What do women think men want?

brianthebard

Pretty much as the title says; I'm always interested in the female mind, and perhaps the "too pretty?" thread put this question into my head. I have an idea of what women supposedly want from men, even if it is totally wrong, but no idea of how it works the other way round. Thoughts?

The_Minister

/Pulls up stool

/Begins to file all post starting with "a good sense of humour" under the "bull****" catagory.

Saibh

brianthebard wrote: »

Pretty much as the title says; I'm always interested in the female mind, and perhaps the "too pretty?" thread put this question into my head. I have an idea of what women supposedly want from men, even if it is totally wrong, but no idea of how it works the other way round. Thoughts?

you tell us what your idea of what women supposedly want and we will tell you if you are right or wrong - will that do;)

CreepingDeath

brianthebard wrote: »

I'm always interested in the female mind

It defies logic, try quantum physics instead.

pseudonym1

Mmm At 1;20 early sunday morning - sex
All other times - sex.

I was actually thinking of something like this today majority of women want to meet "the 1" someone to spend rest lives with yada yada yada..
MAjority of men want to live the life of Hugh Heffinier.

Either way most just settle for something in between!

metrovelvet

1. Control

2. A Mammy

3. Nookie on demand

Thomas_S_Hunterson

pseudonym1 wrote: »

Mmm At 1;20 early sunday morning - sex
All other times - sex.

I was actually thinking of something like this today majority of women want to meet "the 1" someone to spend rest lives with yada yada yada..
MAjority of men want to live the life of Hugh Heffinier.

Either way most just settle for something in between!

Why buy a book when you can go to the library.

pseudonym1

Sean_K wrote: »

Why buy a book when you can go to the library.

ITs a question of money and class..

Piste

Men want sex but also want to be looked after.


They also like booze and video games. But mainly sex. I think also most men prefer sex with someone they love over sex with someone who's convenient, even if they wont admit it to other men.

Nuravictus

Piste wrote: »

Men want sex but also want to be looked after.


They also like booze and video games. But mainly sex. I think also most men prefer sex with someone they love over sex with someone who's convenient, even if they wont admit it to other men.

By looked after you mean nagged untill you break our will & we do as you think is best . Thou you are correct on some points in there :P

Nevyn

To be happy.

Black Swan

To meet their needs located immediately above and below their belts.

pow wow

A lady in the street and a freak in the bed

/karaoke session

brianthebard

pseudonym1 wrote: »

Mmm At 1;20 early sunday morning - sex
All other times - sex.

I was actually thinking of something like this today majority of women want to meet "the 1" someone to spend rest lives with yada yada yada..
Majority of men want to live the life of Hugh Heffner.

I would've thought most men want to meet the one too? But then I've spent most of my life around girls/women, so never actually asked guys about this, so I don't know, maybe I'm wrong.

Thaedydal wrote: »

To be happy.

Definitely, but: what would make men happy?

Cmol

Mutual Respect, Honesty, Trust and Faithfulness

Is'nt that what everyone wants?

quinevere

Piste wrote: »

Men want sex but also want to be looked after.

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Have to agree their plus the mammy thing seems to apply to most men !!

pseudonym1

Yes but Brain you re unique People differ too much - what one may want another may not. There was a woeful play in Town hall recently called what men want - went to see it unfortunatly so bad didnt wait to find out the answer!

Galvasean

metrovelvet wrote: »

1. Control

2. A Mammy

3. Nookie on demand

Don't one and two kind of contradict each other? Also 3 shouldn't come into the same equation as mammy! :eek:

metrovelvet

Galvasean wrote: »

Don't one and two kind of contradict each other? Also 3 shouldn't come into the same equation as mammy! :eek:

People underestimate the complexity of men, imo, who have been given the PR spin of being simple, direct, creatures. Au contraire.

I assumed this question to be, not just what men want from women, but what men want from life itself.

brianthebard

Very persceptive metrovelvet-so what do we want from life?

af_thefragile

brianthebard wrote: »

I would've thought most men want to meet the one too? But then I've spent most of my life around girls/women, so never actually asked guys about this, so I don't know, maybe I'm wrong.

I'ld like to meet the one...
Actually i'ld prefer meeting the one than fooling around with someone i couldn't see a future with. Though i don't plan on getting married... ever... maybe!

brianthebard wrote: »

Definitely, but: what would make men happy?

sex, cars, PS3, chicks, sex, some money to spend on cool stuff, sex, some loving and caring, sex...

HOld on, why am i answering this!
Leave it for the ladies.....

Piste

I don't think men really want another mammy, they want to be looked after- so want the caring element of a mammy- but don't want the nagging and disapproval that comes with it.


Essentially they want to be looked after like their girlfriend was a mammy, but don't want to be told what to do.

LivingDeadGirl

Can't believe no one's said this already! A big rack! :P

af_thefragile

^I prefer a small one actually... Ya know like Kate Moss or the new bond girl.

Piste wrote: »

I don't think men really want another mammy, they want to be looked after- so want the caring element of a mammy- but don't want the nagging and disapproval that comes with it.


Essentially they want to be looked after like their girlfriend was a mammy, but don't want to be told what to do.

You got it quite right there.

I'ld say men want a girl whom they can let out all their "crap" to and who'll listen to them and understand them and support them when the rest of their world seems to be falling apart, give them the strength to stand up and walk tall...
hmm... yeah i could write a really cheesy song out of this...

Zaph

LivingDeadGirl wrote: »

Can't believe no one's said this already! A big rack! :P

GirlInterrupted

Piste wrote: »

I don't think men really want another mammy, they want to be looked after- so want the caring element of a mammy- but don't want the nagging and disapproval that comes with it.


Essentially they want to be looked after like their girlfriend was a mammy, but don't want to be told what to do.

I'm not so sure its another mum they want, but they do seem to like a caring nature, which I would assume is some deep seated preference for a possible mother of their children.

And who doesn't want to feel cared for and looked after? I think men get a lot of bad press for this.

In short I think men want mostly the same things as women. People want love, care, commitment and happiness together, although perhaps men and women want it at different stages in their lives.

brianthebard

You mean men come to that conclusion later in life, or something else? I think someone can recognise a need in themselves for care and affection and love at any stage in life, when they achieve it is a different thing.

metrovelvet

GirlInterrupted wrote: »

I'm not so sure its another mum they want, but they do seem to like a caring nature, which I would assume is some deep seated preference for a possible mother of their children.

And who doesn't want to feel cared for and looked after? I think men get a lot of bad press for this.

.

It depends on what people mean by looked after. There is a difference between someone who is there for you through the thick and thin and someone who does your laundry, sews your buttons, cooks for you, and cleans up after you.

Pol Pot

Do men really know what they want?
Pol Pot doesn't think so - he wants, he gets yet is somehow dissatisfied.

metrovelvet

^ yeah, I dont know if anyone knows what they want. But I do think men are the mysterious gender, even mysteries to themselves.

GirlInterrupted

brianthebard wrote: »

You mean men come to that conclusion later in life, or something else? I think someone can recognise a need in themselves for care and affection and love at any stage in life, when they achieve it is a different thing.

I just think the timing is everything, and sometimes girls are ready to know their needs earlier than men. I think some men only recognise what it is they need when they've exhausted their other options.

metrovelvet wrote: »

It depends on what people mean by looked after. There is a difference between someone who is there for you through the thick and thin and someone who does your laundry, sews your buttons, cooks for you, and cleans up after you.

Personally, I have no problem with the thick and thin, or doing the laundry, if I feel that I'm being given to in return. I'll happily sew on a button if someones done something for me of similar use.

I'm useless with computers, but good at cooking and I have no problem with playing to my talents if he plays to his, I'm not so hung up on gender stereotypes that it'll stop me from doing what I'm good at.

Dublin_Andy

GirlInterrupted wrote: »

I just think the timing is everything, and sometimes girls are ready to know their needs earlier than men. I think some men only recognise what it is they need when they've exhausted their other options.



Personally, I have no problem with the thick and thin, or doing the laundry, if I feel that I'm being given to in return. I'll happily sew on a button if someones done something for me of similar use.

I'm useless with computers, but good at cooking and I have no problem with playing to my talents if he plays to his, I'm not so hung up on gender stereotypes that it'll stop me from doing what I'm good at.

and what would you, as a woman want "given to in return" exactly? love, affection etc...

metrovelvet

brianthebard wrote: »

Very persceptive metrovelvet-so what do we want from life?

1. Money, success, legacy

2. Play - through sport, sex, violent films, video games, poker, whatever.

3. A lack of confinement of any sort [have discovered this through having a son and being around toddler boys alot - don't think much changes there in men].

4. Affection and independence, meaning being held with an open hand, having love tied to independence, hard to explain, but you get the gist I hope

I have no doubt there are exceptions among men to this list, but you asked for a generalisation, so I'm offerring one up.

jellie

What do men want? usually what they cant have..

oh & sex.

GirlInterrupted

Dublin_Andy wrote: »

and what would you, as a woman want "given to in return" exactly? love, affection etc...

When I say 'given to in return' in mean just that. Give and take, not one sidedness.

I think love and a affection should be the foundation, not some kind of transaction.

Piste

Men also seem to want a girl who is fun and talkative in private but is seen and not heard with their mates.


Unless this girl is a friend, in which case he;s perfectly happy to include her in conversation.

brianthebard

Personally would hope my partner would also be my friend?

SarcasticFairy

Think she means friends with the general group of mates...

pseudonym1

GirlInterrupted wrote: »

I just think the timing is everything, and sometimes girls are ready to know their needs earlier than men. I think some men only recognise what it is they need when they've exhausted their other options.



Personally, I have no problem with the thick and thin, or doing the laundry, if I feel that I'm being given to in return. I'll happily sew on a button if someones done something for me of similar use.

I'm useless with computers, but good at cooking and I have no problem with playing to my talents if he plays to his, I'm not so hung up on gender stereotypes that it'll stop me from doing what I'm good at.

Another post hits nail on head

Aisling(",)

with my friends ist seem they want

-sex
-mammy
-someone to cook
-giant boobs/bum/both

4zn76tysfajdxp

Aisling(",) wrote: »

with my friends ist seem they want

-sex
-mammy
-someone to cook
-giant boobs/bum/both

Your friends are silly.

Bob the Builder

Most men like partners as something to keep their penis in while there not using it on something more exciting. In addition, I also like women who don't complain about things like that.

oops, did I just say that out loud?

Aisling(",)

Nash Handsome Antenna wrote: »

Your friends are silly.

i know

thankfully they aint like this with their mates or id kill them

Dragan

I think perhaps women are confusing the issue far more so than men. "Men want this" , "well it seems to be me that men like so and so".

I hate to break it to people but you will base your strongest, most associated memories of "what men want" from two different sources. Fathers and boyfriends. It's just the way it goes. For blokes it's the vice versa with what women want.

The irony is that most of us will base our beliefs in what the opposite sex want off failed relationships with ex's who we never could have hoped to make things work with at the time because we just were not emotionally, mentally or spiritually developed enough to do so.

I mean, i think every one has missed the mark somewhat, or at least as my own individual entity who has his own wants no one came even close to describing what i want.

"Cared for?" , no thanks, i can look after myself very well thank you.
"A Mammy?" , i have one, she lives with my Dad. When we are in the same room we tend to have a laugh and make fun of each other, talk politics or religion or she will break type and tell me who died at home since i was there last.
"A lady in the streets but a freak in the bed?" , leave the rap genre stereotypes at home. The majority of people fail to stack up to my ideas of either but will shamelessly self promote themselves as one or the other.
"A girlfriend to be scene at not heard?", nope, that one only applies to the gaggle of kids people insist on pulling around after them where they go.
"Men don't know what they want"? You're close, some do, some don't, some will, some won't.

These threads are always epic failures from the start because there is no such thing as "what men want". Hate to break it to you, some men hate getting head, some men hate having sex, some men don't give a **** about football, or sports, or money, or whatever other pathetic stereotypes have become so easy for even men to throw around these days. There is no universal anything once you get further than the very basic aspects of living that Maslow showed us.

Individuality is the double edge sword of humanity because it is that same thing that will attract us and at the same time drive us apart.

Does nobody else see the complete irony of sitting there thinking you want to be your own, unique individual but you also want to be related to?

I think the closest anyone has come over this entire thread is the implication that men "want" one thing and "need" another and the vocalised expression of this will change depending on who is in the room, be they male or female.

But even that is based on the assumption that all men are somehow weak, unable to express their true feelings and emotions because we are afraid of how we will be viewed.

Please explain this "Mammy" idea?! How is that relevent to what men want?

Dragan

Deleted User wrote: »

Please explain this "Mammy" idea?! How is that relevent to what men want?

Because it is apparently "Irish Mammies" that are what is wrong with Irish Men in that we allow them to have too much control, care for us too much. If half the posts in here were to be believed we are all being dressed by our mothers and marched out the door by them to work in the mornings.

Basically the majority of women who plan on having a long term relationship with a man will misinterpret the natural hesitance of a mother to pass her childs happiness of to another women are being them being way to controlling.

You know when you meet a girlfriends father for the first time, you have a quick chat, you set down the rules and you shake hands and it all done?

Yeah, this is what happens with women. It basically becomes the mans fault. lol

The Sweeper

I think men want women to stop trying to be both partners in one relationship and then whinging about it.

pseudonym1

Good post fairly apt

Dragan wrote: »

The irony is that most of us will base our beliefs in what the opposite sex want off failed relationships with ex's who we never could have hoped to make things work with at the time because we just were not emotionally, mentally or spiritually developed enough to do so.


Especially this bit - never thought of it like that before

Hate to break it to you, some men hate getting head, some men hate having sex, some men don't give a **** about football, or sports, or money, or whatever other pathetic stereotypes have become so easy for even

Without intending for this to sound any way pervey - is this really true?!

I think the closest anyone has come over this entire thread is the implication that men "want" one thing and "need" another and the vocalised expression of this will change depending on who is in the room, be they male or female.

[B]Yep - Rolling Stones conveyed it best[/B]

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Deleted User wrote: »

Please explain this "Mammy" idea?! How is that relevent to what men want?

The first and most important bond formed with a women is with the mother - this has an impact on all relationships formed there after . Same is true of father and daughters. But more commonly placed with mother and son- guess its the biological thing.

Freud devised theorys about this. Am sure an aspiring philosopher/phsychologist will explain it better.

Dragan

pseudonym1 wrote: »

Without intending for this to sound any way pervey - is this really true?!

Yes. Personally i know 3 guys who dislike receiving head. I know a couple of guys who dislike sex. I know one who has never had sex and most likely never will because he doesn't want to.

pseudonym1

Dragan wrote: »

Yes. Personally i know 3 guys who dislike receiving head. I know a couple of guys who dislike sex. I know one who has never had sex and most likely never will because he doesn't want to.

Maybe they just weren't that into you??! :pac::D

Dragan

pseudonym1 wrote: »

Maybe they just weren't that into you??! :pac::D

At least they had the deceny to spare my feelings about it!!!