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Am I a soft touch or is this the done thing?

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  • #32
    wylo
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,214 ✭✭✭wylo


    Unregistered wrote: »
    Neither a borrow or a lender be
    Unfortunately thats the extreme opposite way at looking at it, I know people like that and they generally come across as very tight, which is really not a good character trait. I only lend to people now that I know are good for it, as for the others I just make up and excuse like having no money.


  • #33
    johnnyskeleton
    Moderators, Entertainment Moderators, Politics Moderators Posts: 14,567 Mod ✭✭✭✭johnnyskeleton


    If someone asks for less than a euro on a rare occasion when they don't have change for a bus, let it slide. Everyone borrows the odd 20c or 50c and forgets about it, it's no big deal. However, if they borrow more than that, or in your case €5/10, that's a proper lend and needs to be repaid.

    Also, if a good, long time friend who has fallen on hard times (there's a lot of it about) asks you for a lend, give it to them and if you never see it again chalk it up to the friendship. With work colleagues though, I see no reason to give them free money.

    Be clear about who it is though; if there are 4/5 people who borrow from you and most of the time you are paid back, it is probably only one or two who don't pay back. What I would do is lend to the ones who always pay back if they are stuck (as they would help you out no doubt if you were stuck) and the next time one of the ones who hasn't paid you back asks you for another lend, bring up the last €5/10 they borrowed. This will seem perfectly reasonable but will also stop them taking advantage of you. It's not the money, it's the principle of the thing.


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