Blissfully Happy!!!

MeMyself&I

Hi new to this forum.

Seems to be alot of bad stories around about horrible men. Very disheartening to single people, and women just about to start a relationship.

Can i just say, im going out with my boyfriend, just over 1 year, and im very happy, he's gorgeous and lovely.

We have our ups and downs, and arguement now and again. cheating could always be a possibility in any relationship, but i try not to think about it. Some things he may tell me could be lies, but i have to no reason to doubt him.

Other men in know (friends/relations/collegues) are also very good people, genuine and sincere.

So people, not all men are trouble, there is plenty of good fella's out there. Give everyone a chance




(2 months from now, i could be saying how much of a b******d my b'f is, and i hate him...etc!!!!:eek:)

Rozabeez

Is the moral of the story 'Give love/men a chance'?

Seriously though, it's nice to see a happy ending and a bit of encouragement. Best of luck.

LadyE

Girls are so quick to maon and bitchy about their OH, rather than praise and say how happy they are, so nice to see a thread like this

MeMyself&I

Yes like i say, i could be revisiting this post at some stage, moaning about how bad he is.

But at this exact moment in time i have nothing to moan about.Im happy, maybe im unaware of bad things he is up too, but as i have already said, i have no reason to doubt everything he tells me. Too many what if's and worrying, i want to enjoy my happiness now, and whenever or if this goes all pear shaped, at least i have it to say i was happy at some stage.

RacoonQueen

I always moan about men and how useless and annoying they are. But I love them really and have never had a bad relationship. I love 'em all really.

Faith

I was single for a long time before I met my boyfriend and hated it. I always complained about it. But now I'm in a wonderful relationship with a wonderful guy who I trust won't hurt me. But being contrary means I'll happily complain about everything if there's even the smallest thing to complain about! But at the end of the day, I adore him and would be devastated if we broke up, so there can't be much wrong with him!

Mr. Incognito

lol, 152 views and not a single person has thanked the OP.

I for one am Happy for you and I have no doubt that if you come back in the two months with a horror story you might get a warmer reception.

spinandscribble

Mr. Incognito wrote: »

lol, 152 views and not a single person has thanked the OP.

and neither have you!

i guess i don't know how to respond to this thread. good luck op!

MeMyself&I

Ah...:o wasnt looking for luck or thanks....but its appreciated.

Just wanted to give some positivity towards relationships. Too many bad stories.

More of a relationship/partner appreciation thread.

beertons

Mr. Incognito wrote: »

lol, 152 views and not a single person has thanked the OP.

Fixed that for you! Great to see someone start a happy thread. They're rare enough!

Femelade

After a few rocky patches (some rockier than others) I am very happy at the moment, i know i do complain about my OH a bit, but i feel guilty afterwards, he is extremely hard working, has put all his savings into building a house for us, and is there to oversee and organise the building as well as working his own job 7 DAYS A WEEK!!!( and he always finds time to fit me into his life too - even when he is shattered) He rarely gets a break, but he rarely complains. I love him to bits.

This is a nice idea for a thread.
Thanks OP!!

MeMyself&I

Yes, my boyfriends work isnt going to good at the minute, but he still put money aside and he has booked a lovely break for us...just as a thank you for being a nice girlfriend.

He also buys me my favourite bar of choc everyweek!!!

He's far from perfect, but sometimes his good points totally outweigh the bad one

Acoshla

Ooh i like this thread!

There are so so many threads here and in Relationship Issues about cheating men and nasty men but yes, there are good ones out there too, and I am fortunate enough to have one of them (and he's making me a cup of tea right now:))

We've only been together 8 months but to use his words, "This is it". I've been in two 4 year relationships and I am honestly closer to him and more certain of our future together than I ever was with the other two.

My first ex slept with my best friend - there's one of the bad guys right there :rolleyes:, and my last ex dented my confidence badly (not on purpose though, he's a nice guy) so to realise that there was someone out there as similar to me and perfect for me as my boyfriend came as a shock, a very warm and fuzzy shock

I hope this thread gives girls hope that not all men are pr*cks, gotta kiss a lot of frogs etc etc




....I can hear him cursing at the Wii, that doesn't sound like tea making! :rolleyes:

I finally found the man of my dreams, together 4 months now. He's perfect. Especially when he isn't :D

MeMyself&I

Im loving these posts, glad to see other people are happy too

shellyboo

Be nice if we could have some posts from women who are blissfully happy without a man... don't you think?

That's not a dig, a mere observation!! I'd gladly bum on about my bloke, but he'd probably see it and I'd be morto :P

aoibhebree

I'm very lucky too, I've found me a good 'un! We love each other to bits and he's a proper old-fashioned gentleman, and a sexy fecker too! And the best bit is he always buys me chocolate and wine and he insists he got the calories specially removed just for me Also he refuses to buy me flowers on Valentines Day or my birthday, but randomly turns up at my door with a big bunch of red roses every now and then, just to prove he doesn't need a special occassion to tell me how much he loves me. And he rubs my feet even when they're stinky. And he's my best friend in the whole world.

MeMyself&I

shellyboo wrote: »

Be nice if we could have some posts from women who are blissfully happy without a man... don't you think?

That's not a dig, a mere observation!! I'd gladly bum on about my bloke, but he'd probably see it and I'd be morto :P

start your own thread :P:p:P:P:p

haha!!

Clare Bear

Nice idea for a thread OP considering how many men bashing ones I see in here these days.

I never thought it could be possible to be this happy, honestly never did. I thought there had to be some things about my boyfriend that would drive me crazy but there isn't. He's one of the funniest, kindest, sweetest, most gorgeous people I've ever met. We've been together 1 year and 2 months and we've never had an argument. It doesn't matter what else is going on in my life, I always have him to cheer me up. He's my best friend. I've settled for eejits in the past and have been treated pretty bad at times but he's taught me you should never settle for second best. So yes there are some right ar.seholes out there but there's some lovely guys too, it just takes a while to fish them out

shellyboo

MeMyself&I wrote: »

start your own thread :P:p:P:P:p

haha!!

Well, like I said... I have a bf, so cannot wax lyrical about how 'blissfully happy' I am without a man.

Just think we're focusing too much on the fellas. It's either I'm sad I don't have a bf/I'm upset over my bf/I'm happy cos of my bf... just thought it would be nice to hear from the girls who are happy without men, that's all.

Nevyn

Well it could be cos they are busy doing other things

MeMyself&I

actually when i was single i was blissfully happy, maybe im just a happy person.

shellyboo

Thaedydal wrote: »

Well it could be cos they are busy doing other things

Most likely

Meh, just thought I'd big up the sistahood. We're doing it for ourselves and all that.

MeMyself&I

Im all for the single life too.

Its just good for doubting people to see that their is happiness to be had in a relationship.


Now stop ruining it :cool:

shellyboo

MeMyself&I wrote: »

Its just good for doubting people to see that their is happiness to be had in a relationship.


Now stop ruining it :cool:

Shouldn't we be telling doubting people that there's happiness to be found outside a relationship??


Whatever, that's me told. Fair enough.

stovelid

MeMyself&I wrote: »

Can i just say, im going out with my boyfriend, just over 1 year, and im very happy, he's gorgeous and lovely.

Hint for extravagant anniversary/birthday present duly noted.

Nevyn

I think that our first primary relationship in which we need to be happy is with ourselves. A bf/gf comes after that and should add to our measure of happiness
but not be our happiness.

I hope the person in your life MeMyself&I does that for you but tbh
better to be happy on your own then with someone who is making you miserable.

Kiera

Thaedydal wrote: »

I think that our first primary relationship in which we need to be happy is with ourselves. A bf/gf comes after that and should had to our mesaure of happiness
but not be our happiness.

I hope the person in your life MeMyself&I does that for you but tbh
better to be happy on your own then with someone who is making you miserable.

If i could give a million thanks i would for this post. Never a truer word spoken, Thaed!

MJOR

i think that the most important thinh as thaedyal said is to be happy in yourself first!

I love my OH to bits and he is great for foot rubs and chocolate bringing. He supports me no matter what!

Having said that i was single for years and had a ball!!

RacoonQueen

Reading this reminds me of the 'what do you miss about being in a relationship thread'

For the record, I'm single and blissfully happy.

I love that I can go off to Leeds(I'm a big football fan) whenever I want, drink with male friends and have a great day, whenever I like without having to worry about someone else or about him being annoyed or jealous.
I love the fact that I can curl up on my lonesome in front of crappy TV and not have a guy moan that some of the TV I watch is ****.
I love that I can go for a two hour run pretty much every night, blissfully plodding along without wishing I could be at home with a guy instead of enjoying running which is something I absolutely love...I live for my training and my races and often men can get in the way of this.
I love that I can see my friends(most of my friends are male) mess around, have a laugh, give them a cuddle etc etc without a guy getting jealous and effecting friendships I've had forever.
I love my freedom.
I love my independence.
I love being young, free, single, fit, healthy and strong.
I love being single.



Happy now? :pac:

CathyMoran

My husband is my soulmate. While I was fine without him he completes me and I complete him. He is loving, thoughful, kind, makes me laugh, stimulates my brain...I could go on and on...he has litterally saved my life a few times when I was ill and has given me a reason to live...added to that he is gorgeous looking!

banshee_bones

Great thread OP , i see your point about there being alot of posts about less than good men out there and its lovely to be reminded that we should not give up on them. But as pointed out by Thaed the relationship you must work the most at is the one with yourself.

I am single now since October, for the first time in a very very long time and I have to say that yes being single does take some adjusting to but once you get over that its great.

I can do whatever I want, go where ever I want and basically hang out with all my mates and have an absolute ball. I dont have to worry about anyone else, about how i look,what im wearing, birthday,christmas,valentines,anniversary presents etc. Dont have to rush home, can make total spur of the moment plans with friends, no obligitary text messages or calls when im out.

Well anyway you get the picture! I'm Happy out!

cuckoo

I like this thread.

*Honey*

I met my hubby online in May 2002. He posted in a forum not unlike this, I replied. He replied to me and I replied back. He emailed me and I emailed back... that was Day 1. Day 2 tons more emails. Day 3 we swapped phone numbers and he called me and we talking non-stop on the phone for 7 hours. I hate talking on the phone so 7 hours is a marathon by anyone's standards. By Day 4 we knew we'd get married - we were in love, totally and completely. We didn't meet IRL for another 2 weeks but it didn't matter.. we just knew.

We're now heading for our 5th wedding anniversary - we've had some serious issues to deal with (we lost two babies) but we've been there for each other 24/7, we are stronger for having gone through such things together... we are soulmates and always will be. I tell him he's perfect, he denies it.. but he's perfect for me.

To the poster who said that you have to be happy in yourself first, you're right... I had gotten to a point where I never believed I'd get married or find "the one" but that was ok, I was happy in myself. And then hubby came along and here we are, 7 years later, happier than we ever have been in our lives.

I admit I'm a very lucky woman but I never take it for granted, never ever. He's the best person I've ever met, my best friend, my lover, my absolute everything.

aoibhebree

*Honey* wrote: »

I met my hubby online in May 2002. He posted in a forum not unlike this, I replied. He replied to me and I replied back. He emailed me and I emailed back... that was Day 1. Day 2 tons more emails. Day 3 we swapped phone numbers and he called me and we talking non-stop on the phone for 7 hours. I hate talking on the phone so 7 hours is a marathon by anyone's standards. By Day 4 we knew we'd get married - we were in love, totally and completely. We didn't meet IRL for another 2 weeks but it didn't matter.. we just knew.

Awwwww ... that's so romantic

aoibhebree

Can I just make the point that being in a relationship does not automatically entail sacrificing your independence!! I'm engaged, but that doesn't stop me or my fiance from going on girls/guys holidays abroad; we certainly don't have to "ask" each other before we go on a night out; he often goes away on weekends with his friends and so do I. He has very close female friends from before we started going out; I'm good friends with two of my exes; it isn't a problem.

And I know lots of people who are very very happily single and don't want or need a relationship, and I do agree that you have to be OK with yourself before having a relationship with anyone else... but this thread is about celebrating the happy positive things about healthy non-dysfunctional relationships

MeMyself&I

mmmm....i think some people or missing the point of my story.

Im not talking about the meaning of happiness.

I want people to know that not all relationships are bad. There was one or two people on the PI threads i was hoping would join this, but they havent.

Lorrs33

I've known my boyfriend since I was thirteen (he was fourteen). The flirting started when we were nineteen/twenty, but sadly I was in complete denial about my feelings for him, convinced I'd ruin the friendship if it didn't work out. He wound up getting a girlfriend and was with her for about eight months, I was secretly raging! I went out with a guy during this, which was a complete disaster. Five/six months after my boyfriend split from his girlfriend, I finally told him how I felt. We're together six months on the 25th, I know it doesn't seem long, but it's been the best six months of my life!

shellyboo

MeMyself&I wrote: »

mmmm....i think some people or missing the point of my story.

Im not talking about the meaning of happiness.

We are though, lol

I didn't mean to hijack your thread... but I just wanted to make the point that women can be "blissfully happy" with or without a man. Your original post made out like the only ray of light for women despairing of men is that there are good men out there - but we shouldn't need that to be happy.

Do you get what I mean? I'm in no way trying to run you down, I love the fact that this thread is so positive... I just think the alternative to being miserable, single, or in a bad relationship isn't JUST to be in a good relationship. It's possible to be happy alone.

Why can't we use the thread to celebrate both?! They're both equally valid!

MeMyself&I wrote: »

I want people to know that not all relationships are bad.

Of course they're not! And I just wanted people to know that being alone isn't all bad either.

Jules

Great points all round, you have to be able to love yourself before you can love anyone else. And be happy with your own company before you can be happy with anothers.

It is nice to see a happy relationship thread, but its nice to see the im happily single posts too.... the more the merrier!

mollybird

ya my guy is pretty amazing. he was right under my nose for years and never noticed him. we are together 2 and a half years and are really happy. currently looking into a place for us to move in together and can't wait.

he is always there for me when things are bad and always there when things are crazy. right now he is up the walls in work and is too tired and i know i moan about him not doing his half of coming up to see me. no one is perfect. and because both of us know it, makes us all the happier to be with each other:D

candy-gal1

im with my boyf now over a year n its perfect!!!!!
we really are soulm8s!!! sry to sound sad but tis true!!!

wev got all the ****ty rows outta the way now, which were only really little 1s, n now everything is soooo good!!!

dont let bad stuff get u down, every1 will meet their prince!!!!

MeMyself&I

Yes Yes Yes, everyone is right.

I was single forever (until i was 26), and i was very happy, i suppose i just met someone at the right time.

Thank you everyone for sharing their stories...i hope there will me loads more.

I wish my boyfriend was here tonight though

Snowie

Thaedydal wrote: »

I think that our first primary relationship in which we need to be happy is with ourselves. A bf/gf comes after that and should add to our measure of happiness
but not be our happiness.

I hope the person in your life MeMyself&I does that for you but tbh
better to be happy on your own then with someone who is making you miserable.

Im trying no to post to much in hear after all its thew ladys lounge

But you should call your self obie onet and have a light saber....

Wise Words..

Max Power1

candy-gal1 wrote: »

im with my boyf now over a year n its perfect!!!!!
we really are soulm8s!!! sry to sound sad but tis true!!!

wev got all the ****ty rows outta the way now, which were only really little 1s, n now everything is soooo good!!!

dont let bad stuff get u down, every1 will meet their prince!!!!

Hah i can only echo the above sentiment... (candy-gal1 is my OH lol)

ever since the 8th of december 2007 i have found my true soulmate and life partner..... our love and happiness together knows no bounds.

MeMyself&I

Yes but i never said i wasnt happy with me. Im extremely happy with me, and my relationship with...me myself and I

I was just very happy with boyfriend today, and wanted to tell everybody...i actually wanted to post this on my social network site, but he would have killed me.

MeMyself&I

Max Power1 wrote: »

Hah i can only echo the above sentiment... (candy-gal1 is my OH lol)

ever since the 8th of december 2007 i have found my true soulmate and life partner..... our love and happiness together knows no bounds.

Ah cute....but my boyfriend would never say anything like that...:eek:

Uh oh, i spoke to soon, better rethink my views here!!!!

Madame Razz

I was happy as a singleton, in fact I embraced it; I don't believe in going out with somebody for the sake of it.

Plenty of arseholes out there though, and I must admit, even as a singleton out for some fun, it's hard not to be disillusioned about men to a certain extent; or even to hate them in a weird little way.


Until you meet somebody right that is......

I had a very nonchalant attitude to men, borne of being happy and confident on my own, and also of the one or two arsehole encounters I had the 'pleasure' of experiencing.

I could take them or leave them....

Then I met my OH; and I just couldn't be nonchalant where he was concerned. Try though I may, I didn't want to be; I couldn't.

So ultimately another person can't make you happy, but the right guy can extend and further enhance that happiness.


I too am extremely happy and satisfied in my current relationship. We click, we trust each other, it's so easy.... you get the picture.


He's away alot, which is difficult, but I know he's worth the wait. In fact if he was gone for a year I would happily wait for him. Happily.


Good men ftw;)

watna

Thaedydal wrote: »

I think that our first primary relationship in which we need to be happy is with ourselves. A bf/gf comes after that and should add to our measure of happiness
but not be our happiness.

I hope the person in your life MeMyself&I does that for you but tbh
better to be happy on your own then with someone who is making you miserable.

Was just having a conversation with my OH about this the other day.

We're as happy as can be together - I couldn't ask for a better bf. We both have bad exes who could have treated us better but both of us have agreed that this was not entirely our fault. We weren't secure and happy in ourselves so we accepted second best. My OH was saying he was very insecure and jealous with his ex but with me, that's never an issue and he thinks it has a lot to do with him and where he is and not just the type of person I am. I'm not as eager to please as I was with my ex and am more myself with my OH.

I think we're blissfully happy with each other, because we were happy and secure before we met and we just add to that in each other. That "he's my best freind" thing sounds so cliched but it's so true - there's nothing we won't talk about with each other. Sometime we laugh at how intimate our conversations are!

There is a lot of bad ones out there but lots of good ones too!

jellie

first, i just wanna say that im happy for all you lucky ladies who have found decent men but theres something about this thread that bothers me slightly.

There seems to be a lot of women around who cant be happy unless their in a relationship.. Its everywhere.

The focus here is all on how happy people are cause theyre in a relationship. Personally id rather be happy on my own. I dont want my own happiness to depend on anyone but me. Sure, its nice to have someone who can make me happy, but I want to be happy for and because of myself.

Ive been single for about 9 months now & when im feeling down or missing my ex at all (its rare, but it happens!) ive often been told "oh you need to find yourself a new man!". No, actually, i dont. What i need to do is get used to being me & get over him.

& while it hasnt been great all the time, ive really begun to get to know & like myself since ive been single. I lost a lot of myself in that relationship.. not on purpose, and yeah it was my own fault, but now that im single im seeing what happened. Its like im getting to know who I am, & i really like this person i have loads of new hobbies, i have a new figure, a new social life.

im not saying that people in relationships arent happy - not at all. & im certainly not saying that youve lost yourself as soon as you become part of a couple, that was a mistake of mine.. not everything, but bits of me slowly seemed to fade or something (this is sounding weird, i hope im making sense..). Im just making the point that having a relationship is not the be all & end all to being happy. if that relationship enhances your happiness then brilliant, im really happy for you i have friends that have really great relationships & its great to see. & hopefully theres some mr. perfect out there for me somewhere :P BUT if theres not, im not going to spend my life waiting around for some man to make me happy. id rather be blissfully happy for just me & my life

MeMyself&I

Oh my sweet god, will someone please read the start of this thread.

All i wanted was to show a few people that had bad experiences with men, that they are not all like this. too many negative relationship stories around. I wanted to share a positive one.

Im not happy just cos i have a fella, im happy with my life,and im happy that he is there to share it with me.