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Should I meet up with the ex to clear air and/or for closure??

turgon · 2008-12-03 14:18:06

Just a brief speel: was going out with this girl for nigh on 2 and a half years, we broke up badly things had been going shìt for a while and it emerged for the last month she had been cheating a lot on me. By the time we broke up she had a new boyfriend.As you could imagine I was pretty pissed off, though tbh the cheating…

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#32 04-12-2008 11:58AM

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I think what most have been saying is right on the money. I reckon we seek "closure" even with complete idiots of exes because of rejection. Rejection by a lover because of cheating or being dumped is massive blow to the ego. Huge. I don't doubt you love your current GF and have no intention of being with your ex and you've gotten well over her.

I think you haven't gotten over the rejection and the ego blow that came with it. It's not really about her anymore, its about you and that hurt ego. That's why you'll have some meet exes a year down the line and see the ex as a muppet or muppetess. They want and need to see that. It makes the rejection fade to a greater extent. It's like those who parade their "great new life" around exes. Insecurity and a symptom of the original rejection. I've been with people when they met exes and the ex was looking way better than before, better life etc and the person still needed to say bullet dodged etc. So much better if the ex is now a junkie:D

This is all cool. It happens to us all. I think as it is now more within you than the ex, that's the reason I would say don't meet. It won't help the ego as much as you think and even if it did, that would tell me in your position that my ego is still weak.

Love and enjoy your GF and your current relationship and you as a new bloke who has moved beyond the BS of the past. Good luck.:D

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