First Night of Passion- Advice needed

Alicia Angel

Hi there,

Hope your all well and enjoying our crazy weather.

Im dating a guy around a month at this stage- hes lovely and we get on well etc. Anyway this weekend we have our night planned! Booked hotel- check in at 3pm, function that night in another hotel.

So basically I want some tips to blow his socks off!! What will I wear on Saturday during the day- hard to work this one out!? Saturday night? I know I will be making a trip to La Senza- but any advice before I go there on what to buy???

Any tips, advice etc would be really appreciated on all aspects of the night.
Want to have a night to remember.

Thanks

nomorebadtown

you dont need to make any special arrangements! you've got the hotel booked so you both know whats on the cards. he's gonna be so excited that you're gonna get it on together that anything fancy shmancy is just a waste of time.

Stay out of La Senza. Maybe i'm wrong but at the start the natural anticipation and butterflies should be more than enough without having to decorate yourself with skimpy bells and whistles. For me anyway, lingerie and the like only comes into it when you've been together a good long while and you need to mix things up to keep it fresh and interesting.

I have no advise for how to blow his mind ( ) as i dont know what float this particular guys boat but look, its your first time together - dont build things up too much, just relax and go with the flow. if you come out of the bathroom looking like a freakin' christmas tree, thats a lot of pressure on the poor lad to deal with on your maiden voyage.

as for having a night to remember - dont get too pished/

allabouteve

Alicia Angel wrote: »

So basically I want some tips to blow his socks off!!

Thanks

You could sock it to him by blowing his tip off?

Don't go for the scary sexy lingerie, you could induce performance anxiety, just stick with pretty/sexy things, that would be more likely to encourage, rather than frighten. Let him know he's got the full menu to look forward to and the anticipation will do the rest.

Madame Razz

Stop thinking, Stop over thinking, stop fretting.

Relax relax relax......

go with the flow and enjoy....

Nothing like expectation to kill moments like these, stop expecting and just enjoy it...

My 0.02...

Alicia Angel

Thanks for resonses...but what will I wear for Saturday? Like during the day?

Dragan

Alicia Angel wrote: »

Thanks for resonses...but what will I wear for Saturday? Like during the day?

Whatever you want to, or if he has said he really likes how you look in a certain outfit go for that.

Look, the chap is meeting you, that means he likes you. As already said, the anticipation will already be there, having things too planned or scripted just means stuff can go wrong.

Chill out and enjoy the weekend.

Dudess

Something that looks nice on you.

CeilingCat

Alicia Angel wrote: »

Thanks for resonses...but what will I wear for Saturday? Like during the day?

Wear something that you feel really good in - if you feel sexy, then you will be

MadelineNYC

I've never been to La Senza, so I had to check out their website. I would NOT go for anythng under their "sexy lingerie" category, especially the items which look like costumes designed for Valentine's day!! You dont want to look like you went shopping at La Senza especially for this night...Could put too much pressure on the guy.

On the other hand that night is not the night to wear your most comfortable faded cotton Granny pants which come up to your armpits either! Go for something in the middle. Bra and panties which match and look nice and flatter your shape, but nothing OTT with excessive adornement.

For that day just wear something which looks good on you but not overly dressy. For the function wear what you would normally wear to that kind of function. One tip: don't eat or drink too much at the function or you won't be at your best..just sleepy. Leave as early as you politely can and get back to your hotel for the fun stuff. I'm sooooooo jealous!

RedXIV

fun tip:

if you have a bra that can be undone with a ribbon, will prevent the regular fumbling at the back which can sometimes accompany a first night. and it feels like opening a present

beertons

Wear something comfy during the day, that way you'll be relaxed? Well you should be, no point stressing about the night. You both know what's happening, unless something mad happens.....

spinandscribble

RedXIV wrote: »

fun tip:

if you have a bra that can be undone with a ribbon, will prevent the regular fumbling at the back which can sometimes accompany a first night. and it feels like opening a present

oooh and ribbon sided underwear. best invention ever.:D

aoibhebree

RedXIV wrote: »

fun tip:

if you have a bra that can be undone with a ribbon, will prevent the regular fumbling at the back which can sometimes accompany a first night. and it feels like opening a present

I've been on the look out for one of those for ages but can't find a nice one!

OP - I'd go with pretty and girly rather than sexy. Good luck!!

spinandscribble

you can get the ribbon sided undies in topshop.

Alicia Angel

Your great with the suggestions! Thanks amillion!
How about maybe massage oils and that kinda stuff.
Think ill bring a bottle of champagne with me to the hotel room too

RedXIV

Alicia Angel wrote: »

Your great with the suggestions! Thanks amillion!
How about maybe massage oils and that kinda stuff.
Think ill bring a bottle of champagne with me to the hotel room too

think champers might be nice but the massage oils are a bit OTT. trust me, he's gonna love the night regardless

Leslie91

Lucky guy...........

I'd go with another of the posters, go girly and pretty. Forget the bells and whistles. All going well they'll b on the floor in no time anyway!.

Not sure the champers/oils are necessary.

who007

Stockings and suspenders!!!!

girlbiker

Not suspenders but wear those cute thigh high socks....;)

Alicia Angel

Hi there!

Quick question with uspenders and stockings. I have worn them before obviously! But they are hard to put on arent they?Where can you get decent ones.
You know the way the top of the stockings attach onto the knickers with the strap. On the tights do you create the holes yourself or what?? It always confuses me!
Can anyone help??

sunshine007

RedXIV wrote: »

fun tip:

if you have a bra that can be undone with a ribbon, will prevent the regular fumbling at the back which can sometimes accompany a first night. and it feels like opening a present

Sounds like a good idea alright... must get meself one of those :D never even knew they existed!!! Bring the champers and RELAX!!! you'll be grand!!!

CeilingCat

Alicia Angel wrote: »

Hi there!

Quick question with uspenders and stockings. I have worn them before obviously! But they are hard to put on arent they?Where can you get decent ones.
You know the way the top of the stockings attach onto the knickers with the strap. On the tights do you create the holes yourself or what?? It always confuses me!
Can anyone help??

You should be able to get them with the little snap-shut clip type arrangement.

Alicia Angel

Where do you get them

Madame Razz

Champagne????

Ribbon undies???

Massage oil???

Suspenders and stockings???

WTF??????????

All of the above are WAY OTT!!! The novelty of each others bodies and gettinf to know each other will be more than enough!!!!

And trust me, he'll be way more interested in getting you naked as opposed to anything else!!!

Leave the rest for the future.....include all of the above and you're setting the bar way too high for things to come, plus you'll feel like a right mong if things don't work out between you and you go to all that effort, early days and all that....

Nevyn

Becareful most massage oils are not compatible with condoms.
IF you have not worn suspendors and stockings before then opt for holdups.

PrettyInPunk

There really is no need for massage oils, stockings, suspenders anything. Wear some sexy/cute underwear and thats about it. To be honest id never book into a hotel for my first night with someone, it would put too much pressure on the whole situation. Save the hotels for anniversaries etc imo.

cuckoo

My thoughts on this would be that massage oil is a little too intimate for the first time with someone, it's something that I'd enjoy with someone i'd been with for a while, not someone that i'm still getting to know.

One thing to defo bring is condoms - it can be frustrating to realise that neither of you have any!

aoibhebree

Alicia Angel wrote: »

Your great with the suggestions! Thanks amillion!
How about maybe massage oils and that kinda stuff.
Think ill bring a bottle of champagne with me to the hotel room too

The champagne would be nice (don't forget glasses, you'll get cheap ones in tesco!) but definite NO to the massage oils or anything of that nature! If you put it all out there the first night, how will you ever impress him again!! Keep it romantic but simple

Agent Smith

Car battery
Jump Leeds
Nipple clamps


Trust me, he wont forget the night for a long long time

Kya1976

Agent Smith wrote: »

Car battery
Jump Leeds
Nipple clamps


Trust me, he wont forget the night for a long long time

LOL

I'd agree with Madame Razz no need to go ott

omb0wyn5ehpij9

No need for anything special, just be yourself and he will love it

Zzippy

Agent Smith wrote: »

Car battery
Jump Leeds
Nipple clamps


Trust me, he wont forget the night for a long long time

LMAO. I actually snorted coffee out my nose! Thanks for that!! :D:D

MissyN

Ahhh i think its so cute planning your first night together.
Honestly keep it simple like so many have said here. It would be handy to know his fave colour so if its red you could get nice red underwear and that would be that bit more attractive to him. But honestly he'll be so delighted with himself just to be with you and the oils are defo OTT !!!!
Leave those for a few weeks time yenno....enjoy !!

DubLass

No real advice for you, just go with the flow, have a ball, savour everything and hope he has a big penis

Princessa

Wax everything...

Alicia Angel

Well- Im going one better than waxing everything!!!
Im currently getting brazilian laser hair removal! Am on my third session and Im seeing great results.
Im going shopping tommorrow.Did anyone see anything nice out in the shops recently?

Princessa

Where are you getting the brazillian laser hair removal done? Is it expensive...? I think for the day, casual. Nice Jeans, maybe treat yourself to a new top. Or maybe a nice winter dress with thick tights....

Alicia Angel

Visited a beautiful new lingerie shop! And picked up a few pretty pieces!!

sunnyside

MissyN wrote: »

It would be handy to know his fave colour so if its red you could get nice red underwear and that would be that bit more attractive to him. !!

I sometimes match the underwear to the clothes I'm wearing so if my dress is purple my underwear might be purple too. I doubt men even notice though.

Princessa wrote: »

Wax everything...

Excellent idea, don't you still need to do hair removal until the laser treatment ends?


OP you really need to calm down about this. Your expectations of the night are way too high. I would recommend fairly simple black underwear, maybe a bit lacy and the hold up stockings. Brazillian or hollywood bikini wax, french manicure, very little make-up (tinted moisturiser, mascara, lip gloss) and no orange fake tan (It's snowing outside!)


Daytime outfit maybe a floral print tea dress with black tights (or the hold-ups;)), short black jacket over it.

Skip the La Senza thing, I'm sure you own plenty of nice underwear without needing to spend loads. I always stock up in La Senza and other lingere shop sales.

The champagne could be nice but it depends on the guy too, he could be intimidated by all the fuss.

Report back and let us know how you get on:)

Gyalist

Alicia Angel wrote: »

Visited a beautiful new lingerie shop! And picked up a few pretty pieces!!

I really hope that after all this planning that the night turns out to be worth it. A friend of mine was once in a similar situation and was decidedly underwhelmed. Her words on her return home were "I can't believe I even bothered to shave my legs".

sunnyside

Alicia Angel wrote: »

Visited a beautiful new lingerie shop! And picked up a few pretty pieces!!

I love all those "pretty pieces" from lingere shops too and as I wrote in the other post I buy loads of them in sales.

BUT...men will not have a clue how much any of this stuff costs and will probably respond better to a black or white thong that cost €1.50 in Penneys:(They really can't tell the difference but us girls have this habit of assuming that expensive is better.

I've got this image of you spending the price of a holiday on this one night:)

Kirnsy

if you guys get married i cant imagine what your plans for THAT night will entail.......


just be yourself, your own clothes, your own ideas. Thats why he's at this point (no pun intended;)) with you..

Turner

Princessa wrote: »

Wax everything...

Yes yes yes.

Very good advice. All men watch porn and its very rare you will see a hairy whats it. If oral sex is involved its a must. Would a girl lick a hairy rug on the floor?? I dont think so.

Infact the videos that contain hairy whats its are kept in the freaky area of most sites along with fat porn, granny porn and midget porn.

I have been with girls who have done no grooming at all downstairs and its a complete turn off. Maybe not wax off but definitely some sort of trimming/grooming.

Alicia Angel

Yeah, I have spent a small fortune! But sure arent I worth it!
Im in a good job, so finances arent really a problem! Im very lucky in this current economic climate.

sunnyside wrote: »

I love all those "pretty pieces" from lingere shops too and as I wrote in the other post I buy loads of them in sales.

BUT...men will not have a clue how much any of this stuff costs and will probably respond better to a black or white thong that cost €1.50 in Penneys:(They really can't tell the difference but us girls have this habit of assuming that expensive is better.

I've got this image of you spending the price of a holiday on this one night:)

dulchie75

Hiya, don't really have any advice just to enjoy yourself, you sound so excited hope it's a great night.

Oh and I'm not one bit jealous:D

Agent Smith

Alicia Angel wrote: »

Yeah, I have spent a small fortune! But sure arent I worth it!
Im in a good job, so finances arent really a problem! Im very lucky in this current economic climate.

i hope you didnt spend too much on the jump leads

shellyboo

Chief--- wrote: »

Would a girl lick a hairy rug on the floor?? I dont think so.

I cannot begin to describe how unbelievably offensive it is for you to compare a non-bald lady area to a 'hairy rug on the floor'.

Chief--- wrote: »

I have been with girls who have done no grooming at all downstairs and its a complete turn off. Maybe not wax off but definitely some sort of trimming/grooming.

That goes both ways. I really hope you do some trimming/grooming yourself, Chief, I'd hate to think you a hypocrite.

OP, it's great that you're all excited about your first time with this guy, but like everyone says... don't go TOO overboard, it's too much pressure. You're heaping all these frills and expectations on the evening, there's lingerie and candles and champagne... when really it should be about him and you and that's all. By all means, wear something that makes you feel super-sexy, it's so important to feel desirable... but remember that the night is about discovering eachother and not all the frills.

allabouteve

Chief--- wrote: »

Yes yes yes.

Very good advice. All men watch porn and its very rare you will see a hairy whats it. If oral sex is involved its a must. Would a girl lick a hairy rug on the floor?? I dont think so.

Infact the videos that contain hairy whats its are kept in the freaky area of most sites along with fat porn, granny porn and midget porn.

I have been with girls who have done no grooming at all downstairs and its a complete turn off. Maybe not wax off but definitely some sort of trimming/grooming.

Jesus.

Wouldn't really know how to begin with this. Just thought I'd have it on this page too so nobody is deprived of these words of wisdom.

What a guy!

seraphimvc

Chief--- wrote: »

Yes yes yes.

Very good advice. All men watch porn and its very rare you will see a hairy whats it. If oral sex is involved its a must. Would a girl lick a hairy rug on the floor?? I dont think so.

Infact the videos that contain hairy whats its are kept in the freaky area of most sites along with fat porn, granny porn and midget porn.

I have been with girls who have done no grooming at all downstairs and its a complete turn off. Maybe not wax off but definitely some sort of trimming/grooming.

lol nono this is wrong - i've always found the natural forest is the best;)

and i think OP meant waxing her legs/back etc lol you sir,is making this thread more NSFW

and OP goodluck for the date,you are a cool lady i can see - prepared to bring a champayne for your man?that's really really sweet:)

not over to the top is absolutely good idea,but always do what you wish,is your own memory you are making here,do it!

Alicia Angel

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seraphimvc wrote: »

lol nono this is wrong - i've always found the natural forest is the best;)

and i think OP meant waxing her legs/back etc lol you sir,is making this thread more NSFW

and OP goodluck for the date,you are a cool lady i can see - prepared to bring a champayne for your man?that's really really sweet:)

not over to the top is absolutely good idea,but always do what you wish,is your own memory you are making here,do it!

Oryx

Theres no point in dressing like a bunnygirl or hooker if it will make you feel uncomfortable on your first night with someone. Whatever you wear it needs to be something that makes YOU feel sexy and pretty. If the whole Ann Summers shebang does that for you, waaayheey have a good time, but if youll feel like a trussed up turkey, then pull it back a bit. It will only increase any nerves you have.

Id love to think that a first night of lust would be everything you see in the movies, but youve got to keep a practical head about it. The earth may not move, it may not all fall into place automatically. The best thing about a night like that is to go into it with the right attitude. Youll have a good time, anyway, and do your best to give your partner a good time to, but ultimately relax about it being all fireworks and thunderclaps. The first time can be fumbly and awkward.

And on a practical level... for a first night... bring lube. Youll be glad you did.