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First Date - Advice Needed!

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    #32
    metrovelvet
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,376 ✭✭✭metrovelvet


    Reframe it. It was rehearsal.


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    #33
    Zaph
    Registered Users, Subscribers Posts: 47,279 ✭✭✭✭Zaph


    smiler26 wrote: »
    Well, I called him and he said he wasn't looking for anything serious, and that he thought I was lovely, but has realised he doesn't want to be with anyone at the moment.

    Gutted :(

    That's a bummer, sorry to hear that, but as has been said, at least you're not hanging around waiting to find out if he's interested in you. Better luck next time.







    Last time I'm giving out advice around here!


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    #34
    GirlInterrupted
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,440 ✭✭✭GirlInterrupted


    smiler26 wrote: »
    Well, I called him and he said he wasn't looking for anything serious, and that he thought I was lovely, but has realised he doesn't want to be with anyone at the moment.

    Gutted :(

    Ah, I'm sorry Smiler.


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    #35
    b3t4
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,325 ✭✭✭b3t4


    I agree with metrovelvet. Rather than concentrate on the negative, highlight the positive. A date is a step in the right direction towards finding that elusive guy :) The only way is up (hmm I now have that song in my head baaah!)

    A.


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    #36
    SarahSassy
    Registered Users Posts: 3,145 ✭✭✭SarahSassy


    Ahh Smiler, thats a shame (for him :) ). Anyway, it was a ''practice'' date and you will be that much less nervous for your next first date.


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    #37
    LolaDub
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,181 ✭✭✭LolaDub


    Smiler you have no idea how much i envy you now. I really wish nearly every man i've dated had said that to me instead of dragging me along their rollercoaster of weirdness/psychoticness/beastiality/cheating/abusive/controlling natures/allergy to showers/dungeons and dragons etc. At times like this you should read the worst dates thread and see what you've escaped! ;)


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    #38
    shellyboo
    Registered Users Posts: 5,883 ✭✭✭shellyboo


    Lol, bestiality. I really hope that was a joke Lola... for your sake!

    Smiler, that's crap. I'd like to give him an auld smack for you. But better for him to tell you upfront, I guess.


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    #39
    kingtut
    Registered Users Posts: 6,487 ✭✭✭kingtut


    smiler26 wrote: »
    Well, I called him and he said he wasn't looking for anything serious, and that he thought I was lovely, but has realised he doesn't want to be with anyone at the moment.

    Gutted :(

    aww I'm sorry to hear that :( but hey at least you found out right at the beginning before your feelings for him got even stronger...

    Sure there are plenty of nice men out there so go find your one who will impress you even more than him and hopefully he will be up for a relationship. Best of luck!!! :) *hugs*


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    #40
    Latchy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 21,191 ✭✭✭✭Latchy


    Another dead romance ............over before it even began :(


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    #41
    Poloman
    Registered Users Posts: 208 ✭✭Poloman


    Just from a mans point of view:

    Your better off you found out now than later and it was good practice.

    As for what to wear: We dont care. Seriously. We get nervous too and we go on a date as we like you and are already attracted to you so dont worry about what to wear. We already think you look good


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    #42
    She Devil
    Registered Users Posts: 9,032 ✭✭✭She Devil


    Aww what a turnaround thread :( ... you are wasted on that guy hun, the effort will be worth it the next time xxx


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    #43
    smiler26
    Closed Accounts Posts: 169 ✭✭smiler26


    Thanks again everyone. I'm so amazed and chuffed with how nice everyone here is. TLL rocks!

    The good thing is that it actually boosted my confidence a lot (despite the ultimate rejection). Believe it or not, I feel like it's a good thing. And the weird thing is I got asked out by someone in work on Wednesday (I said no (kindly) though, as he wasn't my type).

    I think it just proves to me that it's all about having self-esteem. I think I was after turning into a proper hard ass career girl. So lesson learned, and hopefully I'll find someone else soon.

    But seriously though, thanks girls (and boys). For someone who doesnt post here a lot, I was totally touched!


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    #44
    JackieO
    Registered Users Posts: 334 ✭✭JackieO


    Just started reading this thread and thought it was going to turn into a lovely happy ending story. Unfortunately that wasn't to be the case. But, as others have said, thats his loss. It wasn't meant to be and he is to be commended for being totally upfront and not trying to string you along. I think that was probably somewhat helped by the fact that you called him and he had to think/act fast. In some ways text messages are a curse I think.

    NOW, onto your next practice session Smiler. Nothing like a successful date to lift your spirits and your self-confidence. I mean even if it didn't go anywhere it could still be considered a successful date and its all part of the fun of trying to find that someone special. Makes them all the more precious when you do actually find them!!


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    #45
    LolaDub
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,181 ✭✭✭LolaDub


    shellyboo wrote: »
    Lol, bestiality. I really hope that was a joke Lola... for your sake!

    Smiler, that's crap. I'd like to give him an auld smack for you. But better for him to tell you upfront, I guess.

    Not something i partook in, read manukahoneys worst date thread and you'll see!

    Smiler, you should read it too, since what could have been with this one, hopefully you'll feel better!


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