Winkers

WindSock

No, it's not a typo. How do you react when guys wink at you? There are a couple here in my workplace and I always get taken aback for a second when they do it. I know theres nothing meant in it but a friendly 'hi' or whatever, but I don't like that they do it to me and no one else. I don't even know if they do it to other guys on the site, but I'm guessing no.

g'em

I can't really comment because I do this too (and very much out of habit and nothing else)... I only realised this when I walked by one of our senior Professors and winked hello at him with an accompanying "How's it goin'?" yesterday

Puddleduck

Tbh I see it just as a friendly hello, then again it depends on who does it. Theres a guy in my office that winks at women, but hes a total sleaze

WindSock

Yeah I guess it's just one way of saying hello. I never no how to react back, I am not a winker, more of a nodder myself but I find myself as I put winking in the flirting category. Unless it's an exaggerated wink-my fave!

jellie

i usually think "did he just do that? who WINKS at people?". its generally just taken in a friendly way. its easy to tell whether its a friendly wink or a sleazy one *shudders at the thought of creepy men winking*

joes girls

nothing wrong with a nice wink every now and then....not from some old fella....if someone winks at me i smile back...i cant wink:o:D

Loopy

It always cheers me up when I get a wink;)

Gauge

I worked in a computer shop for a year and grew to associate men winking being immediately followed up by saying "Can you go fetch someone that knows about computers, love?"

So depending on the context, they can be annoying and patronising!

I know lots of people who do it by way of recognition or to say "Hello", and it's nice.

WindSock

Do men wink hello to each other?

The_Minister

The only time I ever wink at a girl is when (about three times) I've been in Coppers. I did it to get into the feel of the place, and I ended up blushing furiously while doing it.

No suaveness for me, nosiree.

jellie

The_Minister wrote: »

The only time I ever wink at a girl is when (about three times) I've been in Coppers. I did it to get into the feel of the place, and I ended up blushing furiously while doing it.

No suaveness for me, nosiree.

i dont think suaveness (or winking) is actually required in coppers...

Snowie

i wink i dont mean any sexual reference to it, i think giving a wink is a nice way of saying hello to a girl...

holdmyhand?

WindSock wrote: »

Do men wink hello to each other?

am also curious?!

also i find the whole concept of winking a bit odd...........

OldGoat

joes girls wrote: »

....not from some old fella....if

/Crawling back under my rock

WindSock wrote: »

Do men wink hello to each other?

Yes. It's usually a conspiritorial wink just to let you know that there is a windup going on or the wink is used as a silent greeting so as to not interupt a conversation.
I never had a flirty wink from another man but thats probably cos
A: I'm not worthy of a flirt
or B:I'm too old
or C: I just misinterperted the wink because men don't read body language very well.

joes girls

ah me sorry oldgoat......;);););););););)...that better.......back out of rock you can come......

spinandscribble

g'em wrote: »

I can't really comment because I do this too (and very much out of habit and nothing else)... I only realised this when I walked by one of our senior Professors and winked hello at him with an accompanying "How's it goin'?" yesterday

i did that to martin sheen when he was studying in nuig. he looked startled and then grinned like a mad thing saying "great thanks".

MissLeed

I always love a wink though you get them rarely, and it just means hello! Or...that's how I always read it...:)

Cathmandooo

I like to get a wink and it usually makes me smile. However if I got it everyday from someone I can imagine it might get somewhat annoying. But for now I love them

AnnieB82

WindSock wrote: »

No, it's not a typo. How do you react when guys wink at you? There are a couple here in my workplace and I always get taken aback for a second when they do it. I know theres nothing meant in it but a friendly 'hi' or whatever, but I don't like that they do it to me and no one else. I don't even know if they do it to other guys on the site, but I'm guessing no.

I actually think it's funny - something I'd expect off an older man who's just being friendly. Once I was on a bus in a rotten mood on my way into college - I must've had an awful face on me, when I glanced out the window to see a truck driver. He looked at me and winked, and I had to smile, just cheered me up. Doesn't annoy me at all...

Galvasean

WindSock wrote: »

Do men wink hello to each other?

Ive noticed mostly older men wink (towards other men). seems to be a kind of old fashioned thing.

sam34

as long as its not from some sleazebag, i love it

it can be cheeky and fun, and brings a smile to my face.

monkeyfudge

WindSock wrote: »

Yeah I guess it's just one way of saying hello. I never no how to react back, I am not a winker, more of a nodder myself

How about mixing things up with a nose tap?

banshee_bones

I imagine i look like i have some sort of facial spasm when i wink so i tend not to engage in it!
I wouldnt read too much into it if it was in the workplace unless it was clearly accompanied by some kind of lewd gesture! Usually my family use it with each other as a sign were winding someone up!

idontknowmyname

I'm a nodder as well but a wink always brings a smile to my face...

Dave147

I always w*nk at women but I usually get a disgusted response

On a serious note, I would be a winker, but not in a sleazy way, I won't even realise I do it, it just accompanies a greeting with me and I wink at men aswell, again in a friendly way.... :P

Rhyme

Rarely wink and only really do so to inform a third party that what I'm saying is a joke.

That made more sense in my head.

Pherekydes

I used to wink a lot when I was younger, but I got it under control. Nowadays, I only wink in the privacy of my own bedroom, but I find it takes a lot of time and energy to wink, so I rarely wink these days.

MelonieHead

Guys wink at you in work? I would find that very unprofessional.

smileysurfer

Usually Id just smile and say hello!
Winking seems a friendly , almost playful way to say hello!:p

lilmizzme

Oh, I am a total wink-aholic! A guy only has to wink at me and I'm completely floored, i think its so sexy ...Ive a guy friend who I'm convinced must practice in front of a mirror, because it would set any heart racing to get a wink from him!!swoon!!

Honey-ec

MelonieHead wrote: »

Guys wink at you in work? I would find that very unprofessional.

Why?

Alessandra

In general women don't wink to say hello. When I was working in a newsagent I found 100% of winks were from men, mostly older men with a "thank you darlin"for good measure. Some younger men wink more in a friendly/flirty way though.
Countrymen will wink as a form of hello. I just nod back or I get flustered blinking.
It's nice, like winkers. When a wink is just for you it makes you feel special.

stovelid

I (male) do it from time to time, at males and females. But only if I know/work with them. Never at a stranger.

joes girls

got a nice wink today....thought of this tread...nearly wet myself laughing...poor fella must think im nuts.....:):D:)

Tom Trojan

Did Sarah Palin try to wink herself into the US Vice Presidency during the debates late last year?;)

Black Swan

6 times during the one debate with Biden ;););););) See link:
http://blogs.news.com.au/images/uploads/palin_wink350.jpg

seanybiker

sorry. I know this is ladies lounge. One of me mates is a whinker. He has no luck.

me_right_one

WindSock wrote: »

Do men wink hello to each other?

All the time, yea. I cant believe the lack of winki-ness here!

liah

Adore winks of all types, if the guy can pull it off properly and it gets across that hint of mischievousness it is sexy as all hell.

cHaTbOx

From a woman's perspective I am sure it could be quite irritating if you are singled out , but I am not sure it is something done with any notice .
It really depend on what ,meaning you take from it .

In response to Windsock

I don't like that they do it to me and no one else. I don't even know if they do it to other guys on the site

It is not usually done to a group of people but just give them a look if you do not like it , You know that "what the hell are you doing look".If you believe you are getting singled out you are more likely to take it negatively. Btw ,Welcome back .

I don't do it to my knowledge as soon as I wink it turns into a blink and that does not look good:pac:
But if I could. I may depending on circumstance and if it was one of those things to make someone smile , I would .

MelonieHead

Honey-ec wrote: »

Why?

In a professional setting? Winking has been defined as a symbol evoking trust, it's comparable to saying "Trust me" in a low, conspiratorial voice.

That has no place in a business environment. I was setting up an account with a person. At the end of our meeting he winked at me. I went elsewhere.

Must repeat: At work. In a business setting. In an office environment.

stovelid

MelonieHead wrote: »

In a professional setting? Winking has been defined as a symbol evoking trust, it's comparable to saying "Trust me" in a low, conspiratorial voice.

That has no place in a business environment. I was setting up an account with a person. At the end of our meeting he winked at me. I went elsewhere.

Must repeat: At work. In a business setting. In an office environment.

How awful. Have you recovered yet?

ceegee

MelonieHead wrote: »

In a professional setting? Winking has been defined as a symbol evoking trust, it's comparable to saying "Trust me" in a low, conspiratorial voice.

That has no place in a business environment. I was setting up an account with a person. At the end of our meeting he winked at me. I went elsewhere.

Must repeat: At work. In a business setting. In an office environment.

Do you expect everyone to deal with each other in a completely detached manner? Developing a bond with a client is an important part of business. A certain level of informality is generally a good sign that the person is comfortable dealing with you, usually a good thing in business

OldGoat

ceegee wrote: »

Do you expect everyone to deal with each other in a completely detached manner? Developing a bond with a client is an important part of business. A certain level of informality is generally a good sign that the person is comfortable dealing with you, usually a good thing in business

I agree but only after business is concluded. Conviviality with clients is good over lunch, in the pub, on the golf course or basically anywhere outside the office but when doing business I have to say that I appreciate and expect a high level of professionalism.

shellyboo

Winking in a professional environment is the equivalent of putting a smiley in a business email.

A world of no.

monkeyfudge

shellyboo wrote: »

Winking in a professional environment is the equivalent of putting a smiley in a business email.

A world of no.

What about using a winking smiley in a business email? Is that like double bad?

OldGoat

monkeyfudge wrote: »

What about using a winking smiley in a business email? Is that like double bad?

Double negitive so it must be good. Don't however use a winking smiley AND a thumbs up.

shellyboo

monkeyfudge wrote: »

What about using a winking smiley in a business email? Is that like double bad?

Yes, it is the ultimate heresy. Also makes me want to stab myself in the eye with a pen.

stovelid

shellyboo wrote: »

Yes, it is the ultimate heresy. Also makes me want to stab myself in the eye with a pen.

Dear Shellyboo,



Sincerely,

Stovelid.

shellyboo

stovelid wrote: »

Dear Shellyboo,



Sincerely,

Stovelid.

Unfortunately, since you didn't send it to my work address, my eye remains unstabbed. But you're welcome to come and do it yourself if you wish.

GirlInterrupted

I was winked at yesterday morning and it made my day.

It doesn't have to be sleazy, it can just be a little cheeky and more than just friendly. And from the right person, its quite acceptable indeed.