Advice

lisaloo

Am with my boyfriend nearly 2 years and was told basically to foff tonight while he watches the Liverpool match with his friends. I do like soccar and liverpool but my opinions dont count do they? cause im a woman!!!

i wont be back either tonight, he can foff

Silverfish

Hold on, are you living together?

lisaloo

yes we live together, but he owns the house. i have a house too but renting at the moment.

lisaloo

its piising me off

Ghost Train

you should start supporting arsenal and man united that will piss him off

Peared

How did you get to be living with somebody without discovering that they like football?

Actually hang on, is he telling you to leave the house while he watches it?

Quality

Just let him go off and enjoy his game,

he is obviously in the local boozer with a few of the lads talking about the game.

Its not as if he is gone into town on the razz.

Men need their space, you should enjoy your time out, Paint your nails or do your hair, or sort out your knicker drawer and let the man go off and enjoy the match.

He'll be pissed off with you if you make an issue of it.

Would you want him tagging along on a girls night out?

Silverfish

He's telling her to leave the house (that she lives in with him) so he can watch the match.


That's what I got from reading her post anyway, could be wrong.

Quality

Quality wrote: »

Just let him go off and enjoy his game,

he is obviously in the local boozer with a few of the lads talking about the game.

Its not as if he is gone into town on the razz.

Men need their space, you should enjoy your time out, Paint your nails or do your hair, or sort out your knicker drawer and let the man go off and enjoy the match.

He'll be pissed off with you if you make an issue of it.

Would you want him tagging along on a girls night out?

I imagine her problem is that he kicked her out of his house, her home, for the duration of the match. And wasn't particularly pleasant about it.
Otherwise I don't see what the issue is.

Quality

Moonbaby wrote: »

I imagine her problem is that he kicked her out of his house, her home, for the duration of the match. And wasn't particularly pleasant about it.
Otherwise I don't see what the issue is.

In that case, I would handcuff myself to the sofa!!

Feckin cheek of him...

Rob_l

He has a point in fairness

lisaloo

i live with my boyfriend and we have always watched soccar together but this time he said he's watching with friends, i should go and come back when the match is over.

lisaloo

lisaloo wrote: »

i live with my boyfriend and we have always watched soccar together but this time he said he's watching with friends, i should go and come back when the match is over.

id tell him i wouldnt be back at all in that case

lorweld

lisaloo wrote: »

i live with my boyfriend and we have always watched soccar together but this time he said he's watching with friends, i should go and come back when the match is over.

No way I wouldn't take that. Why couldn't he go to the pub or to another friends house to watch it??? I'd give my bf hell for this I just would refuse to leave the house. Where are you now did you leave?

lisaloo

i left earlier.told him id be back later on but i wont. just gonna leve him to it now.

AckwelFoley

Its football.

Its man time

Its the last thing we have thats ours..


..well that and taking a pee standing up. (u can try but its not the same )

lorweld

Yeah give him a fright! You're dead right, he might think twice about evicting you for the next match!

Rob_l

lorweld wrote: »

No way I wouldn't take that. Why couldn't he go to the pub or to another friends house to watch it??? I'd give my bf hell for this I just would refuse to leave the house. Where are you now did you leave?

He is only asking for one evening free!
Is it such a major problem rob thinks not

Silverfish

Rob_l wrote: »

He is only asking for one evening free!
Is it such a major problem rob thinks not

So why not enjoy an evening free when she HAS to go out, not by MAKING her leave.

Its her home!

Rob_l

Silverfish wrote: »

So why not enjoy an evening free when she HAS to go out, not by MAKING her leave.

Its her home!

because the match is on tonight unfortunately uefa dont take into consideration peoples gf when arranging matches how inconsiderate of them.

Op he just wants a boys night for what is a big match you haven't mentioned any other problems ye have so why make a big deal out of something that isn't that major an issue

Silverfish

I wouldn't give two ****s, no-one would make me leave my own home, match or no match.


EDIT: except zombies. And vampires. And zompires.

AckwelFoley

Silverfish wrote: »

So why not enjoy an evening free when she HAS to go out, not by MAKING her leave.

Its her home!

Good idea

He should just send a email to UEFA to change to match time to suit her schedule.:rolleyes:

Rob_l

Silverfish wrote: »

I wouldn't give two ****s, no-one would make me leave my own home, match or no match.


EDIT: except zombies. And vampires. And zompires.

Ah I see very rational approach to take indeed

Silverfish

So you're telling me its acceptable to make your partner leave their home because of a football match?

I wonder if she should tell him to get out cos she wants to watch something on tv.

I know I would.

Rob_l

snyper wrote: »

Good idea

He should just send a email to UEFA to change to match time to suit her schedule.:rolleyes:

snap

AckwelFoley

For months i thought "Desparate Housewives" was called STFU


Because thats all i heard from her anytime i moved, blinked or pass wind while it was on.

Rob_l

Silverfish wrote: »

So you're telling me its acceptable to make your partner leave their home because of a football match?

I wonder if she should tell him to get out cos she wants to watch something on tv.

I know I would.

Well from the op's post i believe it is in fact his home she is renting hers so yes why should he not be able to say to a rational sane thinking person look can you go out for the night so i can have my house free to watch the match with my friends

daisy123

Did he give you any notice?? The opportunity to stay in the house but out of him and his mates' way? If no, then I would totally not go back!! And next time Desperate Housewives or something is on, make HIM leave!!!

I never got the whole "ME MAN, ME LIKES FOOTBALL, YOU WOMAN, YOU NOT UNDERSTAND FOOTBALL AND MAN TIME" thing. Luckily my OH doesn't like football...motorsport on the other hand..


EDIT: Hahaha at Snyper's post, it's funny cause it's true

Cadyboo

Oh my god, i would kick his ass!! Fair enough if he wants to watch the match with his friends, but you could have gone to the kitchen or the bedroom.
You should have an ann summers party or something with the girls at the weekend n kick him out!!!

The Recliner

Silverfish wrote: »

I wouldn't give two ****s, no-one would make me leave my own home, match or no match.


EDIT: except zombies. And vampires. And zompires.

Agree with this

The Op's boyfriend is out of order

I was delighted when my ex started taking an interest in football, it was great to be able to watch stuff with her

Silverfish

Rob_l wrote: »

Well from the op's post i believe it is in fact his home she is renting hers so yes why should he not be able to say to a rational sane thinking person look can you go out for the night so i can have my house free to watch the match with my friends

And if he was a rational sane person he would accept it if told him she didn't want to.

It doesn't matter who owns the house, its still her home, if she contributes towards his mortgage or whatever.

No reason for it whatsoever, especially since she's interested in football as well.

Cadyboo

snyper wrote: »

For months i thought "Desparate Housewives" was called STFU


Because thats all i heard from her anytime i moved, blinked or pass wind while it was on.

Ha ha, she was dead right too!!! :D

lisaloo

lisaloo wrote: »

i left earlier.told him id be back later on but i wont. just gonna leve him to it now.

tbh i doubt he'd notice if you arent back this evening

Rob_l

Silverfish wrote: »

And if he was a rational sane person he would accept it if told him she didn't want to.

The op didn't say this

Silverfish wrote: »

It doesn't matter who owns the house, its still her home, if she contributes towards his mortgage or whatever.

She never said she does this either

Silverfish wrote: »

No reason for it whatsoever, especially since she's interested in football as well.

its a boys night! he wants to have a boys night! he does not want his girlfriend hanging over his shoulder, whatever you may think people act differently when in the company of their partners and tonight he wants to ahve a laugh and watch the game with the boys

Gillo

Rob_l wrote: »

its a boys night! he wants to have a boys night! he does not want his girlfriend hanging over his shoulder, whatever you may think people act differently when in the company of their partners and tonight he wants to ahve a laugh and watch the game with the boys

Yeah, but he could have handled it a lot better than what the op said. No way I'd tell the misses to get out cos I want to watch the footie (and now I wouldn't leave a post-it on the iron) TBH I'd prefer to watch fottie in a pub as there is generally a better atmosphere.

lisaloo

feck it

Sherifu

lisaloo wrote: »

feck it

What happened?

The Sweeper

"There is football on the television and I want to watch it with my friends." <-- not the issue.

"...so get out." <-- the issue.

I don't think it's remotely unreasonable to be annoyed by the second part. Being annoyed by the first part would be silly.

Minesajackdaniels

Minesajackdaniels wrote: »

"There is football on the television and I want to watch it with my friends." <-- not the issue.

"...so get out." <-- the issue.

I don't think it's remotely unreasonable to be annoyed by the second part. Being annoyed by the first part would be silly.

Unless it clashed with Desperate Housewives.

johnnyskeleton

Silverfish wrote: »

And if he was a rational sane person he would accept it if told him she didn't want to.

It doesn't matter who owns the house, its still her home, if she contributes towards his mortgage or whatever.

I think you're reading entirely too much into her post that isn't there. What if, on the other hand, they both had a house each, and she pressured him into them both moving into his house and she rents out hers? What if he had the house from before going out with her, and find the relationship moving too fast etc? She called it "his" house which is probably a good indication of how she views the house.

Silverfish

johnnyskeleton wrote: »

I think you're reading entirely too much into her post that isn't there. What if, on the other hand, they both had a house each, and she pressured him into them both moving into his house and she rents out hers? What if he had the house from before going out with her, and find the relationship moving too fast etc? She called it "his" house which is probably a good indication of how she views the house.

What if nothing.

She lives there, its her home. He can either ask her to move out permanently, or accept she lives there. If he accepts she lives there, he can't ask her to get out so he can watch a football match.

If he's allowed her to move in, he can't just pick and choose when he wants her there.

Pj!

In fairness, if a guy came on here saying he got kicked out of the house because his OH was having a girls night in, what sympathy would he get?

It was unfair though, and she'll have to deal with it without going overboard.

Ginny

Why does she have to leave the house though?
There's been girls nights in/boys nights in with my ex and there is no way in hell we'd ask the OH to "get out". Why can't she stay in the house and they just watch the footie in a seperate room.
There's also quite a difference in being told to keep quiet while some is watching a program they like while you're still there to telling you to get out so they can watch the football.

If he's so determined on a boys night, how about a single mates gaff, or the pub, I'd bet of the OP was just the boyfriends room-mate rather then OH he'd think twice about asking them to leave.

The Sweeper

Forky wrote: »

In fairness, if a guy came on here saying he got kicked out of the house because his OH was having a girls night in, what sympathy would he get?

I'd hope he'd get plenty of sympathy, because it's a dog rotten thing to do to someone to throw them out of their own home because you want to do something recreational in it.

Wibbs

^^ agreed well out of order for anyone, never mind gender.

GuanYin

I don't think this is a tit for tat kinda situation and staying away isn't going to help. I'd sit down and have a chat because if what he said is actually "leave my house while I watch soccer" or any variation, you don't want to be in that relationship.

I broke up with someone recently for being way too clingy, and maybe thats it, maybe he feels you spend too much time together. I had loooong chats with my partner where I explained that wanting to do things apart didn't mean I cared for them any less. Being apart is important but there is a difference between you not giving him his own time and him ejecting you from your home for a game of soccer.

If I didn't like soccer (and I do) I'd simply call some friends over and hang out with them in another room if I wanted to stay (personally I would probably go out though).

What you need to do is figure out how he justifies that and (maybe) set up some boundies in your relationship, cos it doesn't sound like you have any.

SarahSassy

Rob_l wrote: »

He has a point in fairness

Sod back off to BGRH

Abi

No way would I have left the house.

This approach might seem a little sterile but I've never had a girls night in, and hes never had a lads night in. If we want to hang out with friends we take it out to the pub / restaurant or whatever rather than disrupt the home.

It is unreasonable imo to ask one or the other to leave the house. What if you don't feel like going out?

The Sweeper

SarahSassy wrote: »

Sod back off to BGRH

Sarah don't feed the trolls.

lisaloo

only 1 friend showed up to watch the match last night, the friend we are both friends with.

heavyheart

lisaloo wrote: »

only 1 friend showed up to watch the match last night, the friend we are both friends with.

In future suggest to him he tells you in advance if he is planning such a night then you can organize a wine night with a old buddy for a catch up or something ...both of ye wins !