What do you wish you'd known about your OH before you moved in with them?

Lollipops23

So meself and himself have decided to move in together as soon as finances pemit it....

got me thinking, although I've been with him for 2 years I'm sure there's plenty of habits of his that I'm unaware of!!

so what do you wish you'd known about you OH before you moved in together??

Malari

Lollipops23 wrote: »

So meself and himself have decided to move in together as soon as finances pemit it....

got me thinking, although I've been with him for 2 years I'm sure there's plenty of habits of his that I'm unaware of!!

so what do you wish you'd known about you OH before you moved in together??

So that you could prepare yourself for them? Or try to change the habits?

For me nothing. I have no problem with any of his habits and I can't see there's anything I could have changed if I'd known about them previously.

Lollipops23

Malari wrote: »

So that you could prepare yourself for them? Or try to change the habits?

For me nothing. I have no problem with any of his habits and I can't see there's anything I could have changed if I'd known about them previously.

no not to change them but to have a heads up!

SeekUp

There's nothing that I wish I'd known beforehand . . . but I have discovered some new things!

Malari

SeekUp wrote: »

There's nothing that I wish I'd known beforehand . . . but I have discovered some new things!

Me either. But did I discover anything new? Not really. Well, only good things But then we moved in fairly quickly, so I suppose I was still learning things about him anyway!

Khannie

I wish I'd known that she leaves the fupping toilet seat up!

Lollipops23

Khannie wrote: »

I wish I'd known that she leaves the fupping toilet seat up!

eh?

Anna Molly

My ex didn't live with em but when he'd come over he'd rearranged things in the bathroom, it was awfully strange.
He used to smoke in my room, also. Drove me mental.

Malari

Anna Molly wrote: »

My ex didn't live with em but when he'd come over he'd rearranged things in the bathroom, it was awfully strange.
He used to smoke in my room, also. Drove me mental.

Oh yeah, I discovered he didn't like nested tables. Maybe "didn't like" is not strong enough...he was over in my place one time while we were going out and ripped all the pages which contained the offensive furniture out of the Argos catalogue. :eek::pac:

But I discovered that before I moved in with him. It kind of attracted me more to him cause he was a little irrationally crazy :rolleyes:

Khannie

Lollipops23 wrote: »

eh?

Ah sure I was only joking....poorly it seems.

Novella

Khannie wrote: »

Ah sure I was only joking....poorly it seems.

I thought it was a little funny

Didn't live with my ex exactly but might as well have for he spent all of his time in mine. I found out he liked to leave the bathroom door and have a chat with me while he was on the toilet......... Not cool!

Saw an episode of Sex and the City a while ago where that happened and laughed and laughed! Major turn off! Be comfortable with me, yeah, but please close the bathroom door when you're.... eh.... doing a poo!!

Salome

I'm just about to move in with mine - I'm really looking forward to it but I'm also very nervous as I've never lived with a boyfriend before... eeek! :eek:

I can't say that there's anything I'm overly concerned about but I'm wondering how we'll get on, 24-7, if you know what I mean. Will we bore each other? Will we argue about little things?

Put this this way, we're gonna find out soon enough!!!!!

meganj

that he likes to talk to me with the bathroom door open..

*shudder*

Khannie

Novella wrote: »

but please close the bathroom door when you're.... eh.... doing a poo!!

OMG! I assumed you meant peeing! :eek:

tara666

that he would put up with alll my crap and never leave....god damn ittttt:)

Novella

Khannie wrote: »

OMG! I assumed you meant peeing! :eek:

Oh no, not peeing, nope!

One day I was in the bedroom, on my laptop when next thing the en suite door opened and there he was, sitting on the loo, doing a number two and just started talking to me as if it was perfectly normal!

stovelid

That back-rubs are unjustly index-linked to lawn-mowing and DIY performance.

Khannie

Novella wrote: »

Oh no, not peeing, nope!

One day I was in the bedroom, on my laptop when next thing the en suite door opened and there he was, sitting on the loo, doing a number two and just started talking to me as if it was perfectly normal!

:eek: In between plops like! That's shockin'! :eek:

I lol'd though. Funny story.

That's one line I've never crossed with the mrs. Never will either.

Novella

Khannie wrote: »

:eek: In between plops like! That's shockin'! :eek:

I lol'd though. Funny story.

That's one line I've never crossed with the mrs. Never will either.

You can imagine how that went down! I was sitting there literally in shock and I swear, I never looked at him the same way again!
I'm all for being open in a relationship but that is just way, way too far for me!

Lucky Mrs Khannie!

Will

Being open is fine, but swinging the thrown room door open while seated on the thrown mid course... dear lord.

Novella

Will wrote: »

Being open is fine, but swinging the thrown room door open while seated on the thrown mid course... dear lord.

I tried to discuss it with him one time, said it made me a wee bit uncomfortable and he said that I'm squeamish! :eek:

Will

I don't get it, like you can be on 'farting terms' with someone but never heard of that.

Khannie

Novella wrote: »

he said that I'm squeamish! :eek:

ROFL!

You are not squeamish!

Novella

Khannie wrote: »

ROFL!

You are not squeamish!

Haha it's hilarious 'cause I was always too scared to mention it to any of my friends 'cause I thought I was actually being weird about the whole thing! It was like my first proper relationship where we spent most of our time together so I thought it was the done thing!

emma82

That he has severe allergy to dust that means I have to hoover our upstairs twice a week or he sneezes for agggges!!!

That he doesn't put the glasses into the press properly!!!!! (maybe this is me & not him....)

That he'd be so kind & look after me the way he does (with the exception of the glasses thing):D

Khannie

Novella wrote: »

Haha it's hilarious 'cause I was always too scared to mention it to any of my friends 'cause I thought I was actually being weird about the whole thing! It was like my first proper relationship where we spent most of our time together so I thought it was the done thing!

HAHAHAHAHAHA. Myself and Mrs Khannie are falling around the place here.

jmbkay

That hes a bit of a nark, ah no not really. Yes he is.

Special K

Novella wrote: »

I tried to discuss it with him one time, said it made me a wee bit uncomfortable and he said that I'm squeamish! :eek:

a WEE bit uncomfortable...............!!! MUAHHAAHAHAHAHAA

Okay I'm done now

Lollipops23

holy crap!!no i've spent enough time with him to know he doesn't talk to me on the toilet:D:D:D

giddybootz

Wish I had known just how many socks he had!! I am always finding his socks all over the place....he blames the dogs!!

Wish I had known how good he was at helping me make costumes and I would have moved in with him sooner!!!

Novella

Khannie wrote: »

HAHAHAHAHAHA. Myself and Mrs Khannie are falling around the place here.

Glad I am such a source of entertainment haha!

Special K wrote: »

a WEE bit uncomfortable...............!!! MUAHHAAHAHAHAHAA

Okay I'm done now

I couldn't really say "Ok, what the fcuk is with the taking to me when you're on the toilet, you freak?!!" 'cause he really did think it was absolutely normal!

Lollipops23 wrote: »

holy crap!!no i've spent enough time with him to know he doesn't talk to me on the toilet:D:D:D

Then you should be fine, there's nothing else you need to know!

Rubberlegs

Maybe this has more got to do with me and my sick sense of humour but wish I'd known just how many times over the years he'd say "Pull my finger!". And every time without fail I pull it and laugh like a drain....I'm very immature, I am

Kya1976

Lollipops23 wrote: »

So meself and himself have decided to move in together as soon as finances pemit it....

got me thinking, although I've been with him for 2 years I'm sure there's plenty of habits of his that I'm unaware of!!

so what do you wish you'd known about you OH before you moved in together??

Something that really bugged me with my ex hubby is that he'd almost expect a thank you for helping out with the housework. Trust me I'm no neat freak nor am I overly tidy, but like when he managed to drag out the hoover he'd almost get pissed if you didn't acknowledge it. Drove me crazy.

bambera

Nothing.

I liked the element of surprise.

Dublin_Gunner

jmbkay wrote: »

That hes a bit of a nark, ah no not really. Yes he is.

I bet he wished he'd known you had a split personality too!

The general untidiness of my Mrs wouldbe the one I'd chose I suppose.

She's one of these who likes to 'tidy'. i.e. pile as much stuff into a press / cupboard / wardrobe so its out of plain view - but can never find anything!

Lollipops23

73Cat wrote: »

Maybe this has more got to do with me and my sick sense of humour but wish I'd known just how many times over the years he'd say "Pull my finger!". And every time without fail I pull it and laugh like a drain....I'm very immature, I am

i do that too!!by rights i should scowl and tell him he's gross,but it gets me every time!

ecaf

Drinking out of milk / orange juice cartons out of the fridge
Leaving toilet seat up
Leaving wet foot prints after a shower & towel soaking on the floor with the dirty boxers!
But being a real clean freak at the same time, like just having to throw out everything in a pile of things that have accumulated on the table. Some things are important, but OK I'm a bit messy too!

None of the above would have stopped me moving in with him, but we all live with people that do things that can be irritating!

Oh yeah, he sometimes leaves the bathroom door slightly open while peeing too! I close it on him and give out, but definitely must be closed for anything else! I would freak out too at that, and talking to you while he did it??? How did he think that was normal?

pikachucheeks

giddybootz wrote: »

Wish I had known just how many socks he had!! I am always finding his socks all over the place....he blames the dogs!!

Blames the dogs!?

What would they need socks for!? :P

As for poo-gate, I think there are somethings in life that should remain private, no matter how close you are to a person!
Ewww.

pookie82

I second the post about him wanting serious recognition everytime he lifts a finger. He pretends he doesn't, but I can see him dropping hints to get me to notice he's cleaned up or whatever, and waiting for me to tell him how awesome he is, even though I do it all the time un-noticed.

I also second the post-shower problem of leaving the place absolutely drenched. my situation is even worse though, because he TRIES to clean up, but ends up trailing the soaking towels out to the other bathroom, dripping them all over the floor, and then leaves them in a damp unfolded heap over the side of the bath where he thinks they will magically dry. So I have to clean up after him even though he thinks he has cleaned up!!!! He also leaves ALL lights on in every room he's ever been in.

I still love him though :-)

Chinafoot

That he sees no problem with barging in to the bathroom to take a dump while I'm relaxing in the bath!

ecaf

pookie82 wrote: »

I also second the post-shower problem of leaving the place absolutely drenched. my situation is even worse though, because he TRIES to clean up, but ends up trailing the soaking towels out to the other bathroom, dripping them all over the floor, and then leaves them in a damp unfolded heap over the side of the bath where he thinks they will magically dry. So I have to clean up after him even though he thinks he has cleaned up!!!! He also leaves ALL lights on in every room he's ever been in.

I still love him though :-)

+1 !!!
Why do they think that they will dry in a heap? I tried spreading it out on the rail, and explaining to him that if it was spread out and air circulating then it wouldn't be wet when he went to use it again!
I also tried leaving it as he left it, but he doesn't seem to mind using a wet towel, rather than going looking for a new one! :rolleyes:

Also +1 for the recognition of doing some of the house work, and then disappointed when I point out that he didn't do the bathroom too! I burst his bubble, what did he want a lollipop and a gold star?? :P

pookie82

ecaf wrote: »

+1 !!!
Why do they think that they will dry in a heap? I tried spreading it out on the rail, and explaining to him that if it was spread out and air circulating then it wouldn't be wet when he went to use it again!
I also tried leaving it as he left it, but he doesn't seem to mind using a wet towel, rather than going looking for a new one! :rolleyes:

Also +1 for the recognition of doing some of the house work, and then disappointed when I point out that he didn't do the bathroom too! I burst his bubble, what did he want a lollipop and a gold star?? :P

Oh believe me, in my innocence in the early days I tried (I'm a bit of a tidy freak) really hard to leave things as he left them and see how he liked it when he went to use dirty mugs or wet towels - and he doesn't mind either!!!!:eek: WHat is it with guys? They can operate in total oblivion to every bit of mess and filth around them and live quite happily never drying or cleaning a thing. I cracked before I could let the whole apartment go to pot and started cleaning again.

The funniest thing about my OH is he CAN be guilt tripped and will try and do house work, but he always does it wrong (i.e. the towel thing). I inevitably have to clean up after him cleaning up!!! And I honestly don't think it's a case of "if I do this really terribly she'll never ask me again", cos he's really proud of himself for helping out and thinks he's great.

I hope he doesn't read this ha ha:D

Edgedinblue

Haha! novella that aint cool, myself and my bf are on the whole farting terms and thats the norm at this stage, but its pretty much my whole house that does it anyway! cant avoid farts in my place hahaha! and we do shout through the bathroom doors regardless of whats going on in there.

saying that theres nothing i wouldve liked to have known, turned out to be the best housemate ive ever had and quite the little bitchy rants buddy! and when we've no heat hes like a radiator! everyday without fail he tells me thanks for dinner gives me a hug and kiss then washes up! hahah!

Latchy

Chinafoot wrote: »

That he sees no problem with barging in to the bathroom to take a dump while I'm relaxing in the bath!

( male response ) Ehh ...glad I have a shower curtain and a door lock

Novella

Chinafoot wrote: »

That he sees no problem with barging in to the bathroom to take a dump while I'm relaxing in the bath!

Wow, I thought I had it bad!!!!

Winters

Chinafoot wrote: »

That he sees no problem with barging in to the bathroom to take a dump while I'm relaxing in the bath!

Better than the kitchen sink.

Ickle Magoo

I don't wish I'd known anything in particular. We moved in together after only a few months so it was a bit of a baptism of fire anyway.

His most annoying habit is probably his uncanny ability to always fail to let me know when he's used the last of anything & his equally unfaltering habit of not replacing it even if we have more in the cupboard/freezer ie loo roll, milk, toothpaste, etc. Could be so much worse!

On the poo'ing thing - we shout conversations thru the door but I wouldn't stand in the same room - more a health & safety thing than feeling squeamish or disgust. :pac:

Clare Bear

Nothing. He's very easy to live with. Very tidy (have to thank his Mum for that!), been living together 9 months now and it's all good, no complaints at all. Good luck with the move OP, it's a big step but a great one!

damnyanks

Why all the problems while being talked to while you pee? We all pee.

MJOR

Holy Moly! Sounds like I have a lot to look forward to

madbev90210

That teeth brushing is not high on his list of priorities.. Have my bro staying with me for a few days and dental hygiene is alien to him! Do any men brush their teeth and floss?!

If you have a regular teeth brusher, you lucky girls!!