Best Flirting Tips

JP Liz

how to get a guys attention / make them notice you

All tips welcome

Pangea

Get your boobs out
Only joking , Eye contact is key.

Reku

Better yet going over and saying "Hello", they're more likely to try talk to you than if you make faces like you're on an acid trip, in trying to get their attention without risking publicly known rejection should they be uninterested.:rolleyes:

Galvasean

Be nice. That generally does the trick.
also worth mentioning you are single in passing (ie: not "OMG im so single right now")

Dragan

Be yourself.

Say "Hello".

End.

redfacedbear

Hit me over the head and say "I fancy you". Anything more subtle is likely to be missed.

Dave147

Absolutely start a conversation, lots of eye contact and a little touch on his arm will gently let him know you're keen

Loopy

A dazzling smile and a lot of eye contact is your only man:)

Mr. Incognito

Depends on the guy and the situation.

If it's just a random bloke you fancy in passing, smile at him or leave them a note with your mobile.

If it's a mate, well, bit trickier but just ask him for a beer and see what happens.

homerun_homer

GO OVER TO HIM!!
If you're in a bar or club and you fancy someone then maybe try go over to the bar the same time as him and start a chat while both waiting to get served.

Ginny

Do not try and flirt, be yourself, and listen, a lot of people forget to listen and rabbit on about themselves.

Reku

looptheloop wrote: »

A dazzling smile and a lot of eye contact is your only man:)

Poor lad could think he's got something on his face/in his hair.

minidazzler

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE, for those of us who miss all this flirting business, just walk up say Hi and talking!!! Otherwise we (read: I) get kinda nervous and not sure what is goin on!!!!

I am terrible when it comes to knowing if girls fancy me due to most of my female friends being rather affectionate. SO BE OBVIOUS!!!!!!

Sangre

JP Liz wrote: »

how to get a guys attention / make them notice you

All tips welcome

As a lad a few things that will catch my are:

• Laughing at jokes (although that's a given, i'm hilarious). Also place hand on arm or shoulder when laughing, you can add a 'you're so funny'.
  
• Leaning in close to talk, again place hand on person to talk
  
• Stand close to him than normal, maybe press a part of your body to his
  
• Stay close by and be attentive, if he has to go somewhere for a bit ask if he wants company

Basically just be nice, attentive, friendly and tactile.

DanOB

Pangea wrote: »

Get your boobs out
Only joking , Eye contact is key.

+1

mawk

just go sit down next to him and start playing super mario 3 on your phone. as soon as he realizes what youre doing, youre in there like shareware.

Dudess

JP Liz wrote: »

how to get a guys attention / make them notice you

Do yourself up to look as hot as possible.

RedXIV

Laugh.

Trust me

Kur4mA

Flash your gash.

*Dallas

i recon your single Kyub.. either that or one unlucky GF

Kur4mA

BAH! You're not allowed follow me round boards! :mad:

*Dallas

Ladies, apologies for my OH's disgustingness!! Words will be had!

i find non verbal communication is very important, playing with your hair, gently rub your neck or shoulder.. also, try whispering in his ear while unintentionally rubbing off him

As a guy ill tell you that you will need to go as far as making eye contact with us and smiling before the penny drops. We are slow and unrefined creatures and subtlty doesn't often work!

I find that if a girl is with hr friends/dancing etc and she looks at me, smiles, looks away, glances back again and smiles again then thats about as good a sign as you'll get. Some girls may say that is being too obvious but Ive talked to girls who later on admitted they were giving me signs that I just did not pick up on!

LadyE

RedXIV wrote: »

Laugh.

Trust me

At you?

Dont think that would work? :pac:

RedXIV

LadyE wrote: »

At you?

Dont think that would work? :pac:

Anyone that'd take the time to laugh at you has to be listening to you first, and making them laugh means they are having a good time after that.....well i'm not giving my secrets away

Pen1987

I hate women being all obvious and putting me under pressure not to **** up a golden opportunity. Especially around other people.

LadyE

RedXIV wrote: »

Anyone that'd take the time to laugh at you has to be listening to you first, and making them laugh means they are having a good time after that.....well i'm not giving my secrets away

Thats a shame sure its works tho.

Heathen

Come over to us and spell it out, we (well me) are idiots... and need to be told.. i will be standing there smiling at a girl and she is smiling back.. then i walk off like a dope oblivious of "signs" and then find out later from someone that *enter name* was flirting with me but i didnt seem interested.. DOH!! :eek:

also... what way should we approach you guys? cos sometimes its really easy to walk up and start chatting up a girl with confidence, but all it takes is one knockback and you can be shy for a few weeks and then miss out on a chance.. do you prefer a guy to just walk straight up or buy u a drink or make eye contact across the room kinda thing?



*god im sooo single.. btw hahahaha

RedXIV

LadyE wrote: »

Thats a shame sure its works tho.

I'll show ya someday

Heathen wrote: »

do you prefer a guy to just walk straight up or buy u a drink or make eye contact across the room kinda thing?

NEVER EVER BUY A DRINK! trust me, this doesn't work. thanks to people getting worried about rape drugs, people are reluctant to recieve drinks off strangers. treat them as you'd treat anyone else, try and get them to buy you a drink*


*no seriously, for some reason this works. at least it's a converstation

LadyE

Heathen wrote: »

Come over to us and spell it out, we (well me) are idiots... and need to be told.. i will be standing there smiling at a girl and she is smiling back.. then i walk off like a dope oblivious of "signs" and then find out later from someone that *enter name* was flirting with me but i didnt seem interested.. DOH!! :eek:

also... what way should we approach you guys? cos sometimes its really easy to walk up and start chatting up a girl with confidence, but all it takes is one knockback and you can be shy for a few weeks and then miss out on a chance.. do you prefer a guy to just walk straight up or buy u a drink or make eye contact across the room kinda thing?



*god im sooo single.. btw hahahaha

But what would that acheive..one person, who you dont know knocks you back and it puts you off asking someone out again? Just do it, fake a confidence until she says yes...hard work done, then you can be yourself!

And appraoch the person instead of the who eye contact across the room thing! That'd work on me (if I were single)

Pen1987

word... fake steal it buy or make it, but always have confidence.


I reckon half of my and RedXIV previous replies to PI/Ladies lounge threads are on this "do/don't re: women" topic... Book is in the making.

Brian

If a girl came over and said "hello" to me, I'd think she was an annoying extrovert. Get a tshirt with "hello" printed on it and then stand in their peripheral vision.

RedXIV

Pen1987 wrote: »

word... fake steal it buy or make it, but always have confidence.


I reckon half of my and RedXIV previous replies to PI/Ladies lounge thread are this "do/don't re: women topic"...Book is in the making.

It'd be a crime not to share some of the knowledge we gathered

OP, if you really REALLY want an answer to these kind of questions, as Pen1987 says, look up old replies on the subject, the detail that this has been interrogated to is pretty intense and if you don't learn anything then accept the fact that the lack of knowledge isn't your stumbling block

but it'll probably all boil down to make sure you have confidence. if you can't nail that one aspect, you're fighting a losing battle


Edit: if the book is released, i want my name on top......

Tar.Aldarion

Well for a lot of people, including me, you will have to practically hit them shouting I LIKE YOU before they figure it out. None of this eye contact across the room stuff, talk to the bloke, make it clear that you like him. Men are simple.

t-ha

Depends on the situation. For arguments sake we'll say it's a noisy bar/club - eye contact and a flirty smile is definitely the way to start with almost zero embaressment on either side if it's not returned.
I'd say keep it fairly subtle - if he can't spot it then you'ld have to assume he's also incapable of pleasing you sexually. No I'm not kidding.
Also, know when to back off. If you've talked to him, laughed at his jokes, playfully put your hand on his shoulder/leg/whatever :O and he still doesn't seem to be making an effort towards you, it's possible that he's not interested in which case it's time to move on. If it turns out he was interested, he'll find you.

Zaph

kyub wrote: »

Flash your gash.

Please behave yourself.

Heathen

RedXIV wrote: »

I'll show ya someday



NEVER EVER BUY A DRINK! trust me, this doesn't work. thanks to people getting worried about rape drugs, people are reluctant to recieve drinks off strangers. treat them as you'd treat anyone else, try and get them to buy you a drink*


*no seriously, for some reason this works. at least it's a converstation

jaysus a lot has changhed i guess since i was single last i suppose... its a different place to what it was 8 years ago im sure i'll figure it out after a few slaps to the face hehe

samhail

ever try just "Hey stranger, want to buy a girl a drink?"

It actually works ! or maybe thats just one of *yer* lines on getting free drink... bah !

anonymous_joe

I have never ever not once noticed if someone's looking at me from across the room. Often enough it['s because I can't quite make it out (downside of being not that blind that you'd wear glasses the whole time.) Also, I'm not very observant.

One thing I'd say is, just be yourself, if that's not good enough for someone, no point going near 'em. And start a conversation. If you're in a pub, or a club or whatever, just go up and say hello. It's far and away the easiest way.

siobhanc

well I like to buy him a drink...it has worked!

homerun_homer

Twice I've had women do a 'come tither' finger motion at me to make me get off my arse to do something. Obviously the smiling and flirty glances weren't enough, the kick on the backside nearly did it but that certainly got me into action.
Try that.

Dord

Tara Le d'Arion wrote: »

Well for a lot of people, including me, you will have to practically hit them shouting I LIKE YOU before they figure it out. None of this eye contact across the room stuff, talk to the bloke, make it clear that you like him. Men are simple.

Pretty much sums it up. Also a 40ft billboard helps... :pac:

anonymous_joe

Simple sentences in a clear precise tone indicating interest are helpful.

Anything more subtle will not indicate you are interested. Some guys might try it on anyway, plenty won't.

BKtje

well I like to buy him a drink...it has worked!

Aye happened to me once. Was pretty shocked but had a good night talking to her

GirlInterrupted

Eye contact, big smile, pat the empty seat beside you or pantomine throwing the person next to you off the seat for them. More smiling.

If he blushes (many do), but you think he's interested, do him a big favour and approach him yourself.

brianthebard

homerun_homer wrote: »

Twice I've had women do a 'come tither' finger motion at me to make me get off my arse to do something. Obviously the smiling and flirty glances weren't enough, the kick on the backside nearly did it but that certainly got me into action.
Try that.

I did that before to a girl, it works.

homerun_homer

brianthebard wrote: »

I did that before to a girl, it works.

Sweet:D

dfx-

Tara Le d'Arion wrote: »

Well for a lot of people, including me, you will have to practically hit them shouting I LIKE YOU before they figure it out. None of this eye contact across the room stuff, talk to the bloke, make it clear that you like him. Men are simple.

Agreed. Uncomplicated.

I've had the renowned eye contact all night long, but with attached smile or looks of horror in equal measure.:eek:

A simple solution is a conversation