Things you dont want or like that most girls do want or like

Peared

Just having a browse through the wedding thread there and it got me thinking..

there's a few things I don't want/do/like that most girls do.

I don't want to get married.

I don't want to live with somebody, ideally would live next door to himself.

I don't watch the x factor dancing on strictly celebrity jungle ice mania.

I don't fancy any of the obvious pin up men.

Now I know I'm generalising here about what girls like but is there anything you ladies dont like or want that most girls do?

Acacia

Apart from the living with somebody thing, I agree with what you've said. Also I don't care that much about bags or make-up. I especially couldn't give a **** about spreading malicious gossip about somebody. Oh, I hate kids...well, not hate, but they annoy me.

fake tan
getting waxed
getting my eyebrows done
kids
a lot of male pin ups
i'd say a big fancy wedding but i'm not sure if that's as common as i thought it might be


does that count ?

somethingwitty

I don't think Celine Dion is the best thing ever to listen to when you are drunk.:pac:
I like fields and climbing over gates.
I don't like alcopops, I prefer beer myself.
I don't like gossiping and bitchiness.

sam34

i second the fake tan... i just think it looks ridiculous and/or dirty

i dont have much mass on manicures

i'm sure i'll think of a few more

Peared

Yeah they count.

Why, you're practically a man :P

Forgot about fake tan. I bother with that about twice a year.

Peared

Peared wrote: »

Yeah they count.

Why, you're practically a man :P

Forgot about fake tan. I bother with that about twice a year.

I don't bother with it at all.
Most makeups look like fake tan on me as it is and I'm perfectly happy being pale, fashionable or not...
I also like my eyebrows as they are :eek:

The kids I'm not so much against, it's just not my life dream/eventual goal to be married and have a family

giddybootz

ooh il play...

i dont want to get married
i DO NOT want sprogs
i hate hate hate pink stuff!!

Peared

I do wants babies, have to say.

Peared

Peared wrote: »

I do wants babies, have to say.

If I hadnt been iffy about it it in the first place reading the thread on it in pregnancy/parenting (can't remember which) on giving birth would have been enough to put me off :pac:

Local Goddess

Shopping, hate shopping.

the_syco

This thread gives me faith in the ladies :P :cool:

445279.ie

hate "dressing up" to go out. Prefer to wear jeans and a nice top.

Love handbags during the day but not dragging them around when on a night out. Prefer to put keys and a few euro in my pockets

Don't want children
hate fake tan
hate waxing

Diamond007

+1 for not liking pink or male pin ups

Also:
'Chick lit' :mad:
'Chick flicks' :mad:
Sex and the city:mad:
Soaps:mad:
Desperate Housewives etc. etc.:mad:

Just read the rest of the posts.. Im the opposite to most.. I love tan, shopping, clothes and children.. It's just the above I dont like! I really am a girly at heart

sam34

that reminds me, i HATE sex and the city

Stheno

Soaps
Fake tan
Babies /shudder
Gossip/bitching

Madame Razz

I don't like chick lit or chick flicks

I would rather puppies to babies and on the whole am really not at all maternal

I fake tan only when I really have to

I hate delicate girly jewellery and such sh*te...chunky is the way forward

I detest soft furnishings and pastel colours....minimalism ftw...

I like cars, and actually have an idea how to do basic car maintenance

I don't partake in particularly feminine sports

I don't like girly pink stuff

I'm not afraid express my sexuality in a proper and free way, not just imply it, but actually be afraid of it

I'm not afraid to tell a man what I like, how I like it, and when I like it

I'm into my appearance but I don't follow stupid trends...I'm into what I like...

I hate chick music

I don't like stupid cutsy lingerie, pyjams, slippers, dressing gowns and other general lounge attire.....

I rather the company of men to women

My mouth is like a sewer

I don't do diet coke

Actually I don't do diets either

I speak my mind and I don't do mind games

I don't believe in (intentionally) being a ditz

I don't believe in Prince Charming

I don't play up to tradesmen when something is wrong in my house

I don't appreciate, tolerate or condone chauvinistic attitudes to women, particularly in builders providers... I do know what a standard door width is thank you very much

I know how to do what I need to to live, I believe in being as self sufficient and reliant as possible.....I don't need help from a big strong man.....

Unless it's exceptionally heavy:D

Stheno

manukahoney wrote: »

I don't like chick lit or chick flicks

I would rather puppies to babies and on the whole am really not at all maternal

I like cars, and actually have an idea how to do basic car maintenance

I don't partake in particularly feminine sports

I don't like girly pink stuff

I'm into my appearance but I don't follow stupid trends...I'm into what I like...

I don't like stupid cutsy lingerie, pyjams, slippers, dressing gowns and other general lounge attire.....

I rather the company of men to women

My mouth is like a sewer


Actually I don't do diets either

I speak my mind

I don't believe in (intentionally) being a ditz

I don't believe in Prince Charming

I don't play up to tradesmen when something is wrong in my house

I don't appreciate, tolerate or condone chauvinistic attitudes to women, particularly in builders providers... I do know what a standard door width is thank you very much

I know how to do what I need to to live, I believe in being as self sufficient and reliant as possible.....I don't need help from a big strong man.....

Unless it's exceptionally heavy:D

+1 said so much better than I did

Zaph

Jaysus, there's so many women here that don't want to have kids that I fear for the future of humanity! :pac:

Nevyn

It's not that they do not want kids for some of them it is they do not want to be trapped into the burden and baggage that is motherhood, which is something I completely understand.

Peared

I think loads of girls in their teens and early 20s go through a phase of saying or thinking they don't want kids. Most of them will end up having them though.

I'm more surprised (and pleased) by the fake tan.

Peared

Being 'trapped into' something suggests an ambush of some kind or a lack of choice?

Nevyn

Peared wrote: »

Being 'trapped into' something suggests an ambush of some kind or a lack of choice?

IT happens and I do not mean having the baby but the assumption that it is the mother who will be putting thier career and life on the back burner to be the main carer responsible for the child even if there is a creche.

IT is still very rare that a father becomes a stay at home dad or a the main career taking days of work when the child is sick or has an appointment.

http://www.salon.com/mwt/feature/2008/11/12/michelle_obama/index1.html

When he launched his congressional run, Barack writes, "Michelle put up no pretense of being happy with the decision. My failure to clean up the kitchen suddenly became less endearing. Leaning down to kiss Michelle good-bye in the morning, all I would get was a peck on the cheek. By the time Sasha was born ... my wife's anger toward me seemed barely contained."

Barack continues, "No matter how liberated I liked to see myself as -- no matter how much I told myself that Michelle and I were equal partners, and that her dreams and ambitions were as important as my own -- the fact was that when children showed up, it was Michelle and not I who was expected to make the necessary adjustments. Sure, I helped, but it was always on my terms, on my schedule. Meanwhile, she was the one who had to put her career on hold." Barack considers his dawning realization that in his wife, as in so many working women, there was a battle raging. "In her own mind, two visions of herself were at war with each other," he writes. "The desire to be the woman her mother had been, solid, dependable, making a home and always there for her kids, and the desire to excel in her profession, to make her mark on the world and realize all those plans she'd had on the very first day that we met."

In certain critical ways, Michelle Obama will come to stand in more prominently than anyone could have imagined for the shortcomings of feminism, as described by Linda Hirshman in her 2006 book "Get to Work," in which she argues that the weighting of domestic responsibilities toward the woman in a family handicaps her chances for professional and economic success. Obama has already said that one of the issues she plans to put front and center while in the White House is the impossible bind faced by working mothers. She knows the trade-offs and sacrifices all too well.

And now, she is in the unenviable yet deeply happy position of being a history-maker whose own balancing act allowed her husband the space to make his political career zip forward, his books sing, his daughters healthy and beautiful, and his campaign succeed. In having done all this, Michelle Obama wrought for herself a life (temporarily, at least) of playing second fiddle. Then again, did she have a choice?

I hate fake tan, clothes shopping, women's magazines, soap operas,
and have no desire what so ever to look like Malibu barbie.

LolaLuv

Wow, reading this thread makes me feel like a super girly girl. I swear a lot and am not shy about sex, I guess those are really the only two things that separate me from "most" chicks. (Not even sure what that means, tbh.) Also, I rarely ever feel shame for anything, am very, very direct, and am not afraid of much. I also don't get lonely, but I think that's a human thing more than a girl thing.

Aisling(",)

-dont like fake tan(only wear it for shows)
-couldnt wear make up every day itd annoy me
-like wearing jerseys and tracksuit bottoms
-dont want children,dont enjoy being around them,hate looking after them and dont want that much responsibility ever
-id like a boyfriend who i wouldnt have to see all the time...like when im older i wouldnt like to live with him

Scoobydoobydoo

I think fake tan often looks very tacky.
Hate chick lit.
I hate shopping.

metrovelvet

I hate fake tan. I dont wear jewelry. I'm not detail oriented. I cant multi-task. Havent got an maternal instinct in any bone on my body yet I have a child [yep its the blind leading the blinder.] Dont like women's magazines. My chick lit likes go as far as the Brontes. I dont like 600 pillows and over priced candles. And since reading Birdsong am fascinated by WW1.

Beth

Dont like fake tan
Dont like Chick-stuff (lit, music, films etc)
Dont like pink (ARGH!)
Dont like shoes/heels
Dont like the big white wedding thing
HATE shopping with a passion
HATE chocolate

Give me a trek through a forest with the dogs over shopping any day!
Or messing with a hurley or an engine

PrettyInPunk

Dont like getting dolled up, i love my trakkies
Dont like pink
Hate plucking my eyebrows
Have a filthy mouth
I burp regulary-in public too...oops
Hang out with males alot more than females
Love 'guy' movies, my favourite films are bad boys one and two

That being said i dont really consider myself to be 'ungirly'. Everyone is different and whilst i burp i still love to take pride in my appearance and do 'girly' things such as painting my nails. Im sure the most barbiesh (sp?) females out there has some ungirly traits.

Madame Razz

I'm sorry but I don't see how making an effort with one's appearance and looking well can be considered girly traits.

I spend an absolute fortune on myself every month yet am far far removed from a pink and fluffy bunny girl.

Perhaps there is a certain way of maintaining one's appearance that could be considered girly....over fake tanned, stupid blonde hair etc.... but I don't see why all women who like to care of themself should be labelled as girly or pushed into the girly sterotype. I take pride in my appearance, and I do it for me.

As for babies, I'm sure I would consider it with the right guy, but I would be in no rush; and one has to admit that the sheer volume of brats about the place is exceedingly off putting. I do encounter the very occasional nice child that somewhat restores my faith in kids but I'd still prefer a gaggle of boxers tbh!!

As for living with somebody/not living with somebody, well, I'm with the living with somebody camp on that one. Love in all its facets is best shared together, and when two people are genuinely in love and right for each other then pleasure can be derived even from the most mundane tasks, and an effective partnership/team can drive that love even further; I firmly believe this. Yes there will be bad times, but a proper couple will battle thru these. I have faith in relationships. I believe them to be one of the most natural things in the world, ergo sharing your life with somebody, for me, is a given.

Fcuking hate fake tan though.....

Morgase

Here's my list of my non-generic-girly ways:

I live in baggy jeans and dislike having to get dressed up - I feel like an imposter! Also I avoid high heels like the plague. I really have very little interest in my appearance.

I love my job which involves lots of muck and machinery.

I never use fake tan, can't stand the stuff. I rarely wear makeup.

I dislike tv soaps, chick lit and chick flicks and love the likes of Star Trek and Battlestar Galactica with a passion.

I will not have children. I can't say that it is because the OH would expect me to stay at home; in fact I'd say he would be happy enough to be the homemaker. I just couldn't stand being an incubator. That's just me and I'm probably on the extreme end of the "don't want children" scale.

I don't like jewellery and can't see the point of it. Buy me a new graphics card or something gadgety if you want to show your love for me!

Also I won't be doing the big white wedding thing, or any wedding.

Not sure if this is a girly thing or not - but I don't wear thongs. They're about as comfortable as dental floss!

LolaLuv

manukahoney wrote: »

but I don't see why all women who like to care of themself should be labelled as girly or pushed into the girly sterotype.

Personally, I'd like to know why being girly is such a bad thing in the first place. This whole thread is kind of weird. Nothing wrong with being feminine, imo. If we can't be girly in tLL then where the hell can we?

CathyMoran

Well for start I work in IT, though that is more common now, am also doing an elec eng Masters.

I hate going out to get drunk, going out to the pub is fine the odd time but I would rather relax at home with the hubby.

I hate heavy make up _ lipstick and eyeshaddow with some nailvarnish is the most I would do>

i hate clothes shopping though do it the odd time>

i did not feel maternal until i thought that we could not have kids< then all babies made me cry>

a adore science fiction

St Bill

Fake tan, fake tan and fake tan : An expensive product that makes you look dirty and unwashed. Make up companies must be laughing all the way to the bank....talk about mass brainwash.

Soaps : They usually all rely on the following theme - two characters fall in love but with a twist be it that they're brother in law and sister in law, brother and sister, mother and son, father and daughter. All sensationalist stories under the guise of 'dealing with the issues affecting people today'.

Romantic comedies : Now these really get my goat. They usually start with a ditzy, yet strong and independent woman. A girl that every woman in the world should identify with, independent yet not too threatening to the status quo.The usual japes and misunderstandings follow, but thankfully in the end she ends up with the man that she'd been jousting with all along. The message : be as strong and as independent as you like girlies, but you won't really be happy unless you have a man by your side. Don't get me wrong, men are the greatest invention since spare ribs , but I really don't like the underlying theme in these movies.

Ooh and Merry Christmas everyone!

rainbowtrout

don't own any make up let alone wear it
hate fake tan
love getting mucky walking the dog
swear a lot
not too bothered with jewellery or fashion
no interest in soaps, desperate housewives etc
never read girly mags
I can't stand condescending car salesmen or tradesmen
some of the men on my street come to me to borrow power tools, spades etc

Peared

PillyPen wrote: »

Personally, I'd like to know why being girly is such a bad thing in the first place. This whole thread is kind of weird. Nothing wrong with being feminine, imo. If we can't be girly in tLL then where the hell can we?

Pillypen I don't think anybody is saying there is anything wrong with being girly. When I asked the question, I was asking about things that are typically things most (not all) women like or do that you dont do. I didn't suggest that those things were wrong.

Anyway, I think that for every 'girly' thing people dont like, there will be one they do like.

For example I may not like fake tan but I love handbags and shoes.

And I will defend Marian Keyes to the last

LolaLuv

Peared wrote: »

Pillypen I don't think anybody is saying there is anything wrong with being girly. When I asked the question, I was asking about things that are typically things most (not all) women like or do that you dont do. I didn't suggest that those things were wrong.

Hey no, I wasn't trying to attack the initial post, sorry if it came off that way. It just seems like some of the responses are about trying not to seem like a girly girl. It strikes me as odd that the posters in a woman's forum would have a problem with being labeled overly feminine, when ideally this forum would be welcoming and inclusive of all types. I dunno, maybe I'm reading into things a bit too much!

GirlInterrupted

I don't like clothes shopping.
I don't watch soap opera's.
I don't read chick lit.
I don't 'follow' fashion for the sake of it.
I don't read womens magazines, especially not the gossip ones.
I don't watch gossip shows on TV.
I don't read horoscopes.
I don't have any interest in the lives of celebrities.
I don't believe in fairies, guardian angels, or frogs into princes fantasies.
I don't believe that handbags make you happy.

But. I do love pink, I love bookshops and weepy movies, I think Wuthering Heights is the most romantic novel ever written and is the mummy of all chick lit, I love a new dress, I want to believe in happily ever afters, I want babies, and I like cooking. Oh, and I'm quite stimulated by nice shoes and especially with matching bags, although I don't believe they are the path to happiness.

Pythia

Hmm, I like all the things mentioned here. Oh well.

Plug-me-in

I love shoes.
I love clothes.
I love mega-heels.
I LOVE make-up.
I like fake tan.
I LOVE fashion.
I love shopping.
I love pink.
I love fluffy things.
I love pink fluffy things.
I love going out.
I love staying in.
I love puppies.
I love girly movies.
I love girly books.
I love soppy music.
I love most pin-up men.
I love most men in general.
I love neat eyebrows.
I love being freshly waxed.
I even love Girls Aloud.




But I just can't stomach Ben n' Jerry's....

LolaLuv

Plug-me-in wrote: »

But I just can't stomach Ben n' Jerry's....

This is by far the most impressive dislike in this thread. Hats off to you!!

Zaph

PillyPen wrote: »

This is by far the most impressive dislike in this thread. Hats off to you!!

Don't encourage her, that's just wrong!

spinandscribble

i hate fake tan
i hate girls aloud, x factor, all those ballroom dancing shows
i hate soaps
i hate expensive designer clothes

i love watching and playing video games
i love horseplaying
i love pulling silly faces in photos, i don't care if it makes me uglier

SarcasticFairy

As girlyness goes, I'm pretty girly, but I can't be dealing with fake tan, and I never watch soaps. I don't like pink fluffy things. I can't stand when girls put on that "I'm so ditsy, amn't I cute?" thing. It doesn't matter to me whether I get married or not, and I doubt I'll ever be into maincures.

I cannot comprehend a hatred for Ben & Jerry's however, though.

miss_shadow

i love fashion,i love clothes,i love shopping
i love eastenders
i love shoes
i love 'a touch of pink'...
my fav. colour IS pink
i love taking my dog for a walk, she even has her own jackets
i love being intellegent
i also love love fake tan
i love getting my hair cut
i love wearing make up
i also love helping cutting down tree's with a chainsaw with my dad.



i hate xfactor with a passion
i hate gossip
i hate women who mistake femininity with airheads

RxQueen

i hate handbags, somedays dont use one .. only use em when i really have to!
hate fake tan, smell of it makes me sick.

but i shoes, well my kinda shoes involes vans and the like!

rainbow kirby

I hate fake tan
I hate make-up
I hate heels
I hate chart pop music
I hate soaps and most similar stuff on TV
I hate Strictly Come Dancing
I am a final year BSc Computer Science student
I love video games (though I don't have much time to play!)
I'm also an enormous maths geek
I own a rather interesting African sword
I've got black belts in 2 martial arts
I love my Caterpillar boots, my Doc Martens, my running shoes, my Etnies skate shoes and my Converse
I have short hair and I wouldn't grow my hair long again if you paid me
I like boobs and don't like cock
I'm a huge metalhead
I drink pints

But...
I love shopping
I love shoes (as long as they're comfortable!)
I love my short skirts, good jeans, good underwear and making the most of what I have
I love cooking, particularly desserts
I love Ben and Jerry's and Haagen-Dazs ice cream
I love Mamma Mia, Singstar and Dance Dance Revolution

Curlypinkie

I don't want to get married, but I would like to have children.
I really hate modern girlie movies, but really love the old ones, like Breakfast at Tiffany's or Gone with the Wind.
I love getting my nails done in all sorts of glittery colours but I also like kicking the shyte out of a bag when training martial arts.
I hate fake tan but love make up. And would not pay a hairdresser 35 EUR for a blow dry (or whatever the extortionate going rate is nowadays), I'd rather go out in my naturally curly hair.

I would like a guy that would hold the door foor me and send me flowers to work but I have a tool box at home and I can and will do pretty much all DYI jobs myself.

I love watching sports and going to games and drinking beers with the lads, however I will try to always look my damn sexiest best when doing it.

I love my handbags and I prefer socializing with guys, but I'm also the best agony aunt my girl friends will ever have.

I absolutely hate, hate hate shopping the way other girls do it. I would like to get in and out of one shop. And that's it. Otherwise I start screaming.

Curlypinkie

PillyPen wrote: »

Personally, I'd like to know why being girly is such a bad thing in the first place. This whole thread is kind of weird. Nothing wrong with being feminine, imo. If we can't be girly in tLL then where the hell can we?

Pilly, I think the thread is great because we can now be as mulitfacetous as we want. We can be girlie but blokey and all at the same time! IT's brilliant!

to all the blokes that still can't be all to feminine without fear of being classed as ghey...

Rozabeez

I don't do fake tan, I rarely wear heels, I love man-hoodies, I don't know yet if I want kids, my taste in men has been described using words such as 'unusual' to 'terrible'. I hate being looked after and love independence. I'm not very romantic.

clicli

I wear make up for a night out but not everyday
I point blank refuse to ever wear fake tan no matter what the occasion - even if I am milk bottle white all year round
I live in converse most of the time, heels are for special occasions
I don't listen to pop music, prefer my rock!
I don't watch soaps, prefer crime or medical dramas
I couldn't care less about celebrity gossip it makes no diffrence to my life what weight Victoria Beckham is
I can outdrink my brothers

But, I love baking cakes and biscuits, and can't pass a cute puppy without going awwhh
And I want to have kids someday, just not anytime soon!
I think the most important thing about all of the above is that I am not ashamed to be me:p