Does he climax everytime?

Profiler

santiago123 wrote: »

Wish he would just lodge the sperm in me to show that he still finds me attractive and that I turn him on.

Hope you never said that to him!

There are many different ways for a guy to show his other half that he is attracted to her, simply lodging something (other than his share of the household bills) is not the way!

Talk to to him, ask him to tell you what he likes, how much pressure he likes on his penis how fast he likes it to be stroked and then work his answers into foreplay and or oral sex, then tell him how you like to your vagina to be touched and kissed in foreplay or oral sex. If you don't communicate you don't stand a chance!

LegacyUser

If hes hard your turning him on, him "lodging" his sperm into you has nothing to do with finding you attractive. It strikes me as a physical sensitivity issue. The only thing that comes to mind is that he masterbates alot reducing his sensitivity

Sherifu

Could well be a case of him masturbating too much, you need to talk to him if it's bothering you.

Marksie

santiago123 wrote: »

I would just feel better if he came more often. I can't even seem to get him to climax inside or outside my vagina so I don't think he is afraid of having children or any like that.
Especially when I am on top i would like the feeling that I gave him so much pleasure that he came in me but now I'm not sure when he has enough.

I frequently dont ejaculate with apartner, when i do its because i choose to. Orgasm and ejaculation can be separated, and it is possible for a man to have as many multpile orgasms as a woman over an extended period with correct breathing an PC control.
Work on that instead? Which would you prefer..though i guess i know already, the fact he has one quick 10second ejaculation or as many orgasms as he wants over an extended period?

Think differently.

santiago123 wrote: »

We talked and he said that he orgasms when he masterbates but he said he is thinking of me when he is materbating.
Wish he would just lodge the sperm in me to show that he still finds me attractive and that I turn him on.

OK there is something there, when i masturbate i will go for ejaculation at some point. With a partner its different, we are not looking for end poiunts but the whole experience

But i have heard your last comment before and its a common one. It is also the crux of your issue with this. That you do not feel attractive unless he comes inside you, that somehow you have "failed".

That is western thinking, to be sure.
But lets look at another approach: if he came off in you within two minutes and rolled over and went to sleep would you feel more loved and desired than if you both spent hours bringing youselves to a state of ecstacy?

Again think different

Edit: One thought did occur to me though. If he ejaculates while masturbating: why dont you get hime to do it i front of you, or noth do it together but yourselves. That sreves two purposes..you will know what brings him off as he is very intimately aware of his own measn of "cumming" Iand vice versa) and two: it can be very very arousing to watch your partner bring themselves off

santiago123

Thanks for the suggestions to watch each other masterbate. I don't think I could bring myself to doing this in front of my partner - would have to have a lot of drink taken. I watched those blue movies when guys cum in front of there partner but that would not be for us. I certainly wouldn't enjoy him climaxing in my mouth as from past experience I have yet to taste easy to swallow sperm.
He lends a hand when I'm stroking him under the covers when I a priming him prior to peneration but that is as far as I think we would go as regards masterbating in front of each other.
He works nights so we only have sex during the day usually so maybe he finds it difficult to cum when it daylight as its not as natural perhaps.
Its not that he does not satisfy me in sexually as he is great for trying all positions I just wanted to know if my guys cum during peneration all the time as my guy doesn't.

Miss Fluff

santiago123 wrote: »

to swallow sperm.
He lends a hand when I'm stroking him under the covers when I a priming him prior to peneration but that is as far as I think we would go as regards masterbating in front of each other.

How long does foreplay normally last OP? What do you do with each other before penetration happens?

santiago123

Our foreplay is pretty regular stuff I suspect. He fingers me to make me moist and the usual feeling/licking breasts and stuff - gives me oral if he thinks I am still too dry for peneration. He usually penetrates me within 10 minutes or after we start foreplay.
Maybe I get too moist or something and that stops him cumming.

Miss Fluff

A few things strike me about your post OP.

How do you pleasure him though?How often do blow jobs feature? If you are worried about him coming in your mouth which you mentioned earlier you can always bring him to the point where he is about to. (also have a look at his diet, ask him to eat strawberries and kiwis)

Also, do you masturbate yourself? Doing this in front of one another can be a really exciting part of foreplay so if you are comfortable doing it then you should think about letting it feature OP!

He works nights and you work days. This suggests to me that you may not have much time for sex you can take your time over, especially if one is tired after a hard day's work and the other is rearing to go. Perhaps set aside one night a week for now where you can really concentrate on spending 3 or 4 hours in lovemaking.

Finally, if he invariably comes when he masturbates do you know how regularly he is masturbating? I mean if he is bashing the bishop five times a day he may not have the "reserves" to ejaculate during penetration.

colly10

@OP - I don't think that him not cumming is not a problem tbh, i've been in relationships where i've cum everytime and others where id hardly ever come. Whether I came or not did not reflect the quality of the sex and I don't think theres anything a girl can do to make a guy cum.
I cum when I decide I want to and I don't really think it's much better or worse whether I do or not. Drink definitely makes it more difficult but nothing makes it more difficult than a girl who's trying to get you to cum.
If you just relax, forget about him and enjoy yourself he'll probably find it much easier, i'd say there's little most lads like more than watching their gf enjoying themselves so after you come don't think straight away that you have to return the favour, don't try and when your not getting any more out of it tell him you'll have to stop soon

Edit - Agree with Miss Fluff, if he's masturbating all the time then it'll be alot more difficult

minidazzler

OP It could be that he cleans the tubes a few times a day and as such has very little semen left.

Try going at it one morning after a sexless night, that will tell you if he can ejaculate.

Remember Orgasm and Climax are the same but Ejacuation is not the same as these.

santiago123

Thanks again all for the advice again.
to answer your questions.
He doesn't usually require much foreplay to get him hard...I usually just give his penis a few pumps as it gets hard and he enjoys the foreskin pulled back for sex so I usually bring that over the head for him if not already folded back.
He is a regular masterbater - but not over kill I think. I can usually tell if he as gotten off earlier in the day - he just smells different or something.
I masterbate sometimes when he is giving me oral but he is under the duvet so I don't think that counts as masterbating in front of him as its dark.
As he works night as girl has to keep herself amuzed so yeah I would masterbate properly the odd night which I have to admit I do enjoy but I would never be able to do it in full view of my partner. its more enjoyable that my partners forplay technique but I never met a guy who could finger me like the way I finger myself and I think that is only natural but but having his penis inside me over rides all.
Colly100 suggested that I might be trying to hard to get him to cum and this is something that I had not thought off and could be true. Especially when I am on top I try all sorts of stuff to get him to cum.
I have gone off the point here as I originally just wanted to know why he cums so little in me.

Miss Fluff

Well I'm not so sure "a few pumps":eek: as you put it would constitute as foreplay now OP would you? You mention he goes down on you etc but what do you do for him? You intimate that as soon as he has an erection he then enters you?Sounds like you do nothing really to get him aroused before he penetrates you. Don't let him/encourage him. Give him a good blow job/play with him to the point of no return, seems like you are focussing on penetration without actually building up to it in any way. Why don't you practice taking the onus of penetration for now and working on your mutual masturbation techniques? If you can pleasure yourself to orgasm that's great, but he's not a mind reader, you are going to have to show him. Likewise, let him show you what turns him on.

colly10

santiago123 wrote: »

Especially when I am on top I try all sorts of stuff to get him to cum.
I have gone off the point here as I originally just wanted to know why he cums so little in me.

Ye that probably a good bit of the problem there alright, your trying things that don't come natural, making too much of an effort really. I've found that the things that feel the best to me are usually the things that feel the best to her, so it basically feels better when she's not trying to please me, just trying to please herself (the same obviously doesn't apply to foreplay)
You cant make him cum, the worst sex i've ever had is with the girl that tried the hardest, just do what feels good to you and enjoy it

santiago123

I suppose I am a bit on the mean side when it comes to foreplay. I know he likes blowjobs as any guy I have been with does but I don't want him to get the idea that he is going to get a bj on a regular basis. I am sure they would help getting him arosed but I don't want to make them a regular part of the foreplay he receives as I like to think that these are special treats once every couple of months even those he gives me oral weekly. I am just more self consious of giving blowjobs now as I get older. He definitely comes more when he gets a blowjob first but I just don;t want this to become a habit or I'll be down there everynight. I've tried the trick of bring him to the point of no return but will only do this when he has a condom on as I said earlier i cannot bring my self around to having to swallow sperm - got more than enough to taste when I was in my youth. I;m sure this does take away from his enjoyment but I consider it a small price to pay for him as I never ask him to wear a condom for peneration. Even though I know he would not come in my mouth unless I wanted it, its not something I prepared to comprise on.

Miss Fluff

santiago123 wrote: »

I suppose I am a bit on the mean side when it comes to foreplay. I know he likes blowjobs as any guy I have been with does but I don't want him to get the idea that he is going to get a bj on a regular basis. I am sure they would help getting him arosed but I don't want to make them a regular part of the foreplay he receives as I like to think that these are special treats once every couple of months even those he gives me oral weekly. I am just more self consious of giving blowjobs now as I get older. He definitely comes more when he gets a blowjob first but I just don;t want this to become a habit or I'll be down there everynight. I've tried the trick of bring him to the point of no return but will only do this when he has a condom on as I said earlier i cannot bring my self around to having to swallow sperm - got more than enough to taste when I was in my youth. I;m sure this does take away from his enjoyment but I consider it a small price to pay for him as I never ask him to wear a condom for peneration. Even though I know he would not come in my mouth unless I wanted it, its not something I prepared to comprise on.

Ah now come on OP, you are not playing cricket here at all. I am not condoning that you do something you are uncomfortable with but by the same token it seems that you think its fine for him to contribute to any foreplay while you don't. If you don't want to bring him to the point of ejaculation in your mouth then that doesn't have to be the case, and it seems from your post this is a huge issue for you. Fair enough. If that's the case then don't do that but this issue "being a price to pay" for him not using a condom is childish and unhealthy. To be honest OP from reading your posts I think you really need to sit down and have it out about your sex life. From reading over my post it is like I am making out oral is the be-all and end-all of foreplay, its not at all, there are a gazillion other ways to make each other come, but I think you need to give and take in equal measures when it comes to the bedroom and it seems like you are not.

santiago123

I suppose I am a bit on the mean side when it comes to foreplay. I know he likes blowjobs as any guy I have been with does but I don't want him to get the idea that he is going to get a bj on a regular basis. I am sure they would help getting him arosed but I don't want to make them a regular part of the foreplay he receives as I like to think that these are special treats once every couple of months even those he gives me oral weekly. I am just more self consious of giving blowjobs now as I get older. He definitely comes more when he gets a blowjob first but I just don;t want this to become a habit or I'll be down there everynight. I've tried the trick of bring him to the point of no return but will only do this when he has a condom on as I said earlier i cannot bring my self around to having to swallow sperm - got more than enough to taste when I was in my youth. I;m sure this does take away from his enjoyment but I consider it a small price to pay for him as I never ask him to wear a condom for peneration. Even though I know he would not come in my mouth unless I wanted it, its not something I prepared to comprise on.

Sherifu

santiago123 wrote: »

I suppose I am a bit on the mean side when it comes to foreplay. I know he likes blowjobs as any guy I have been with does but I don't want him to get the idea that he is going to get a bj on a regular basis. I am sure they would help getting him arosed but I don't want to make them a regular part of the foreplay he receives as I like to think that these are special treats once every couple of months even those he gives me oral weekly. I am just more self consious of giving blowjobs now as I get older. He definitely comes more when he gets a blowjob first but I just don;t want this to become a habit or I'll be down there everynight. I've tried the trick of bring him to the point of no return but will only do this when he has a condom on as I said earlier i cannot bring my self around to having to swallow sperm - got more than enough to taste when I was in my youth. I;m sure this does take away from his enjoyment but I consider it a small price to pay for him as I never ask him to wear a condom for peneration. Even though I know he would not come in my mouth unless I wanted it, its not something I prepared to comprise on.

You posted that already.

santiago123

Sorry posted above in error.

I guess I need to be more comprimising in the bedroom but I am a little self consious of what I get up to. I suppose I focused on blowjobs as they are what all guys enjoy and I know this would be sure way to get him to climax in me most likely. Also came across a site called redtube which is a blue movie site as I wanted to get some naughty ideas and all the women there are doing nothing only giving blowjobs so I figured my guy is probably is probably expecting them more often as they are now seen as a normal feature of a sexual relationship.

Miss Fluff

santiago123 wrote: »

I am just more self consious of giving blowjobs now as I get older.

So this was something at one stage you did feel comfortable doing?Why so self conscious OP? Have you put on weight and feel unattractive or do you feel that decent ladies shouldn't give fellatio? There must be a reason. To reiterate, I am not condoning that you do something you feel really uncomfortable with but maybe you should think about going back to basics and not making penetration the main focus of your lovemaking for now. Men CAN orgasm without ejaculating but if he ejaculates every time he masturbates and only does 20% of the time during sexual activity then I think it's time to take it back to foreplay and getting to know each other's bodies again. I'd also ask him to refrain from **** for now and promise him a treat in the bedroom. Set a date and get some excitement back girl!;)This will make him AND you make feel so much better.

crip17

Is he on any type of medication. ie. pain killer, anti-depressent etc......
Some are known to cause these symptems.

Also have you ever thought of group sex or bringing in another woman. then he will be sure too cum

hullaballoo

I think it's very superficial to try and advise you, OP, without an intimate knowledge of what's going on in your bedroom, but that's not something I need/want to know. Bit of a catch-22.

Anyway, sometimes, it's difficult for a man to reach orgasm if he's tired/drunk/had relief in the past 12 hours/nervous/practically anything at all. So, it's highly likely that since he's working nights, there's some sort of reaction by his body to it. People are not nocturnal, no matter what. It's unnatural for us to be asleep during daylight hours and awake throughout the night. Doing this can impact on our health/well-being in a number of ways, but most commonly, people find themselves tired.

If it's something that's going to be a huge issue for you, perhaps he could find a day job. If you're happy enough for the time being (and he is too), then there isn't really an issue.

I wouldn't worry too much that he can come from masturbation either, he's got instant correction for maximum efficiency in that department. You know the buzz yourself, I'm sure.

Jesus Wept

santiago123 wrote: »

He tells me he is satisfied when he doesn't ejaculate in me but I just wish he would so I know that he is being satisfied also in bed. I have never been able to make him climax with either with oral or hand. I guess this is not normal either.....

That wouldn't guarantee he was satisfied anyhow, just in your mind.

Marksie

santiago123 wrote: »

He doesn't usually require much foreplay to get him hard...I usually just give his penis a few pumps as it gets hard and he enjoys the foreskin pulled back for sex so I usually bring that over the head for him if not already folded back.

Tell me what is the point of foreplay in your mind OP? Just to get hard or enjoyment, you can build to the point and get him ready for the climax YOU crave. Should you so desire

santiago123 wrote: »

I masterbate sometimes when he is giving me oral but he is under the duvet so I don't think that counts as masterbating in front of him as its dark.

Hmmm, actually men do require a certain amount of visual stimualtion and being wrapped in a duvet sorta limits movement in my experience

santiago123 wrote: »

As he works night as girl has to keep herself amuzed so yeah I would masterbate properly the odd night which I have to admit I do enjoy but I would never be able to do it in full view of my partner. its more enjoyable that my partners forplay technique but I never met a guy who could finger me like the way I finger myself and

Oh now... why not? there are issues with being comfortable and also a big one with communication.
Have you ever actually communicated with a partner? you know men in general get very turned on by watching their partner come and having a lot of pleasure?
THis smacks of pure mechanics to get from point a to point z.

santiago123 wrote: »

I think that is only natural but but having his penis inside me over rides all.

This is what i ahve been trying to get across that your focus is totally on this.

santiago123 wrote: »

I have gone off the point here as I originally just wanted to know why he cums so little in me.

No i dont think its off the point, the whole thing is wrapped up together. Until you see that then a) you wont overcome the issues and when you do get it you will realsie how the issues was unimportant anyways..i is in fact acting as a blosk to great lovemaking. Again i say the focus is entirely wrong.

santiago123 wrote: »

I suppose I am a bit on the mean side when it comes to foreplay. I know he likes blowjobs as any guy I have been with does but I don't want him to get the idea that he is going to get a bj on a regular basis.

There is so muhc i could say with this, but will limit it to the fcat that lovemkaing is all about sharing and enjoying teh fact that your partner is getting pleasure.

santiago123 wrote: »

I am sure they would help getting him arosed but I don't want to make them a regular part of the foreplay he receives as I like to think that these are special treats once every couple of months even those he gives me oral weekly.

Why not? Ant partner of mine will get what she desires andi will get what i desire..it is the entire point of the whole processs the free giving and receiving of pleasure to somene you care about.

santiago123 wrote: »

I am just more self consious of giving blowjobs now as I get older. He definitely comes more when he gets a blowjob first but I just don;t want this to become a habit or I'll be down there everynight.

Blowjob , blowjobs, blowjobs.
Use some imagination and experimentation.

santiago123 wrote: »

I've tried the trick of bring him to the point of no return but will only do this when he has a condom on as I said earlier i cannot bring my self around to having to swallow sperm - got more than enough to taste when I was in my youth. I;m sure this does take away from his enjoyment but I consider it a small price to pay for him as I never ask him to wear a condom for peneration. Even though I know he would not come in my mouth unless I wanted it, its not something I prepared to comprise on.

If you were aware of your partners responses properly you would know when he is close and could stop before that point

santiago123 wrote: »

I guess I need to be more comprimising in the bedroom but I am a little self consious of what I get up to. I suppose I focused on blowjobs as they are what all guys enjoy and I know this would be sure way to get him to climax in me most likely.

Agreed for once. It does again appear your focus is on the fact he simply has to come inside you.

santiago123 wrote: »

Also came across a site called redtube which is a blue movie site as I wanted to get some naughty ideas and all the women there are doing nothing only giving blowjobs so I figured my guy is probably is probably expecting them more often as they are now seen as a normal feature of a sexual relationship.

Porn is simply not the best way of teaching yourself these thinsg. If your pushed, hen get a half decent book and read through it and share it with your partner

hullaballú wrote: »

I think it's very superficial to try and advise you, OP, without an intimate knowledge of what's going on in your bedroom, but that's not something I need/want to know. Bit of a catch-22.

No i disagree, i could have pretty much seen that a one dimensional total focus on one thing was the approach straight away.

All that the op has a written confirms this. What about intimacy, touch, massage, openness, communication, erogenous zones, pleasure points, massage, stroking, sharing, letting things flow.
All appear to be absent.

This is classical, get him hard and its not a good job until he has come inside.

Miss fluff asked pertinent and relevant questions here OP. She also has it completely right.
Go right back and start learning about each other.
This goes well beyond the end point issue of where he comes. It is a major reevaluation of what you are doing that is required.

Its not hard, you juts have to be open to learning.
Edit: so what is now not normal???
There are posters here who evaluate what you are saying and say change your approach. i woud guess they would see what is happening overall to be not normal in their experience.
and this leads me to another possible reason..given the limitations and the limited range of whats happening..he may be afflicted by boredom and routine... no variation just hard and in.

Talliesin

santiago123 wrote: »

We used to watch pron and would give each other oral/hand relief and stuff but I was hoping we had moved past that stage.

What stage?

If you didn't enjoy it, why were you doing it? If you did enjoy it, why are you doing it?[/QUOTE]

santiago123 wrote: »

Our foreplay is pretty regular stuff I suspect.

I have a pessimistic view of how good people's sex-lives are. A problem that comes with reading this forum too much. I have yet to come to the nightmare conclusion that what you describe is anywhere near regular.

santiago123 wrote: »

He fingers me to make me moist and the usual feeling/licking breasts and stuff - gives me oral if he thinks I am still too dry for peneration. He usually penetrates me within 10 minutes or after we start foreplay.

Have you either of you ever have good sex in your lives, or is this something you consider normal?

santiago123 wrote: »

Maybe I get too moist or something and that stops him cumming.

That's quite unlikely. Moist tends to feel good.

santiago123 wrote: »

He doesn't usually require much foreplay to get him hard...

You're really not getting the point of foreplay at all.

The point of so-called foreplay (which doesn't have to be fore- only, but maybe start on having half-way good foreplay before moving on to changing it from always being prior to intercourse) is that sex will be good.

Your description makes it sound like showing a heifer to a bull.

Most men can get hard without any contact at all. We can do it mentally.

Even if we're having difficulties there's a big difference between a bit of stimulation to achieve erection and actual foreplay.

santiago123 wrote: »

I usually just give his penis a few pumps as it gets hard and he enjoys the foreskin pulled back for sex so I usually bring that over the head for him if not already folded back.

I find it hard to see why he even bothers.

santiago123 wrote: »

I masterbate sometimes when he is giving me oral but he is under the duvet so I don't think that counts as masterbating in front of him as its dark.

Can you please tell me how this works.

I've quite an interest in even those sexual things that I'm not personally into, but I'm finding it very hard to fit the above statement into my understanding.

If his mouth is on your clitoris, what are you doing with your hands that counts as "masturbating". If your fingers are on your clitoris, then what his is mouth doing (the best I can figure is maybe anilingus, but people tend not to classify that under just "oral").

What is actually going on here?

Also, does he not get very hot and suffocated under the duvet? I sometimes start out under the duvet if it's very cold, but a few minutes later I'll move it off me as I'll be hot and not finding it easy to breathe.

santiago123 wrote: »

As he works night as girl has to keep herself amuzed so yeah I would masterbate properly the odd night which I have to admit I do enjoy

Why are you admitting this?

It's sort of the point that you should enjoy it.

Here's an idea I think would help a lot. Don't just release a bit of sexual tension, try to enjoy it as much as possible.

santiago123 wrote: »

but I never met a guy who could finger me like the way I finger myself and I think that is only natural

The technique of anyone on themselves will generally be the best we can get because we have such immediate feedback.

However, it's normal for a reasonably good lover to bring a better orgasm and better overall sexual experience than one can do for oneself.

santiago123 wrote: »

Colly100 suggested that I might be trying to hard to get him to cum and this is something that I had not thought off and could be true.

I'd say probably not, but it probably isn't helping.

santiago123 wrote: »

Especially when I am on top I try all sorts of stuff to get him to cum.

What sort of stuff?

santiago123 wrote: »

I have gone off the point here as I originally just wanted to know why he cums so little in me.

I think this is very much on the point. You seem to be actively seeking to make sex as unenjoyable as possible for both of you.

santiago123 wrote: »

I suppose I am a bit on the mean side when it comes to foreplay.

How can you be "mean" with something that brings pleasure to both of you?

Unless it being one-sided is something you are playing with in and of itself (which can be a lot of fun) how can you be "mean" with it?

santiago123 wrote: »

I know he likes blowjobs as any guy I have been with does but I don't want him to get the idea that he is going to get a bj on a regular basis.

Yes, it would be horrible if he regularly experienced something he enjoys. :rolleyes:

santiago123 wrote: »

I am sure they would help getting him arosed but I don't want to make them a regular part of the foreplay he receives as I like to think that these are special treats once every couple of months even those he gives me oral weekly.

Think of your favourite food.

If you had a freezer full of it would you eat it every day, or would you naturally end up mixing other things into your diet because variety is always the biggest treat.

Some things are only treats because they are only available rarely (like eggs during wartime). Some things are treats because they're bloody good.

There's no need to introduce rationing to keep something good, as long as there are other good things available.

santiago123 wrote: »

I am just more self consious of giving blowjobs now as I get older.

Explain please.

santiago123 wrote: »

He definitely comes more when he gets a blowjob first but I just don;t want this to become a habit or I'll be down there everynight.

Why not?

santiago123 wrote: »

I've tried the trick of bring him to the point of no return but will only do this when he has a condom on as I said earlier i cannot bring my self around to having to swallow sperm - got more than enough to taste when I was in my youth.

Irrelevant. You either enjoy this or you don't, and since you don't then grand. There's no need to do this "trick" (why "trick"?) without a condom if you don't want to.

santiago123 wrote: »

I;m sure this does take away from his enjoyment but I consider it a small price to pay for him as I never ask him to wear a condom for peneration.

Why are you talking about this like a commodity in an exchange-economy.

Are you talking about sex between two people or pig-belly futures.

Outside of one particular profession, the two are very different.

santiago123 wrote: »

I guess I need to be more comprimising in the bedroom

You need to be less compromising. You deserve uncompromisingly good sex. This is our birthright as higher mammals. We can do it, and a few other apes can do it but dogs and slugs can't. Don't you deserve more fulfilment than a slug?

santiago123 wrote: »

I suppose I focused on blowjobs as they are what all guys enjoy

Not all guys enjoy them. Personally, I've quite high standards in this regard (i.e. I really enjoy a really good one, but can't be bothered with a merely quite good one)

santiago123 wrote: »

and I know this would be sure way to get him to climax in me most likely.

What is actually so important about whether or not he climaxes.

I can't shake from my mind the way women in Russian prisons try to get hold of sperm because you get treated much better there if you're pregnant or are nursing a baby.

santiago123 wrote: »

Also came across a site called redtube which is a blue movie site as I wanted to get some naughty ideas and all the women there are doing nothing only giving blowjobs so I figured my guy is probably is probably expecting them more often as they are now seen as a normal feature of a sexual relationship.

Well, they are a normal feature of a sexual relationship, though they aren't a necessary part of any particular sexual relationship.

There's little point watching porn for ideas though. If you saw something and thought "wow, I've so got to try that" then well and good, but otherwise porn teaches you no more about sex than watching Rambo would enable you to single-handedly wipe out three regiments of the North Vietnamese Army. There is no source of bad ideas about sex more damaging than porn.

kayos

I normally read PI and never have much to say but I just had to reply on this one...

santiago123 wrote:

I have never been able to make him climax with either with oral or hand.

Thats funny you claim otherwise later.

santiago123 wrote:

I really just looking to see that its not normal to not ejaculate so much and its not me for like I said I perform all the strokes on him.

Are you not putting too much pressure on him? Your making the guy think he is not normal. From my reading of your posts you dont do all the strokes on him, you dont want to do things you know get him off. Maybe its you that has the problem? In terms of your bf is he on a SSRI of any type? They can cause anorgasmia, excuse the spelling, and this will make ejaculating a much rarer occurance for him.

santiago123 wrote:

We used to watch pron and would give each other oral/hand relief and stuff but I was hoping we had moved past that stage.

Why not say you used to have to kiss him but hoped you had got pat this stage? Whats wrong with doing something you guys enjoy? I enjoyed watching cartoons as a kid, I still do and I've no problems that I have not grown out of them 20 something years later.

santiago123 wrote:

I can't even seem to get him to climax inside or outside my vagina so I don't think he is afraid of having children or any like that.

Still trying to find what you actually do to try and make him climax from your posts to be honest.

santiago123 wrote:

I don't think I could bring myself to doing this in front of my partner - would have to have a lot of drink taken.

Why can you not be comfortable with your partner? Surely he is the one person you should be most at comfort with.

santiago123 wrote:

I watched those blue movies when guys cum in front of there partner but that would not be for us.

Did you ask him? Or are you just deciding for him. Visuals are a big thing for a guy. You might like to think about something in your head to turn you on, guys like to see it with their own eyes!

santiago123 wrote:

I certainly wouldn't enjoy him climaxing in my mouth as from past experience I have yet to taste easy to swallow sperm.

Spit! or just do it to the point of no return and then get out of dodge let him aim for your chest/face/bed sheets which ever you prefer. Is it the taste you find off putting? You know every man could taste different? You know you can change diet to improve the taste? Or learn to deep throat and if he climaxes back there your taste and swallow free! But be warned thats not something you will learn overnight and seeing as you dont want him thinking he will get oral other than on his birthday/christmas and steak & bj day this might not be something for you.

santiago123 wrote:

He works nights so we only have sex during the day usually so maybe he finds it difficult to cum when it daylight as its not as natural perhaps.

Thats just not gonna be a problem. Sex does not have to be at night, the right time for sex is anytime you both feel like it. Question when you are having sex are you vocal/active and your eyes open or quiet/inactive and eyes wide shut! Men are creatures that need/enjoy visual stimulation. A simple thing of looking in his eyes could tip the balance for you.

santiago123 wrote:

He fingers me to make me moist and the usual feeling/licking breasts and stuff - gives me oral if he thinks I am still too dry for peneration. He usually penetrates me within 10 minutes or after we start foreplay.

Thats not foreplay, that sounds like saying hello in copper face jacks! 10 minutes foreplay really does not seem much.

santiago123 wrote:

He doesn't usually require much foreplay to get him hard...I usually just give his penis a few pumps as it gets hard and he enjoys the foreskin pulled back for sex so I usually bring that over the head for him if not already folded back.

As has been said men can get hard with no foreplay, that does not mean they dont want foreplay or would not benefit from it. Giving him a "few pumps" makes it sound like a task, a job, work. Really do get the feeling you dont like being active at all you just want him to finish and go to sleep.

santiago123 wrote:

I suppose I am a bit on the mean side when it comes to foreplay.

A bit?

santiago123 wrote:

I know he likes blowjobs as any guy I have been with does but I don't want him to get the idea that he is going to get a bj on a regular basis.

Why did the bride smile as she walked down isle?

Honestly if you want the guy to ejaculate and everything you have tried, or should I say refuse to try, is not working you need to come up with a different plan of attack. Maybe you should play with yourself as he watches, maybe you need to reduce your SLA (Service Level agreement) for blowjobs to once a week rather than once in a blue moon. You seem to be saying he wont cum, but you know what will help him cum and wont do it. Then you make him out to be the abnormal one. Maybe you should just learn to be comfortable in your sexuality and more importantly with yourself and your partner. There is nothing to be embarressed about in your bedroom with your partner, who else will find out?

But being honest my guess is this is a total fake.