Former classmates - do you blank them or bother with them?

Firetrap

A couple of times recently when I've been in the home place, I've gone out shopping. I've seen a couple of former classmates out and about doing their shopping as well. They wouldn't be people I'd ever have been friendly with or anything, just folk who happened to be in my class. Anyway, seeing as it's 15 years since I did the Leaving Cert and I can't be arsed talking to them, I just stuck my nose in the air and kept going. Life's too short to be bothered.

SV

Why would I blank former classmates..course I'll say Hi.

KTRIC

Most (well nearly all) of my former classmates were complete a*seholes. If I seen any of them crossing the road I'd put my foot down.

truecrippler

Firetrap wrote: »

A couple of times recently when I've been in the home place, I've gone out shopping. I've seen a couple of former classmates out and about doing their shopping as well. They wouldn't be people I'd ever have been friendly with or anything, just folk who happened to be in my class. Anyway, seeing as it's 15 years since I did the Leaving Cert and I can't be arsed talking to them, I just stuck my nose in the air and kept going. Life's too short to be bothered.

Are you on the dole?

boneless

I don't see many of them here on A Wing...

Actually, I don't see many of them at all but if I do I say hi or on occasion I even go for a pint with them.

Seachmall

KTRIC wrote: »

Most (well nearly all) of my former classmates were complete a*seholes. If I seen any of them crossing the road I'd put my foot down.

+1

Creamy Goodness

regardless of them being assholes or not, i'd still say hello, nothing earned nothing gained doesn't really hurt that much tbh.

AARRRGH

I hardly ever see anyone who I was in class with. Maybe once every few years!

I wonder am I simply not recognising them, and do they now think I'm a rude ****...

Did anyone here go to Oatlands College in Stillorgan?!

BrokenArrows

there are only a few that i would meet up for drinks with occasionally but if i passed by any of them on the street i would just say hi. wouldnt start a conversation or anything but completely blanking them and in your words sticking your nose up at them. no.

do you think you are better then them or something.

Phlann

There's one or two that I wouldn't speak to under any circumstances, but the rest I'd say hi to, maybe even stop for a chat.

robby^5

I'll say hi unless it's some gob****e I didn't like

MagicMarker

Seachmall wrote: »

+1

+2

connundrum

I ran into a few former class mates in a short space of time recently, and by the end of it I was sick of stopping for the same fuckin chat..

Him: So what ya up to these days
Me: Ah just workin away you know, and yourself?
Him: Ah sure much the same, when you down again? We should go on the beer.
Me: Sure next time I'm down I'll give you a buzz and we'll sort it!
Him: Sound chat ya later.

Fastforward 6 months, repeat. Fastforward 6 months, repeat. etc

Ruu_Old

I come across a few when I do get home. I just be civil, everyone is all grown up now. That said, I wouldn't be inviting them out for a drink or anything.

arybvtcw0eolkf

Honestly, I wouldn't remember one of them. Not one.

dr.bollocko

Spent Last Christmas with one in Melbourne after not meeting the guy in years and years. Absolutely legend christmas. Great guy too. You'd love him you would.

MooseJam

couldn't even remember their names tbh

Loopy

A polite nod and hello will suffice for me..

Mint Sauce

KTRIC wrote: »

Most (well nearly all) of my former classmates were complete a*seholes.

as were most of mine, but since i didn't even go to school in ireland, and have been living here 10 years, its not really an issue



went to college here, and would bump into those class mates ocasionally, only one or two ar$eh0les, not complete ones, but would all get a freindly hi or even a conversation depending how freindly we were

Handsome Bob

My class and year were pretty surprisingly tight. So yeah, I stop and chat to them whenever I see them. Except for the stuck up cows, I'm happy to just pretend that I don't see them.:)

DonkeyStyle \o/

Most of the people I went to school with were assholes, there are very few old school chums I'd be bothered acknowledging, let alone making small talk with... unless I could work some veiled insults in there.

Him: So what ya up to these days
Me: Ah just workin away you know, and yourself?
Him: Ah sure much the same, when you down again? We should go on the beer.
Me: Sure next time I'm down I'll give you a buzz and we'll sort it!
Him: Sound chat ya later.

lol yeah, I've had that conversation alright

MooseJam wrote: »

couldn't even remember their names tbh

I remember them all... which I find weird because I'm useless at remembering peoples names in the short term.
I could be introduced to someone and forget their name within 30 seconds... yet I can recall the full names of the 40 odd people I was in 6th class with. (yeah those 80's/early 90's class sizes eh?)

arybvtcw0eolkf

Btw, I was bullied all through primary - and here's a little story.

I met one of my former bullies a few years ago when I was working on the door of a bar/club in town (The Bridge, Westmoreland St.)

I threw an absolute wobbler, the fvcker was lucky he'd a hundred damn witnesses or I think I'd have done some really seriously, fcuked up damage on the bollox.

Now, I'm starting to feel angry again.

Captain Darling

Mairt wrote: »

Btw, I was bullied all through primary - and here's a little story.

I met one of my former bullies a few years ago when I was working on the door of a bar/club in town (The Bridge, Westmoreland St.)

I threw an absolute wobbler, the fvcker was lucky he'd a hundred damn witnesses or I think I'd have done some really seriously, fcuked up damage on the bollox.

Now, I'm starting to feel angry again.

Go to the happy place.

*sound of waves lapping up on the shore and seagulls chasing trawler in the distance*


And breath out...........Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Jay P

Im going into leaving cert. I did ty with 19 others from a year of 240. We were really cut off from the rest of the school so after just a few months I stopped saying hi to a lot of people. I really regret that now...but I've manys a new friend in my year now

DonkeyStyle \o/

Mairt wrote: »

Now, I'm starting to feel angry again.

School days are the happiest days of our lives :pac:

arybvtcw0eolkf

Captain Darling wrote: »

Go to the happy place.

*sound of waves lapping up on the shore and seagulls chasing trawler in the distance*


And breath out...........Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Thats good coming from someone with Micheal Douglas in Falling Down in his sig!...

Now you've made me worse :mad:

Captain Darling

Mairt wrote: »

Thats good coming from someone with Micheal Douglas in Falling Down in his sig!...

Now you've made me worse :mad:

People like that arent worth getting your blood pressure up over, alternatively the next time you see him, nut the fcuker!!!

That can help too!:D

SoupyNorman

Didnt like most of them then so cant imagine much would have changed.

Although if they really wanted a chat I'd be sure to brag about how ruddy successful
I've been.

'CRASH, BANG, WALLOP....WATTA VIDEO'

tribulus

It's only been four years since I left school but I still hang around with a few of them and would still talk to or at least say hello to any others I bumped into.

It was a fairly good atmosphere though in my year which probably helped.

I don't get blankers, what does a bit of chit chat cost you?

jos28

DonkeyStyle \o/ wrote: »

School days are the happiest days of our lives :pac:

Belongs in the thread titled 'Lies our parents told us'.

Ross_Mahon

I would have a chat with them if i got in direct path of them, But i wouldn't scramble over in a panic to say hi.

AARRRGH

Actually, a guy I used to be in school with is now homeless.

If you live in Dublin you've probably seen him. He's the extremely aggressive guy who walks up to you and asks for money.

He doesn't look homeless, rather... mentally ill.

SoupyNorman

AARRRGH wrote: »

If you live in Dublin you've probably seen him. He's the extremely aggressive guy who walks up to you and asks for money.

Not really narrowing things down.

rainbow kirby

Tbh half the girls I did the Leaving with, I'd want to kick the **** out of them. Hated about 90% of my year, snotty bitches.

AARRRGH

bravestarr082 wrote: »

Not really narrowing things down.

Haha sorry.

OK, let me see.

When you give him money he says "Give us a tenner or twenty if you have it".

dave.omeara

I'd say hello to people who I would have actually got on with.
I still have a few friends who I would see every so often, and them there would be a few people who if I saw them on the street I might stop and have a chat with, but then there are people that I wouldn't bother with, mainly cause I'm pretty sure they wouldn't be bother talking to me either.

DenMan

Honestly I lost touch with a lot my old class mates. I went away and we didn't keep in touch. Being back now I sometimes bump into one or two doing a bit of a shop or in the music store. They seem to recognise me immediately (alarmingly I might add) and say hello. Again being honest most of their faces I no longer remember and it can be awkward responding. I just respond in kind. I seem to get away with it anyway, which is a very good thing.

Davidius

I'm still in school and I bet that I wouldn't even notice them years from now. For one, I'm not good at remembering what people look like and aging wouldn't help. Also I have never said a word to most of them. :pac:

AARRRGH

Actually what am I talking about, I'm meeting a former classmate for drinks tonight!

Sorry -- I don't ever bump into classmates I don't regularly meet.

Nolanger

A few years back met a guy from my school in Grafton Street selling the Big Issues.
He was a lot friendlier than the tossers from school with the big jobs.

Firetrap

Originally Posted by Firetrap
A couple of times recently when I've been in the home place, I've gone out shopping. I've seen a couple of former classmates out and about doing their shopping as well. They wouldn't be people I'd ever have been friendly with or anything, just folk who happened to be in my class. Anyway, seeing as it's 15 years since I did the Leaving Cert and I can't be arsed talking to them, I just stuck my nose in the air and kept going. Life's too short to be bothered.
Are you on the dole?

truecrippler wrote: »

Are you on the dole?

No. Why do you ask? I'm fairly sure half my classmates are. Wasters

shenanigans1982

I was pretty quiet in school and have probably had longer conversations with some of my classmates since I got out of school. As with most people I talk to the ones I got on with, say hello to the ones I said hello to and ignore the ones I ignored.

Carsinian Thau

I try to ignore them if I can but if they corner me, I'll talk to them and be very polite throughout.

I still hate them though (and I'm sure deep down, they hate me and it's just the relentless need for gossip that forces them to talk to me).

I always thought that if I ever ran into any of them again I'd tell them exactly what I think of them (same for the teachers that happened to also be bullies), but I never do. In fact, I'm sickeningly polite.
It's probably for the best though. If I don't anger them, they'll have less reason to remember me and may forget about me faster (I long for the day when they won't recognise me).

Handsome Bob

dave.omeara wrote: »

I'd say hello to people who I would have actually got on with.
I still have a few friends who I would see every so often, and them there would be a few people who if I saw them on the street I might stop and have a chat with, but then there are people that I wouldn't bother with, mainly cause I'm pretty sure they wouldn't be bother talking to me either.

That's exactly how I see it too. And then the next time we are in the same place due to a somewhat mutual friend we make small talk as if we didn't just blank each other the last time we crossed paths!:rolleyes:

Jack Sheehan

AARRRGH wrote: »

I hardly ever see anyone who I was in class with. Maybe once every few years!

I wonder am I simply not recognising them, and do they now think I'm a rude ****...

Did anyone here go to Oatlands College in Stillorgan?!

Well I'm in Oatlands at the moment, going into 6th year.

Carsinian Thau

Moonbaby wrote: »

I don't get blankers, what does a bit of chit chat cost you?

Self respect.

Sometimes the only way I could cope with the fact that I didn't fit it (I could say "the fact that they were assh*les" but I now accept a small portion of the blame of what school was like for me) was to tell myself that once I'm free I never have to have anything to do with them. When I don't get to follow through on that, I feel like I've let that younger, suffering and unhappy version of myself down.

It doesn't help that I've never forgiven any one of them for the whole mess and still think that ignoring them somehow hurts them* and that it's the best revenge I can get.


*= I have no idea why I think something like this because it is so utterly ridiculous. It may have something to do with the fact that all their power over me stemmed from knowledge about me and that by depriving them of that I'm limiting their power.

Will

Seen one or two about, I just nodded and went on my way. I wasn't treated the best in school so I'm a wee bit bitter over it all :pac:

JerryHandbag

School classmates, couldnt be bothered with most of em, nothin in common with em...
College classmates, occasional drinks meet ups are very good nights indeed.

I would say college, not school days are the best days of your lives....but then maybe the people who say school was the best days of your life never went to college!:D

tribulus

JerryHandbag wrote: »

School classmates, couldnt be bothered with most of em, nothin in common with em...
College classmates, occasional drinks meet ups are very good nights indeed.

I would say college, not school days are the best days of your lives....but then maybe the people who say school was the best days of your life never went to college!:D

I actually found school days by far the best in terms of camaraderie for want of a better word but college the best for chilling out and doing your own thing.

Although given the choice I think I'd take college purely for the fact that you didn't need a note to skip class lol.

oscas

I had a great time in school and in college, I keep in touch with the ones I keep in touch with and have no real interest in any of the others bar one or two.

Come to think of it, I pretty much ignore everyone I see on the street whether I remember them from school or from a party last Saturday night. Unless there's a proper connection there (even if it's only havin a buzz) then I'm not going to put me (or them) through crappy small talk about the weather/weekend/the old days/planned holidays/did ya hear about so and so/how's such and such/blah blah what a load of b*llix.

I know it sounds harsh but if I've nothin to say then what's the point in pretending? :):);)