Fitting in.

LumpyChicken

This has to be the worst drawback of being a teenager. People prostituting their personalities so they can fit in is so false and manipulative. It seems everyone has to be a member of a certain group, it's either hurlers, metal heads, smart kids, dumb kids, scumbags or worst of all those indie posers who think it's incredibly cool to live their life like an episode of skins. It really p*sses me off when people act a certain way just because their trying to be "cool". I myself get some stick for not wanting to change but i am happy that my life cannot be defined by some stereotype from the O.C.

Scrambled egg

Eh well I don't think I fit in to those categorys, fit into bits of all of them (except scumbag) and I don't even try. And you shouldnt either OP.

phasers

I've never tried to fit in

Deedeecupcake

Ive never tried to fit in but i think after spending time with a group of people you do tend to lean towards the same music and fashion etc.

icanchange49

LumpyChicken wrote: »

This has to be the worst drawback of being a teenager. People prostituting their personalities so they can fit in is so false and manipulative. It seems everyone has to be a member of a certain group, it's either hurlers, metal heads, smart kids, dumb kids, scumbags or worst of all those indie posers who think it's incredibly cool to live their life like an episode of skins. It really p*sses me off when people act a certain way just because their trying to be "cool". I myself get some stick for not wanting to change but i am happy that my life cannot be defined by some stereotype from the O.C.

i dont try to fit in either lump but i agree with everything you say!

phasers

icanchange49 wrote: »

i dont try to fit in either lump but i agree with everything you say!

Your name begs to differ

FredBaby!

people are always gonna stereotype you no matter what you do. if you try and fit in you are a sheep and if you don't you're either a flake or a loner...there's just no winning with some people...

Jesus Juice

Aye,I know of a lot of them ''Skins'' posers.

''Omg,I'm young and I'm gonna go to party and get drunk and just because I smoke some weed I'll be so cool while dancing to Kasabian''

cocoa

I really don't get this... Either you're friends with these people and have gotten to know them well enough to know they're not being themselves, in which case hating them seems a bit odd and trying to help them be happier would make more sense... or, you don't know them at all and seem to be assuming that just because it's not your scene, no one else could possibly want that and it's all an act. Still seems odd to me that you would hate them...

If people are trying to force you to 'fit in' and be unlike yourself, then yeah, hate away, or better still, leave them to their boring predictable lives and hang out with cooler people... I just can't see why you'd have a problem with the people trying to fit in, feel sorry for them and try to let them be themselves, sure, but hate them? Why?

FredBaby!

Jesus Juice wrote: »

Aye,I know of a lot of them ''Skins'' posers.

''Omg,I'm young and I'm gonna go to party and get drunk and just because I smoke some weed I'll be so cool while dancing to Kasabian''

yeah i hate those people who wish their lives were like a tv series. word of advise, losers-its not reality, its entertainment!!!

bythewoods

Yeah, I've never exactly tried to fit in either tbh.

I hate those groups of teenagers who all dress and act really similarly, freaks me outttttt!

FredBaby!

they scare me a bit too! especially those girls who have birds nest hair and say oh my god a lot :eek:

mehmeh12

To paraphrase that Ikea ad on tv, you should mold yourself to suit your own needs, not to serve the needs of others. Think about it: don't assholes succeed more often that 'nice people'?

FredBaby!

mehmeh12 wrote: »

To paraphrase that Ikea ad on tv, you should mold yourself to suit your own needs, not to serve the needs of others. Think about it: don't assholes succeed more often that 'nice people'?

i think im the exception to that rule!;)

mehmeh12

All i know is when i was in school i was a nice person but i had a few friends because of this. Then in college i turned into a major asshole and became popular. That said the kind of people you attract when your popular tend to be shallow and transparent. To be honest i never gave these people the time of day- people like this are everywhere in dublin :mad: The moral of the story- trust no one!

FredBaby!

mehmeh12 wrote: »

All i know is when i was in school i was a nice person but i had a few friends because of this. Then in college i turned into a major asshole and became popular. That said the kind of people you attract when your popular tend to be shallow and transparent. To be honest i never gave these people the time of day- people like this are everywhere in dublin :mad: The moral of the story- trust no one!

oh yeah i'm nice but im a totaaal loner! dems are the breaks i guess!

Piste

Lol, I'm amazed "hurlers" are their own little group

Tea_Bag

Deedeecupcake wrote: »

Ive never tried to fit in but i think after spending time with a group of people you do tend to lean towards the same music and fashion etc.

i dont fit in at all with my friends, fashion or other. they're still the best friends ive ever had. if you just be your own individual self you be supprised how many people you can actually be friends with as opposed to "limiting" yourself if you steer towards a single category.

I have 3 completely seperate "clicks" of friends, which dont mix well together.

JC 2K3

Piste wrote: »

Lol, I'm amazed "hurlers" are their own little group

Why? I would have thought the "jocks" would have been a fairly common teenage clique.

wayhey

JC 2K3 wrote: »

Why? I would have thought the "jocks" would have been a fairly common teenage clique.

Ah yeah they can be. I moved schools after the JC to another part of the country and it's funny how cliques really don't differ too much from place to place other than by the label everyone knows them as...

And in fairness lads, I agree that you shouldn't change who you are just to fit in but at the same time it's not very cool to look down on people who do that. Being a teenager sucks most of the time and if the only way (for the foreseeable future) you can get talking to people your own age is to put on a bit of an act... Ok so I'm not phrasing this well at all but I hope ya get my meaning? Some people don't know any better I spose...

Futurism

LumpyChicken wrote: »

This has to be the worst drawback of being a teenager. People prostituting their personalities so they can fit in is so false and manipulative. It seems everyone has to be a member of a certain group, it's either hurlers, metal heads, smart kids, dumb kids, scumbags (Fat kids. Skinny kids. Even kids with chicken pox!)or worst of all those indie posers who think it's incredibly cool to live their life like an episode of skins. It really p*sses me off when people act a certain way just because their trying to be "cool". I myself get some stick for not wanting to change but i am happy that my life cannot be defined by some stereotype from the O.C.

Anyone else think this reads like a Junior Cert English essay?

I think I've heard this rant so many times before, that those who spew it out are becoming their own little clique.

mehmeh12

Right now as i'm typing this there is a big bunch of skangers across my window all nacker drinking and making noise. No one from my side of the neighborhood dares to cross that road..we avoid it if possible. I could put on a real skanger accent, dress down and act like a gob****e but i won't. Skangers are themselves in a world all their own :pac:

Jesus Juice

I wont conform,I just wont!!!!11!!

Richard Cranium

Neither will I, let's all not conform together!:P

As someone said earlier, at the end of the day it simply is important to fit in- being a loner is no fun (well not as much fun as having many friends, I'd imagine). It is possible however to fit in without changing yourself. There are quite a few people who really feel comfortable with a certain stereotypical look, and at the same time there are loads who are perfectly happy and popular without being a plastic imitation of someone else.

I'm adding nothing new whatsoever to this discussion by saying this, but to each their own.:cool:

bythewoods

Piste wrote: »

Lol, I'm amazed "hurlers" are their own little group

That's because you're not of us culchies, Piste.

Seriously. In my last school there was the hurler's clique. They all hung out together ALL the time, discussing the GAA (prollllllly).

Shacklebolt

In Mayo we have Gaelic Football-heads instead of Hurlers but its basically the same little clique. The thing is I actually play football and love going to Mayo matches (sickened after today ) but I hate the d1ckheads who base their entire life around how good they are at football.

Richard Cranium

bythewoods wrote: »

That's because you're not of us culchies, Piste.

Seriously. In my last school there was the hurler's clique. They all hung out together ALL the time, discussing the GAA (prollllllly).

Yes, this is very true. There was one in my school too. No wait, all over west Waterford.

Waterford lost the semi- final today so I have to pretend to give a crap for the next few days too.

Leftyflip

Lawl... stereotypes. Individuality FTW!

Insect Overlord

Leftyflip wrote: »

Lawl... stereotypes. Individuality FTW!

And remember kids, it takes a very special kind of individuality to use clichéd memes and still sound original!

Jesus Juice

An File wrote: »

And remember kids, it takes a very special kind of individuality to use clichéd memes and still sound original!

The /b/ individuality we all know and love.

Individual individuality is individual.

Leftyflip

An File wrote: »

And remember kids, it takes a very special kind of individuality to use clichéd memes and still sound original!

Touché sir *tips hat*

Piste

JC 2K3 wrote: »

Why? I would have thought the "jocks" would have been a fairly common teenage clique.

Ah yeah but arent jocks usually just sporty guys? Would have thought the country equivalent would be GAA in general, not just hurling.

wayhey

Piste wrote: »

Ah yeah but arent jocks usually just sporty guys? Would have thought the country equivalent would be GAA in general, not just hurling.

Nah, it's usually either a football or a hurling town. Even if they've both there'll be bigger support for another, makes sense to culchies

Shacklebolt

Some counties like Mayo or Kerry are mostly football. Others like Kilkenny or Tipperary are all hurling. Some like Galway play a lot of both but its usually different areas of the county that play them.

Davidius

I'm too socially inept to try to fit in. Chances are I'd do it wrong. :pac:

sock puppet

Shacklebolt wrote: »

Some counties like Mayo or Kerry are mostly football. Others like Kilkenny or Tipperary are all hurling. Some like Galway play a lot of both but its usually different areas of the county that play them.

There are a few towns in Tipperary where football is the more popular sport. And I'd say rugby could end up becoming the more popular sport in a couple of places in Clare and Tipp.

Luno

I dont believe in stero-typing peopls its bull really I mean I fit into soo many groups and am wanted in them all because people like me for who I am

Earth Dweller

When I finished school I was looking forward to getting away from all the b*tchy types and all the cliques mentioned in the first post and then I found that it's the exact same story not only in college but in work, in every job I've had it's the same score with different groups and people trying to fit in- forty year olds and all trying to be cool and fit in and stuff so basically f*"! everyone and just do what you want, people are going to talk about you anyway no matter what you do yknow!

soccymonster

I dont fit in with any group?? Weird.
It seems that im friends with people from alot of those groups.
So am i an all-rounder?

theres probably 10 hurling groups in my year alone (we have a large school all into clare hurling). Too bad its feckin clare hurling.
See a 5th year going around in a limerick GAA jacket so at least 1 persons on my side!!!

goosey gander

Piste wrote: »

Lol, I'm amazed "hurlers" are their own little group

that doesnt surprise me kilkenny love Hurling!!!! My bf is from kilkenny and if your not a hurler your no1!!!!!! His sis is 15 and her friends(not so much her) only fancy fellas that play hurling!!!!!

soccymonster

goosey gander wrote: »

that doesnt surprise me kilkenny love Hurling!!!! My bf is from kilkenny and if your not a hurler your no1!!!!!! His sis is 15 and her friends(not so much her) only fancy fellas that play hurling!!!!!

Am I one of your sisters friends?

goosey gander

LOL could be!!!!

cathysworld

I had a few close friends in school and we still hang around together 8 years after it finished, there's no point trying to be friends with people you dont fit in with or have a laugh with, it wont work for long!

Walsh

cathysworld wrote: »

I had a few close friends in school and we still or have a laugh with, it wont work for long!

What!? The people you have a laugh with are usually friends for life no?

Bobalicious93

Walsh wrote: »

What!? The people you have a laugh with are usually friends for life no?

Post edit fail.

Sophsxxx

Davidius wrote: »

I'm too socially inept to try to fit in. Chances are I'd do it wrong. :pac:

Ha! Same story here! I get along with different kinds of groups of ppl except skangers...hate having convos where all they talk about is their last wild night out or how many Js they smoked in a night...don't really care lads!!!
I prefer to be the clumsy, neurotic, foot-in-mouth girl that is moi!!:D

soccymonster

Sophsxxx wrote: »

I prefer to be the clumsy, neurotic, foot-in-mouth girl that is moi!!:D

i hear ya!

Jackobyte

I'd have to say I'm in the Smart Kids group but we don't act any differently to anyone else except our humour has matured a bit more into and including political jokes... No one has to try to fit in the group... We're mostly all intelligent naturally without having to put in the work...

Other than our IQ we are normal teenagers... Dress normally (we don't go around with our shirts tucked into our pants and with our ties strangling us as seen on tv!!!) and act normally!!! We're all interested and play sports and we all spend most of our time chasing girls so nothing abnormal there!!!:P Only thing that is different is that we don't struggle in our tests!!!

Jesus Juice

Jackobyte wrote: »

I'd have to say I'm in the ARROGANTLY SMUG Smart Kids group but we don't act any differently to anyone else except our humour has matured a bit more into and including political jokes... No one has to try to fit in the group... We're mostly all intelligent naturally without having to put in the work...

Other than our IQ we are normal teenagers... Dress normally (we don't go around with our shirts tucked into our pants and with our ties strangling us as seen on tv!!!) and act normally!!! We're all interested and play sports and we all spend most of our time chasing girls so nothing abnormal there!!!:P Only thing that is different is that we don't struggle in our tests!!!

Fixed that for you there.

Jackobyte

Jesus Juice wrote: »

Fixed that for you there.

Me and my friend have both done IQ tests which are aimed at adults!!! We're 14.

Average IQ:100(of an adult)
My IQ:135 (with still 7 years of growth left, brain stops maturing at 21)
My Friend's:125 (also with 7 years growth left)

Its a fact!

Jesus Juice

Jackobyte wrote: »

Me and my friend have both done IQ tests aimed at adults!!! We're 14.

Average IQ:100
My IQ:135
My Friend's:125

Its a fact!

Wow,you've really proved me wrong there.
NEWS FLASH-SMUGNESS AND IQ NOW DIRECTLY RELATED!!