Do men like being asked out? (part deux)

Alarums

katie08 wrote: »

I think the point to note here is that if things do go pear shaped & this guy starts gossiping to other male collegues, you could be put in a vulnerable position ie: made to look desperate.
Where as if a man asked a woman out in the office it would be looked highly upon by his male collegues.... in nature the male pursues the female... best to keep it that way...

That doesn't exactly promote equality between the sexes. Also, any man who asks a woman out at his workplace and gets shot down will most certainly not be looked upon highly by his male colleagues, he would be ridiculed by them.

RedXIV

katie08 wrote: »

I think the point to note here is that if things do go pear shaped & this guy starts gossiping to other male collegues, you could be put in a vulnerable position ie: made to look desperate.
Where as if a man asked a woman out in the office it would be looked highly upon by his male collegues.... in nature the male pursues the female... best to keep it that way...

I'm sorry now but this annoys me. I've stood by this philosophy a long time now but you can either have equality between the sexes or chivalry. Asking for both can't work. Chivalry has never promoted equality. If you believe that the male must pursue the female then fair enough, but if you believe this medieval system, you better be prepared to accept all the concequences.

If you are afraid what other people might think, you need to concentrate on your own issues instead of waiting around to be asked.

sorry about bit of a rant there, but bit of a pet peeve of mine

mosfo

dublindude wrote: »

I don't think it's the best option.

At the next drinks out (or arrange some yourself), get drunk with him, and get him to stay out late. When you're both drunk and dancing, flirt like crazy until you start kissing...

the classic moves never die

AARRRGH

swirlyme wrote: »

Dublin Dude: Two points - A) I'm far from ugly and b) I don't think a work night out when either party is likely to be plied with alcohol is a good move as many awkward scenarios could ensue the following monday.

I think if you handle it right, there wouldn't be any problems.

Anyway, my point is there are better indirect ways to let him know you like him.

chris_oc

Alarums wrote: »

That doesn't exactly promote equality between the sexes. Also, any man who asks a woman out at his workplace and gets shot down will most certainly not be looked upon highly by his male colleagues, he would be ridiculed by them.

+1
Nothin' wrong with a girl asking a lad out.

Go for it in a subtle way that may not even be that clear to him that he's being asked out! ie don't say "would you like to go out with me sometime?" instead something like, "I heard that there's this new coffee shop opening around the corner next monday and im thinking of going for a coffee during the break, fancy coming along?". BTW that was just an example, dont say that theres a coffee shop opening around the corner if there isnt, thats just silly;):p
best of luck!

Pen1987

Yes, very much so. If they are attracted to you. I personally find that confidence sexy.


No. If they are not attracted to you.