moving into a house where a girl died

jvr

Hi, We are about to sign a lease on a fantastic beautiful and relatively cheap house in salthill. My friend in particular is having serious doubts as after viewing the house and agreeing with the landlady we would move in the landlady told us a girl had died in the house last sept.(08).....
The thing is, I'm not working at the moment and I would be in the house all day on my own so I'm a little freaked out. The landlady says she'l have a priest bless the house for us.....she explained that the girl died of "natural causes" by which she said the girl died from fumes from lighting candles in her room??? I don't believe that's posible and I think it was a polite way of saying she took her own life. I'm tryin not to be a big baby about it but I can see my friends point of view about not being as keen to move in. It would be a real pity coz its a beautiful house and to be fair I've rented some dodgy places since and during college (like real old houses) that somebody was bound to have died in at some stage...
any thoughts?have to really decide before monday!...

okioffice84

If your uncomfortable with the idea of someone having died in the house than that is a consideration.
If your worried about ghosts, grow up and get on with it.
btw, if any house is over 70yrs old (and I'm not saying yours is) chances are, someone has died in it.

Oryx

You have nothing to fear from someone dying in a house, no more than you would of someone being born there. Its just something that happened, it doesnt leave a scar on the place. The girl, whoever she was, will not haunt you.

If you still feel iffy, place some flowers in the room and say a prayer for the girl. Open the windows, let some air in and tell yourself, and the house, this is a new start.

Then get on with living there.:)

ttilting

This will be ridiculed. . . . but ......

Your fears are justified,

many people believe that all actions leave an energy trail. when you walk into a happy hope you can feel it even if there is no one there,,, when you walk into an unhappy home you can generally sense it straight away.

Priests haven't got a clue but it can't do any harm .... Do some research on ''white witches'' to have any bad energy 'cleared out' .... good one's can do it from a distance or recommend how to do it yourself.

I have seen things unexplainable by todays science ,,,, and while i accept there is a possibility I could be a delusional fool ! (i really don't think so because i'm a very critical thinker, but there is a chance!) ...... Just to be sure ..... and in case those who ridicule the paranormal (even though they have their children christened & get married in churches! and will have a catholic burial) .... are possibly wrong by judging everything by the narrow science of today . .. . .
I'd do it for piece of mind.

Remember we are all effected by different energies every day ... the key is to work on your own energy so that you have more control over what energy effects you.

Oryx

ttilting wrote: »

This will be ridiculed. . . . but ......

Your fears are justified,

many people believe that all actions leave an energy trail. when you walk into a happy hope you can feel it even if there is no one there,,, when you walk into an unhappy home you can generally sense it straight away.

Priests haven't got a clue but it can't do any harm .... Do some research on ''white witches'' to have any bad energy 'cleared out' .... good one's can do it from a distance or recommend how to do it yourself.

I have seen things unexplainable by todays science ,,,, and while i accept there is a possibility I could be a delusional fool ! (i really don't think so because i'm a very critical thinker, but there is a chance!) ...... Just to be sure ..... and in case those who ridicule the paranormal (even though they have their children christened & get married in churches! and will have a catholic burial) .... are possibly wrong by judging everything by the narrow science of today . .. . .
I'd do it for piece of mind.

Remember we are all effected by different energies every day ... the key is to work on your own energy so that you have more control over what energy effects you.

I dont ridicule your beliefs, but I do think that fear becomes something that feeds off itself. The more you fear something, the more you allow negative possibilities in, and the more pressing that fear becomes. Yes, you can sense energy, but you can also not let it influence you. Why should you, when all it is, is feeling? Which is why my post above stressed the importance of not holding the thought that the house carries any negativity. Thinking that it does, just feeds the imagination, even if nothing is there.

jvr

hi, im goin to go over today to get a feel for the place on my own.....:rolleyes:
i might just sit in each room for a while and see if i notice anything different (vibe, temperature etc.) might sound silly but I think for now it might help me figure it out if i can live there....

PCPhoto

do a google on the house - and the person .... so you will better understand what happened and probably feel better.

ps. just on a broader scale - expanding a point made previously ...... people have died and taken their own lives on almost every inch of this country over the thousands of years its been inhabited.

stevenmu

okioffice84 wrote:

grow up and get on with it

Please read the forum charter if you wish to continue using the forum.

jvr

ok im obvisouly in the wrong forum or something i just registered with boards.ie today....
anyway...ya i have been googling all day about this girl (only told her first name) and got nothin.....

Oryx

jvr wrote: »

hi, im goin to go over today to get a feel for the place on my own.....:rolleyes:
i might just sit in each room for a while and see if i notice anything different (vibe, temperature etc.) might sound silly but I think for now it might help me figure it out if i can live there....

Sometimes places will do that to you, the minute you walk in them, you think...ugh.:) Other places feel like home from the first second. Certainly let your gut and instincts help you, but dont let the fact that a death happened there be an undue influence.

And gluck!

stevenmu

jvr wrote: »

ok im obvisouly in the wrong forum or something i just registered with boards.ie today....

If you're saying that because of my post above, that was directed at okioffice84.

I certainly think you're in the right forum

Lobelia Overhill

I want to try to find out if something happened in my house - it's only about 5 years old, but I got a horrible feeling in one of the bedrooms more than once ... I bought a new belt and afterwards for several weeks on odd occassions, I could feel something choking me, I threw the belt out (argh the belt's haunted!!!!) and the feeling never came back :eek:

I wouldnt worry about it too much . Now that you know, every little bang you hear, you will think ghost.
I wouldnt worry too much about energys either . If you open yourself up to them more, they can effect you.

Its kinda like reading a book. A book can effect you, but only if you ready it

karynp

ok firstly,if she took her own life then that means she was unhappy,therefore,it aint likely shes gonna hang around earth is it?
its irrelavent how she died anyway,shes gone.
Have you ever been in hospital? its likely that someone died in the very bed anyone lies in there but that doesnt stop us going there.People mayhave died in the same seat you sit in on a bus or train,they die everywhere,then there gone.
I dont see how a priest blessing the house is gonna help,we all have the power of a higher energy in us,anyone can "bless",its simply a matter of pure thoughts,only difference is a priest has a name and a role,no higher power than you or i,we all have the same.
seriously,if its a good place to live then put your own stamp on it and forget anything else.,ost older houses have had a death there at some stage,you cant spend your life worrying if a ghost is gonna haunt you.That girls time was up,shes moved on.

Sephiroth_dude

How did you get when you went to the house?

Kernel

karynp wrote: »

ok firstly,if she took her own life then that means she was unhappy,therefore,it aint likely shes gonna hang around earth is it?
its irrelavent how she died anyway,shes gone.

No way, traumatic events like suicides lead to the scariest ghost stories and movies. If she was unhappy and is a spirit, she could be an angry spirit who will wreak havoc on anyone who dares enter. It could be like Grudge - the first movie, not the subsequent ones.

karynp wrote: »

Have you ever been in hospital? its likely that someone died in the very bed anyone lies in there but that doesnt stop us going there.

It keeps me out of hospital... Well, that and MRSA. Hospitals are horrible.

karynp wrote: »

I dont see how a priest blessing the house is gonna help,we all have the power of a higher energy in us,anyone can "bless",its simply a matter of pure thoughts,only difference is a priest has a name and a role,no higher power than you or i,we all have the same.

The priest (if Catholic) has authority under the Holy Father, an authority passed on from Jesus Christ himself. You or I don't have the authority to cast out demons, since we are not ordained by the Church.

karynp wrote: »

seriously,if its a good place to live then put your own stamp on it and forget anything else.,ost older houses have had a death there at some stage,you cant spend your life worrying if a ghost is gonna haunt you.That girls time was up,shes moved on.

Yes, easily said, but what happens when you're lying in bed alone, with thunder crashing, and lightning flashing outside. The rain and wind beating at your bedroom window, the power has gone out. Suddenly you smell candles burning, and begin to hear what sounds like a girl giggling from the corner of your darkened room. "Why are youuu in myyyyy rooooom?" you hear her whisper manically.

jvr

ya, we've decided to take the house....went back and stayed a bit longer and took time to get a feel for each room...didn't get any bad vibes at all!! moving in on monday so we'll see....Im sure the first few nights may be weird...we now know which room it happend in...so we're gonna leave that as the spare room...it happens to be the "box" room so its grand.....
hope all goes well now next week coz moving is a big deal to me i have to move my whole life like...it takes a big of organising, I've a load of stuff to move ...if it doesnt work out there will be no quick getaway anyway!!!

jvr

ya, we've decided to take the house....went back and stayed a bit longer and took time to get a feel for each room...didn't get any bad vibes at all!! moving in on monday so we'll see....Im sure the first few nights may be weird...we now know which room it happend in...so we're gonna leave that as the spare room...it happens to be the "box" room so its grand.....
hope all goes well now next week coz moving is a big deal to me i have to move my whole life like...it takes a big of organising, I've a load of stuff to move ...if it doesnt work out there will be no quick getaway anyway!!!

oh and just because somebody wasnt happy and took their own life doesnt make them evil or demons like that guy was goin on about?

bigeasyeah

Best of luck!

karynp

am very glad your happy to be moving in,the other guy who posted just seems to be trying to scare you,silly really.
i just moved recently so dont envy you the task of all that!!!
good luck.

Kernel

karynp wrote: »

am very glad your happy to be moving in,the other guy who posted just seems to be trying to scare you,silly really.
i just moved recently so dont envy you the task of all that!!!
good luck.

Scare her? Well, Amityville Horror or The Haunting in Connecticut may be worth a watch/read.

It's either 3am or 4am when the bad stuff seemed to happen in those cases............. Good luck with the house. God bless you.

holly1

Why are you posting here Kernel,you are just stirring and taking the pi**.Go to after hours and have your laughs.

bigeasyeah

holly1 wrote: »

Why are you posting here Kernel,you are just stirring and taking the pi**.Go to after hours and have your laughs.

He s posting because After Hours isnt very humorous:)

seanybiker

if she isnt there anymore it grand. If she is still there a microwave and a jar of liver and your sorted

Kernel

holly1 wrote: »

Why are you posting here Kernel,you are just stirring and taking the pi**.Go to after hours and have your laughs.

Holly why have you hurt me so? I'm a believer in violent or untimely death leading to hauntings and demonic infestation. I've even pointed you to two allegedly true cases. Would you sleep in the room of a man or chick who took their own life? There's a reason murder houses are left vacant.

holly1

Kernel wrote: »

Holly why have you hurt me so? I'm a believer in violent or untimely death leading to hauntings and demonic infestation. I've even pointed you to two allegedly true cases. Would you sleep in the room of a man or chick who took their own life? There's a reason murder houses are left vacant.

:rolleyes:

MooseJam

Why did the landlady tell you about it, thats just crazy, it would serve her right for being so stupid if you decided not to move in.

jvr

we were thinking it may be a legal requirement to tell people who are moving in if someone took their own life in the house? im not sure but i think so...i dont think u have to disclose info if someone just died of natural causes but id say u havta if someone was murdered etc or in anyways dodge.?...it happend in the box room and we asked the landlady to replace the bed which she actually seems cagey about sayin that she didnt die in that particular bed so we were like has that bed been moved to another room or something and she said no so i dunno whats goin on....she said also that the girl had an eating disorder coz i brought up how its hard to believe a girl died from lighting candles in her room (she said from the fumes?!) so she reckons her immune system was low and that she just died but you'd imagine if it happend in her room she'd be in the bed? maybe the landlady doesnt want the hassle of gettin in a new bed!! she should really tho its only right like...and we really should get the priest in and have a blessing...have to get around to doing that yet...coz i have to say im listening out for sounds and noises as im mostly there during the day by myself...today is day 3....i dont feel uncomfortable just paranoid like its weird i get no bad vibes but im thinkin too much in myhead when im there on my own i suppose itl take a while to get used to...

Eireann

I've heard of candle fumes killing small animals such as birds but not humans! Why dont you ask for the full name of the girl and along with the address, do a Google search? It should at least be in the Obituries.

seanybiker

bit strange she wont change the bed. Im in the box room in my house and anytime im in the room i hop onto me bed cos there is feck all room. Kinda weird how me one didnt do it in her own bed. Think the landlord is trying to save a few yo yo's.

The more you listen for little noises you will probably end up "hearing" something that might not even be there.
Best of luck with the house though.

YourName

Yeh listen, just after reading through this thread, congrats first of all on moving in, its a great feeling getting somewhere new and all that, so don't let this little something take away from that fact.

Don't mind the posters on here messing around, there just talking crap, that sort of things arn't real, this is reality after all. Don't be thinking about it because you will only be purposely listening out for things and then any little creak will be exaggerated in your head, its not worth it.

My best advice would be to have a good moving in party in the house, have a good laugh, and have everyone stay over the night, then you will have settled right in, no more worries or nothing, just live it up and take life with a pinch of salt ! ! !

Best of luck,
mcgowaner

jvr

ya landlady has agreed and has ordered us a new bed...the so called box room is actually very big i was suprised to see a single bed in it at all...we're hoping once a few people stay over itl be grand.....no noises or anything creepy to report as of yet...

jvr

so....one of the girls that lived in the house called over to collect her post the last day...I can't tell ya how tempted I was to ask her what happened...I felt it may be a little rude though as our landlady told us it was one of the girls who found their housemate dead..How do u even start a conversation about that?so far we only ever knew the dead girls first name but last week post arrived for her so I googled the name and got a death notice for her...I think its her ..it said she died unexpectedly in galway but gave the date as 22nd Nov 08 and not in sept as the landlady was sayin...so im thinkin the other girls moved out fairly recently (as they are still getting post ud imagine they would have changed their address for by now)...anyway not that it matters too much but i suspect the landlady didn't want us to think we were the first to move in after it happened.
Ud think I'd be settled in by now but maybe I've too much time on my hands but I can't help thinking about what happened...all brave and that 3 weeks ago but now I think I need to know what happened. Like how did she die?I really dont like the thoughts of somebody suffering etc. I think I'l have to ask the girl when she calls for her post again....I had an appointment with my own doc today and asked her about if it was posible to die from fumes from candles etc. the way we were told and she reckoned not.she says if it was suicide that it is of course sensitive information to the family etc. and someone like the landlady may be kept out of the loop about it fully..you can totally understand that like ...
the ex housemate that called seemed really nice and we had a brief chat...she said she really misses the house and that mine room was actually hers (so thats a relief!)...i dunno how to start askin her about what happened tho without upsetting anyone. i think my own fear is drivin me a bit cracked..i can a notion that if the girls spirit is hangin around maybe shes just being shy at the moment maybe it takes a year or so to ...i dunno dare i say make an appearance?i still stand by what i say about i dont think that even if it is true that she took her own life that that means she's goin to want to hang around in her old rented acomodation tryin to scare us but i dont know how spirits work or anything all i no is for the moment I'm feeling a bit nearvous about the whole thing. and i no im probably bringin it on myself...too much time thinkin etc!!

mark09

ive read all ur comments and in each one it sounds like you ave made a mistake moving in...i do believe in this stuff,and in some cases spirits do linger around and some dont...ive had an experience myself and ave posted it up here...other than that i woudnt have believed in it either...some people who havent experienced anything will say its all nonsense,but when you do its quiet scary...a person died in my sis friends house before and that house is haunted,the owners little girl has seen things before and so has she...they got the house blessed,it stopped for a number of months but started up again,they still live in that house to this day,but the owner wont stay there on her own...im not sayin anything will happen to you,im not tryin to scare you either but it is true...just dont let it bother you or try not to think bout it,but if it was me i wouldnt have moved in...some people think its all in your mind and things happen if you think about them,well they dont sorry,until you have experienced it...as i said i would have said it was all nonsence until it happened to me

jvr

ok so the girl that used to live here called around last week and again I couldn't bring myself to ask her what happened....but something is happening here in the house alright and I don't think it's my imagination.....I'm a bit weary of writting this as I'm sitting here in the sitting room but feel somewhat comforted that one of the girls who lives here just came home from work....!!!!so last sat.i was the only one inthe house and went to take a shower...closed the door behind me in the bathroom and about 3 seconds later a big bang was heard as if a fist hit the bathroom door on the other side....i have to say it turned by blood stone cold it was the weirdest thing ever...with adrenline in me i opened the door and of course nothing was outside...iv always felt a little weird about the common bathroom as it's near the back of the house (near the back room where the girl died) and since we moved in right opposite the bathroom door/hallway theres a porcelin angel hangin up on the window sill lever...it looks weird like old fashioned dunno why its there...we've (3 of us here altogether) talked about takin it down but nobody has yet...

anyway, the 2nd creepy thing happened today...last night i noticed as i was leaving the kitchen that someone had written in marker the word hi and a drew a small smily face on the side of the cupboard i remember lookin at it coz i hadnt noticed it before, its only written small and no big deal like but today after i came home with food shoppin i was leavin the kitchen and just passing that cupboard with that marker on it something happened and to be honest i dont even know what it was all i know is it sounded like a distorted voice sayin I see you with some kind of distorted noise in the backround as if u pressed play on a tape with someones voice on it with very bad quality???? like it was practically a mans voice? i may hav misheard it or whatever but something definetly happened to make my blood go cold right through me like before and it made me jump but despite how im describing it here i dont think i could ever describe what exactly happened like it just happened in the space of like 2/3 seconds...i hope i am imagining these things!!!

i tried to talk to the girl that lives here but seeing as she was the one with the main issue about moving in in the begining she says not to talk about anything spooky with her as she'd like to keep living here...she says she doesnt think twice about the house's history since she's moved in and my BF who lives here wont entertain the notion of ghosts at all so i dunno...

but i think people can sense if something is amiss and i have to say on those 2 occasions when my blood went cold (its the only way i can describe it) i also went like weak like i was goin to faint from fright? its an awful feeling...

my aunt is supposed to come by and burn white sage in the house (supposed to take away neg energy) but i think a lot more than frickin white sage is needed...

im not sayin that whatever may/may not be here in the house is the girl that passed away like it could be someone else?like i said it was nearly like a mans voice but im even doubting myself if i heard it coz it happened so quick???

magenta73

Hi Jvr, the first thing is DONT panic! sometimes our brains can magnify things out of control.I was asked to help at a friend of mine sisters house, where a young boy spirit had decided to hang around and play with her son. But my advice to you would be to tell the "girl" to move on as her loved one's are waiting for her and then you could protect yourself by saying a little prayer or what works for me is, May the lord and angles protect me from, lost souls, bad entities and other people's negitive energies. You can say this out loud or in your head, but having your aunt burn some sage is supposed to be good. Let us know how you get on!

good luck:)

Marcus Suridius

It is a worrying sign if you are hearing things like that...id try find a cheap (audio) recorder and when you do feel anything turn it on....or you said you heard a bang when going for a shower....id defo put it outside the door and leave it recording...never know it may pickup something. As magenta73 said dont panic(which is easy for us to say..i know) always have to keep a rasional mind with these things.

The cupboard thing would get me, and the mans voice saying I see you...you may have....not sure how to decribe it(thats people problam we cant use words to describe the unknown) heard something from the time the person was there...maybe near the time it was happening.

Keep us updated cause it is an mad problem.

Elbi

Have you had the house blessed. I think this might be a good idea and might put you more at ease.

Dave!

tbh I reckon you'll continue to hear and experience "wierd things" until you stop fearing the house so much. You were told about someone dying in the house, and I gather you already believed in all that ghostly stuff, etc., so you'll no doubt be "on the lookout" either consciously or subconsciously. In that state you heard a 'bang' (who hasn't?) and of course attribute it to something ghastly...

You're gonna keep doing this I reckon, EXPECTING strange things to happen to you, and so if anything is at all awry it'll further confirm your belief that there's a ghost in the house. And that pattern is self-perpetuating.

That's unless you come to terms with the fact that everybody is freaked out by death, nobody wants to be around it, and so it's completely natural to find a house eery if someone died in it. Stop connecting the dots between mundane occurances and noises and you'll settle right into your new house.

Kernel

I told you OP. I'd leave if I was you.

Marcus Suridius

Kernel wrote: »

I told you OP. I'd leave if I was you.

To be honest you cant do that...if you run from something that is possibly in your head you'll be like that till your last days

dennistuam

get out of there,i am a estate agent and have came accross this type of thing a few times
one house i had rented to a english bird everything was ok in the house until she brought home the stallion, the clocks would go balistic ,things start to fall off the fireplace
we got a lady in found out there was a lovers tiff 50 years ago the buck got a frying pan accross the head
also i had a house there was a murder in ,great thing to have to sell the more gory the better i sold this particular one to a geezer that bought the site of fred west in england ,he always on the look out

gaeilgegrinds

I'm fairly sure I know who you are on about...a girl I know through a friend would fit this description, knew rather. Anyway, PM if you're interested in hearing the true story. You'll be fine if you get a priest with experience in this area to bless the house.

Amberjack

Hi OP - just came across this thread yesterday and was wondering how you're getting on. Are you still in the house and if so has there been any more activity?? Just curious to hear how things have worked out for you.
Cheers

Kess73

The bang on the glass could be a young bird. May and June is when there are large numbers of young birds about, and them hitting windows is very very common. Where I am, I have literally dozens of young birds of different species in the garden, and maybe five or six times a week, there is a loud bang on a window when one hits it.


It is normally enough to get me scuttering out the back to look as it sounds like a rock hitting the window.


Also when it happens the bird either flys away before you can get there, or has fallen to the ground stunned and often cannot be seen.


A bird as small as a coal tit hitting a window could make a noise as loud as a fist hitting the window.

The salthill area is always full of young birds at this time of year, so the bang on the window may be this.

Xcellor

Freaky stuff...

I was reading, very concentrated and my bloody phone went off vibrating... nearly had a heart attack!!

I don't think the OP has anything to worry about. After watching a scary movie or something like that I'm always more jumpy and tend to imagine things. If you think the house is haunted in your mind then anything that seems to be a bit strange will be attributed to that.

X

ultain

Marcus Suridius wrote: »

To be honest you cant do that...if you run from something that is possibly in your head you'll be like that till your last days

wise words.

dade

OP is there any other history to the house? what i mean is the story is that this girl died in the house. you suspect it as suicide. you also think you heard a mans voice saying it was watching you or could see you.

it may be no harm talking to the girl that lived there before about her friend. i know it wont be easy to do but knowing why this girl committed suicide (if that's what she did) may help you in the house.

the reason I'm saying this and I'm really taking a mad leap here based upon what Marcus Suridius said in his last post. maybe the voice of the man you heard was a man, maybe there was some spirit in the house before and it was a bad spirit, maybe that spirit had such a profound negitive impact on the poor girl that lived there previously that she took her own life. a ludicrous idea i know and would probably make a great idea for a movie. maybe the Hi on the press and the bang on the door was the girl trying to communicate with you to try tell you why she died.

i don't know maybe i have an over active imagination. I hope you do manage to find peace in that house and that poor girls soul is Finlay laid to rest