Woman asking man out?

kittensoft1984

Well is this the done thing?

Do men like it when a woman asks you out or do you think that its too up front??

feedback welcome!

Dudess

I'm really not trying to be smart with you kittensoft, but surely it's down to the individual to do whatever they want, irrespective of gender? Who cares whether it's the done thing or not?

Steve_o

kittensoft1984 wrote: »

Well is this the done thing?

Do men like it when a woman asks you out or do you think that its too up front??

feedback welcome!

I do anyway... It illiminates the "Do you think she likes me" thing...

star-pants

I asked a guy out once a few years ago... it wasn't the best date... ah well..
I'll leave it up to them next time!

biko

In this day and age it's perfectly fine.
But I am already taken kitten

humanji

I'm all for it. I'm tired of women laughing at me, so it'll be nice for the shoe to be on the other foot for a change.

ScumLord

It's to be encouraged. Why should men do all the work?

I think its wierd when a girl asks you to go out for a drink. Not trying to sound like a total wanker but when they do that you kind of feel like you don't need to do any work which is not good! Its happened before and I lost interest really quick even though she was a really nice girl. I dunno, I'd rather make an ass of myself doing the work. Wierd that I know because then you end up being whipped lol .

The ideal circumstance is pure randomness imo. Thats always good


Edit - now that I think of it. There was a thread like this like a year ago and I remember having a rigorious debate with the gorgeous Donegal Lass . O how my tune has changed

taidghbaby

kittensoft1984 wrote: »

Well is this the done thing?

Do men like it when a woman asks you out or do you think that its too up front??

feedback welcome!

its called proactive selling, and is the best way of developing new business!!!

WooPeeA

I was asked many times to go out and never found it weird. Same as I asked many people for the same.

Fresh Pots

Steve_o wrote: »

I do anyway... It illiminates the "Do you thing she likes me" thing...

+1

Yeah us men can be quite bad a picking up signals so it does help when they make it obvious. I definitely wouldn't have a problem with a woman asking me out.

Any offers!!!!!

Davidius

Don't see why not, then everybody's happy.

RealEstateKing

it makes a nice change from the endless slagging, being told to **** off, derision and disinterest we poor Irish blokes normally have to put up with.

Go for it!

DarkJager

Go for it, its nice to see an Irish female with a different view on things.I was over in southampton recently, and my god is there a difference. The women offer to buy you drinks, are friendly and approachable and up for a good laugh. Here on the other hand, the women are so far up their own arses they're licking their tonsils, and all of them seem to have what can only be described as a "Beyonce Complex" (believe they are too good looking for any man but in reality nothing special at all)

kittensoft1984

Dudess wrote: »

I'm really not trying to be smart with you kittensoft, but surely it's down to the individual to do whatever they want, irrespective of gender? Who cares whether it's the done thing or not?

i was asking for peoples opinions thats all.

I dont wanna be too forward!!!!

Ruu_Old

Do it, do it noooooooooow! It is the 21st century after all. Saves us lads getting laughed at anyway *stops mid sentence and remembers teenage years* ;_;

Pherekydes

star-pants wrote: »

I asked a guy out once a few years ago... it wasn't the best date... ah well..
I'll leave it up to them next time!

I asked a gal out once or thrice. They didn't work out either. Maybe I should leave it up to them the next time. If there's a next time.

Works both ways, gorgeous.

kittensoft1984

ok then girls, how would you do it?

Rob_l

kittensoft1984 wrote: »

ok then girls, how would you do it?

Well dont do the obvious like ask them for a drink?

do something different like tell them you know where they live and if they dont meet you tonight with a suitcase full of money their whole family will be dead

Steve_o

Rob_l wrote: »

Well dont do the obvious like ask them for a drink?

do something different like tell them you know where they live and if they dont meet you tonight with a suitcase full of money their whole family will be dead

Ha, a real charmer....:D

GirlInterrupted

kittensoft1984 wrote: »

Well is this the done thing?

Do men like it when a woman asks you out or do you think that its too up front??

feedback welcome!

Just say ''are you going to ask me out or do I have to do all the work?''

Gives them the chance to ask first knowing they're safe!

blaze1

DarkJager wrote: »

Go for it, its nice to see an Irish female with a different view on things.I was over in southampton recently, and my god is there a difference. The women offer to buy you drinks, are friendly and approachable and up for a good laugh. Here on the other hand, the women are so far up their own arses they're licking their tonsils, and all of them seem to have what can only be described as a "Beyonce Complex" (believe they are too good looking for any man but in reality nothing special at all)

good call budd, from southampton , some of the girls are quality and chatty enough, then watch out for bird called sharon how like nothing better than to pull another sharons creole earings from her head while stuffing her face with a big mac! (have seen this in soton high st!!)

as for the actual question, its nice, but think that it does cut the chase a little which can be fun.

I'm open for offers tho!!

Earthhorse

Slow coach wrote: »

Works both ways, gorgeous.

Are you asking her out?

koneko

It's 2008, not 1958

I've done it before (successfully I might add!) and I'd do it again if I'm in the position. I don't think I'd want to go out with a guy that would be put off by that, so I don't see a problem.

Pherekydes

Earthhorse wrote: »

Are you asking her out?

Ha ha. I'm just waiting for a sign...

Dudess

Have more confidence in yourself kittensoft. Just do it!

Earthhorse

Dudess wrote: »

Have more confidence in yourself kittensoft. Just do it!

Yes. Remember just a while ago you were an unknown brand in an overcrowded marketplace and now kittensoft ranks amongst the highest recognised brands in the toilet paper market.

If you can do that surely asking a fella out is not beyond your grasp?

smellslikeshoes

Just do it, In the end does it really matter who asked who out, as long as you both end up out

Dudess

Earthhorse wrote: »

Yes. Remember just a while ago you were an unknown brand in an overcrowded marketplace and now kittensoft ranks amongst the highest recognised brands in the toilet paper market.

She's got some stiff competition from that puppy though... When you think cute toilet paper ad do you immediately conjure up a mental image of the Andrex puppy or the Kittensoft kitten? IS there even a Kittensoft kitten?

'Ol Jack Chance

dear lord planning on cavorting with a young lad are we? have you asked your local parish priest for permission?

:pac:

Creamy Goodness

kittensoft1984 wrote: »

ok then girls, how would you do it?

try it out, my number is 086 727....

Sherifu

kittensoft1984 wrote: »

Well is this the done thing?

Do men like it when a woman asks you out or do you think that its too up front??

feedback welcome!

He'll hate it and ignore you afterwards.

kittensoft1984

Cremo wrote: »

try it out, my number is 086 727....

I dont even have his number!!

and no there isnt a kittensoft kitten i dont think....!

Memnoch

My wife asked me out at a time when I definitely didn't have the confidence to think that a girl like her would have been interested in me. We've been together for 7 years and happily married for 1 yr+.

Fortune favors the bold. Any guy who thinks that it's 'too forward,' or 'too easy,' is a backward, narrow-minded moron who is not worth wasting your time on anyway.

Loopy

Years ago I really fancied this guy but couldn't pluck up the courage to ask him out cos everytime I went into the shop where he worked there were other people there. He knew me through work and was always friendly but I couldn't decide if he liked me or not.

So, I sent him a letter something like this:

Hi its _______ here. Was wondering if you fancied going for a drink sometime.? Please tick one of the following:

1. I'd love to yes
2. I'm washing my hair
3. Fuck off, I dont fancy you
4. I'm moving to Australia tommoro, sorry
5. I'm going out with someone

I sent it, and enclosed a S.A.E.

Never heard a thing back, and never went near that stupid shop again:mad: First and last time I ever asked anyone out..

GirlInterrupted

looptheloop wrote: »

Years ago I really fancied this guy but couldn't pluck up the courage to ask him out cos everytime I went into the shop where he worked there were other people there. He knew me through work and was always friendly but I couldn't decide if he liked me or not.

So, I sent him a letter something like this:

Hi its _______ here. Was wondering if you fancied going for a drink sometime.? Please tick one of the following:

1. I'd love to yes
2. I'm washing my hair
3. Fuck off, I dont fancy you
4. I'm moving to Australia tommoro, sorry
5. I'm going out with someone

I sent it, and enclosed a S.A.E.

Never heard a thing back, and never went near that stupid shop again:mad: First and last time I ever asked anyone out..

Would have been worse if He'd ticked the Fluck off, don fancy you box and went to the trouble of sending it back....:)

cornbb

ScumLord wrote: »

It's to be encouraged. Why should men do all the work?

+1. If you like someone, just go for it, don't sit around waiting for them to make a move. They might never do it!

looptheloop

looptheloop wrote: »

Years ago I really fancied this guy but couldn't pluck up the courage to ask him out cos everytime I went into the shop where he worked there were other people there. He knew me through work and was always friendly but I couldn't decide if he liked me or not.

So, I sent him a letter something like this:

Hi its _______ here. Was wondering if you fancied going for a drink sometime.? Please tick one of the following:

1. I'd love to yes
2. I'm washing my hair
3. Fuck off, I dont fancy you
4. I'm moving to Australia tommoro, sorry
5. I'm going out with someone

I sent it, and enclosed a S.A.E.

Never heard a thing back, and never went near that stupid shop again:mad: First and last time I ever asked anyone out..

I have no problem whatsoever with a girl asking a guy out but if I got this letter I would tick 2-5 and move house. Imagine if a guy sent this to you? Asking someone out is far easier than people think. Don't make a big deal of it, just walk up, smile and ask them out for a drink. If they say no just smile and walk away. Nothing ventured nothing gained.

Kold

Incredibly OT but you do realise that your name is a really cheap brand of toilet paper?

I always wondered about the board meeting to come up with that one, figured some guy was like "Hey, the name is one of the most important parts of the product, we really need people to buy this stuff. Come on lads, what makes you really want to wipe your arse? What would be the best thing to wipe your arse with?"

*silence for 20 seconds*

"erm... *cough*... a kitten?"

/vote is unanimous

Loopy

Deleted User wrote: »

I have no problem whatsoever with a girl asking a guy out but if I got this letter I would tick 2-5 and move house. Imagine if a guy sent this to you? Asking someone out is far easier than people think. Don't make a big deal of it, just walk up, smile and ask them out for a drink. If they say no just smile and walk away. Nothing ventured nothing gained.

Move house? Jesus, it was a bit of fun..

I would be flattered if I got a letter like that and if I wasnt interested I would just tick fuck off and send it back, or chuck it in the bin. Whatever, I wouldn't move house though:rolleyes: This stalker thing is obviously getting to people..

cornbb

looptheloop wrote: »

Move house? Jesus, it was a bit of fun..

I would be flattered if I got a letter like that and if I wasnt interested I would just tick fuck off and send it back, or chuck it in the bin. Whatever, I wouldn't move house though:rolleyes: This stalker thing is obviously getting to people..

I agree, its not stalkerish, it might be a little weird but its kinda sweet too.

silvine

Funny letter but I can't imagine many blokes responding to that.

Yes ask him and let us know the result!

looptheloop

looptheloop wrote: »

Move house? Jesus, it was a bit of fun..

I would be flattered if I got a letter like that and if I wasnt interested I would just tick fuck off and send it back, or chuck it in the bin. Whatever, I wouldn't move house though:rolleyes: This stalker thing is obviously getting to people..

Ah I'm messing. Seriously though, there is no way that letter is going to work unless the girl hands it to me in person with a cheeky smile. Plus the options you gave need to be a bit more playful. You gave one positive option and 4 negative ones.

Be a bit more optimistic Loop!

Pherekydes

looptheloop wrote: »

I would be flattered if I got a letter like that and if I wasnt interested I would just tick fuck off and send it back, or chuck it in the bin.

I wouldn't care how pig ugly she was, I still tick 5 and send it back, maybe with an explanatory few words. Kindness costs nothing.

Loopy

Deleted User wrote: »

Ah I'm messing. Seriously though, there is no way that letter is going to work unless the girl hands it to me in person with a cheeky smile. Plus the options you gave need to be a bit more playful. You gave one positive option and 4 negative ones.

Be a bit more optimistic Loop!

Ah it was years ago, cant remember exactly what I did put in it but it wasn't all negatives and it was kinda funny. He obviously didnt think so though;)

Im with someone years now and he was the one who asked me out, no letters, just plain old fashioned, would you like to go on a date..

OP I don't think there's anything wrong with a girl asking a guy out on a date. The fear of rejection isn't nice but if you have tough skin it shouldn't bother you too much, his loss an all that. Think of all the blokes out there who have been rejected.. And me of course:D

Reku

looptheloop wrote: »

Years ago I really fancied this guy but couldn't pluck up the courage to ask him out cos everytime I went into the shop where he worked there were other people there. He knew me through work and was always friendly but I couldn't decide if he liked me or not.

So, I sent him a letter something like this:

Hi its _______ here. Was wondering if you fancied going for a drink sometime.? Please tick one of the following:

1. I'd love to yes
2. I'm washing my hair
3. Fuck off, I dont fancy you
4. I'm moving to Australia tommoro, sorry
5. I'm going out with someone

I sent it, and enclosed a S.A.E.

Never heard a thing back, and never went near that stupid shop again:mad: First and last time I ever asked anyone out..

Aww... but for all you know the postie lost it and the lad never even got it, if you really like someone don't let one bad experience stop you.:(

As to the OP, go for it, if he has an issue with you doing the asking he's clearly not particularly mature and probably not worth your time.

Loopy

farohar wrote: »

Aww... but for all you know the postie lost it and the lad never even got it, if you really like someone don't let one bad experience stop you.:(

The postie lost it:) So thats why he never replied... Thanks Farohar, it all makes sense now:D

Reku

looptheloop wrote: »

The postie lost it:) So thats why he never replied... Thanks Farohar, it all makes sense now:D

Better still maybe the postie had a crush on you and recognised your handwriting so he took it as a momento to help him dream of you.;)

Loopy

farohar wrote: »

Better still maybe the postie had a crush on you and recognised your handwriting so he took it as a momento to help him dream of you.;)

My OH is an ex postie:eek: - Jesus, this is soooo weird:D

Overheal

............stalker alert!

Earthhorse

Dudess wrote: »

She's got some stiff competition from that puppy though... When you think cute toilet paper ad do you immediately conjure up a mental image of the Andrex puppy or the Kittensoft kitten? IS there even a Kittensoft kitten?

Dang. Three years of commerce and I'm outsmarted by Dudess at the first hurdle. Looks like it's the dole queue for me.

Kittensoft, you might need to re-launch your brand. I suggest going with the new or improved look. It seems to have worked in the past. (As others have said though if a guy is really going to be put off by you asking him out then he wasn't interested in the first place, there's no trick to it. If you ask, you'll find out soon enough).

looptheloop wrote: »

Years ago I really fancied this guy but couldn't pluck up the courage to ask him out cos everytime I went into the shop where he worked there were other people there. He knew me through work and was always friendly but I couldn't decide if he liked me or not.

So, I sent him a letter something like this:

Hi its _______ here. Was wondering if you fancied going for a drink sometime.? Please tick one of the following:

1. I'd love to yes
2. I'm washing my hair
3. Fuck off, I dont fancy you
4. I'm moving to Australia tommoro, sorry
5. I'm going out with someone

I sent it, and enclosed a S.A.E.

Never heard a thing back, and never went near that stupid shop again:mad: First and last time I ever asked anyone out..

Aw, that's a shame, because that really is quite sweet. If I were him, and weren't interested, I'd have written an option 6 saying as much. I know we've established that the letter never got to him now, I'm just saying if, if.