10 things a women likes on a daily basis

Joey the lips

Ladies,

Sorry for butting into your forum. My o/h has become the bread winner in my home and I am now the home maker. I find I am very organised(Finally :P) so I have a couple of hours free every day. We found out the o/h is pregnant lately and are over the moon, my thing is.

If as a lady your were to pick 10 things to make life more comfortable everday for you what would they be!

I figure if I do one a day I will contribute something from a greatful man

I would have posted misc as I dont want to seem like a lick but I am genuine!

Without meaning to sound flippant, it entirely depends on my mood and I imagine it will for hers too, and depend on what she likes in general.
I think having the place clean and dinner cooked in the evening would go down extremely well though. Nice candelit bath the odd time.

Joey the lips

bluewolf wrote: »

Without meaning to sound flippant, it entirely depends on my mood and I imagine it will for hers too, and depend on what she likes in general.
I think having the place clean and dinner cooked in the evening would go down extremely well though. Nice candelit bath the odd time.

Thank you. This is genuine. It is not about wanting to jump on her just to say thanks. I have all them covered except for the candles. Will try that!

Thanks

Fast_Mover

Things that instantly come to mind that I love to come home to:
Fire cleaned out and lit/blazing complete with full bucket of coal and wood beside it so I don't have to go outside!
Dinner made.

Salome

You're very considerate! I think making the home warm, clean and smelling of delicious food when she comes home sounds perfect so all she has to do when she comes home is take off her shoes. And doing the washing up afterwards too!

Remember, if the roles were reversed, she'd be doing the same for you.

RxQueen

no sports on tv :P !

Joey the lips

emo!! wrote: »

no sports on tv :P !

your safe there its usually space pirates or in the night garden

I am amazed its so simple to please you all. Thanks for the advice. Any more it would be appricated.

jbl123

1) Having someone make me tea or cofee

2) A clean kitchen sink

3) Noticing if I'm wearing something new, have a haircut etc.

4) No clutter!

5) Flowers on the table...doesn't have to be expensive like roses..Could just be a mix of Spring flowers

6) No TV on..hate the sound

7) If the weather is appropriate, then the windows open to let some fresh air in (pregnant women often feel that it's too hot or stuffy)

8) bin emptied

9) fresh sheets

10) nice lighting

The Sweeper

Congratulations on being an impending father.

Here's the non-fatherhood list:

Cuppa tea. EVERYONE loves being handed a cuppa tea.
Change the bed sheets once a week without having to be asked.
Cook dinner.
Tidy the fridge out.
Clean the bathroom.
Pick up/drop off dry cleaning.
Do the grocery shopping and don't come back with a case of beer and four boxes of pringles.
Help with how things are organised at home - if there isn't a place for something, make one or build or buy some sort of storage unit that fits appropriately and solves a problem.

Here's the fatherhood list:

Do some research. Find out all of the things you're going to need to know in the next couple of years - where's your local health nurse based, what does she do, research vaccinations, look up nursery schools, creches, primary schools, ring them up, find out how much they cost, what their waiting list is.

What does baby NEED in the first year in terms of clothing, furniture and other bits and pieces? Where can you get them from? How much will they cost?

You're organised - so be organised. You have free time, and none of the above is vital to do right now, but it's useful, and you want to be useful, so...

Joey the lips

Congratulations on being an impending father.

Here's the non-fatherhood list:

Cuppa tea. EVERYONE loves being handed a cuppa tea. Will do!
Change the bed sheets once a week without having to be asked. Will do!
Cook dinner. Do!
Tidy the fridge out. Will do!
Clean the bathroom.Do!
Pick up/drop off dry cleaning. Never an issue - We must be poor!
Do the grocery shopping and don't come back with a case of beer and four boxes of pringles. Do!
Help with how things are organised at home - if there isn't a place for something, make one or build or buy some sort of storage unit that fits appropriately and solves a problem. Must try harder!:D

Here's the fatherhood list: Expert on below have one child. Must check his vacc to see if any due though!. Thanks

Do some research. Find out all of the things you're going to need to know in the next couple of years - where's your local health nurse based, what does she do, research vaccinations, look up nursery schools, creches, primary schools, ring them up, find out how much they cost, what their waiting list is.

What does baby NEED in the first year in terms of clothing, furniture and other bits and pieces? Where can you get them from? How much will they cost?

You're organised - so be organised. You have free time, and none of the above is vital to do right now, but it's useful, and you want to be useful, so...

Thoie

This may seem like a silly thing, but do things properly

I find it very irritating when someone says "You sit there, I'll do the washing up!", only to discover later that all the glasses are greasy, the kitchen is spattered with grease, and there's still food on the plates. It leaves you subtly trying to fix everything. Same when changing the sheets - if the bed isn't actually made properly it kind of defeats the purpose. Or when someone says "look! I've changed the sheets!", and then you discover all the dirty sheets are in a pile in the middle of the floor. It's not just a man thing - women do it too

Learn to take a critical look around at places you don't normally see, like the skirting boards and windowsills, and give them a dust down as you're vacuuming. The bit around light switches often gets dirty without people noticing - give them a wipe with a damp cloth from time to time.

JackieO

I have to say, after a long stressful day I like nothing better than a back rub.

(Oh and all the house work done aswell - in a dreamworld, obviously, not in my real world anyway)!!!!

Dragan

Put some effort into learning the fine art of massage dude. And not just rubbing the sore spot. Great books out there on massage and reflexology.

I can now cure a head ache with a foot rub, well worth it.:D

Joey the lips

JackieO wrote: »

I have to say, after a long stressful day I like nothing better than a back rub.

(Oh and all the house work done aswell - in a dreamworld, obviously, not in my real world anyway)!!!!

Its funny you say that. I cant do a back rub right but I do give a good foot massage, So I am told by the o/h and know bad or smelly feet dont bother me for some strange strange reason.

Scorpio Girl

being handed a cup of tea!

Joey the lips

Dragan wrote: »

Put some effort into learning the fine art of massage dude. And not just rubbing the sore spot. Great books out there on massage and reflexology.

I can now cure a head ache with a foot rub, well worth it.:D

I love you thinking but your missing the point. I dont want to jump her bones I want her to sit back and think " Isent this nice" you get the jist!

clones1980

A cup of tea and a cadburys cream egg....

Joey the lips

clonesbabe wrote: »

A cup of tea and a cadburys cream egg....

This is my one not hers. I already have a stash to do me till July! 2010



She gets the choc I get the centre! The only problem is sometimes I want my bit first,

But you get the jist

I am surprised tbh I am giving you the chance to tell the world 10 things that would make your day and I am only getting one's and two's

But thanks anyway. More welcome!

jellie

come home to a clean house,
dinner made,
nice cup of tea,
maybe a nice dessert or big giant bar of choc,
lots of hugs & cuddles,
hot bath,
& most importantly.. full authority of the remote control!

Joey the lips

sar84 wrote: »

come home to a clean house,
dinner made,
nice cup of tea,
maybe a nice dessert or big giant bar of choc,
lots of hugs & cuddles,
hot bath,
& most importantly.. full authority of the remote control!

I like this esp the last one. My child watches tele from 5-7 she watches from 7 - 10 and then tells me the news is sh1t at 11. Figures but I get the jist again

Thanks

SeekUp

Dragan wrote: »

Put some effort into learning the fine art of massage dude. And not just rubbing the sore spot. Great books out there on massage and reflexology.

I can now cure a head ache with a foot rub, well worth it.:D

Well worth it, indeed . . . Care to take a long-distance trip?

I tend to be the kind of person who likes some things done a particular way, so it's very hard for me to sit back and let someone else do them.

All of the niceties mentioned so far are great -- but for me, I think the best thing to come home to is someone else who is genuinely happy that I'm home. Not just a look up and a 'hey, how's it going,' but a hug and a kiss and a few minutes to sit down and chat (or not!) while I decompress from the work day.

As for what would make my life more comforatble? Well . . . how about making it acceptable to go through life in sweatpants? If you could make that happen, I'd hunt you down and thank you profusely.

clones1980

Joey the lips wrote: »

I am surprised tbh I am giving you the chance to tell the world 10 things that would make your day and I am only getting one's and two's

But thanks anyway. More welcome!

Thats cos were a bit dubious tbh. if a man asked me what 10 thing he could do for me everyday id think he just had an affair :eek:

Snowie

Joey the lips wrote: »

I love you thinking but your missing the point. I dont want to jump her bones I want her to sit back and think " Isent this nice" you get the jist!

and she will man reflexology is so relaxing once you know how to do it women love it.... They really really enjoy it.. :cool: and they will its the most relaxing thing in the world if you can do it... my mum does it shes taught me a few things...

Tupins

Joey the Lips - you sound too good to be true!

For me, coming home to a lovely tidy house with dinner already made is bliss.

Your OH may experience real tiredness in her first trimester of pregnancy so being able to relax after work would be great for her during this time.

Best of luck!

Joey the lips

clonesbabe wrote: »

Thats cos were a bit dubious tbh. if a man asked me what 10 thing he could do for me everyday id think he just had an affair :eek:

LOL Really love you thinking my wife is pregnant I am the happiest person in the world I just want to return my thanks - No alter motives! Seriously!

Joey the lips

Joey the lips wrote: »

I love you thinking but your missing the point. I dont want to jump her bones I want her to sit back and think " Isent this nice" you get the jist!

She will if you do the massage properly - they can be sensual enough etc for foreplay but they can also be extremely relaxing, I'd agree you should think about it!

Joey the lips

bluewolf wrote: »

She will if you do the massage properly - they can be sensual enough etc for foreplay but they can also be extremely relaxing, I'd agree you should think about it!

and the 6million dollar question is whats a couple of simple tecniques to do first. Can you ref a website. Be clean on this one folks.

Morgase

I'm afraid I don't know anything about massages per se; but as to what women like, for me it's not being left to do all the cleaning / cooking. Basically not being treated like I'm the Mammy!

I suppose it's already been said but here we go:

Do the hoovering and clothes washing (even the horrible handwashing!).
Hang the clothes out / put them in dryer or whatever you do in your home.
Prepare dinner (and put the saucepans and things in the dishwasher too!).
Do the supermarket shopping.
And the all-important cup of tea!

Thoie

Oooh, I've thought of another one - keeping fresh flowers around.

You don't have to spend a fortune on Interflora or giant bouquets, but a nice vase of flowers on the hall table (or somewhere you see regularly) brings a smile to my face when I come in the door. Getting rid of flowers as they die and topping up with new ones is nice - specially if they're things that smell nice like fresias. I think I heard pregnant women are more sensitive to smells, so find out if there's anything she hates the smell of.

This isn't an every day thing, but learn how to give facials at home.

Another non-everyday one - try and remember upcoming birthdays of her family and buy the card at least.

Spend some time each day finding a website that will make her giggle.
Here's a few to get you started:
http://www.cowswithguns.com/cgi-bin/listen_animation.cgi?cart=1236880748
http://cakewrecks.blogspot.com/
http://www.andrew.cmu.edu/user/jbistlin/headlines1.htm

RacoonQueen

Reading this thread makes me slightly wish I didn't have to go out running when I get in from work and get to sit down on the couch with dinner and a cuppa. Then I remember how great training is.

I don't think I'd be much help to the OP. All women are different, first thing I do when I get in from work is make a cup of tea, sit down in front of the TV and computer(they're beside each other) for half and hour then I head out for a run. All my OH could do for me is do my training for me.

jbl123

I thought of a few things. If she's in her first trimester, she might experience nausea..So keep a variety of foods on hand. Not necessarily big, heavy meals. That might just make her more nauseous..I mean more like snacks. When pregnant, I always favored fresh fruit, for example. Just have a wide variety of light things she could eat, because you never know what she might be craving.

Also, she might be hyper-sensitive to smells. So it's probably not the best time to try on a new aftershave or to cook up a huge pot of "fragrant" and spicy fish stew.

Let her decide the room temperature. It took my OH two pregnancies to figure this out. Pregnant ladies get hotter than regular people and this led to some temper tantrums by me.:o

Ginny

• A cup of tea
• A head rub
• Put a wash on
• Tidy up the kitchen

Stupid things like these ^^^^ reduce me to tears after a crappy commute home from work, seriously its the little things that count.

ladyella

Getting into a bed thats been made. You dont even need to change the sheets every day or whatever... just shake them down and make the bed. So simple and yet so effective to a girls mood:D

Dolbert

You're very considerate, I echo all the suggestions above!

Something I think is worth mentioning is that it is thought that reflexology should generally be avoided until after the third trimester, due to different parts of the foot being connected to different body parts!

As for massages, the following oils should not be used on someone who is or may be pregnant as they may act as abortifacients: Basil, Cedarwood, Clary, Coriander, Hyssop, Jasmine, Juniper,Marjoram, Oregano, Myrrh, Peppermint (which should also be avoided while nursing), Rockrose, Rosemary,Sage and Thyme. Not that I want to put you off or anything.

Joey the lips

Dolorous wrote: »

You're very considerate, I echo all the suggestions above!

Something I think is worth mentioning is that it is thought that reflexology should generally be avoided until after the third trimester, due to different parts of the foot being connected to different body parts!

As for massages, the following oils should not be used on someone who is or may be pregnant as they may act as abortifacients: Basil, Cedarwood, Clary, Coriander, Hyssop, Jasmine, Juniper,Marjoram, Oregano, Myrrh, Peppermint (which should also be avoided while nursing), Rockrose, Rosemary,Sage and Thyme. Not that I want to put you off or anything.

Codliver oil so. I used that oil tonight that helps cover stretch marks

RacoonQueen

Dolorous wrote: »

You're very considerate, I echo all the suggestions above!

Something I think is worth mentioning is that it is thought that reflexology should generally be avoided until after the third trimester, due to different parts of the foot being connected to different body parts!

As for massages, the following oils should not be used on someone who is or may be pregnant as they may act as abortifacients: Basil, Cedarwood, Clary, Coriander, Hyssop, Jasmine, Juniper,Marjoram, Oregano, Myrrh, Peppermint (which should also be avoided while nursing), Rockrose, Rosemary,Sage and Thyme. Not that I want to put you off or anything.

He doesn't have to use aromatherapy oils at all. A bit of nice, cheap grapeseed oil will do the trick nicely.

Teh Noob

1. Try to feed yourself before I arrive.
2. Don't bother washing up, it'll take me longer to redo everything.
3. Keep the bathroom unoccupied.
4. Try to communicate your current needs/worries/plans in ten sentences max.
5. Please don't ask me how was my day. It's over. I don't want to go through it again.
6. Find a way to amuse yourself during evening.
7. No, thanks, I don't want to watch horror channel together.
8. Of course I'm not mad at you.
9. Yes, I still love you.
10. Huh?
What I'm trying to say is that everyone's idea of a great time is different...how can anyone here possibly know what will make your girl happy?
Just ask HER.;)

Dolbert

mp1972 wrote: »

He doesn't have to use aromatherapy oils at all. A bit of nice, cheap grapeseed oil will do the trick nicely.

I know, just thought it was worth pointing out.

OP, as previously said, she'll be thrilled to come home to a clean house, cooked dinner and a nice cuppa tea

Blush_01

The only really important thing to me when I get home is hot water. I resent having to spend an hour heating water for a shower and the washing up.

You know her better than us, go with the little things she likes.

Joey the lips

Teh Noob wrote: »

1. Try to feed yourself before I arrive.
2. Don't bother washing up, it'll take me longer to redo everything.
3. Keep the bathroom unoccupied.
4. Try to communicate your current needs/worries/plans in ten sentences max.
5. Please don't ask me how was my day. It's over. I don't want to go through it again.
6. Find a way to amuse yourself during evening.
7. No, thanks, I don't want to watch horror channel together.
8. Of course I'm not mad at you.
9. Yes, I still love you.
10. Huh?
What I'm trying to say is that everyone's idea of a great time is different...how can anyone here possibly know what will make your girl happy?
Just ask HER.;)

My apologies Teh Noob if i am not explaining myself. My o/h is lovely but the one thing she fails to do is communicate well ans I hung around with her since I was 15. But the one thing she does love is to be treated exactly like all the other ladies she works with. So I simply figured I would ask what you want to see after a long day. What I will do is do what you suggest and throw my own bit in for the personel touch. I have loads to go on. I think the grapeseed oil is a good one as well as it smells nice.

Thanks

AnnieB82

You're very sweet Joey The Lips! Fortunately I'm blessed with an equally sweet partner, and these are some of the things I love he does.

1) Gives me a back/shoulder rub whenever I'm sore (only occassionally does he head too far south!)
2) Gives me a lie in at the weekends ( we have an 8 month old son)
3) As soon as he comes home from work, he either helps mind our son or starts on the dinner if I haven't gotten around to it.
4) Never moans at lack of house work done - in fact even says it doesn't bother him.
5) Always lets me be in charge of remote.
6) Always says how great/lovely I am -even if I'm fisihing for compliments, he still indulges me.
7) Lets me go out alone,and even encourages it, so I get a break from the childcare.
8) Doesn't spend too long on his computer games!
9) Says 'I love you' lots.
10) Doesn't complain when I'm trying on the 20th pair of shoes etc when out shopping.


God, the poor man!

allabouteve

AnnieB82 wrote: »

You're very sweet Joey The Lips! Fortunately I'm blessed with an equally sweet partner, and these are some of the things I love he does.

1) Gives me a back/shoulder rub whenever I'm sore (only occassionally does he head too far south!)
2) Gives me a lie in at the weekends ( we have an 8 month old son)
3) As soon as he comes home from work, he either helps mind our son or starts on the dinner if I haven't gotten around to it.
4) Never moans at lack of house work done - in fact even says it doesn't bother him.
5) Always lets me be in charge of remote.
6) Always says how great/lovely I am -even if I'm fisihing for compliments, he still indulges me.
7) Lets me go out alone,and even encourages it, so I get a break from the childcare.
8) Doesn't spend too long on his computer games!
9) Says 'I love you' lots.
10) Doesn't complain when I'm trying on the 20th pair of shoes etc when out shopping.


God, the poor man!

He sounds perfect.:)

AnnieB82

when written down, I realise even more that I'm quite lucky, although I should add, that I do at least half the housework and often do have dinner prepared. ( I'm not a total slave driver) It's more so when it's not done, no comments are passed on it!

b3t4

Do something you hate doing that you know she hates doing as well without being asked to do it!

For me that would be cleaning the bathroom. I dislike it but he hates it more. The joy of coming home to it having been cleaned was phenomenal

Freshly cleaned sheets on the bed is lovely. Go for 100% cotton sheets too as it feels gorgeous on the skin so much better than man made fibres.

I'm not a big tea fan but love hot chocolate particularly Green&Blacks hot chocolate. Oh the joy!

Walking in the door from work and being greeted with a smile and a kiss makes it all the nicer to get home.

Flowers! The majority of the time he gets me lovely flowers from a supermarket and sometimes he splashes out and gets some from a florist. It's all wonderful.

Breakfast in bed at the weekends.

He's constantly telling me how gorgeous I am.

Giving in to watching a chick flick

Text messages letting me know how fabulous he thinks I am.

hmmm I'm spoilt and know it.

A

banshee_bones

Im one of these people that kind of needs 15 minutes alone when i come in from work or college in the evenings just to decompress.
I would need someone who would understand that, if you wanted to bring me a cup of tea after these 15 minutes with a big hug that would be greatly appreciated!

But a basic run down for me woud be..

A tidy house
Someone who listens
Tea
Hugs
Kisses
Back/Shoulder rub when required
Food

So basically, keep me fed and watered, listen to me if i need to rant about some external element, and plenty of hugs and im a happy lass...
Honestly for me this is all it takes!

Who said women were high maintenance!

Valmont

Goodness gracious me, I'm definitely never getting married:eek:

CeilingCat

Number one for me would be to come home to everything nice and organised with nothing obvious that needs doing to worry me... but you seem to have that end of things under control

If you're out during the day, grab a copy of her favourite magazine or little things you see that you know she'd like.

Have her nice comfy clothes waiting on the radiator for her to change into when she gets home.

Anything she needs ready for the next day, get it organised for her.

If you don't mind being up early, someone who'll make breakfast for you while you're getting ready for work is worth their weight in gold :P

Stay on top of the non-houseworky stuff you both share like bills and appointments so she won't have to worry about them.

Ask her every day is there anything she needs you to do or to get for her. It's simple but it's nice to be asked instead of having to ask.

Your OH might not be bothered, but I always love when I have someone to go for a stroll with in the evening to get some fresh air and get out of the house... do her the world of good too.

Don't go overboard - personally I like all the little touches that show an effort is being made, but I hate when a guy is trying to wait on me hand and foot, I find it very annoying if it's too full on.

banshee_bones

CeilingCat wrote: »

Number one for me would be to come home to everything nice and organised with nothing obvious that needs doing to worry me... but you seem to have that end of things under control

If you're out during the day, grab a copy of her favourite magazine or little things you see that you know she'd like.

Have her nice comfy clothes waiting on the radiator for her to change into when she gets home.

Anything she needs ready for the next day, get it organised for her.

If you don't mind being up early, someone who'll make breakfast for you while you're getting ready for work is worth their weight in gold :P

Stay on top of the non-houseworky stuff you both share like bills and appointments so she won't have to worry about them.

Ask her every day is there anything she needs you to do or to get for her. It's simple but it's nice to be asked instead of having to ask.

Your OH might not be bothered, but I always love when I have someone to go for a stroll with in the evening to get some fresh air and get out of the house... do her the world of good too.

Don't go overboard - personally I like all the little touches that show an effort is being made, but I hate when a guy is trying to wait on me hand and foot, I find it very annoying if it's too full on.

so alll of that isnt being waited on hand and foot?! :rolleyes:

CeilingCat

I wouldn't have thought so, no... they're only little things that tbh any man should do for his pregnant OH :rolleyes:. Would you have said that's hand and foot?!

banshee_bones

CeilingCat wrote: »

I wouldn't have thought so, no... they're only little things that tbh any man should do for his pregnant OH :rolleyes:. Would you have said that's hand and foot?!

emmm kinda yeah! shes pregnant! shes not incapable of movement!

Joey the lips

Hi Girls Just to stop you rowing

Number one for me would be to come home to everything nice and organised with nothing obvious that needs doing to worry me... but you seem to have that end of things under control (I do this - not every day 5 - 7 maybe)

If you're out during the day, grab a copy of her favourite magazine or little things you see that you know she'd like. (I dont do this but its a good idea-She buys them in the local shop)

Have her nice comfy clothes waiting on the radiator for her to change into when she gets home. (This is a great idea, She always gets into her comfies and those crazy slippers)

Anything she needs ready for the next day, get it organised for her. ( Weird one - I have always done the ironing. I lived on my own from 16year so had to lean quick. She now thinks i am better then her. Its a good game to get people to do work you should try it )

If you don't mind being up early, someone who'll make breakfast for you while you're getting ready for work is worth their weight in gold :P (Our child is special needs so I am up at 5.30 every morning - always ways- I am thinking of applying for the milkmans job She has porridge and toast its supposed to help the chest glands later produce milk)

Stay on top of the non-houseworky stuff you both share like bills and appointments so she won't have to worry about them.(Internet is great for bills - My bank balence is not)

Ask her every day is there anything she needs you to do or to get for her. It's simple but it's nice to be asked instead of having to ask.(I do the text thing Hows your day what do you fancy for dinerbesides me joke)

Your OH might not be bothered, but I always love when I have someone to go for a stroll with in the evening to get some fresh air and get out of the house... do her the world of good too.(I bring my child for a walk twic a day if her pelvis is not acting up she comes along)

Don't go overboard - personally I like all the little touches that show an effort is being made, but I hate when a guy is trying to wait on me hand and foot, I find it very annoying if it's too full on.(I try not it looks like I am looking for something rather than just do a bit of good)


My sincere thanks for any ideas reaceived the only that specially please me is the flowers on the table especially now spriong is here.

Thanks again. If you think of anything else!