What makes a kiss?

brianthebard

Just musing this morning and the question popped into my head-what makes a kiss special/wonderful/exciting/your adjective here?
Now I know many of you will immediately say the person you are with, but you can have crap kisses with a person you like, so there has to be more to it than that? What are the ladies thoughts on what makes a kiss wonderful?

Bendihorse

Soft full moist lips with just the right amount of pressure. Lots of little smooches with smiles and eye contact inbetween. Gentle sucking on upper and lower lips inerspersed with some tongue. Touching of face/neck with fingers, rubbing noses and some more eye contact... All done with a slight sense of urgencey and longing about the whole thing

Its hard to describe really now after reading back on that...

I prefer that to full on lip locking and tonsil hockey for 10 mins. Theres a time and a place for that too, but here im just talking about what makes a nice kiss a nice kiss.

LolaDub

I think romance makes the kiss. Too often i find people see a kiss as the start of some bed action and its tongues rammed down your throat and hands going on the move while you're distracted which ends up distracting you from the kiss and personally i find quite off putting. Whats wrong with a kiss just being a kiss these days?

I want details on the story behind the question before I'll give my insight.

Dave147

Bendihorse wrote: »

Soft full moist lips with just the right amount of pressure. Lots of little smooches with smiles and eye contact inbetween. Gentle sucking on upper and lower lips inerspersed with some tongue. Touching of face/neck with fingers, rubbing noses and some more eye contact... All done with a slight sense of urgencey and longing about the whole thing

Its hard to describe really now after reading back on that...

I prefer that to full on lip locking and tonsil hockey for 10 mins. Theres a time and a place for that too, but here im just talking about what makes a nice kiss a nice kiss.

What are you doing tonight? :P

I like lots of small kisses too followed by one really long one.

brianthebard

LolaDub wrote: »

I think romance makes the kiss. Too often i find people see a kiss as the start of some bed action and its tongues rammed down your throat and hands going on the move while you're distracted which ends up distracting you from the kiss and personally i find quite off putting. Whats wrong with a kiss just being a kiss these days?

Very true I think its really nice when a kiss is just for its own sake

Moonbaby wrote: »

I want details on the story behind the question before I'll give my insight.

Lack of contact with the outside world for a long period of time?

chickenhawk

The back of your hand doesn't count brian!

Dragan

I was kissed on the cheek a couple of months ago and it went through me like lightning.

For me, it will always be the person.

Bendihorse

Its always the person alright, but the actual act of kissing comes into it too. I kissed a guy once before who i was in love with for ages, the kiss came after a year of will i wont i... It wasn't as electric as i had hoped purely because the kiss itself wasn't great. No slight on him either, think he was nervous at the time...

Equally though, a great kiss with someone you dont have any interest is never as good, hence me saying a great kiss requires a sense of urgency and longing.

Im just saying, while the person is paramount, the kiss is important too.

Ah god i love kissing...

Curvy Vixen

The anticipation!

Bendihorse got the actual description pretty much nailed!

I really don't need to be gagged with a tongue being rammed down my neck.

Oh and for some reason being in between your man and a wall/bus shelter/corner is great too...

A good kiss/kisser is almost as good as the main course for me!

Going for a cold shower now!

Person is important for me too.
I have trust issues when it comes to kissing.
Yes I am a weirdo.

*Dallas

personally its a combination of passion and the person.

no matter if its a small peck or full on snog i get the same great feelin from kissing my oh.. god i hate being soppy

Futurecrook

Bendihorse really nailed it there. And while it does depend on the person too, Ive had amazing kisses with guys I havent been intereseted and awful kisses with guys I have really liked... typical. :P

Sometimes the situation adds to how good/romantic the kiss is too. Like being kissed in the rain. *sigh*

Dragan

I don't know, whenever i have really liked someone they have always turned out to be a good kisser.

Then again, i maintain there are certain characterisitics i am attracted to that lead themselves to certain other, more physical qualities....such as being a good kisser.

I also believe that a bad kisser = a bad lay.

Nevyn

Dragan wrote: »

I also believe that a bad kisser = a bad lay.

+1

Millie

I want to be kissed right now after reading this!
Ooooh how I miss kissing.
A guy I used to flirt around with now and again and eventually got together with one night was a fantastic kisser.
I can't really explain it but we just connected perfectly.
God damn him for moving to the USA.

Bendihorse

Oh and when he kisses you the way i said above, pauses for a moment with your face in his hands, looks into your eyes and drinks you all in, smiles... then kisses you again *Swoon*

Dragan

Dragan wrote: »

I don't know, whenever i have really liked someone they have always turned out to be a good kisser.

Then again, i maintain there are certain characterisitics i am attracted to that lead themselves to certain other, more physical qualities....such as being a good kisser.

I also believe that a bad kisser = a bad lay.

Elaborate on these characteristics?

I don't know about the assumed connection, you can be a bad kisser because of what nature has given you, or etiqette, or poor hygenie.
Things that might not neccessarily impact the other.

Dragan

Moonbaby wrote: »

Elaborate on these characteristics?

I don't know about the assumed connection, you can be a bad kisser because of what nature has given you, or etiqette, or poor hygenie.
Things that might not neccessarily impact the other.

I don't know, i think there are those who value a kiss and there are those who don't. Me, i'm a big fan of contact in general, kissing especially.

I kiss people that i want to kiss, not because i want A kiss.

If you value a kiss, then you will make sure that kiss is a good one.

As an example, an ex of mine ended up telling me that after we first kissed, when she said she needed to go to the bathroom, she went and rang her friend and told her she had just been kissed in a way she had never been kissed before. She described it as being "incredible, like you really wanted to kiss me".

Eh, of course i did, thats why i kissed her.

I think a lot of people just see kissing as being almost a prelude, a test to see if it will go anywhere else....so they don't put a huge amount of effort into it. Kiss this person, no further come on then go and kiss someone else.

Me? When i kiss i aim to make your toes curl.

She Devil

And not always is a good kisser a good lay!

I love kissing ... a perfect day for me would be under the duvet kissing all day long!

mental07

Bendihorse wrote: »

Oh and when he kisses you the way i said above, pauses for a moment with your face in his hands, looks into your eyes and drinks you all in, smiles... then kisses you again *Swoon*

Ah, sigh.

Piste

A kiss where there's never the expectation of something more. Sure it can lead to more, but I can always tell if a kiss is just a means to an end.

Red Hand

brianthebard wrote: »

Just musing this morning and the question popped into my head-what makes a kiss special/wonderful/exciting/your adjective here?
Now I know many of you will immediately say the person you are with, but you can have crap kisses with a person you like, so there has to be more to it than that? What are the ladies thoughts on what makes a kiss wonderful?

I think they are exciting cause there are no other band like them in the world....the image, the sound, the tongue waggling.

MJOR

Dragan wrote: »

I don't know, whenever i have really liked someone they have always turned out to be a good kisser.

Then again, i maintain there are certain characterisitics i am attracted to that lead themselves to certain other, more physical qualities....such as being a good kisser.

I also believe that a bad kisser = a bad lay.

That is soooo true.. I was going out with a guy that kissed like a jack hammer..... and you guessed it:o


I like it when my OH holds my face gently too. I like slow and sensual kisses with just the right amount of tongue.


Nothing worse than they sensation of someone "tonguing" you it makes me feel quesy

line_of_fire

a great kiss comes with chemistry and a longing for it! I agree with some previous posts that little kisses followed by a long lingering one are the best!! God this post makes me wanna kiss somene!

brianthebard

line_of_fire wrote: »

God this post makes me wanna kiss somene!

Yeah I didn't really think of that when I started the thread, if I had I might not have posted it.

Rozabeez

Good question!

I'm not sure, I don't think it's always the person, but that can make it waaaaaay nicer. I've kissed a couple of horrible (personality-wise) men who were very good kissers, maybe it's if you both have similar turn ons etc? I've confused myself now.

Ooh, edit: anticipation!

Reku

Kisses are nice in the moment but I find it's the non-lusty, genuinely from the heart affection that sticks in the memory more; e.g. I can better remember the first time one of my girlfriends gave me a kiss on the cheek than last time we snogged when we were a couple, even remember the kisses on the cheek I got from female friends more. Even the first time we held hands sticks more strongly.
In the end what have you got but memories.:(

Curlypinkie

This thread is giving me DT for lack of kissing!!!
The first kiss for me is mostly about attraction, chemistry, lust. There has to be a certain length to wait as well, to the point were it almost physically hurts if you don't kiss the person right now!!

A good kisser doesn't just use his lips, hands are so important! Being touched on the face, nape of the neck or hair is really nice.

I wanna be kissed right now!! *demands in Scarlett O'Hara fashion*

Kya1976

Dragan wrote: »

Me? When i kiss i aim to make your toes curl.

love your answer!!!!!:D *mwah*

girl_friday

Bendihorse wrote: »

Soft full moist lips with just the right amount of pressure. Lots of little smooches with smiles and eye contact inbetween. Gentle sucking on upper and lower lips inerspersed with some tongue. Touching of face/neck with fingers, rubbing noses and some more eye contact... All done with a slight sense of urgencey and longing about the whole thing

+1

brianthebard wrote: »

Very true I think its really nice when a kiss is just for its own sake

+1

I love kissing & cuddling

Wibbs

What bendihorse said. It's a talent/skill too. I've known otherwise very sexy women that were utterly crap at it. The funny thing is in the bedroom in all other aspects they could be bloody great, but kissing? Nope. It's a good sign for compatibility for me anyway.

GirlInterrupted

Jeremiah 16:1 wrote: »

I think they are exciting cause there are no other band like them in the world....the image, the sound, the tongue waggling.

Rather pathetically, I think thats really funny .

A kiss is what it is. A combination of the moment, the person, the feelings and the timing.

The anticipation counts too, especially for the first kiss when you're in position, with maybe an inch or two before collision, eyes in contact.

If you aren't a little tingly at that point, you're probably wasting your time and his.

Bendihorse

OOh Yes, forgot about tingles... Possibly the most important part of the kiss

metrovelvet

The right kiss can make me believe in god again.

The Bollox

a good kiss for The Bollox:

starts off strong and passionate, but only briefly (a few seconds) before pulling back and lightly kissing on the lips. Then start sucking their lip and tease by pulling away slightly. when you go back bring the tongue in for a bit, not ramming it down her throat, more massaging the tip of her tongue. After that I would put my hands on the back of her head or on her face and hockey her for a bit. then wash, rinse, repeat...

fits

Ah for me its all about the intent and the emotion and the chemistry. Someone could have great technique, but if theres no chemistry there, its just no good.

It can be so fecking great though. Have serious dts right now myself.

MJOR

The Bollox wrote: »

a good kiss for The Bollox:

:D:D:D:D:D:D:D I thought we were gonna get a lesson in actual bollocks kissing:eek:

brianthebard

fits wrote: »

Ah for me its all about the intent and the emotion and the chemistry. Someone could have great technique, but if theres no chemistry there, its just no good.

It can be so fecking great though. Have serious dts right now myself.

Well I think you can have some very good kissing with someone you aren't particularly crazy about or know all that well, but what pushes it into the amazing category is the desire.

New thread-who wants to kiss!

fits

I never said you had to know them well

brianthebard

fits wrote: »

I never said you had to know them well

well that's where chemistry comes from isn't it? *senses new thread*

DJ_Brady

ahhh I want a kiss now lol..
Hopefully I'll get one soon next weekend hopefully.
What if you havent kissed a lot of people though? Does that make you any less of a kisser?
I remember this one girl I kissed with went nearly 15 minutes non stop it was the best kiss I ever had.:o

brianthebard

brianthebard wrote: »

well that's where chemistry comes from isn't it? *senses new thread*

God lord no! Chemistry is when your brain chemical sabotage your logic centres.
Because your dna fancies making an 18 year commitment to hers.

Chinafoot

A good kiss, imo, is dependent on how compatible your kissing styles are. In a way, you both need to kiss the same.

I remember a guy I kissed years ago and it was awful! It was sloppy and way too fast. He kissed a girl I know a few weeks after me and she reckons he was the best kisser ever.

You're only as good as the person you're kissing.

Bijoux

I agree with the general opinion, it really does depends on the connection you have with the person, the time and the place... I can't describe the ideal kiss...I tend to like a bit of variation :cool:

Last great kiss I had was 20-something minutes long, in the middle of a club.....suffice it to say bending backwards over a chair was involved

God I should go out more.....
*makes plans to abandon assignments tomorrow night*

brianthebard

DJ_Brady wrote: »

ahhh I want a kiss now lol..
Hopefully I'll get one soon next weekend hopefully.
What if you havent kissed a lot of people though? Does that make you any less of a kisser?

A certain amount of practise helps imo.

Moonbaby wrote: »

God lord no! Chemistry is when your brain chemical sabotage your logic centres.
Because your dna fancies making an 18 year commitment to hers.

:P you're crazy! must be the ginge...

Chinafoot wrote: »

A good kiss, imo, is dependent on how compatible your kissing styles are. In a way, you both need to kiss the same.

I remember a guy I kissed years ago and it was awful! It was sloppy and way too fast. He kissed a girl I know a few weeks after me and she reckons he was the best kisser ever.

You're only as good as the person you're kissing.

that's really interesting never thought about it like that. I always felt there are things that almost everyone would like, and then with certain partners you tailor that a bit to suit each other.

DJ_Brady

I want a girl, to kiss me, and like it!

metrovelvet

brianthebard wrote: »

A certain amount of practise helps imo.


:.

Knots... cherry stems... is that what you mean?

brianthebard

metrovelvet wrote: »

Knots... cherry stems... is that what you mean?

I was thinking more some practical experience. It also helps if you ask questions, you don't learn if you don't ask!

Weidii

One thing that can ruin a good kiss is bad breath, regardless of how much you like the person or how meaningful it is.

Bijoux

Weidii wrote: »

One thing that can ruin a good kiss is bad breath, regardless of how much you like the person or how meaningful it is.

Very true.....also the morning breath issue....but it can be overlooked from time to time :rolleyes: