Fr-enemies at work

igotone

This is something I just don't understand. I work with a bunch of people (Girls AND Lads-professionals at that)who have a bit of a click going on.( Now don't get me wrong - this ain't a jealousy thing- I do not want to have any part of their company, I just want to get on with working with them - just to be polite, professional etc)

They seem to live in each others pockets outside of work etc, thing is all they do Bitch/jeer each other behind the others back saying pretty mean things, it sort of amuses and stuns me at the same time to see how blantantly two-faced they are. Is this normal? BTW - I have and never would say anything to them about this because I couldn't be arsed getting involved in their little games.

Granted I know, in work you are sort of just thrown together with people you wouldn't necesscarily be friends with - but to me this doesn't mean you have to pretend to be friends. Just be civil, get on with it and do what you're there to do. I mean Life is hard enough without this sort of shi*e - am I wrong? any thoughts?

TPD

Life isn't that hard, you're just doing it wrong.

Poor Uncle Tom

Concentrate on the work you'll find you won't notice it much any more.

Nodin

igotone wrote: »

This is something I just don't understand. I work with a bunch of people (Girls AND Lads-professionals at that)who have a bit of a click going on.( Now don't get me wrong - this ain't a jealousy thing- I do not want to have any part of their company, I just want to get on with working with them - just to be polite, professional etc)

They seem to live in each others pockets outside of work etc, thing is all they do Bitch/jeer each other behind the others back saying pretty mean things, it sort of amuses and stuns me at the same time to see how blantantly two-faced they are. Is this normal? BTW - I have and never would say anything to them about this because I couldn't be arsed getting involved in their little games.

Granted I know, in work you are sort of just thrown together with people you wouldn't necesscarily be friends with - but to me this doesn't mean you have to pretend to be friends. Just be civil, get on with it and do what you're there to do. I mean Life is hard enough without this sort of shi*e - am I wrong? any thoughts?

I've seen it often and avoid it like the plague.

Whosbetter?

My attitude to work is.
Roll in Monday morning, know the jokes, tell 'em the best way you can.
Collect your cheque on friday & enjoy the weekend.:)

Dennis the Stone

Whosbetter? wrote: »

My attitude to work is.
Roll in Monday morning, know the jokes, tell 'em the best way you can.
Collect your cheque on friday & enjoy the weekend.:)

And steal a few memory keys and fancy pens while you're at it.

My name is URL

I hate office politics. Don't pretend to like anyone, just do what you're supposed to be doing and don't allow them to include you in their bitching

MagicMarker

That's how offices work, I don't partake in it myself but I personally find it HIGHLY entertaining.

Terry

People are arseholes.

Also, made-up words like frenemies are really ****ing stupid.

fryup

igotone wrote: »

it sort of amuses and stuns me at the same time to see how blantantly two-faced they are. ?

welcome to ireland:)

the irish have to be the most bitchy two faced race on the planet

Kiera

Terry wrote: »

People are arseholes.

Also, made-up words like frenemies are really ****ing stupid.

Chillax, Ter.

Terry

Kiera wrote: »

Chillax, Ter.

Qu'est-ce que c'est?

jumpguy

This is why people should go to public schools!

markok84

I read the title wrong, I was expecting a thread on some french priest doing humanitarian work.

Kiera

Terry wrote: »

Qu'est-ce que c'est?

fa fa fa fa fa fa fa fa fa fa

TheBlock

fryup wrote: »

welcome to ireland:)

the irish have to be the most bitchy two faced race on the planet

So we Irish are a race?? I assume you've met all the other 'races' to make such a sweeping statement.

OP I'd steer well clear of such people no good as collegues much less friends.

Terry

TheBlock wrote: »

So we Irish are a race?? I assume you've met all the other 'races' to make such a sweeping statement.

OP I'd steer well clear of such people no good as collegues much less friends.

This island was originally settled by people from Northern Spain. Then we had the Celts and the Brits (through all their incarnations),the vikings, the Normans and so forth, so I'd say we are a race all of our own.
Id call us Irish.

Armin_Tamzarian

My name is URL wrote: »

I hate office politics. Don't pretend to like anyone, just do what you're supposed to be doing and don't allow them to include you in their bitching

Me too.
There's this real jerk in my office called Tim.
He keeps doing these stupid things to me, like hiding my stapler and pulling pranks on me with Dawn the secretary.

Banter Joe

igotone wrote: »

This is something I just don't understand. I work with a bunch of people (Girls AND Lads-professionals at that)who have a bit of a click going on.( Now don't get me wrong - this ain't a jealousy thing- I do not want to have any part of their company, I just want to get on with working with them - just to be polite, professional etc)

They seem to live in each others pockets outside of work etc, thing is all they do Bitch/jeer each other behind the others back saying pretty mean things, it sort of amuses and stuns me at the same time to see how blantantly two-faced they are. Is this normal? BTW - I have and never would say anything to them about this because I couldn't be arsed getting involved in their little games.

Granted I know, in work you are sort of just thrown together with people you wouldn't necesscarily be friends with - but to me this doesn't mean you have to pretend to be friends. Just be civil, get on with it and do what you're there to do. I mean Life is hard enough without this sort of shi*e - am I wrong? any thoughts?

Just wondering, do they do all this bitching openly in front of you, not really caring whether or not you're friends with the person/people they're bitching about?

(oh yeah, not trying to be a dickhead or anything, but i think you meant clique there rather than click)

igotone

Yep, pretty much. They don't seem to care whos listening

Noted, thanks

AnonoBoy

Fr-enemies.

That sounds like some part of your body that doesn't get talked about at parties.

Abi

My name is URL wrote: »

I hate office politics. Don't pretend to like anyone, just do what you're supposed to be doing and don't allow them to include you in their bitching

QFT.


I fcuking hated working in an office. When you are thrown in with a load of people, you are sort of forced to try get along with them. And the amount of arse licking that goes on is fcuking sickening. I cant fake being nice to someone I don't like, and coupled with a the fact that I speak my mind, I wouldn't have won a lot of people over. I dont give a sh1t, at least I know I'm being real. That said, there are a few I keep in touch with from past jobs though, genuine people.

Armin_Tamzarian

Abigayle wrote: »

I dont give a sh1t, at least I know I'm being real.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YeiM3PpZ01Y

Riamfada

It seems to be just an unbearable fact of life. I know alot of people like that but they usually get whats coming to them

deco05ie

Armin_Tamzarian wrote: »

Me too.
There's this real jerk in my office called Tim.
He keeps doing these stupid things to me, like hiding my stapler and pulling pranks on me with Dawn the secretary.

That's strange because there's this real jerk in my office called Jim.He keeps doing these stupid things to me, like hiding my stapler and pulling pranks on me with Pam the secretary.

fryup

Grimes wrote: »

It seems to be just an unbearable fact of life. I know alot of people like that but they usually get whats coming to them

yes, a promotion:cool:

Dinter

They bitch about themselves amongst themselves while you bitch about them online.

What's the difference except you're not talking to people you know?

fryup

Dinter wrote: »

They bitch about themselves amongst themselves while you bitch about them online.

What's the difference except you're not talking to people you know?

now you're bitchin :cool:

igotone

Dinter wrote: »

They bitch about themselves amongst themselves while you bitch about them online.

What's the difference except you're not talking to people you know?

Their bitching can have repercussions, mine doesn't- I haven't named anybody.

Abi

igotone wrote: »

Their bitching can have repercussions, mine doesn't- I haven't named anybody.

Other than calling them all a bunch of **** and making things somewhat uncomfortable in work, the only other option is to keep doing what you've always done. Leave them to their bitching and stay firmly on the fence if anyone starts bitching about someone else in work.

If it all gets too much you could always do a sh1t in the cupboard, that should distract them for a few days..

Riamfada

I find with these people that unles your with them its open season on your ass. I just cant lower myself to bitch behind someones back I think its cowardly and pathethic so I end up just ingoring the bitchers until they go away.

Abi

Grimes wrote: »

I just cant lower myself to bitch behind someones back I think its cowardly and pathethic so I end up just ingoring the bitchers until they go away.

Its the women, they can be poisonous bitches. The guys are more underhanded when it comes to work / promotions etc.

Long Onion

I personally would bully anyone who used the word frenemies and then i'd punch them in the face.

Cuddlesworth

If you want to see real underhanded tactics and two faced bitching work in a HR department of a large company.

EdgarAllenPoo

Cuddlesworth wrote: »

If you want to see real underhanded tactics and two faced bitching work in a HR department of a large company.

Or go to college, one of the worst places you'll find for that kind of thing.

Armin_Tamzarian

Some wise words to help you survive life in an office, from management guru David Brent.

• Put the key of despair into the lock of apathy. Turn the knob of mediocrity slowly and open the gates of despondency - welcome to a day in the average office.
  
• If at first you don't succeed, remove all evidence you ever tried.
  
• If you treat the people around you with love and respect, they will never guess that you're trying to get them sacked.
  
• If you can keep your head when all around you have lost theirs, then you probably haven't understood the seriousness of the situation.
  
• Avoid employing unlucky people - throw half of the pile of CVs in the bin without reading them.
  
• Know your limitations and be content with them. Too much ambition results in promotion to a job you can't do.
  
• I thought I could see the light at the end of the tunnel, but it was just some b*stard with a torch, bringing me more work.
  
• Never do today that which will become someone else's responsibility tomorrow.
  
• There may be no 'I' in team, but there's a 'ME' if you look hard enough.
  
• There's no 'I' in 'team'. But then there's no 'I' in 'useless smug colleague', either. And there's four in 'platitude-quoting idiot'. Go figure.
  
• Those of you who think you know everything are annoying to those of us who do.
  
• You have to be 100% behind someone, before you can stab them in the back.

Bob Z

fryup wrote: »

welcome to ireland

the irish have to be the most bitchy two faced race on the planet

I bet you wouldnt say that to their face

Latchy

Bob Z wrote: »

I bet you wouldnt say that to their face

The whole race at one go ? of course not