What should I do?

Caryatnid

Jesus Christ this sounds like something that you should report to the police.

You should have made him delete it on the spot - but you didn't . . . now what you need to do is make him delete it asap. You also should make sure it's not on his computer. Make his log in and delete it.

I don't think that you should stay with someone who did this with you but you know the situation yourself.

4Xcut

Without question, I think you should go to the police. What he did is illegal(afaik). You really cannot risk this coming out in the future. Next, tell his family, let them know what he is really like, although this is just for revenge.

The legal side of it is something you should look into though. You will never know if it's completely gone but you can look into legal protection against him realising it on the internet, or to a potential employer.

Bottle_of_Smoke

He's very unlikely to put a tape of himself up on the internet.

Still a horrible thing to do. Kind of makes you worry what might happen if you dump him.

Jammyc

Well thats good I guess.

We'll let you know if we see anything:p Jokes

dudara

Jammyc

Helpful posts please. Take the time to read the charter with regard to posting in this forum.

dudara

Jammyc

Apologies

PCPhoto

dump the guy ..... call the gardai and get the git in as much trouble as possible ...teach him a lesson and stop him from doing this in future.

I'm really annoyed at the thought of people breaking the law and not worrying about the consequences, I'm a guy and theres no way I would tape a sex session without consent.

Musashi

i don't think it would be unreasonable to ask him to log on to his PC and leave the room.

A major breach of trust has occurred and his word just would not be enough for me at that point. My wife and I can access each others e-mail accounts and online banking accounts, we don't do it but we could. I think the burden to prove his innocence lies with your BF and he should allow you full access to satisfy yourself he's telling the truth.

You could check for video files and scan his history to see where he's been online. If the history has been wiped and all past documents erased then I would be very suspicious about what's gone on.

Permabear

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