C&H sex discussion thread

pajor

Jhcx wrote: »

I dont think its overrated. ive developed stronger relationships from being intimate. ive been connected . we've shared eachother. To some sex is in and boring as fck. others like to make it more personal by trying different things messing with eachother, pushing eachothers boundaries.

You sir, are spot on.

Jhcx

HugsiePie wrote: »

If sex is about feeling a deeper connection (giggity) why have a fwb/f.buddy relationship? Heck why even have 1 night stands?

Because you learn. Remember when you were a Virgin and you were scared as fck. First time pain, what would it feel like. It's like that in relationships. You want to be prepared. Trying something with an fwb you'll be able to show of on your bf/gf. Everyone is different but you learn a lot about yourself. How deep you can go how slow fast to go. What position suits you best how does your body cope. How long can you last. There's always something in sex. Whether it be to make a relationship connection or to experiment, learn and have fun. I think sex is needed as part of a healthy lifestyle. Releases so much not to mention all the exercise out of it.

pajor

HugsiePie wrote: »

If sex is about feeling a deeper connection (giggity) why have a fwb/f.buddy relationship? Heck why even have 1 night stands?

Not my field of expertise. :pac:

Not something I've ever had or even really wanted. But that's just me.

Junco Partner

HugsiePie wrote: »

If sex is about feeling a deeper connection (giggity) why have a fwb/f.buddy relationship? Heck why even have 1 night stands?

I don't know that it always is really; about a deeper connection I mean.
Relationships ask an awful lot of you emotionally and they make you pretty vulnerable.
For the emotionally underdeveloped among us (I.e me) this can seem a pretty daunting prospect. But even those who aren't able for an emotional commitment need the ride now and then. Casual sex, one night stands, Fwbs, it's fun, really really fun. You talk you laugh you banter and there's no real deeper goal or meaning other than dopamine release.
While there is a certain amount of intimacy Involved( your spend hours conjoined at the hip, how could it not be intimate) I don't think it's an emotional intimacy.

As for what jhcx said about practice. If your in a relationship your going to be getting plenty of practice as is surely? Even if one partner isn't very good you adapt to and learn each others desires as the relationship progresses. Surely any sex your having before entering a relationship should be viewed with a "fcuk yeah I'm having sex!" Attitude rather than as a learning experience". Theres no one right way of doing it that your going to master,everyone's different just enjoy it and take it as it comes

Jhcx

Junco Partner wrote: »

As for what jhcx said about practice. If your in a relationship your going to be getting plenty of practice as is surely? Even if one partner isn't very good you adapt to and learn each others desires as the relationship progresses. Surely any sex your having before entering a relationship should be viewed with a "fcuk yeah I'm having sex!" Attitude rather than as a learning experience". Theres no one right way of doing it that your going to master,everyone's different just enjoy it and take it as it comes

Ya I agree just having sex is awesome. But my instances I'm pretty scared I don't want to seem like I don't know what I'm doing that's just a mental thing. For example I have been outta action for 5 months, till recently got asked and I wasn't prepared wanted to meet up on the Saturday. Then one night was out on Friday and got offered so I jumped in was back on top. Then the Saturday was able to give the person who too had been outta action for almost a year great fun because I had learned new positions night before. So ya while I had fun I also got rid of feeling like a Virgin and learned new techniques.

Junco Partner

Jhcx wrote: »

Ya I agree just having sex is awesome. But my instances I'm pretty scared I don't want to seem like I don't know what I'm doing that's just a mental thing. For example I have been outta action for 5 months, till recently got asked and I wasn't prepared wanted to meet up on the Saturday. Then one night was out on Friday and got offered so I jumped in was back on top. Then the Saturday was able to give the person who too had been outta action for almost a year great fun because I had learned new positions night before. So ya while I had fun I also got rid of feeling like a Virgin and learned new techniques.

in my experience it's not so much how many positions you know more so how much of the workload your willing to take on. Or maybe my luck has just been bad all year. They never want to go on top.

suitcasepink

Yea but the sweatiness is ewwwy
/thread

pajor

deise_girl wrote: »

Yea but the sweatiness is ewwwy
/thread

That just means you're doing it right..

suitcasepink

pajor wrote: »

That just means you're doing it right..

Iconic.
When I just change my boards signature to "Does sex right"



Ahh Im too immature to be in this thread..

pajor

deise_girl wrote: »

Iconic.
When I just change my boards signature to "Does sex right"

I just realised how creepy I sounded. :pac:

wnolan1992

Have sex in a shower.

That will surely negate the sweat-factor somewhat?

suitcasepink

pajor wrote: »

I just realised how creepy I sounded. :pac:

Just a tad lol

wnolan1992 wrote: »

Have sex in a shower.

That will surely negate the sweat-factor somewhat?

Heh, probably...

Junco Partner

HugsiePie wrote: »

Dont have sex

Thats how you get Ebola :pac:

There are much more frightening diseases floating round D'Icon on a Thursday. Ebola is the least of our worries.

HugsiePie

Junco Partner wrote: »

There are much more frightening diseases floating round D'Icon on a Thursday. Ebola is the least of our worries.

Cooties?

Insect Overlord

wnolan1992 wrote: »

Have sex in a shower.

Best. Mod instruction. EVER.

LoonyLovegood

You crazy kids.

iamanengine

Sex = Good

/thread, surely! :P

Ah, tis a complex activity alright. I myself am a fan but it sure does have the ability to break a person...emotionally of course! :cool:

LoonyLovegood

I guess part of my thing about sex is my last relationship. But I dunno...I reckon I fall somewhere on the asexual spectrum. If I could find a partner who just wanted spooning life would be fantastic.

Junco Partner

CTYIgirl wrote: »

I guess part of my thing about sex is my last relationship. But I dunno...I reckon I fall somewhere on the asexual spectrum. If I could find a partner who just wanted spooning life would be fantastic.

spooning is great and all. That is until you start to suffocate on a faceful of hair and your arm goes numb.

Peanut Butter Jelly

Junco Partner wrote: »

spooning is great and all. That is until you start to suffocate on a faceful of hair and your arm goes numb.

Truer words were never spoken.

Jhcx

Just putting it out there spooing naked is the best leads to more causes of sex

Macavity.

Peanut Butter Jelly wrote: »

Truer words were never spoken.

I think much truer words have been spoken, tbh. :pac:

Jhcx

Do you guys ask your other half or fwb do they trim or shave. An ex of mine asked me what way I like it and a friend also asked. Personally as a modern lad I trim keep things tidy, Kinda expected. but it never really phased me. Is your appearance even with an fwb important?

Junco Partner

Jhcx wrote: »

Do you guys ask your other half or fwb do they trim or shave. An ex of mine asked me what way I like it and a friend also asked. Personally as a modern lad I trim keep things tidy, Kinda expected. but it never really phased me. Is your appearance even with an fwb important?

is it expected.? Tried the shaving thing once and the itch that followed put me off ever trying it again. Been with girls who have and girls who havent. Didn't really make a difference to me.

Jhcx

Junco Partner wrote: »

is it expected.? Tried the shaving thing once and the itch that followed put me off ever trying it again. Been with girls who have and girls who havent. Didn't really make a difference to me.

Well I think so maybe not shave but trim. I know few lads who would do it for their other half most go bare because someone of someone said it was the better way. As you said it is fair itchy don't think it's worth it. would of thought would made bit of a difference on friction no skin to skin contact. I've never done it so I wouldn't know but do know skin can feel like rubber when hot

MauraTheThird

Had a discussion with my housemates Tuesday and all three of them are "meh" towards sex and thought I was crazy for actually wishing I had someone to do it with :P

LoveLamps

i like sex

only had ons' tho

Junco Partner

You know how a baby might have a toy in it's cot and it might only barely play with it. But the second you take that toy it's all they want.

I went for drinks with my ex fwb and her new boyfriend tonight. Can totally relate to those infants now.

Jhcx

Need another fwb. You'll forgot the old toy

Junco Partner

Jhcx wrote: »

Need another fwb. You'll forgot the old toy

I dunno really. Maybe after 18 months they're was more emotional involvement than I realised.

Sh1t be confusing.