Where are all the men?

dietcoke1145

Hi all. New to boards and I'm sure that this has been discussed a thousand times before but here it is again!

27 year old female who is now single for a year and a half after a long term relationship ended. I've been fine on my own so far as have kept myself very busy, but with spring/summer in the air I'd love to meet someone. Go out every weekend (well nearly as it's getting repetative now) and have dipped my toe into the online dating thing but am getting bored of stinted conversations (and some undesirables) via e-mail.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not on the prowl for a husband as to be honest I'm still a bit cautious, but haven't met anyone that I have even clicked with in a tiny way. It's so hard to meet people in the pub/club scene.

Would love any suggestions or ideas or maybe I'm asking the impossible!

justsomebloke

well all the good men are here http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/forumdisplay.php?f=908

and you will have your own chance to meet us at the http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055244107

kaimera

dietcoke1145 wrote: »

Hi all. New to boards and I'm sure that this has been discussed a thousand times before but here it is again!

27 year old female who is now single for a year and a half after a long term relationship ended. I've been fine on my own so far as have kept myself very busy, but with spring/summer in the air I'd love to meet someone. Go out every weekend (well nearly as it's getting repetative now) and have dipped my toe into the online dating thing but am getting bored of stinted conversations (and some undesirables) via e-mail.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not on the prowl for a husband as to be honest I'm still a bit cautious, but haven't met anyone that I have even clicked with in a tiny way. It's so hard to meet people in the pub/club scene.

Would love any suggestions or ideas or maybe I'm asking the impossible!

asl?

How you doin'? :pac:

6th

Well you came to the right place! While Boards.ie is not a dating site it is a very social one, or it can be if you really get into it.

Having forums for so many different topics means that if you post in the places that interest you you will meet people into the same things.

Boards Beers are also great fun. There are people married, engaged, seeing each other thanks to this place and there are even Boards.ie Babies!

Welcome to Boards and make sure to check out all the different forums

Silverfish

Don't listen to men telling you where all the men are.

You don't want those men.

Might I recommend one of the fantastic boards.ie events? Such as the BGRHLL beers on the .. 4th April ( it is the 4th, isn't it). Its a great way to meet people.


Reminder: This isn't a dating forum. No more 'a/s/l's' or 'How you doin's' or whatever. We'll just get 4 pages of that and it makes for boring reading for everyone else.

aye

go to a gym, drop your water bottle and bend over to pick it up without bending your knees. that should works

Sangre

yes, no doubt the nearest kind, handsome doctor will get down on bended knee and propose to her.

Balmed Out

keep the chin up. After a long term relationship i found that as soon as i started going out with no intention of meeting anyone i would meet someone. Had a couple of 3 month long "relationships" and im enjoying it. May not have met the woman of my dreams yet but the latest ones going well enough. Were not that bad a lot really so just be open but not actively scouring for someone that ticks every box.

MIN2511

I can relate to where you are coming from, you just want some eye candy! I am the same, frustrating

Not sure about going to the night out on the 4th, everyone would know who i am and ruin the anonymous thing of being on boards. I can relate to where you are coming from, you just want some eye candy! I am the same, frustrating

citytillidie

dietcoke1145 wrote: »

Hi all. New to boards and I'm sure that this has been discussed a thousand times before but here it is again!

27 year old female who is now single for a year and a half after a long term relationship ended. I've been fine on my own so far as have kept myself very busy, but with spring/summer in the air I'd love to meet someone. Go out every weekend (well nearly as it's getting repetative now) and have dipped my toe into the online dating thing but am getting bored of stinted conversations (and some undesirables) via e-mail.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not on the prowl for a husband as to be honest I'm still a bit cautious, but haven't met anyone that I have even clicked with in a tiny way. It's so hard to meet people in the pub/club scene.

Would love any suggestions or ideas or maybe I'm asking the impossible!

Hello and welcome to the boards, maybe find something that intrests you and if there is a club near you then join it that way you have something to talk about right away.

doonothing

Jaysus... These guys are HILARIOUS.....
Ah OP, just join an art class or something, you're bound to get chatting to a few people, the more things you do the more potential males are about.
The gym is another good place to meet people, unlike loud, sweaty, dark clubs with drunk idiots all looking their best! Deceptive to say the least!

Anyhoo, there doesn't seem to be a confidence issua involved, so I reckon just get yourself to a few classes or something and be friendly!

LouOB

1. get more single friends
2. get out of dublin - fine things out side the pale
3. buy more push up bras
4. go for mr right- now, rather than mr. right
5. get drunk - you wont be as picky when beer goggles are on

any more ill have to charge

aye

The problem with the online thing is you are probably messaging back and forth for ages before meeting. so its gets stale, only so much people can say in an email.
i do think going to the gym would be an ideas, lots of blokes there, or joining a class.

would you ever ask a guy out if you saw them in a bar? or are you waiting for the guy to make the first move?

citytillidie

Lou whats the Pale?

tallaght01

If you have a job, have a few hobbies, and have a reasonable social life, then you must bump into a fair amount of blokes.

Just ask one of them out.

The sooner you realise that guys are easy, the sooner you'll restore your inner karma

Balmed Out

people keep saying the gym but i cant see it. I use one most days and id find it weird to start chatting someone up while they are working out. I mean your all sweaty and out of breath it just wouldnt work. I dont know about any of ye but id only come across as some sort of pervert panting with beads of sweat running down my face. I have kissed a girl in a club that i knew to see from the gym but that hardly counts. I reckon just going out with a wide variety of people works best.

pow wow

Put a photo on your boards.ie profile....I ain't kidding :cool:

DetectivFoxtrot

Welcome to Boards dietcoke11.45!

Trot on over to the Beer Guts and Receeding Hair forum under Rec. Have a drink at the bar. Get to know the other Boardsies. male and female. It's lighthearted (read the charter) and good craic and the chaps are real nice (and dare I say funny and witty!). You never know, you could click with someone.
If you're brave head into the drinks on the 4th or wait for the next one.

Beware of Snyper:eek: (he gets drinks thrown over him regularly LOL)!


p.s. I don't get the gym notion. They are not pick up joints. don't do it!

fits

Balmed Out wrote: »

people keep saying the gym but i cant see it. I use one most days and id find it weird to start chatting someone up while they are working out. I mean your all sweaty and out of breath it just wouldnt work. I dont know about any of ye but id only come across as some sort of pervert panting with beads of sweat running down my face. I have kissed a girl in a club that i knew to see from the gym but that hardly counts. I reckon just going out with a wide variety of people works best.

Me neither! Its the last place I would think about meeting someone. everyone's sweaty and red... although I dont like gyms much anyway which doesnt help I suppose.

tallaght01

tallaght01 wrote: »

The sooner you realise that guys are easy, the sooner you'll restore your inner karma

Not enough...you need to learn how to handle easy men too.
Don't use them as an ego boost.
Look to prioritise your needs and don't waste your time with people who aren't meeting expectations.

King of Kings

Silverfish wrote: »

Don't listen to men telling you where all the men are.

You don't want those men.

humour me and explain that logic.....
why not?

OP - we are found everywhere. It's only when you're looking there is nobody. when you're with somebody you find loads of really sweet people. it's just the way and i'd be rich if i could figure it out.

funnily enough I ask that frequently "where are all the single non-under 23 year old women gone?"

- away from you

Balmed Out wrote: »

people keep saying the gym but i cant see it. I use one most days and id find it weird to start chatting someone up while they are working out.

agreed. it's nice to be admired in the gym but not the best for chatting to somebody - i'm usually too busy - and the intrusion prob not welcome.

Silverfish

King of Kings wrote: »

humour me and explain that logic.....
why not?

You didn't see the deleted posts.

King of Kings

Silverfish wrote: »

You didn't see the deleted posts.

coolio. get ya!
i consider myself humoured.

NEWSFLASH!

truth dawns on king of kings that all men aren't as charming and witty as he

Silverfish

King of Kings wrote: »

humour me and explain that logic.....
why not?

OP - we are found everywhere. It's only when you're looking there is nobody. when you're with somebody you find loads of really sweet people. it's just the way and i'd be rich if i could figure it out.

It's the 'grass is greener' theory. You only think they're sweet because you shouldn't get involved with them. If you were single, they'd bore you or annoy you or just be plain unattractive.

dietcoke1145

Thanks to all of you for your replies. I really appreciate it ... and I know some of you are right ... when you're not looking that's when it happens ... just miss it sometimes. Anyways ... I'm sure I'll get over it!:)
Thanks again to all of you who took the time to reply.

WindSock

Well I'm not looking and I have done plenty of extra curricular activites such as Art, Psychology, First Aid and Volunteering and I certainly see little to no men at all. In fact for all of those activities there has only been 1 man to 12 Women approx. I think all the men are at home watching telly/internet and moaning that they can't get their hole.


Check out the Stickied thread here and in the Beer guts forum about our night out next Friday all welcome.

That She-ra signpost thingy is class Windsock!

WindSock

Ta, courtesy of MonkeyFace. He gave me a few more to use, I'll stick them in a thread if anyone else wants to use them.

Dragan

fits wrote: »

Me neither! Its the last place I would think about meeting someone. everyone's sweaty and red... although I dont like gyms much anyway which doesnt help I suppose.

Indeed, the last thing you want to be in the presence of someone you are attracted to is sweaty and red.

People just limit themselves because they are afraid to approach people in odd circumstances. Only yesterday a girl walking past me in the street asked for my number.

Did i give it to her? Hell yes i did, she had the courage to ask for it.....besides, she got to the question just a second before i could ask her!

My point is that i see a lot of girls ( and guys ) complaining about never really meeting people and if you dig deep enough it turns out they never really try any thing new or take a bit of a risk.

aye

Dragan wrote: »

Only yesterday a girl walking past me in the street asked for my number.

Did i give it to her? Hell yes i did, she had the courage to ask for it.....besides, she got to the question just a second before i could ask her!

High Five!

Dragan wrote: »

My point is that i see a lot of girls ( and guys ) complaining about never really meeting people and if you dig deep enough it turns out they never really try any thing new or take a bit of a risk.

True. Even when people go to these classes they don't ask people out. I'm not saying it's easy, it's not in the slightest, but nothing ventured nothing gained.

Dragan

aye wrote: »

High Five!



True. Even when people go to these classes they don't ask people out. I'm not saying it's easy, it's not in the slightest, but nothing ventured nothing gained.

Cheers!

And it's not even asking people out, it just being social and nice!

I mean, there was a thread here not to long ago about girls approaching guys and lots of girls said they would not do it. Then we have one or two threads about it being hard to meet guys.

In my opinion, the rock cannot complain about the waves that crash against it.

aye

Dragan wrote: »

Cheers!

And it's not even asking people out, it just being social and nice!

I mean, there was a thread here not to long ago about girls approaching guys and lots of girls said they would not do it. Then we have one or two threads about it being hard to meet guys.

In my opinion, the rock cannot complain about the waves that crash against it.

+1.

thats why i was asking the OP if she'd make the move.
Its hard enough for guys to make the first move, and generally thats because women can sometimes be very unreceptive to it.
most guys, and i am generalising here, would go out with a girl if she asked, if even just to get to know her.

panda100

dietcoke1145 wrote: »

27 year old female who is now single for a year and a half after a long term relationship ended. I've been fine on my own so far as have kept myself very busy, but with spring/summer in the air I'd love to meet someone. Go out every weekend (well nearly as it's getting repetative now) and have dipped my toe into the online dating thing but am getting bored of stinted conversations (and some undesirables) via e-mail.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not on the prowl for a husband as to be honest I'm still a bit cautious, but haven't met anyone that I have even clicked with in a tiny way. It's so hard to meet people in the pub/club scene.

Heya and welcome to boards!
I know exactly how you mean!Ive been single for well over three years now and am sick of it! Its just so damn difficult to meet someone.

I always find going out to pubs/clubs pointless in meeting people because unless your pretty hammered,I find, its quite difficult to get chatting to people and guys never come up and chat to me anyways.

I dont agree with all this joining clubs etc and putting yourself out there more stuff. It sounds like your putting yourslef out there already.It reminds me of the sex and the city episode when Charlotte and Carrie are at a love seminar and Carrie grabs the mike and says'Oh believe me she's out there'.(remember that?) The simple fact is that its very very tough to meet someone and its difficult consistently being single when other people meet guys so easily.
Sorry this isnt very postive advice or helpful but hopefully it will help you feel better that theres other going through the same single phase

Oh and definatly go to the BGRH and LL meetup next week!

aye

panda100 wrote: »

I always find going out to pubs/clubs pointless in meeting people because unless your pretty hammered,I find, its quite difficult to get chatting to people and guys never come up and chat to me anyways.

thats the reason people say to join clubs etc. you might meet some like minded people, who arent hammered.
pub quizzes are actually always good for meeting people too.

Ginny

TBH I think some people can get a bit fixiated on "meeting someone", anytime I've meet someone special its when I've not be looking, so right now I'm just enjoying life and looking after myself, everything else will fall into place..:D

LAG

Silverfish wrote: »

Might I recommend one of the fantastic boards.ie events? Such as the BGRHLL beers on the .. 4th April ( it is the 4th, isn't it). Its a great way to meet people.

Where can I find information on this?

Mr. Incognito

I saw them all queing aoutside tesco's last thursday on Camden street about 8- maybe you could wait outside for them...........

Seriously, If you want to find someone- get off your arse. This is called the real world and you have to make an effort. Try Board Beers.

monkeyfudge

WindSock wrote: »

Ta, courtesy of MonkeyFace. He gave me a few more to use, I'll stick them in a thread if anyone else wants to use them.

Pfft... I don't have a face of a monkey...


I possibly have the arse of a baboon though.

Clare Bear

dietcoke1145 wrote: »

Hi all. New to boards and I'm sure that this has been discussed a thousand times before but here it is again!

27 year old female who is now single for a year and a half after a long term relationship ended. I've been fine on my own so far as have kept myself very busy, but with spring/summer in the air I'd love to meet someone. Go out every weekend (well nearly as it's getting repetative now) and have dipped my toe into the online dating thing but am getting bored of stinted conversations (and some undesirables) via e-mail.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not on the prowl for a husband as to be honest I'm still a bit cautious, but haven't met anyone that I have even clicked with in a tiny way. It's so hard to meet people in the pub/club scene.

Would love any suggestions or ideas or maybe I'm asking the impossible!

I think maybe give the online dating thing another go? Everything takes time. A few of my friends are in long term relationships with guys they met online and are very happy. They're lovely chaps too, there's some good guys in the land of online dating, just as with everything else you need to give it time and patience. Good luck

LouOB

citytillidie wrote: »

Lou whats the Pale?

:eek:

citytillidie

LouOB wrote: »

:eek:

Looks what have i said wrong

topper75

Pale = Dublin city and surrounding counties (or most thereof), where anglo culture flourishes and Gaeldom is despised. They hate the Irish.

YogiBear

WindSock wrote: »

Well I'm not looking and I have done plenty of extra curricular activites such as Art, Psychology, First Aid and Volunteering and I certainly see little to no men at all. In fact for all of those activities there has only been 1 man to 12 Women approx. I think all the men are at home watching telly/internet and moaning that they can't get their hole.


Check out the Stickied thread here and in the Beer guts forum about our night out next Friday all welcome.

Lol! A good number of them anyway!! haha!

monkeyfudge

topper75 wrote: »

Pale = Dublin city and surrounding counties (or most thereof), where anglo culture flourishes and Gaeldom is despised. They hate the Irish.

Grrrr.... I hate those Irish sooooo... much!!!

Oh... and it's the phrase 'Gone beyond the pale' comes from.

citytillidie

I would never have known that been from way up here in the black north

AckwelFoley

DetectivFoxtrot wrote: »

Beware of Snyper:eek: (he gets drinks thrown over him regularly LOL)!

Dont worry dietcoke, if you have a pulse (or had one in the last few hours) and know the square root of 9 is, id date you. The only girl to ever throw a drink on me failed my simple criteria

I would however warn you i have a face that makes small children cry.

dietcoke1145

Ah ... thanks a million guys and girls! Will keep positive and going the way I'm going. And some day .... who knows?!

Star Lord

Keeping positive is the most important thing!

I met my lady out in a pub with some mutual friends, and we got chatting and joking, ended up swapping numbers and texting/chatting on MSN where we got to know one another better between times, and one evening (feeling a little adventurous and bold) we were playing some of the msn games, and I asked her if she wanted to bet on it, and if she lost she had to go on a date with me and had to at least pretend she enjoyed it...

We're going out 3.5 months now and all's great

AckwelFoley

DamoElDiablo wrote: »

We're going out 3.5 months now and all's great

The joys of a budding romance.

*pass the bucked*

Ignore me, im just bitter

DetectivFoxtrot

snyper wrote: »

The joys of a budding romance.

*pass the bucked*

Ignore me, im just bitter

Single then Snypie??

life's a beeatch!:)

AckwelFoley

DetectivFoxtrot wrote: »

Single then Snypie??

life's a beeatch!:)

*grunts* :pac: