Date "emergency-exit"

MIN2511

Hallo,

Does anyone have “emergency exit” when on dates? Example getting your mates to ring you and pretend to be your mam J
I know it’s silly and juvenile but I have been on a date and he was so boring I texted myself an emergency and I ran… Do men do the same?

If you have done this in the past; share……

topper75

Would usually sit it out as a lesson to myself to be more selective next time round.

I have never actually been on a date, I'm working on it though!

I find people interesting, so I don't think I would be inclined to skip out.
I think I'd try and squash them into the friendzone if I wasn't attracted to them.

John Mason

i would just say "i am sorry but i dont think this is working"

azezil

I remember one in particular I was finding incredibly boring and he was just fugly! I just told him I had to go meet some friends, I think he accidentally txt me saying something along the lines of "well I think that went well!" ... to which I replied "ha! think again!"

fits

MIN2511 wrote: »

I know it’s silly and juvenile but I have been on a date and he was so boring I texted myself an emergency and I ran…

Why not just say 'I have to go. I'm not really interested, but thank you.'

Why make up a lie when the truth would be so much better, (and they'd probably appreciate the honesty).

No I've never done it, but I'm normally pretty straight with people.

aye

I was out with a girl once, she just had nothing to say, no interests or anything. basically she wasnt my cuppa.
Basically told her i was wrecked and had to get up early ( i actually did have to get up early), then i rang the lads and met up with them in town.
only time i ever left a date like that.

Abi

fits wrote: »

Why not just say 'I have to go. I'm not really interested, but thank you.'

Why make up a lie when the truth would be so much better, (and they'd probably appreciate the honesty).

No I've never done it, but I'm normally pretty straight with people.

I see your point, but I think the idea behind the fib / sugar-coat is to avoid hurting anyones feelings. Its a difficult one to call, some do prefer the honesty and others would be seriously dented by it.

I think I'd probably make an excuse to leave. Not something outrageous, something plausible. I dont really see the point in saying you are not my type, or you are boring the pants off me etc. they couldnt help but take offence, and get pretty down about it.

So, another vote for the softly softly approach.

fits

Abigayle wrote: »

So, another vote for the softly softly approach.

Oh I agree with softly softly, but not with making up a lie and then ignoring them when they're trying to figure out whats going on.

Being straight doesnt mean you have to be cruel.

smiler26

Ashamed to admit it :rolleyes:, but on more than one occasion, I pretended I needed the ladies and did a runner out the nearest exit!

helimachoptor

smiler26 wrote: »

Ashamed to admit it :rolleyes:, but on more than one occasion, I pretended I needed the ladies and did a runner out the nearest exit!

You evil woman!!
I did it to a girl but its ok cos i'm a man!

Dragan

irishbird wrote: »

i would just say "i am sorry but i dont think this is working"

+1 , i believe if you have arranged to go on a date with someone then you can at least do them the courtesy of being honest with them.

John Mason

and also all this softly softly sugar coating bit - trust me hey know what you are doing, honesty is the best policy.

MIN2511

helimachoptor wrote: »

You evil woman!!
I did it to a girl but its ok cos i'm a man!

Really?

monkeyfudge

This is why I miss the wax museum.

I used to take dates there all the time. If there girl didn't seem all that great or was perhaps one of 'those sorts' who thinks it's a bit weird that you've taken them to a wax museum, well at least I'd still have lots of fun crawling through the furry tunnels...

Nevyn

It depends, if someone has been an utter ársehole then I might make up something outrageous just to watch thier face in revenge or I will have fun driving them demented with odd ball and zany conversation which will get worse and worse knowing that they will not want to talk to me ever again.

I did once have to leave a first date cos my cat had caught on fire, which wasn't a lie and was a shame cos it had been fun.

watna

monkeyfudge wrote: »

This is why I miss the wax museum.

I used to take dates there all the time. If there girl didn't seem all that great or was perhaps one of 'those sorts' who thinks it's a bit weird that you've taken them to a wax museum, well at least I'd still have lots of fun crawling through the furry tunnels...

I got lost in one of those tunnels when I was a kid. i crawled in and couldn't find my way out and I got scared and started to cry. This nice older boy helped me out, but not before my dad had crawled in the other end to get me.

If you took me to the wax museum I probably would have had scary flash backs and ended up a gibbering wreck!

watna

watna wrote: »

I got lost in one of those tunnels when I was a kid. i crawled in and couldn't find my way out and I got scared and started to cry. This nice older boy helped me out, but not before my dad had crawled in the other end to get me.

If you took me to the wax museum I probably would have had scary flash backs and ended up a gibbering wreck!

Me too.

I had a panic attack in the middle of a tunnel because I couldn't see my way out and my overzealous classmates started pushing me, and I was convinced I was going to suffocate/be crushed to death.

monkeyfudge

Man I loved that place.... sigh....

Weidii

Thaedydal wrote: »

I did once have to leave a first date cos my cat had caught on fire, which wasn't a lie and was a shame cos it had been fun.

:eek: Never heard of a case of feline spontaneous combustion!

On topic: I dunno what I'd do, I'm a bit too honest, so I'd prolly just tell them I'm not interested and leg it off.

panda100

monkeyfudge wrote: »

This is why I miss the wax museum.

I used to take dates there all the time. If there girl didn't seem all that great or was perhaps one of 'those sorts' who thinks it's a bit weird that you've taken them to a wax museum, well at least I'd still have lots of fun crawling through the furry tunnels...

That is so wierd!I did to! It was such a fun place to go on dates Going to the zoo isnt the same as funny bono deformed waxworks.

Havent had to make an emergency exit but Id say telling the truth and being honest that your not intrested is the best way to go.

mollybird

no i would never lie or confront them on it. i would just sit it out and not txt them back again.

buckfast4me

I just have to go to the errr.. toilet.. yeah that'll do..

xzanti

Thank God I've never been on a date that was so bad I needed to bolt.. I was in the Barge in Portobello one evening with my ex having a drink and a guy was sitting across from us, he was then joined by what appeared to be a blind date, anyway about 10 minutes later she got up to go to the toilet and never came back, I felt so sorry for him, he waited ages, then just necked her drink and shuffled off out of there, he looked mortified

monkeyfudge

That's nothing... I was in Captain Americas a few years back and a guy signaled for the music to be turned down and then he got down on his knee and proposed to the girl he was with... she just got up and ran out of the door.

I guess proposing in the best god damned steak house in town just isn't good enough for some women...

metaoblivia

I never even knew people did this type of thing, planning an 'emergency exit'. In fairness though, I kind of live in a hole when it comes to society.
Most of my dates have been fine, none bad enough to feel the need to run off. How long does dinner last, an hour, maybe two? Easy enough to sit it out, say you've had a nice night and go your separate ways.

ChewChew

monkeyfudge wrote: »

This is why I miss the wax museum.

I used to take dates there all the time. If there girl didn't seem all that great or was perhaps one of 'those sorts' who thinks it's a bit weird that you've taken them to a wax museum, well at least I'd still have lots of fun crawling through the furry tunnels...

Oh my god. . I'd sooo love a date like that. Now that'd be different and exciting. LOLs


I was on a date a few years back, and the guy took me to some ****ty bar in Temple Bar and the whole time all he wanted was for me to go the toilet with to for some *ahem* well I was only shocked. So I told him to go find the toilet, see if it was empty, and come back and get me. So off he went to find the loo's. Needless to say, I wasnt there when he got back!!!

monkeyfudge

ChewChew wrote: »

Oh my god. . I'd sooo love a date like that. Now that'd be different and exciting. LOLs


I was on a date a few years back, and the guy took me to some ****ty bar in Temple Bar and the whole time all he wanted was for me to go the toilet with to for some *ahem* well I was only shocked. So I told him to go find the toilet, see if it was empty, and come back and get me. So off he went to find the loo's. Needless to say, I wasnt there when he got back!!!

You'd think he'd be old enough to wipe his own bottom.

WindSock

monkeyfudge wrote: »

This is why I miss the wax museum.

I used to take dates there all the time. If there girl didn't seem all that great or was perhaps one of 'those sorts' who thinks it's a bit weird that you've taken them to a wax museum, well at least I'd still have lots of fun crawling through the furry tunnels...

You are always going on about going to the Wax museum with girls. I'm beginning to think they closed down the place because of you stealing your 'dates' from the displays

monkeyfudge

WindSock wrote: »

You are always going on about going to the Wax museum with girls. I'm beginning to think they closed down the place because of you stealing your 'dates' from the displays

Nonsense... in true horror movie fashion my dates became the displays.

That's why none of them ever looked like who they were meant to be.

Faith

In 6th year, I got asked out by this mind-bogglingly gorgeous Italian guy. After he kept trying to get me to come to his place, we agreed to meet for coffee in the afternoon in town. When we met, he brought me down to the furthest away, completely empty, darkest corner in the whole place and proceded to be really lecherous. He had absolutely nothing to say for himself other than ask me why I wasn't wearing the miniskirt I'd had on the night we met (in a club). I resorted to asking him questions that we learnt the answers to for our French oral - "What music do you like" and "What are your interests" type questions. He didn't like music and didn't have interests :pac:.

After he revoltingly stuck his tongue in my ear, I escaped and ran to the bathroom, where I rang my best friend and told her to ring me back in 2 minutes, pretending to be my mum. She did, and as I was making my excuses to leave, my actual mum rang! I just pretended that it was really urgent that I leave and pegged it.

God, that was awful!

AckwelFoley

Ok, Faith seems to have a pretty reasonable excuse to txt herself or use a "get out clause"...

However if i was on a date, and the woman bored me to a near coma, i would just try to enjoy the rest of the night and politely strike her name off the list of women id date in the future.

I think leaving somone mid way through a date for the simple reason that they bored you is a little harsh.

Just my opinion

echosound

monkeyfudge wrote: »

This is why I miss the wax museum.

I used to take dates there all the time. If there girl didn't seem all that great or was perhaps one of 'those sorts' who thinks it's a bit weird that you've taken them to a wax museum, well at least I'd still have lots of fun crawling through the furry tunnels...

My abiding memory of the wax museum was seeing a girl tumbling gleefully through aforementioned furry tunnels, coming to the exit, standing up and cracking all her front teeth right off at the gums as she hit the rail in front of the tunnel exit as she stood up. Not a pretty sight to see a hysterical 11 yr old with a mouth full of no teeth and a t-shirt soaked in blood. Not unless you're Rob Zombie or Eli Roth that is, I guess.

St Bill

Yeah it's not really fair to leave in the middle (unless you've got a lecherous Italian's tongue in your ear ). You can always use it as a learning experience.....e.g. learn to yawn with your mouth closed. This trick can be used in several situations, so it's well worth mastering.

John Mason

i had a date with a guy i meet out for dinner one night with a group of friends (he was a friend of a friend). anyway, he was charming, full of life and had a real cheeky streak to him. We swapped numbers and went out on a date. Now he didnt drink, so i brought my car with me and didnt drink either. It turned out to the be the most boring date of my life, he had nothing to say for himself and kept asking me "do i still look nervous", "what about now". Anyway, i stuck it out for 3 hours, and then he insisted on walking me to my car, where is proceed to stick his tongue down my throat and i literally mean stick it down my throat. He phoned me the next day to meet up again and i told him that i really didnt think it would work out. He then told my friend i was frigid - nice

St Bill

irishbird wrote: »

i had a date with a guy i meet out for dinner one night with a group of friends (he was a friend of a friend). anyway, he was charming, full of life and had a real cheeky streak to him. We swapped numbers and went out on a date. Now he didnt drink, so i brought my car with me and didnt drink either. It turned out to the be the most boring date of my life, he had nothing to say for himself and kept asking me "do i still look nervous", "what about now". Anyway, i stuck it out for 3 hours, and then he insisted on walking me to my car, where is proceed to stick his tongue down my throat and i literally mean stick it down my throat. He phoned me the next day to meet up again and i told him that i really didnt think it would work out. He then told my friend i was frigid - nice

He sounded like such a nice guy. You were mad to let him walk out of your life

tk123

Moonbaby wrote: »

Me too.

I had a panic attack in the middle of a tunnel because I couldn't see my way out and my overzealous classmates started pushing me, and I was convinced I was going to suffocate/be crushed to death.

I think it happened a lot tbh - hense the smell of pee in the tunnels where kids had freaked out!

neuro-praxis

Any man that took me to the Wax Museum for our first date would get 50 automatic brownie points then and there.

useful_contacts

Wel i did have a date once with a guy who was like a 90 year old man (in attitude and posture) Ate the waiter for not taking our order straight away , gawping at my chest the whole time , even when i called him on it still continued to do it etc. Complete twit. So anyway i got up to go to the loo (ie: do the friend call me with an emergency thing) and he says "Dont go calling your friends to ring ya up with an emergency", i was like "WTF are ya physic or something"

Anyway in the loo not knowing what to do (seriously couldnt stand this guy+wasnt staying) so got my sister to come into the restaurant and say there was an emergency. The guy seemed to buy it thankfully.Owed my sis a few drinks i tell ya.

SarahSassy

useful_contacts wrote: »

Wel i did have a date once with a guy who was like a 90 year old man (in attitude and posture) Ate the waiter for not taking our order straight away , gawping at my chest the whole time , even when i called him on it still continued to do it etc. Complete twit. So anyway i got up to go to the loo (ie: do the friend call me with an emergency thing) and he says "Dont go calling your friends to ring ya up with an emergency", i was like "WTF are ya physic or something"

Anyway in the loo not knowing what to do (seriously couldnt stand this guy+wasnt staying) so got my sister to come into the restaurant and say there was an emergency. The guy seemed to buy it thankfully.Owed my sis a few drinks i tell ya.

With a guy like this you are 100% right to just walk out... His manners were bad and his staring offensive.

TBH, if you sneak out on a decent, well meaning guy whom you may not fancy but he is doing his best to give you a good night out, then I think it is the height of ignorance....

jesus_thats_gre

MIN2511 wrote: »

Hallo,

Does anyone have “emergency exit” when on dates? Example getting your mates to ring you and pretend to be your mam J
I know it’s silly and juvenile but I have been on a date and he was so boring I texted myself an emergency and I ran… Do men do the same?

If you have done this in the past; share……

It is actually quite pathetic to be honest. It is something that it only acceptable to do if you are a childish 16 year old girl. Any adult with any sort of respect for other people should be able to handle it properly by being honest.

piscean

Went on a date few years ago, the guy turned up wearing a tracksuit on a night time date and I was all dolled up - was mortified! Then he brought me to a pub in town where some fella had been shot a few weeks beforehand (found that out afterwards)- i'd say I stuck out like a sore thumb!
Got last bus home that night and just ignored his texts for a while, he stalked me for a few weeks with calls and texts - think his record was 50 texts and 22 calls in 1 night - think I had a lucky escape there!!!

Star Lord

monkeyfudge wrote: »

This is why I miss the wax museum.
I used to take dates there all the time. If there girl didn't seem all that great or was perhaps one of 'those sorts' who thinks it's a bit weird that you've taken them to a wax museum, well at least I'd still have lots of fun crawling through the furry tunnels...

Dear jeebus help me, but am I the only one saw innuendo in this?

Faith wrote: »

In 6th year, I got asked out by this mind-bogglingly gorgeous Italian guy. After he kept trying to get me to come to his place, we agreed to meet for coffee in the afternoon in town. When we met, he brought me down to the furthest away, completely empty, darkest corner in the whole place and proceded to be really lecherous. He had absolutely nothing to say for himself other than ask me why I wasn't wearing the miniskirt I'd had on the night we met (in a club). I resorted to asking him questions that we learnt the answers to for our French oral - "What music do you like" and "What are your interests" type questions. He didn't like music and didn't have interests :pac:.

After he revoltingly stuck his tongue in my ear, I escaped and ran to the bathroom, where I rang my best friend and told her to ring me back in 2 minutes, pretending to be my mum. She did, and as I was making my excuses to leave, my actual mum rang! I just pretended that it was really urgent that I leave and pegged it.

God, that was awful!

TBH you should have told the guy where to go, and to his face. There's no excuse for that kind of behaviour.

Seraphina

never had the occasion to have to run out on a date because it was so bad, so i'm not really sure what i'd do in that situation.

i'd like to think i'd be mature, state my reasons and get on my way. fact is though, some men don't take rejection too well, and i have been insulted before when telling a guy after a couple of dates that 'it's not really working for me' or something similar.

Dragan

Seraphina wrote: »

i'd like to think i'd be mature, state my reasons and get on my way. fact is though, some men don't take rejection too well, and i have been insulted before when telling a guy after a couple of dates that 'it's not really working for me' or something similar.

And they wonder why it's not working for you? ha ha ha

Some men as pussies my dear, nothing you can do about that except point and laugh.

Weidii

piscean wrote: »

Went on a date few years ago, the guy turned up wearing a tracksuit on a night time date and I was all dolled up - was mortified! Then he brought me to a pub in town where some fella had been shot a few weeks beforehand (found that out afterwards)- i'd say I stuck out like a sore thumb!
Got last bus home that night and just ignored his texts for a while, he stalked me for a few weeks with calls and texts - think his record was 50 texts and 22 calls in 1 night - think I had a lucky escape there!!!

Agh, you poor thing. What on earth was he thinking wearing a tracksuit on a date?

I went on a date last night and was absolutely ****ting myself the whole way to the pub, thought I'd end up doing a runner before I even got there. Fortunately I stuck out the nerves and met the fella, who turned out to be really sound, we blabbed away all night!

chuci

cant say iv ever had to bail on a date phew. by the sounds of it there are a few random odd balls around the place. as for the wax place def 1000 brownie points.

OpenYourEyes

if the guy is ignorant/a pr*k then by all means run away!!

if hes genuinely trying, and is just boring or whatever, stick out the date and just dont arrange another one, telling him you dont think its best if need be!


Now, tell me more about this wax museum?!?!? where was it even?:D

Jules

think it was at the top of o'connell street. Never went to it myself, kinda regretting it now.

monkeyfudge

Yep... It was just off Parnell Square.



There was rumours of them reopening in Smithfield... but I think the days of the furry tunnels are numbered.

I'm a sucker for wax museums though... always try and find one when ever I'm on holiday in a new place.

Most recently I was at the Barcelona one.. it was pretty cool... can't find my photos from it though.. boo...

Star Lord

Was in Madam Tussauds in London last year, loved it!
Here's me paying a friend for a favour...