Ex Jewelry

Malari

OK, so it's probably not the most pressing topic, but what do you do with jewelry given to you by someone who is now your ex?

Continue to wear it? Put it in a box of things you never use but don't want to throw away? Give it away to someone? Give it back?

Just moved house recently and found an old chain an ex gave me and wondered about it

Star Lord

If you like it, wear it!
If the thought of wearing it doesn't appeal to ya, donate it to a charity shop or something

Malari

I kinda stopped wearing it because I didn't think it was appropriate when i started going out with my current bf. He knew who had given it to me. But I don't want to give it away either!

helimachoptor

Dont all girls have a "box" for this stuff??

Me as a boy have just one big box with presents, pictures etc of ex girlfriends.

Sadly I wasnt allowed to bring it with me when i shacked up with my current gf:p

c - 13

I wore a chain that an ex bought me for a few years after we broke up. The fact that she bought it for me never even occurred to me to be honest.

The current G/f bought me a different chain recently so I wear that now. The other one is but away in its original box in a drawer with my other memories.

Star Lord

My gf wears a chain with a pendant that was given to her by her ex. I've no issues with it, as I'm not that insecure. She's with me because she wants to be. If she still wanted to be with him, she would be. It's a nice chain, and she likes it, so why should there be a problem?

John Mason

sell it on ebay - i never liked any of it anyway, it wasnt my taste. the ex seemed to think if it was expensive it was nice

Malari

I should never have mentioned who gave it to me! I wouldn't really like it if it was the other way round. It's more about respect than insecurity.

By the way, I threw eveything else out, photos, etc - not sentimental like that but I do like this chain.

I wouldn't like to wear it.

Lil' Smiler

Hmm... well the jewellery my ex got me was very cheap, a ring.. so it ended up getting squashed anyway so that was the end of that. in 3 years I got that one ring that got squished.

Before that an ex got me this necklace when I was 17, didn't like it at the time becaus I like simple small jewellery and to me it was too big. I actually ended up wearing it about a year ago and have grown to like it but it's not something i'd wear all the time.

I love the jewellery my OH has gotten me, a beautiful necklace for my 21st and near enough to matching earrings for Christmas.. I'm just waiting for him to complete the set now, bracelet and ring..anklet if he'd like:) Was so surprised when I opened them coz he's terrible when it comes to shopping for say clothes but these are lovely...he insists he had no help but I dunno!!

Reku

I don't really see a problem with wearing stuff an ex bought for you, afterall would people just toss out
DVDs
CDs
DVD/CD players
paintings
furniture
books
games
and such just because you're no longer with the person who bought it for you?
What if they paid for a tattoo/piercing? Should you get them removed?
Or for driving lessons or evening classes? Try forget all you learned somehow?

Now if it was some strictly bedroom items perhaps it might be in poor taste to use them with your current beau, but I think it'd depend on exactly what they were really and how much it might leave the new lad wondering if your thinking of your ex when enjoying a tumble together.

Lil' Smiler wrote: »

I love the jewellery my OH has gotten me, a beautiful necklace for my 21st and near enough to matching earrings for Christmas.. I'm just waiting for him to complete the set now, bracelet and ring..anklet if he'd like:) Was so surprised when I opened him

You have to wonder about the how honestly acquired any jewelery someone has to stash inside their body could be... hope you washed it before wearing?:p


Glad to hear you like his taste in jewelery, it's so much of a safer thing to buy a female OH than clothes IMO, since it's too easy for a girl to read too much into buying them an item of clothing:
It's too small = he's trying to make me feel fat
too big = he thinks I'm fat
too conservative = he's trying to make me cover up, control freak
too revealing = he's trying to make me feel like a tart just so he can show off to his mates

etc...
Like that girl's rule states: "If you say something that can be interpretted 2 ways and one of them will offend me that is the way I will take it as having been intended." If the girl is in any way sensitive about her body it's just too easy to have a perceived slight, best just to avoid the minefield IMO.

Gauge

I continued wearing a necklace an ex bought me. He spotted me wearing it in some bebo pictures while I was on my travels and when I ran into him after getting back, he made a weird comment about how he was glad that if I was ever with another guy, I would still have the necklace *he* gave me on. Haven't worn it since then.

Gauge

Gauge wrote: »

I continued wearing a necklace an ex bought me. He spotted me wearing it in some bebo pictures while I was on my travels and when I ran into him after getting back, he made a weird comment about how he was glad that if I was ever with another guy, I would still have the necklace *he* gave me on. Haven't worn it since then.

Yuuurrghh!!

Malari

farohar wrote: »

Or for driving lessons or evening classes? Try forget all you learned somehow?

That's going a bit far. I think it's slightly different when it's jewelry. It's kind of in his face the whole time. Literally, during some bedtime activities

farohar wrote: »

It's too small = he's trying to make me feel fat

And holy cow, I hope there aren't any women who actually think like this!:eek:

Reku

Malari wrote: »

And holy cow, I hope there aren't any women who actually think like this!:eek:

Even female friends have pointed out about clothing being an unintended insult minefield like this should you get the size wrong, which since from what I've been told by many varies from brand to brand quite a bit, making it extra risky. If you get the wrong size ring it just detracts from the thoughtfulness since you didn't find out her size first.
So either there are girls who'd think like this or there are quite a few girls who like to make their gender out to be worse than it is.

Clare Bear

Initially I didn't wear any jewellery he gave me but 3 years on and now with someone else I wear lots of the stuff my ex gave me. It doesn't mean anything to me anymore other than the fact that it's nice jewellery, he had great taste in fairness so would hate to throw them away. I wouldn't purposely point out to my boyfriend where they came from either unless he asked me. Each to their own.

CathyMoran

I gave most of the jewelry to my mum - when I was on a split with my hubby before we married I could not stop wearing a particular necklace I loved it so much - I ended up wearing it on our wedding day.

Rozabeez

I wear it, I don't really wear jewelery anyway, but the fact that it was given by an ex doesn't make a difference to me.

Pythia

I threw it out. I knew I wouldn't wear it again.
One pair of earrings I bought again for myself so there were mine and not the ones I was given by the ex.
Wear earrings given by OH every day. They are perfect for me.

bluedolphin

Rozabeez wrote: »

I wear it, I don't really wear jewelery anyway, but the fact that it was given by an ex doesn't make a difference to me.

+1

I'll wear it if I like it. Got a stunning necklace from an old ex a couple of days before we broke up (who was to know )...sort of wore it the whole time 'cos I really liked it. A more recent ex got me this atrocious piece of rock on silver chain that is completely not me at all. I said oohed and aahed over it appropriately at the time of opening but it hasn't seen the light of day since. Don't know where it is, actually. Doesn't matter any more, we broke up before I had the 'opportunity' to wear it (I told him it was 'too good' for everyday wear and was waiting for a 'special occasion').

Grawns

I am slowly regifting the stuff he gave me. Gave a black pearl necklace to my mother in law for her birthday with my OH's full agreement. Still have a nice watch and necklace to pass on. Wouldn't mind wearing the watch occasionally but the necklaces weren't me. They are mostly unhappy memories anyway and we parted badly so am glad to get rid of them.

sam34

well, have had 2 exes, am still really friendly with one of them, so i wear the stuff he got me. the other ended badly, lots of hassle post break-up, so i chucked every single thing he gave me, including clothes, handbags, jewellery, cds, dvds, books, wine glasses, a foot spa......

Cathmandooo

Got a lovely watch from an ex for xmas 2006, we broke up shortly after and I havent worn it since even though it's very pretty. It needed a link taken out which I never got round to doing so it's in my wardrobe in its box.

My favourite necklace was given by a different ex's parents for my 21st, I wear it pretty often, wouldnt like to part with it.

I never know what to do with other gifts though, I'm too sentimental (too much of a hoarder) to throw it all out, I'm sure it'll all go when I move out of my house.

wandering_star

I've posted this somewhere else, but has anyone else ever sold jewellery they've gotten -not on the internet- but to a jewellers or a "jewellery buying job person" (does my cluelessness show...?) ? How do you go about it?

Just I got a nice necklace for my birthday a few years ago, but I'm never going to wear it-it's gold and I'm not a gold fan, and it just seems like a waste sitting in my wardrobe.

thecleverone

I told him it was 'too good' for everyday wear and was waiting for a 'special occasion'

This made me LOL. I'm a bit of a girly girl when it comes to jewellery and he's given me some unusual (to say the least) jewellery over the last few years.

I use the line above all the time if i really don't like something and if there is ever a "special occasion" - it doesn't go with my outfit!!

Aspiration

Gauge wrote: »

I continued wearing a necklace an ex bought me. He spotted me wearing it in some bebo pictures while I was on my travels and when I ran into him after getting back, he made a weird comment about how he was glad that if I was ever with another guy, I would still have the necklace *he* gave me on. Haven't worn it since then.

I hope this isn't who I think it is... :eek:

I usually end up just throwing presents like that into "The Box" but I specifically remember taking the chain off a necklace my ex bought me and wearing other pendants with it. God only knows where it is now.

I reckon if you like it, wear it away and if not, revert to this thread for ideas of getting rid of it! Good luck

John Mason

http://www.exboyfriendjewelry.com/

King of Kings

helimachoptor wrote: »

Sadly I wasnt allowed to bring it with me when i shacked up with my current gf:p

whipped my friend. imagine the uproar here if your sexes were reversed and the bloke wouldn't let his gf bring the box.

farohar wrote: »

Even female friends have pointed out about clothing being an unintended insult minefield like this should you get the size wrong,

It was intended when i bought her a gift voucher for evans.


- Anyway I have a problem of similar nature

I bought an ex a necklace at christmas - we were only going out a short while so nothing fancy - 45euro - she wore it once out with me and lost it.
It was a major bender that night
anyway we broke up soon amicably and i found it while hoovering a few weeks later.
Anyway she doesn't want it back - says doesn;t feel right.

So have this necklace - guessing it'#s bad karma to give it to next ladyfriend (although I would repackage)
so what to do?

John Mason

King of Kings wrote: »

whipped my friend. imagine the uproar here if your sexes were reversed and the bloke wouldn't let his gf bring the box.



It was intended when i bought her a gift voucher for evans.


- Anyway I have a problem of similar nature

I bought an ex a necklace at christmas - we were only going out a short while so nothing fancy - 45euro - she wore it once out with me and lost it.
It was a major bender that night
anyway we broke up soon amicably and i found it while hoovering a few weeks later.
Anyway she doesn't want it back - says doesn;t feel right.

So have this necklace - guessing it'#s bad karma to give it to next ladyfriend (although I would repackage)
so what to do?

sell it on ebay

Crumble Froo

Gauge wrote: »

I continued wearing a necklace an ex bought me. He spotted me wearing it in some bebo pictures while I was on my travels and when I ran into him after getting back, he made a weird comment about how he was glad that if I was ever with another guy, I would still have the necklace *he* gave me on. Haven't worn it since then.

urrrgh! and that is why exes are exes!!

i haven't got much jewellery from exes (most of them knew me better than that ), and wouldnt generally mind wearing it afterwards... with one, he was just an awesome friend, and i missed him more as that, than as a boyfriend, and at least i had that bit of jewellery to remind me of the good times but there was some that was burnt, cos that particular ex... well... y'no...

i know there is one piece of jewellery that my fella has given me, that... well, if things didnt work out... i could never bear to get rid of it, but not bear to wear it either. hard to say though, can't picture the event ever happening, but yeah...

bluedolphin

thecleverone wrote: »

This made me LOL. I'm a bit of a girly girl when it comes to jewellery and he's given me some unusual (to say the least) jewellery over the last few years.

I use the line above all the time if i really don't like something and if there is ever a "special occasion" - it doesn't go with my outfit!!

It's funny cos it's true

Reku

bluedolphin wrote: »

Doesn't matter any more, we broke up before I had the 'opportunity' to wear it (I told him it was 'too good' for everyday wear and was waiting for a 'special occasion').

"Ugh! If a girl ever did that to me, I'd know it. Wait a second. They've all been doing that to me. Even ...!" *runs away crying*:D

missmatty

Doesn't matter to me. Had a lovely watch (i picked out) from an ex about 8 years ago and wore it till the hands fell off inside the face about 6 years later (even though we broke up about 7 years ago)...

I think it's a really bad idea though to 'repackage' something to give to a new squeeze :eek:

Solarball10

Easy - you just sell it here!

www.exboyfriendjewelry.com

Was reading about this in the Metro this morning - great idea!

Malteaser!

My ex gave me a beautiful pair of white gold diamond earrings and a matching white gold necklace, I continued to wear them even after we broke up, not becasue they still meant something just becasue I liked them. I lost one of the earrings and the necklace though a little while ago so I don't have the option any more!!

Mint Sauce

remember an ex girl friend grabbing the silver chain that i bought her for her birthday, screeming 'i suppose you want this back as well' as i was breaking up with her,

my responce was, 'i brought it for you as a gift, its yours'

dont know what she done with it tbh, didn't keep in contact, wasn't the nicest break up tbh

Cmol

Dump it, i never really like the stuff they give me anyway.... haha

Puddleduck

Melt it into a bullet, and shoot the ex???

Or just wear it if you like it.

I have silver bangles I sometime wear but thats it, my ex had hideous taste in jewelry

pow wow

^^ LOL

Charity shops ftw...makes me feel better x 2. Getting rid of junk + doing it in aid of a good cause. Couldn't ebay it, would feel awful!

GirlInterrupted

I still wear the stuff I like, and the stuff I don't like I've donated to friends. Never tell a new bf that you're wearing the old one's jewelry or lingerie, that's just silly...........!!

jellie

my ex (wow that feels weird) gave me a gorgeous necklace for christmas when wed been together 3 months. he also gave me the most awful earrings. i loved the necklace & always wore it but made excuses about the earrings. when we broke up (the 1st time) i gave the earrings away but i kept the necklace & continued to wear it because i loved it. we got back together & i was glad i still had it. but now weve broken up again, & ill continue to wear it because its the nicest necklace i own.

allabouteve

I'm not interested in jewellry at all, and usually I make that clear before anyone wastes any money on it for me, I prefer a gift of a book or cd, or small piece of orignal art. I would hate anyone to buy outer clothes for me, and lingerie must be under direction or the slutty factor is generally too high.

But, that said, if I was into jewellry, I'd wear it no matter who gave it to me but as has been said before, I'd keep the giver to myself.

Malari

GirlInterrupted wrote: »

Never tell a new bf that you're wearing the old one's jewelry or lingerie, that's just silly...........!!

So wise...:D

However we had just been together a few days when my boy and I were just talking about our previous situations and he asked me directly if I had been given the chain by my ex - I said yes.

Foolish of course. He never asked me to stop wearing it but I kind of wanted to stop shortly after that, as a kind of "I'm with you now" statement.

Funny, I found a bracelet given to me by my ex yesterday, it had my name on one side and hers on the back, forgot Id had it, I threw it in the bin!! :pac:

jellie

are men as sentimental about stuff as women are? like i cant look at ANYTHING my ex gave me without thinking of him, even things like hot water bottles (for when i get cramps.. ) he has lots of things hed use regularly that i gave him, phone, his favourite tshirt, etc. is it just girls who are so emotionally attached to stuff?

tribulus

Some things, yes. Hot water bottles and phones, no.

Heisenberg.

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sar84

sar84 wrote: »

are men as sentimental about stuff as women are? like i cant look at ANYTHING my ex gave me without thinking of him, even things like hot water bottles (for when i get cramps.. ) he has lots of things hed use regularly that i gave him, phone, his favourite tshirt, etc. is it just girls who are so emotionally attached to stuff?

I wouldnt be particularly attached to anything. Like she bought me CDs and DVDs and all that, I dont even think about those things. Its only the stuff taht would be personalised like the bracelet with her name on it that Id be looking to get rid of.

Malari

Sean Moncrieff is talking to the exboyfriendjewelry.com website woman on Newstalk. Can't quite hear it properly in the office, damn!

jellie

listen online http://newstalk.ie/newstalk/index.html

over now though...

Femelade

I have an engagment ring that i got off an ex, i gave it back to him when i left. Then he posted it to me, so i kept it, he asked for it back a few months later (when he realised that no, i wasnt getting back with him) so i told him to F off. He only wanted to get his money back. I will probably give it to my daughter when she is old enough.

The only other jewelery i was given is from my current boyfriend. A watch (that i wear every day) 2 bracelets, each bracelet had a matching chain (one which i lost and i am going mad!! - dont know what to do as i love it!! dont want to tell him..)

We did break up once for 3 days, and i took off the chain and put it in its box, it hurt too much to see it.
I did put all the stuff he gave me, jewelery, dvd's c.d's, even birthday/xmas/valentines cards..into a bag and was planning on giving them back to him...
stupid i know, but i was a mess..