Questions one should never ask....

The "How Many" thread got me thinking..........

What questions shouldn't you ask?

Ever?

There has to be some out there where the mouth runs, and the brain struggles to catch up and yell "WAIIIIT!" that smidgen too late for the target to hear it.

I can think of one. From bitter, cringing experience.

"Who's the lucky fella?"

Great when you just got the news that she's going out with someone/just got engaged/married.

Not-so-great when she's announced she's pregnant. And seeing the guy for about a year. And the guy in question is in earshot.

RandomIrl

is it in?

Khannie

When are you due?

(I've heard a few horror stories about that one.....jesus).

Maddison

If going out with someone that is within your group of friends asking were they with such friend in said group....getting a yes may sometimes make things evvvver so slightly awkward. Not that its ever happened to me,I was gladly the only girl in the group as I was growing up Twas great fun

Ellsbells

On the train - 'would you like my seat?', 'Eh, no thanks cos I am not pregnant' OOOOOOPS

Maddison

Khannie wrote: »

When are you due?

(I've heard a few horror stories about that one.....jesus).

This happened me a few weeks ago:o Was out with the OH in the pub & was wearing a top that looked soooo good on the hanger but was very floaty, the OH was rubbing my lower back & some aul one said ahhh how far gone are ya:mad: Cnut!!!I am never wearing that top again & he is not permitted to touch me in public

Raze_them_all

Whens our anniversary/your birthday once you've been going out more than a year!!

karlog

You look different. Have you started to let yourself go?

rannerap

Raze_them_all wrote: »

Whens our anniversary/your birthday once you've been going out more than a year!!

I have the worst memory ever so always have to do this:(even with my friends i can never remember birthdays,ive been friends with most of them 6 years and still dont know!

Raze_them_all

Sarannewrap wrote: »

I have the worst memory ever so always have to do this:(even with my friends i can never remember birthdays,ive been friends with most of them 6 years and still dont know!

Me too....thats how I know it's a bad question to ask, The only reson I knew it was my anniversary with my ex was it was the same day as my bday.


Oh also how much do you weigh...never good to ask

Latchy

Two things to remember If you ever going to ask a girl '' How's the morning sickness love'' ?

1 make sure she's pregnant
2 make sure you know her

:pac:

SeekUp

"Was (s)he better than me?"



Don't ask if you really don't want to know.

Ghost Train

And is this your boyfriend?

No I'm her sister :mad:

Maddison

Ghost Train wrote: »

And is this your boyfriend?

No I'm her sister :mad:

Oh whats worse is when your out with your dad and your mates ask if hes your new fella....eww eww eww...happens me & my sis so we just refuse to be seen with the aul lad anymore....



*old men shouldnt dress like they are in their twenties....it is NOT cool*

all_smilz

to your boss


who are those ugly kids in the photograph?

rannerap

Raze_them_all wrote: »

Me too....thats how I know it's a bad question to ask, The only reson I knew it was my anniversary with my ex was it was the same day as my bday.


Oh also how much do you weigh...never good to ask

my bf had to remind me of our anniversarry:(thank god he doesnt care about things like that

i dont see what the problem with the weight question is!i wouldnt be bothered in the slightest of someone asked me

Raze_them_all

Sarannewrap wrote: »

my bf had to remind me of our anniversarry:(thank god he doesnt care about things like that

i dont see what the problem with the weight question is!i wouldnt be bothered in the slightest of someone asked me

I think it depends on the body type, normal girls dont care but the really light/ heavier girls seem to care in my experience

MizzLolly

Why was your phone off lastnight?

Why was your car parked in <estate> this morning?

Why are you always texting/calling <insert girls name>?

What's that orange stuff on your hoodie?

Otis Driftwood

What would you change about me?

A loaded question if ever there was one.

sam34

all_smilz wrote: »

to your boss


who are those ugly kids in the photograph?

that reminds me of this -

an ex of mine once asked his boss "why do you have a photo of J Lo on your desk?"
the reply was "thats my daughter - and she's 15"

cue one long uncomfortable silence!

Never ask anyone who is married (it's usually only married people that get asked) So, when are you going to have kids? or similar. I know a woman who used to get asked this all the time and she couldn't have kids

Also, someone who's pregnant - is this your first? is a bad one, trust me!!

cuckoo

What do you really think about my family?

That question should have an automated alarm system attached to it.

Will

How much did you pay for those!!?

Maddison

Sarannewrap wrote: »

my bf had to remind me of our anniversarry:(thank god he doesnt care about things like that

i dont see what the problem with the weight question is!i wouldnt be bothered in the slightest of someone asked me

Sweetheart I dont think you would ever have to worry bout being asked that question, your all lovely & slim. I tried bulimia but my throat kept trying to swallow my fingers.

pikachucheeks

Will wrote: »

How much did you pay for those!!?

Yup. DEFINITELY not a good one. I've been on the receiving end of that question countless times and it's so irritating.

Another one is asking someone their bra size. or if they are fake. Just because you've had a few drinks, does not give you the right to ask such personal questions. Grrr.

Another bad one to ask is 'Do I look fat in this?' ... If you suspect you do, you won't want to hear the honest answer!

Raze_them_all

Will wrote: »

How much did you pay for those!!?

I've asked you this before about some your jewellery!!

Will

Raze - Really? Cool, I probably told ya the truth too lol

Raze_them_all

Yeah! In another boardsies house when I was looking at your awesome collection!

BlackandGold

Does my bum look big in this?

Answer = NOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!

Raze_them_all

BlackandGold wrote: »

Does my bum look big?

Answer = NOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!

unless it's a black woman...then you say hell yeah!!


*I was just watching old scrubs:o

rannerap

Maddison wrote: »

Sweetheart I dont think you would ever have to worry bout being asked that question, your all lovely & slim. I tried bulimia but my throat kept trying to swallow my fingers.

i could be a whale for all everyone knows!this is the interweb after all!

pikachucheeks

Sarannewrap wrote: »

i could be a whale for all everyone knows!this is the interweb after all!

Well, considering I'm a little porker and you're my twin...

allabouteve

Do you love me more than you loved her?

Who's the best you've ever had?

Where do you think we're going?

All good questions to ask if you want to get rid of a guy really quickly!:)

rannerap

pikachucheeks wrote: »

Well, considering I'm a little porker and you're my twin...

im an 8-10 pretty much now,but its because i had gum surgery recently and couldnt eat for 2 weeks:( come back curves!

Maddison

Sarannewrap wrote: »

i could be a whale for all everyone knows!this is the interweb after all!

Nooooooes you posted a pic in tLL

And Pika ....if you thought you were a whale there wouldnt be a gajillion pics of you in tLL, your grand as you are....I vaguely recall you saying you were a size 6-8:p:D

rannerap

Maddison wrote: »

Nooooooes you posted a pic in tLL

And Pika ....if you thought you were a whale there wouldnt be a gajillion pics of you in tLL, your grand as you are....I vaguely recall you saying you were a size 6-8:p:D

damn!my plan is foiled!they could still be all faked,yeah pika youre tiny what are ya on about!

Maddison

One way to p*ss a sista off is be slim & say your fat:mad::P

Maddison

Dont hold back Maddison...must remember to start shutting TFU.:D

pikachucheeks

Maddison wrote: »

Nooooooes you posted a pic in tLL

And Pika ....if you thought you were a whale there wouldnt be a gajillion pics of you in tLL, your grand as you are....I vaguely recall you saying you were a size 6-8:p:D

I never said I was a 6, dear lord! I'm anything from an 8 to a bloody 14, won't even lie! It's those damn boobs!

I'm trying to think of another question you should never ask. It's hard because some people will say anything and not care about whether it's taboo or not

Raze_them_all

Sarannewrap wrote: »

damn!my plan is foiled!they could still be all faked,yeah pika youre tiny what are ya on about!

http://deathofaugust.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/06/photoshop_trick-500x384.jpg


Not implying your faking it, I'm just helping your case saying you could be :P

Interesting fact, Marilyn Monroe was a size 16

Maddison

Just made an ejit out of myself to an 8 year old girl today(she is my sons first crush awwwwww!!)thought to try make conversation with her...so it goes like this:
Me:Heya Holly, Your Keiths neice arent you
Her: No...whos Keith

Me: Ohhhh you stay in your nannys while your mams in work though dont you?
Her:No all my nannys are dead and I dont see my mam

Me:B*llix

Sinall

Maddison wrote: »

Oh whats worse is when your out with your dad and your mates ask if hes your new fella....eww eww eww...happens me & my sis so we just refuse to be seen with the aul lad anymore....



*old men shouldnt dress like they are in their twenties....it is NOT cool*

"Is it our wedding anniversary today?" and not even to your SPOUSE!

My dad said that to me about 8 years ago in a builders providers shop - he was signing the cheque, I had to write it out for him as he had forgotten his glasses. He spied the date (somehow, sans glasses) and asks me the above question.

Cue shocked expression from shop assistant as dad is 41 years older than me and we actually look quite alike (we don't look the same age fortunately!)

Response: "No, no, no, no, NO, not OUR wedding anniversary. But yes, it is yours and my mother's wedding anniversary. And perhaps building supplies are not an appropriate present."

Cue relieved expression from shop assistant.

Fugly

Love these questions, .

My worst experience was a question/comment made by a friend. To me in front of friends and a Bf,

Her :"Did you do something new with your skin?"

Cue me blushing to a nice deep red, "Sorry?:o"

Her: "It looks soooooo much better than last week, it looked painful"

Me: "Em... stress causes it"

I've very obvious acne/scars and everyone (incl. her) knew how embarassed I am by it. Outcome everyone was embarassed, awkward silence, and face got covered up alot more after and bf kept at arms length the rest of the day.

Lesson learned, never comment/question skin even if it is a "compliment":rolleyes:

rannerap

Raze_them_all wrote: »

http://deathofaugust.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/06/photoshop_trick-500x384.jpg


Not implying your faking it, I'm just helping your case saying you could be :P

Interesting fact, Marilyn Monroe was a size 16

il prove it at this karaoke piss up!

also interesting,she had 6 toes on one foot;)

pikachucheeks

Fugly wrote: »

I've very obvious acne/scars and everyone (incl. her) knew how embarassed I am by it. Outcome everyone was embarassed, awkward silence, and face got covered up alot more after and bf kept at arms length the rest of the day.

Lesson learned, never comment/question skin even if it is a "compliment":rolleyes:

Yeah, definitely agree! I'd advise people to never question something that people could be paranoid or insecure about. Looks, particularly.

If you know the person well and are a close friend, you can probably gage how they'll react to you asking a certain type of question. If you're not sure of how they'll respond, whether they'll be embarrassed, offended etc, it's best to keep your mouth firmly closed.

A friend of mine had a guy come up to her when she was in work and ACTUALLY say "Oh, your skin looks better than last time I saw you! Are you using something new? My friends told me not to talk to you because of your spots before" WHAT. THE. HELL! :mad:

Also, my friend's housemate saw a photograph of me and her together and asked my friend how much "work" I'd had done. She went on to say that I'd clearly had a boob job and had collagen in my lips. My friend wasn't impressed and nor was I, when I found out.

I think you need to be a bit careful approaching people's appearances, for definite. Some people might be thrilled to hear it looks like they've had surgery done, other people might take offence. Some people are painfully shy about their appearance and would rather not be quizzed about it! If in doubt about what the person you're speaking to's reaction will be like, say nothing.

Just because you're comfortable asking the question, doesn't mean the person will be comfortable answering it.

BlackandGold

She wasn't really though. Look at her. She was not a size 16. Dismally.

I stand corrected
The fact is that dress sizes have not remained consistent over the years. Since most of Marilyn Monroe's dress were tailor made to fit her it is hard to get an accurate reading as to what dress size she would be wearing today. However for a women that was 5 ft. 5 � inches tall and weighed between 118 and 140 pounds Marilyn would most likely wear a size 12 by todays standards. Some of the confusion may stem from the fact that an American dress size of 12 is actually a British dress size of 16.

BUT

The myth of Marilyn Monroe's extra toe comes from a photograph early in her career taken at Zuma Beach in California. On March 18, 1946 Photographer Joe Jasgur shot pictures of the then 20 year old Norma Jean Baker, later known as Marilyn Monroe. In one of the shots the sand clumps up next to her toe and it appears as if she has six toes on her left foot.

It is from this single picture that this urban legend has spread. However photos by the same photographer at the same beach taken only five days later clearly show that she had five toes on each foot. Indeed there are many other pictures of her feet taken throughout her career, both before and after this photo which clearly show no extra appendages.

Gauge

Indeed, she wasn't: http://www.snopes.com/movies/actors/mmdress.asp

BlackandGold

Gauge wrote: »

Indeed, she wasn't: http://www.snopes.com/movies/actors/mmdress.asp

How and ever, I don't believe she was a size 16 as we know it today. Find me any picture that suggests so. A size 12 then would have been about a modern size 6. [Even taking into a/c the US/UK difference]

cuckoo

Person: "and this is my sister..."

Me: "wow, you two look nothing alike..."

*awkward silence&

person: "we're both adopted".

Me:

Lesson learned that day - i'm now v careful about what i say to ppl about their appearance and how i perceive it!

BlackandGold

I've done that exact same thing except with a sister and brother!!!!!!!!!!!

RandomIrl

have a story very like the above,

friend(irish) and relative(adopted, chinese) were in shop one day.
friend introduces her cousin as, this is my cousin..****...
other person: your cousin?
friend: yeh my cousin ****
other person: YOUR COUSIN????