Faking it

NewFrockTuesday

Hi Ladies,

I dont know if the subject has been covered before, but I thought Id cast the net around for a few opinions ....just to see. Ive a housemate at the moment doing a "Debbie Does Dallas" on it everynight for the last few months and I've had to ask her to leave the house on account of that and one or two other things. She sounds like the cafe scene in when Harry met Sally and the first night it happenned, my other house mate and I ended up sitting down in our kitchen through pure mortification - drinking Ribena and making small talk (well, gossipping madly about hte noises of her if Im honest! )

Its gotten to the point where we/I cant take anymore - Old housemate moved out and new one is goggle eyed at her antics. But it started me wondering how many of us ladies are winding him (past or present) up that we are actually having a ....fantastic time.....but are actually just preserving his ego and lying there wishing it was over? Or are you now in the best ever relationship sexually and are astounded to find that you had been faking it a bit ...or ....you get the picture.

In short...

...Have you faked it?

Zulu

I have, plently, and I'm a guy.

Although I'll stress that that was in the distant past.

shellyboo

I have, on a very few number of occasions. It was a situation where I was with a new partner and not due to his lack of prowess in bed - the opposite in fact! He'd already got me there by non-penetrative means and it was clear that he was wasn't giving up until I got there again... which rarely, if ever, happens for me. It was just easier to fake than to stop proceedings and explain the intimate workings of my area to him.

I would never fake if a guy was just bad in bed. That's just inexcusable.

Dragan

Personally i think the whole finishing it up thing just to preserve his ego is a bit stupid.

Also, how many women think that every man they had sex with had a great time? All of them? Unlikely.

Maybe trying being honest and open about sex, see where that gets folks.

g'em

When I was younger, and didn't know any better/ hadn't the confidence to ask for what I wanted, yes I did.

It's not something I'm particularly proud of, and I can hand-on-heart say that it's not something I'd ever do now, but I guess I was so worried that my partner would feel like they were under performing or I would seem like a failure in the sack or when the 'movie-style sex' didn't happen from the get-go, I made pretend. My God, bit of a thick eejit, wasn't I

Gary ITR

Zulu wrote: »

I have, plently, and I'm a guy.

Although I'll stress that that was in the distant past.

Me too.
Was taking meds that gave me well.... Longevity and the girl I was with at the time wouldn't believe me that it was down to the meds and not down to her.

Ginny

g'em wrote: »

When I was younger, and didn't know any better/ hadn't the confidence to ask for what I wanted, yes I did.

It's not something I'm particularly proud of, and I can hand-on-heart say that it's not something I'd ever do now, but I guess I was so worried that my partner would feel like they were under performing or I would seem like a failure in the sack or when the 'movie-style sex' didn't happen from the get-go, I made pretend. My God, bit of a thick eejit, wasn't I

I think most girls/women were when we were younger...:D

Honestly I don't see why people would fake it once they've matured and copped onto what sex is really about, its just doing both people involved a disservice.

Da Bounca

Q: Why do women fake it?


A: Because they think men care.

Wibbs

Zulu wrote: »

I have, plently, and I'm a guy.

Although I'll stress that that was in the distant past.

Me three.

It always amuses me when lads say they fake it. I've been sexually active around 6 or 7 years now and Ive never ever faked it! I've had times where I didnt finish but I wouldn't even be arsed faking it! At least girls can easily get away with it.

I find the good way to tell is in their body movements, and also that "ooooohhoooo" noise that eddie Murphy refers to in his "RAW" show. Thats always a sign she wasnt faking it!

Out of curiousity to the lads, why did u fake it?! i can understand girls doing it, I really can, but not lads! Especially since an empty condom is a slight giveaway!

Galvasean

Fakers are only fooling themselves.

Wibbs

I've faked it as a guy, probably for the same reasons as women do. I was bored or tired or just not getting there. Sometimes it was the woman being not so good technique wise, mostly it was me just not being into it. BTW a condom makes it so easy to fake. They're hardly checking it out afterward.:)

shellyboo

Wibbs wrote: »

I've faked it as a guy, probably for the same reasons as women do. I was bored or tired or just not getting there. Sometimes it was the woman being not so good technique wise, mostly it was me just not being into it. BTW a condom makes it so easy to fake. They're hardly checking it out afterward.:)

I bloody well would be if I thought my fella was faking on me

Zulu

yea, but how whould you know he was faking?

Wibbs

Wibbs wrote: »

I've faked it as a guy, probably for the same reasons as women do. I was bored or tired or just not getting there. Sometimes it was the woman being not so good technique wise, mostly it was me just not being into it. BTW a condom makes it so easy to fake. They're hardly checking it out afterward.:)

LOL. I just stop and say I'm tired!! :pac: Honesty is the best policy! :P

Zulu

Zulu wrote: »

yea, but how whould you know he was faking?

Just thinkin from a dudes perspective here, Im at my hardest right before i finish, its physically throbbing. Sorry for bein graphic but that's basically why i can;t see a guy faking it working. Im pretty sure when it's like that then the girl can feel that too. Surely a climax in the absense of this would be slightly suspicious no?

DubArk

shellyboo wrote: »

I bloody well would be if I thought my fella was faking on me

Well it takes all sorts!!

Givus a look luv! :eek:

shellyboo

Zulu wrote: »

yea, but how whould you know he was faking?

Well, without getting too oversharesies, it wouldn't feel the same - and I would just be able to tell. If he was a regular partner, I'd be able to tell.

Deleted User wrote: »

LOL. I just stop and say I'm tired!! :pac: Honesty is the best policy! :P

Definitely. I'd never hold it against a bloke if he was tired or just couldn't get there. I'd offer to do whatever I could to "help" (ahem) and beyond that just be understanding.

Clare Bear

I've faked it with all of them bar two (boyfriend of 3 years and current boyfriend), the rest I faked. Not that there were that many lol

Ah it was just easier at the time and I usually wanted to go to sleep!

I've come to the conclusion that I need to be in love to actually get anywhere.

A friend of mine has been with her boyfriend for 7 years and recently told me she's faked it every time, that she has never (her words) "y'know" After 7 years with him! They're getting married next year. She said it doesn't matter as much as other aspects of the relationship to her. Fair enough but I don't think he'd be too happy if he found out.

Wibbs

Deleted User wrote: »

LOL. I just stop and say I'm tired!! :pac: Honesty is the best policy! :P

Maybe. Well yes if it was a regular partner and we were loved up and such. randomer? Not so much. You do not want the "is it me" conversation.

shellyboo wrote:

Well, without getting too oversharesies, it wouldn't feel the same - and I would just be able to tell. If he was a regular partner, I'd be able to tell.

Which is pretty much what every guy who has had a woman fake on him would say. :)

John Mason

No, i dont lie

shellyboo

Wibbs wrote: »

Which is pretty much what every guy who has had a woman fake on him would say. :)

I'd actually be really offended if a long-term partner wasn't able to tell the difference with me. It's just something you learn.

Wibbs

Clare Bear wrote: »

I've come to the conclusion that I need to be in love to actually get anywhere.

Actually, even as a bloke, I would be similar. OK I can "get there" but it's mechanical more than anything. The real deal? yep need to be in love or have a connection with the person. It can be a compatibility thing too. An ex of mine rarely did with me. The next guy? Fireworks every time apparently. I've been the "next guy" too.

While we're here then, any good tells that she's faking it girls?!

Dragan

Personally I would be pretty upset if I found out that a partner had been faking. It's not an ego thing, or anything else, I simply value open communication within a relationship and the person I am sleeping with enjoying the experience is important to me. It is something that you do together, share with each other and explore with each other afterall. If you are of an adult age and unable to talk about sex in your relationship, your likes and dislikes, what really gets you off etc then ( imho ) you need to have a think about things.

I also think ( and I am sure I will get some heat over this, but hey ) that it would actually be pretty hard to fake…well, with me anyway. There are way too many tells that you simply cannot control that are indicators of the physical act of the body experiencing orgasm.

In short, if a guy is easily fooled it's probably because he didn't care that much anyway.

shellyboo

Deleted User wrote: »

While we're here then, any good tells that she's faking it girls?!

Excessive, porno-style noisemaking - unless that's what she normally does! The best tell that she's NOT faking is that red, flushed chest and face look.

Piste

Yeah seems pretty dishonest to me. I'd never do it cos I'd only feel bad about it and tell the guy I was with out of guilt, making him feel bad.

solace

Dragan wrote: »

Personally I would be pretty upset if I found out that a partner had been faking. It's not an ego thing, or anything else, I simply value open communication within a relationship and the person I am sleeping with enjoying the experience is important to me. It is something that you do together, share with each other and explore with each other afterall. If you are of an adult age and unable to talk about sex in your relationship, your likes and dislikes, what really gets you off etc then ( imho ) you need to have a think about things.

I also think ( and I am sure I will get some heat over this, but hey ) that it would actually be pretty hard to fake…well, with me anyway. There are way too many tells that you simply cannot control that are indicators of the physical act of the body experiencing orgasm.

In short, if a guy is easily fooled it's probably because he didn't care that much anyway.

I totally agree. I'm with my girlfriend just over a year now and I reckon it'd be pretty obvious if she was faking. I've never faked it, I've never had to. On the not so frequent occasions where it doesn't happen, I'm honest. More than likely, it's because I'm wrecked or pissed. I don't think I'd be able to keep a straight face anyway! It would feel so contrived (obviously!) and my girlfriend's way too smart... Plus, she knows me. Like Dragan said, it all comes down to openness and honesty in the relationship.

LivingDeadGirl

I'm shocked at the number of people who've said yes, sex doesn't have to end in orgasm every time, if it's just not happening then it's just not happening, big deal! Your partner is hardly going to be up all night crying about it(at least I sincerely hope not :P), so why lie?

NewFrockTuesday

Woah...hang on...whats this about guys faking it?? No way! Really? :eek:

So now both sides can fake equally?

Theres that thin line gone. Roll out the robots. We're doomed.

Smurfpiss

Ah i'd never fake it.
It gets all over the sheets.








*Wait we're not talking about tans are we....

shellyboo

shellyboo wrote: »

Excessive, porno-style noisemaking - unless that's what she normally does! The best tell that she's NOT faking is that red, flushed chest and face look.

Jesus i hate that! Seems put on to me! no im pretty safe with that description in mind!


I completely agree with Dragan, I get as much out of knowing she's happy and enjoying herself and satisfied, as I do out of just getting mine. It's very important to my enjoyment of it.

It's just my personality in general. I care a lot about people. I wouldn't enjoy a night out with the lads if they were all havin a sh1t night.

mirwillbeback

Deleted User wrote: »

It always amuses me when lads say they fake it. I've been sexually active around 6 or 7 years now and Ive never ever faked it! I've had times where I didnt finish but I wouldn't even be arsed faking it! At least girls can easily get away with it.

I find the good way to tell is in their body movements, and also that "ooooohhoooo" noise that eddie Murphy refers to in his "RAW" show. Thats always a sign she wasnt faking it!

Out of curiousity to the lads, why did u fake it?! i can understand girls doing it, I really can, but not lads! Especially since an empty condom is a slight giveaway!

You are training longer than you're ridin' ? Are they related?

mirwillbeback

mirwillbeback wrote: »

You are training longer than you're ridin' ? Are they related?

I've only been trainin just over 5 years Bish! I'm a little behind!!

BKtje

I've never faked it but i've also never "finished". Just because i didn't finish doesn't mean that i didn't enjoy it though. Besides i'd just feel wrong if i did and would probably cheapen the whole thing for me, but can't say for certain since i've never faked it.

Interesting replies so far i must say.

B-K-DzR

B-K-DzR wrote: »

I've never faked it but i've also never "finished". Just because i didn't finish doesn't mean that i didn't enjoy it though. Besides i'd just feel wrong if i did and would probably cheapen the whole thing for me, but can't say for certain since i've never faked it.

Interesting replies so far i must say.

are you male of female?

solace

To whoever posted about the porno noises... biggest turn off ever. If a girl starts ooohing and aaaahing after a kiss on the neck, you can only imagine how ludicrous it's going to get. Saying that, I'm sure SOME girls are genuinely that loud, but it just sounds so unconvincing!

It's like that ****ing scene from 40 Days 40 Nights (something like that) with the rose petal... christ...

Dragan

solace wrote: »

To whoever posted about the porno noises... biggest turn off ever.

Personally i love it! ha ha ha Then again,i can get a bit loud myself at times.

Bite/claw marks ftw!

minxie

whats wrong with a bit of "roaring"
isnt it about having a good time.....:pac::pac:
bring it on i say hee, hee:p

shellyboo

solace wrote: »

To whoever posted about the porno noises... biggest turn off ever. If a girl starts ooohing and aaaahing after a kiss on the neck, you can only imagine how ludicrous it's going to get. Saying that, I'm sure SOME girls are genuinely that loud, but it just sounds so unconvincing!

*grins*

Dragan wrote: »

Bite/claw marks ftw!

As long as they're in discreet places...

solace

Dragan wrote: »

Personally i love it! ha ha ha Then again,i can get a bit loud myself at times.

Bite/claw marks ftw!

Bite marks/scratches I have absolutely no problem with, quite the turn on. Maybe because it's passion-filled physical contact... Bree Olsen-esque wailing... no no no.

Edit: I'm not saying loud is bad. I'm saying loud after three seconds, touch of a finger nail lark is bad!

Dragan

Dragan wrote: »

Bite/claw marks ftw!

Porno noises when overdone are bad IMO. Natural moaning and heavy breathing now is great because you know it's natural.


Now scratch and bite marks, oh yes please. My back is currently marked with fingernail marks! :eek:

Dragan

I think we can all agree that once a sign of appreciation is real and genuine, and not faked ( there's that word again ) then it's all good!

Reku

Sideshow Bob: Bart, I must know. How did you untangle my web?
Wiggum: Yeah, Bart, pull us in!
Bart: Well, I'd hate to tell the number one cop in town how to do his job.
Wiggum: No no, please. It's the only way I'll learn.

Seriously ladies, be honest, not brutal, but honest, or we'll never learn.

If it helps any; remember that you're doing us a favour since it won't be for being crap in bed that you decide to call it a day, or you could even be helping us with the next girl we get this far with.

BKtje

are you male of female?

Male, but after re-reading my post i realise i said something which i didn't mean. Instead of cheapen i meant dishonest, no idea where i got cheapen from.

never have, no point


note, that's not to say there's never been a need - i'd just rather say it ain't working than lie

Galvasean

I remember having to stop and tell a partner, "Will you please stop that. it demeans us both."

kraggy

I'm a guy and I have, but don't make a habit of it. It was just with one person. There were reasons.

Wouldn't see a reason for it normally.

Galvasean

Galvasean wrote: »

I remember having to stop and tell a partner, "Will you please stop that. it demeans us both."

LOL

sam34

lol, i just assumed every female and most males did this!

i've been guilty of it on a one night stand when i knew it just wasnt going to happen, and the guy was gonna keep trying until it did.

i was going out with this fella once who was all about the orgasm, couldnt see beyond it. every time we had sex it was "how good was that one...better than the last one or worse?", all that kind of crap. he wouldnt stop until i had cum at least once. i used sometimes fake it when i was tired, just so i could get some sleep.

not a good sign in a relationship, though

Galvasean

sam34 wrote: »

i was going out with this fella once who was all about the orgasm, couldnt see beyond it. every time we had sex it was "how good was that one...better than the last one or worse?", all that kind of crap. he wouldnt stop until i had cum at least once. i used sometimes fake it when i was tired, just so i could get some sleep.

Can i just take a moment to point out that if a guy ever asks if you 'got there' never EVER say "almost". It will wreck his head. :mad: