Is it just me getting old or does anyone else do this?

g'em

*N.B. It's Friday, it's a slow day, I know this a ridiculous thread but howandever :pac:*

So a new guy has just started where I work, and he's only gorgeous (brightened up my day no end I tell ya ).

But after we'd been introduced and shook hands I realised that after doing a mental *phwoar* the first thing I did was check his left hand to see if he had a band on his ring finger. Now, as it happens he was holding his coat so I couldn't see but I'm finding that this is something I nearly always do when I meet a bloke who piques my interest.

Is this something that other wimmin (and blokes!) do consciously or otherwise? Or is it just me getting old and coming to the horrible realisation that a lot of guys in their late twenties and thirties are sadly already off the market?

JaneyMc

If I'm perving at a guy who is slightly older, then the answer is yes, I always look.

Its ok, there was no ring under my coat, lunch today?! :cool::pac:


I can't say that i do it tbh. I know people who aren't even in relationships who wear rings on their wedding finger though.

Carturo

Yeah I do that too now when I meet a girl...does show our age alright!

stovelid

It's a sure sign of intermediate middle age. Advanced is when you can suss out a tan line where he has hastily removed the ring.

wasabi

I don't even bother looking these days, I have simply taken to assuming any vaguely attractive male in my general age group in Dublin is taken. Rarely am I proven wrong. Drat Dublin and its stupid 52:48 female:male ratio :mad:

Carturo

wasabi wrote: »

I don't even bother looking these days, I have simply taken to assuming any vaguely attractive male in my general age group in Dublin is taken. Rarely am I proven wrong. Drat Dublin and its stupid 52:48 female:male ratio :mad:

I'm awesome! And available! :pac:

homerun_homer

I only do it if the girl is of a certain age, i.e. not younger than me. Otherwise I always try see if there is a ring. there is a nice looking girl in work who hasn't one and when I sussed out from someone it turned out she was married so it doesn't always be a sure indicator.

Dragan

g'em, you sure you are not checking for some calluses?:D

Carturo

homerun_homer wrote: »

I only do it if the girl is of a certain age, i.e. not younger than me. Otherwise I always try see if there is a ring. there is a nice looking girl in work who hasn't one and when I sussed out from someone it turned out she was married so it doesn't always be a sure indicator.

Kinda weird for a woman not to be wearing a ring...

Shelbo

Take a look & see if he has a ring but even if he does have a chat because you never know his many similar type friends may not have rings yet and he may be good for introductions!

I myself never look for a ring as I feel it's worth talking to people anyway - even if there's nothing at the end of the night you could just have enjoyed having a chat with someone.

g'em

Dragan wrote: »

g'em, you sure you are not checking for some calluses?:D

LOL, nah, they're too hard to spot with just a glance. Besides, that's usually ascertained in the handshake

wasabi

g'em wrote: »

LOL, nah, they're too hard to spot with just a glance. Besides, that's usually ascertained in the handshake

Yeah, you can't miss a good set of calluses. Nyom

little lady

Ye, I'd always check the ring finger and it's quite depressing that all the cute ones are taken.

wasabi

Carturo wrote: »

I'm awesome! And available! :pac:

Hurrah! Hope yet lives

homerun_homer

Carturo wrote: »

Kinda weird for a woman not to be wearing a ring...

I know. My dad doesn't wear a ring but he says it's cause he broke his finger too many times playing hurling. I think as a result it's ingrained into my head that I wouldn't want to wear a ring. Just not a blingy person.

I only look cause it's nice to think you could go chat up that person if the opportunity arose.

Carturo

wasabi wrote: »

Hurrah! Hope yet lives

Ah there's always plenty of that to go around!

nkay1985

Carturo wrote: »

Kinda weird for a woman not to be wearing a ring...

Quite a number of people have a fear of rings so this could be it. I know someone who fitted on a wedding ring and completely freaked out - which obviously resulted in him trying to hard to pull it off, which resulted in it getting stuck, which resulted in him getting even more freaked out, which resulted in.......you get the picture.

homerun_homer

little lady wrote: »

Ye, I'd always check the ring finger and it's quite depressing that all the cute ones are taken.

Yuo should go flirt with the lads of the ladies lounge so:D

wasabi

nkay1985 wrote: »

Quite a number of people have a fear of rings so this could be it. I know someone who fitted on a wedding ring and completely freaked out - which obviously resulted in him trying to hard to pull it off, which resulted in it getting stuck, which resulted in him getting even more freaked out, which resulted in.......you get the picture.

I hate wearing jewelry of any description really and rings are one of the worst IMO, you're conscious of them the whole time because you're constantly doing things with your hands. Wouldn't wear one even in the unlikely event of being married :pac:

shellyboo

g'em wrote: »

Is this something that other wimmin (and blokes!) do consciously or otherwise? Or is it just me getting old and coming to the horrible realisation that a lot of guys in their late twenties and thirties are sadly already off the market?

I recently noticed myself doing this with cute blokes! I think it IS a side-effect of ongoing singleton status, especially as I slide slowly into my (gulp) late 20's

wasabi wrote: »

I don't even bother looking these days, I have simply taken to assuming any vaguely attractive male in my general age group in Dublin is taken. Rarely am I proven wrong. Drat Dublin and its stupid 52:48 female:male ratio :mad:

However, this is also a good point.

Men don't get married in my social circle....so I look for a lack of ironmarks on the wrangler jeans to indicate a deaely departed Mammie

Honestly it usually takes the production of the baby for me realise anyone was up the duff. Rings are far too subtle a hint for me.

Rozabeez

Pfft, I'm amongst the youngest here and do that every now and then, only with older men... and I'm uh...checking for my mother ¬_¬

Cathmandooo

I don't do it because

a) I don't have the best eyesight and would probably linger too long on looking at the finger and get caught. Actually he'd probably think I was having a stare at the crotch but that's a different thread

b) It never means he's not married if he's not wearing one. A lot of married men I know don't like to wear them.

Dlite

Yep I do that too, look for the ring or the tan line:D

Malari

It's one of those things I usually notice on people without trying. Although I wear rings on my wedding finger all the time because they fit there, not because I'm engaged or married, so I know it doesn't always mean anything :pac: Keep getting told it's bad luck.

John Mason

i always check for the wedding ring but that isnt alway a clear indicator and tbh neither is asking them directly :rolleyes:

Galvasean

wasabi wrote: »

Drat Dublin and its stupid 52:48 female:male ratio :mad:

Really? Crap, no Ive no excuse :pac:

wasabi

Galvasean wrote: »

Really? Crap, no Ive no excuse :pac:

Check your sig :pac:

Galvasean

wasabi wrote: »

Check your sig :pac:

There's nothin' wrong with that..

dontcallmecrazy

i find wedding rings on men a massive turn on, crazy loves a challenge, well crazy used to love a callenge...im now happily of the meat market...phew

Galvasean

dontcallmecrazy wrote: »

i find wedding rings on men a massive turn on, crazy loves a challenge,

To put it mildly, you are a monster.

Carturo

dontcallmecrazy wrote: »

i find wedding rings on men a massive turn on, crazy loves a challenge, well crazy used to love a callenge...im now happily of the meat market...phew

Name for tramps women like you.

g'em

Lads, that's enough, please.

dontcallmecrazy

feck of i meant it light heartedly.. i just think it looks sexy

Nevyn

Never have, some of the people I know who are in the most committed realtionships either are not married or do not wear a ring.

hiscan

stovelid wrote: »

It's a sure sign of intermediate middle age. Advanced is when you can suss out a tan line where he has hastily removed the ring.

i work in construction so i dont wear mine during the week

g'em

dontcallmecrazy wrote: »

feck of i meant it light heartedly.. i just think it looks sexy

A little civility towards other posters wouldn't go astray either, you were flaming, you courted those responses.

And in other news, I just did it again, and had to stop myself from lol'ing at the poor delivery guy

ntlbell

I do it without fail, I noticed it when it when I was about 25.

It doesn't make much difference if I find them attractive or not my eyes just wander to their hand.

I think it's a very natural thing to do..

ntlbell

hiscan wrote: »

i work in construction so i dont wear mine during the week

or stag weekends

Carturo

g'em wrote: »

A little civility towards other posters wouldn't go astray either, you were flaming, you courted those responses.

And in other news, I just did it again, and had to stop myself from lol'ing at the poor delivery guy

Horndog :pac:

dontcallmecrazy

my bad... apologies everyone.

g'em

Carturo wrote: »

Horndog

Completely. I'm newly single though and have only just rediscovered the joys of 'looking' so now I'm making the most of it

Carturo

g'em wrote: »

Completely. I'm newly single though and have only just rediscovered the joys of 'looking' so now I'm making the most of it

Me too!! I'm having so much fun!!

ntlbell

g'em wrote: »

Completely. I'm newly single though and have only just rediscovered the joys of 'looking' so now I'm making the most of it

Did you not do it when you were "attached"

I do it all the time.

I'm a bad bad boy.

Galvasean

dontcallmecrazy wrote: »

i meant it light heartedly..

So did I.

g'em

ntlbell wrote: »

Did you not do it when you were "attached"

I didn't tbh, and when I'm happy in a relationship I tend not to. But I really don't see it as an inherently bad thing to go "window shopping" when you're attached as long as you don't act on it. Oh, and preferably not when you're in the company of your other half either - a little subtlety is definitely required

Gary ITR

I have found myself doing this only recently. I'm single now for the first time since I was 21... Now I'm approaching 25 and the whole 'dating' thing is totally different and alien to me.... I'm learnig fast though

Carturo

Onkle wrote: »

I have found myself doing this only recently. I'm single now for the first time since I was 21... Now I'm approaching 25 and the whole 'dating' thing is totally different and alien to me.... I'm learnig fast though

Just have fun with it...anything else is a bonus.

dontcallmecrazy

Galvasean wrote: »

So did I.

ok so i'm back in the good books then???

g'em

g'em wrote: »

Completely. I'm newly single though and have only just rediscovered the joys of 'looking' so now I'm making the most of it

This happened to me when I got over thee ex.
Sweet mother of the lord why did this pastime never occur to me before!
All those wasted years! ~facepalm~