cupcake_Crisis

Once during an argument with my mam she told me that ove never once done anything to make her proud. That one really stung

Or theres the usual friends saying nasty things during on argument. One of the worst was when a friend told me that i should just go slit my wrists again and die. I was literally stuck for words.

Handsome Bob

Hmmm.....I've had a lot of nasty things said to me as a kid/by kids, but I guess you can't hold it against them! I'll go with the time when I was going to my mates house to help him do some DIY. His girlfriend was there and was in her sweats with no slap on. All of a sudden she exclaims "Thank god there are no good lookings guys around here because I look like a mess......no offence LZ." Non taken.

Lia_lia

A few weeks ago I was asked if I'm related to the gooch as I apparently look like him. Aw

Das Kitty

A good friend of mine was asked by her headmistress in leaving year if she was retarded like her sister.

Her sister is profoundly autistic.


Worst to me were all from my Dad, no one can rival him. Worst I'm prepared to mention here right now, he told me he hoped I was infertile after I told him to stop slagging off a pregnant woman who was speed walking. I was 16.

stovelid

Beetlebum wrote: »

Also had an old school friend of my moms come up to me at her funeral and say 'Do you not feel bad your mom died alone?'.

Good lord.

I would have lost it.

spinandscribble

my dad told me i'd never find a man who would want to marry me.

that one still makes me upset.

It wasn't to me, but one of the nastiest things I ever heard someone say was way back when I was 7 or 8, in primary school. There was a girl in the class called Katy who was a bit slow, now she was a sweet girl, but not the brightest. She had a sister who was clever and a teacher's pet type of kid. Katy used to try really hard, though, and one day she made this picture for our teacher, but ended up getting superglue all over the desk. The teacher turned around and said "I can't believe you're related to Lucy. She does all the right things beautifully and you do all the wrong things horribley." The look on the girl's face was heartbreaking. I still remember it over 15 years later.

As for myself, my siblings and other relatives constantly call me ugly, stout, rake-like (how can I be both?), weird........good thing I don't have low self esteem!

Novella

spinandscribble wrote: »

my dad told me i'd never find a man who would want to marry me.

that one still makes me upset.

My parents say that to me all the time! It doesn't upset me though.... 'Cause it's so true! :pac:

The most horrible thing anyone has ever said to me was, "It's for the best anyway.", which was the sympathy a doctor offered me after he told me I'd had a miscarriage. It's the only thing that has ever really stuck with me.

LadyMayBelle

spinandscribble wrote: »

my dad told me i'd never find a man who would want to marry me.

that one still makes me upset.

Hugs. That one hurts:(

Dudess

Jesus wept, some of the stuff here.

Das Kitty, I know what ya mean - had some clangers delivered to me by my dad too.

Nevyn

That I wasn't fit to have kids, should have mind taken off me and my womb ripped out to stop me having any more.
Boardsies say the nicest things.

That I should be on the sex offenders register as a pedo and for grooming and was a disgrace to mother hood and no sane or moral person would have anything to do with me.
A family member after I at 30 started dating an 18 year old after breaking up with the father of my children.

ChunkyLover69

Jaysus, there's some harsh stuff in here.
One I always remember, although not a patch on some of the stuff mentioned, was from my days in college.
Despite the username, I was a bit of a skinnymelinx back then.
This girl I fancied, although she may not have realised it, while bemoaning some fella to me said "I wish I could meet someone like you - y'know with your personality, but not skinny like you"

That cut deep I have to say.

Yep, I was the king of the friends zone back then :cool:

Oryx

The teachers, and the holier than thou nuns in our school, after our particularly rowdy grad, told us that we were all cheap sluts, and no man would ever marry any of us when we were giving away the goods for free. We laughed it off at the time, but it was crazy stuff to say..

minidazzler

Novella wrote: »

My parents say that to me all the time! It doesn't upset me though.... 'Cause it's so true! :pac:

I'll totally marry ya just to spite your parents!!! What country will give a marriage licence in a few days?:D

My mam says the same thing regularily to me, but I don't like the idea of marriage anyway except to spite someone:D

Thaedydal wrote: »

That I wasn't fit to have kids, should have mind taken off me and my womb ripped out to stop me having any more.
Boardsies say the nicest things.

That I should be on the sex offenders register as a pedo and for grooming and was a disgrace to mother hood and no sane or moral person would have anything to do with me.
A family member after I at 30 started dating an 18 year old after breaking up with the father of my children.

The first one just made me feel physically sick. What kind of absolute cnut could say that. Personally I think you come across as a lovely person who has some strong views, a good mother if I ever heard of one.

The Second one made me laugh a little, that person is simply an idiot, it is neither illegal nor immoral for 2 consenting adults to make their own decisions!!!

Novella

minidazzler wrote: »

I'll totally marry ya just to spite your parents!!! What country will give a marriage licence in a few days?:D

My mam says the same thing regularily to me, but I don't like the idea of marriage anyway except to spite someone:D

Pffft, you only wanna marry me 'cause you can't have Boxxy! :P:(

minidazzler

Novella wrote: »

Pffft, you only wanna marry me 'cause you can't have Boxxy! :P:(

If your voice isn't as annoying I'll take ya:D


Worst thing that was ever said to me was being told I am not a good brother to my sister, by my mother. I hadn't even done anything wrong, she was just pissed about other stuff.

Other than that, I have said some horrible stuff to people in the past that I really regret, so I guess the apple doesn't fall to far.

Nervous Wreck

My last girlfriend, who I was with for over a year, broke up with me a few months ago while I was in recovery from a pretty serious operation. She broke up with me to start sleeping with a guy that she'd been hanging out with who was working in my job at the time, which was nice of her. I'd seen it coming in advance and had asked her to respect our relationship and our mutual jobs in the one place and not do anything with the guy. She said she would. She didn't and a couple days later, most of my friends in work were telling me stories about seeing them together etc. I spoke to her on the phone about it and told her how humiliated and heartbroken I felt that she couldn't respect my feelings on this (literally, the only thing I'd ever asked of her) and that's when she said pretty much the most horrible thing anyone's ever said to me. "I'm not gonna apologise for this, I can do what I want."

brendansmith

Nervous Wreck wrote: »

My last girlfriend, who I was with for over a year, broke up with me a few months ago while I was in recovery from a pretty serious operation. She broke up with me to start sleeping with a guy that she'd been hanging out with who was working in my job at the time, which was nice of her. I'd seen it coming in advance and had asked her to respect our relationship and our mutual jobs in the one place and not do anything with the guy. She said she would. She didn't and a couple days later, most of my friends in work were telling me stories about seeing them together etc. I spoke to her on the phone about it and told her how humiliated and heartbroken I felt that she couldn't respect my feelings on this (literally, the only thing I'd ever asked of her) and that's when she said pretty much the most horrible thing anyone's ever said to me. "I'm not gonna apologise for this, I can do what I want."

Ah well, to hell with her! Just be glad to be rid of that filthbag yeah?

pikachucheeks

Pretty_Pistol wrote: »

After the first year exams at school a teacher said to me infront of the whole class "You're mother must be so disappointed that you're not as good as your brother and sister". It made me cry.

That's a disgraceful comment. Especially from someone like a teacher, who has so much to do with your personal development.

A friend of mine has a very difficult and strained relationship with her father. One night, he said to her "I wish you could have turned out more like your sister" ... That was probably one of the cruelest comments I've come across.
She's still haunted by it, years later.

Personally, one of the worst I got was "I can't be with you, I have a reputation to uphold!" ... Some guy said that to me when I was fourteen.

Nervous Wreck

brendansmith wrote: »

Ah well, to hell with her! Just be glad to be rid of that filthbag yeah?

It took me two weeks to realise what you said but yep, you're 100% correct!!!:D


P.s. 4 months later after being a social outcast in work for her horrible behaviour, she eventually emailed me a heartfelt apology. She has yet to receive a reply.

chatterpillar

chatterpillar wrote: »

There are only a few people whose opinions of me I really care about. Anything that anyone else says or thinks about me, I'll take it into account if they're making a fair point, but I'm not going to lose any sleep over it. But if it's someone whose opinion I care about, I take it a lot more seriously.

That sums up how I feel about most insults.

I get much more upset if someone tries to degrade, or take advantage of the people I care about though.

I think the worse thing that was ever said to me, was by a college mentor.
I was very young. It was in a one and one. He had lost his work hard drive, because some work I had prepared had picked up a virus from the college network. He hadn't bothered to update his anti-virus.
He launched into a tirade of abuse, basically telling me that I hadn't got what it took to be good at my profession. Despite the fact that he had never actually seen any of my work, and knew nothing about me.
I couldn't leave the room for like an hour, because I couldnt stop blubbing. I didn't want to bump into one of the lads from the course and be labeled a manipulative cry baby.

Oryx

God, this is bringing back all sorts of memories.

When my son was a few months old, I was putting him in his car seat, on the drivers side rear seat of the car. A male friend (who has grown up kids) tut tutted and said 'you must not love your child'. Because Im putting him on the drivers side??? I still havent really figured that out.

minidazzler

Oryx wrote: »

God, this is bringing back all sorts of memories.

When my son was a few months old, I was putting him in his car seat, on the drivers side rear seat of the car. A male friend (who has grown up kids) tut tutted and said 'you must not love your child'. Because Im putting him on the drivers side??? I still havent really figured that out.

Maybe it's because you can't see the kid???? I'm not sure dude sounds like a douche to say that!!

littlebug

By a male friend back in first year in college
"what I like best about you littlebug is that you're not good looking but it doesn't seem to bother you at all"

I think he meant well...

shivvyban

"Fat people can't join style soc..."

- was said at a Students Union meeting by the WELFARE officer... nearly 4 years on and I will never forget it...

Novella

shivvyban wrote: »

"Fat people can't join style soc..."

- was said at a Students Union meeting by the WELFARE officer... nearly 4 years on and I will never forget it...

That is awful, I can't believe anyone could be so mean.

Oryx

shivvyban wrote: »

"Fat people can't join style soc..."

- was said at a Students Union meeting by the WELFARE officer... nearly 4 years on and I will never forget it...

That remark says far more about the lack of style in the style soc, and the misnomer of that person being called a 'welfare' officer, than anything else. Truly offensive, that.

IvyTheTerrible

From a former "toxic friend":

"I don't know why you bother trying to lose weight, that's just your body shape".

"It's lucky that you are nice cos you aren't very pretty".

BumbleB

Well I dont know if this is is a toxic comment but its been said to me in the past . dont worry what you wear because no one will be looking at you.


Also I was insulted by a friends girlfriend (who incidentally was absolutely stunning) she thought she could get away with saying anything to me because me and my friend were best friends.

Anyhow I held the door for her like a gentleman does and she stopped short of the door and she said to me always the s**t before the shovel . So I said in that case you should go first .
I never really ever get people saying nasty stuff about me but when it does it really does floor me because i'm not used to it.

Anyhow, I met her last week and she's the one who looks like s**t ,to much sunbeds, makeup and drinking and she's gained tons of weight and she's only 25 !!!.

shivvyban

BumbleB wrote: »

Anyhow, I met her last week and she's the one who looks like s**t ,to much sunbeds, makeup and drinking and she's gained tons of weight and she's only 25 !!!.

I firmly believe in that saying - what goes around comes around!

neuro-praxis

shivvyban wrote: »

"Fat people can't join style soc..."

- was said at a Students Union meeting by the WELFARE officer... nearly 4 years on and I will never forget it...

I've seen the photos you've posted of yourself around boards and you look lovely.

pickarooney

Oryx wrote: »

God, this is bringing back all sorts of memories.

When my son was a few months old, I was putting him in his car seat, on the drivers side rear seat of the car. A male friend (who has grown up kids) tut tutted and said 'you must not love your child'. Because Im putting him on the drivers side??? I still havent really figured that out.

Most 'authorities' recommend putting kids in the front passenger seat, facing the back, until they're about a year old. That hardly explains the idiotic remark, though.

I can't remember anyone saying anything horrible to me. Selective hearing, probably.

Oryx

pickarooney wrote: »

Most 'authorities' recommend putting kids in the front passenger seat, facing the back, until they're about a year old. That hardly explains the idiotic remark, though.

Not if youve an airbag, though. And what if youve two kids, one of them has to go on the drivers side, ffs. I thought he was a twit, but I never forgot the remark.

Mayoegian

People who say hurtful, horrible things feel conscious about some part of them, maybe physically or intellectually. That's why they say mean remarks to other people-they want them to feel like they feel themselves.

So guys, never take these remarks seriously-from reading your comments you're all really lovely people who didnt deserve the remarks made to ye! Nobody deserves remarks like that said to them!

PEACE OUT!;)