Biological Clocks!

Quality

Hey Ladeez

Would you like kids?

If so how many?

What age do you think would be best to have them?

Would it matter if you were single?

John Mason

i dont have a biological clock - so i am not sure what the question means:p

Quality

Its when women get to the stage in their life when they start getting concerned about having children and not wanting to let it go to late... usually the early to mid 30's it occurs..

Niamho!

Hey Ladeez - Hey!!

Would you like kids? - Yes - although the pain freaks the **** outta me. i just donr know how i'll ever get over that. maybe a cesaerian?

If so how many? 3 or 4. 4 max (depends how the fist birth goes, lol)

What age do you think would be best to have them? i always thought around 28-ish?? but lately i'm thinking later on like early thirties. (Coz i'm nearly 25 and 28 is scarily Close!!)

Would it matter if you were single? No. i would rather be attatched/Married, whatever but no, it wouldnt be the end of the world. i'd manage.

watna

I'm only 24. It's not ticking yet. Give it another 5/6 years and I'll report back.

I do love baby clothes and things when I'm out shopping, they make me slightly broody. It scares the crap out of my OH! but then I hear kids screaming and i remember that I actually don't like kids that much. Once they get to the age of two I lose interest!

Em maybe when i'm 27/28 not too sure
I want kids so bad but I have a fear of raising them that i'll do it wrong or something so that usually puts me off after the initial thoughts of "OMG Look at the baby" fawning I do.
Meanwhile babysitting gives me practise also I would never get pregnant unless I was married.

Orlee

watna wrote: »

I'm only 24. It's not ticking yet. Give it another 5/6 years and I'll report back.

I do love baby clothes and things when I'm out shopping, they make me slightly broody. It scares the crap out of my OH! but then I hear kids screaming and i remember that I actually don't like kids that much. Once they get to the age of two I lose interest!

That's exactly how I feel! Word for Word!

star-pants

I helped out a lot with my younger brother and sister (now 15 & 17) (I'm 24) , I'd treat em like mine at times lol. So I've probably always been ready for a family.

I would prefer to have a partner yes, and I'd like 2 children max I'd go to is 4, but 2 is nice.
Considering women are having babies into their 50/60s it's plausible to have your family at any point. But I'd like to have at least got the basics (house/partner/a baby) by 30ish. I want to make sure I'm young for most of their young life.

However if/when any of that might happen is another story

john_aero

well i may be male but i have one. hahaha
found that as time goes on i yearn more and more and feel i want start now and as each day passes i dont want to be missing my chance

LouOB

Ok I hate kids the whole lark - would cross the street if I seen children playing
but as I get older I'd like one myself
I think Ill be one of those who ONLY likes their kids but doesnt like anyone elses. But my mother LOVES kids
I cannot think that far ahead of how many - but one at a time
BTW a baby crying is the best form of contraception

rain on

I've never wanted kids but I'm afraid that I'll get all broody in about ten years (I'm 23 now). If I was going to have them I'd like to do it by my mid-thirties seeing as conception and pregnancy are supposed to get pretty difficult after 35. My ma had me when she was 36 and my da was 33 -- he said he'd rather have had kids younger so he'd have more energy to deal with them!

A friend of mine had a kid when she was 16, which usually wouldn't seem like the best plan, but seven years later herself and the father are still together, due to a supportive family she didn't lose out on any education (nearly finished her masters now) and by the time the kid is 20 and theoretically self-sufficient she'll only be 36, sounds like the way to do it to me!

misswex

I would love kids but I just not that good with babies and worry that I would be a crap Mum to one. I think I would make a great mum to kids (ie 3 plus) but as for babies, I'm scared and even my sister will tell you that I was crap with their children when they were babies so I don't know!

John Mason

Quality wrote: »

Its when women get to the stage in their life when they start getting concerned about having children and not wanting to let it go to late... usually the early to mid 30's it occurs..

feck, i am 33, where would one find these biological clock things

How Strange

irishbird wrote: »

feck, i am 33, where would one find these biological clock things

me too and no tick tocking yet

Galadriel

I'm 28 and mine can tick tick away, maybe I should see if I can sell it :rolleyes:

larko

31 this year.... that's my age, not how many kids i want. Don't have any, don't want any. I have my nieces/nephews to sort out any broodiness that I have.

I can see why people have children but it's just not for me. Sometimes I feel a little sad knowing that I wont have kids and maybe I might regret it, but my feelings haven't changed up to now so I reckon I should be ok with it later on in life.

TequilaMockingBird

I'm 37. I'd love to have a child in 5 years or so. I have a 7 year old knocking around here somewhere, who whould be old enough to mind it then.

Deleted User

Deleted User wrote: »

also I would never get pregnant unless I was married.

Famous last words.

TequilaMockingBird

Moonbaby wrote: »

Famous last words.

Who's going to organise the Baby Shower?

Your doomed girl, DOOMED!!

Ok then

also I would never PLAN TO get pregnant unless I was married.:D

Lil' Smiler

Would you like kids? Yes definitely, I'd be gutted if I was to find out now that I couldn't have kids.

If so how many? 2 maybe 3..but I have a thing about odd numbers hehe, 4...that'd be a nice number but I'd fear they'd fight alot or I'd have 3 boys and 1 girl and they'd be mean to her!!

What age do you think would be best to have them? Dunno i'm only 21 now... very late 20's or In my early 30's

Would it matter if you were single? Yes, it would matter to me. I would prefer to be married and living with my partner because I doubt i'd be able to cope alone! I would like to be living in my own house at that stage too.

watna

Orlee wrote: »

That's exactly how I feel! Word for Word!

and you wanted a pet meerkat like me.

Wow, maybe we're secretly adopted identical twins! Are you coming to the beers on the 4th April?:)

Cathmandooo

I'd love 3 or 4 kids.

I don't think there's any best age to have them, I can't imagine there ever being a 'right time', it'll be right whenever I have them. My mam was a child minder so I've always had kids and babies around, well used to them. I'm well aware however that it's different having your own, I always loved to hand them back and have a good nights sleep!

I'd much rather having kids with a long term partner / husband. It's a hard job raising kids alone.

Jackz

watna wrote: »

Wow, maybe we're secretly adopted identical twins!

Postman ftw.

Ladies do you think that it will have an impact on your ability to communicate with these children when they are teenagers and you are hiting 50?

I can't envisage myself wanting to be in a LTR at the moment.....nevermind pregnant.
But I am a very family orientated person, and I would be terribly unfulfilled if I hadn't my own.

I feel that happiness in life comes from quality interaction with people.
Rather than material possessions or career achievements.
So the more kids the merrier. Although I'm not very organised, so anything over six would probably go Lord of the Flies on me.

I've always said I never wanted to have them before I was 35.
But I'm aware that it isn't easy to concieve as you get older.
If I was in the right relationship, I would probably have my fertility tested come 30. And consider bringing it forward depending on the results.

If I got pregnant when I was single....no question about it.
But would I go down the sperm donor route. I don't know.
Im not too fussed on having biological children, although obviously its usually the easiest option.
If adoption/fostering was an option, I might wait past my prime for the right partner.

Quality

I am 28 and have an 8yo and 2yo, I would like to have my next baby within the next year or so (if all goes to plan), so that I will be finished having my kids by the time I am 30. I dont want to have too much of an age gap between them..

Originally I had the famous last words of - Children, eh no thanks.. But I must say, its the best thing I have ever done..

Popsicle

If you had asked me these questions seven or eight years ago I would have said - kids? Are you mad? No way? Never had a maternal bore in my body.

But, as I am now 33, something strange has happened. I want one. If somebody could give me one tomorrow, I'd be delighted!

I was also of that "I won't get pregnant until I get married" frame of mind, but after ten years together with my partner that doesn't bother me either anymore!!!

I would like at least two and then we'd see how things were going!!!

TequilaMockingBird

Quality wrote: »

Originally I had the famous last words of - Children, eh no thanks.. But I must say, its the best thing I have ever done..

+1

Everything beforehand pales into insignificance once you have a babby. Weird. Mother Nature doing the do...

embee

Would you like kids? I have one already \o/

If so how many? 3 or 4.

What age do you think would be best to have them? I had my first when I was 25. Ideally, I'd like another before I turn 30.

Would it matter if you were single? Not really, no. Obviously it is better to have the support of a partner, but you don't have to be in a relationship to have children. Its a lot of work on your own, though.

Niamho! wrote: »

Would you like kids? - Yes - although the pain freaks the **** outta me. i just donr know how i'll ever get over that. maybe a cesaerian?

You won't believe me, but you forget the pain. You remember it hurt, but you don't remember the actual pain.

Oh, and a vaginal birth is much, much better for you and baby in the long run than a caesarean section.

rain on

I can see the appeal on one hand of having kids. I dreamt the other night that I had a baby and in the dream it was the deadliest thing ever. But then on the other hand:

Pregnancy - jaysus
Childbirth - jaysus x 1 million
Babies - new parents always look as if they're about to die from lack of sleep
Children - alright for about half an hour and then my brain starts to hurt (I was an only child and I'm just not used to dealing with them)
Teenagers - don't start me
College students - there's a good chance anyone with my genes is going to want to spend years and years getting letters after their name and draining me dry in the process

So in summary, while the instinctive part of me kind of wants kids, the rest absolutely doesn't.

John Mason

i am far too old to have children now, so my biological clock must be broken

Latchy

Late 30s early 40s are the danger stage for a womon to have children although their are exceptions .

Lola123

In no rush at the mo..... only 26 years young!
Would like at least two kids but no more than 4.
Would rather be married, but thats more to do with the fact that I'd like someone else there to halve repsonsibility of worrying about the kids!

Quality

embee wrote: »

You won't believe me, but you forget the pain. You remember it hurt, but you don't remember the actual pain.

I agree with Embee, Its pain with a purpose, Once the labour is over so are the pains...

Peared

Asok wrote: »

You really should not leave it past 35 really otherwise you are playing >snip< roulette.

Nice.

Quality

Quality wrote: »

I agree with Embee, Its pain with a purpose, Once the labour is over so are the pains...

Yes I heard the body emits a hormone that makes you forget so your not put off procreation

barbiegirl

My mum has my eldest brother at 20 and youngest at 39, with 4 more of us in between.
I'm 33 this year, and when I met my partner I told him out straight that if we were still together in a couple of years I'd want kiddies. We agreed on 32, I turned 32 last year, we got engaged, are getting married in August and will start trying straight away.
Yes I want them, clock ticking for quite a while now
I want at least 3 probably won't have time for more than 4
Biologically the right age is late teens, but reality is your 20's, I'll be in my 30's not ideal but better than having had babies with some of my exes.
I would have gone down the single mother route if I hadn't met the right man, I struck lucky.

Clare Bear

Would you like kids? One day, far, far, far away....my nieces and nephew have put me off for a long time. Little fookers (I love them really!)

If so how many? Maybe 3.

What age do you think would be best to have them? Early to mid thirties, I'd like to live a little bit more before all of that settling down business.


Would it matter if you were single? I'd rather have a partner, couldn't imagine having a child and not having the love of my life around to share it all with.

ztoical

hate kids so don't want any

Latchy

Asok wrote: »

You really should not leave it past 35 really otherwise you are playing >snip< roulette.

Thats the main worry apart from being an old parent brining up babies .

Clare Bear

ztoical wrote: »

hate kids so don't want any

Hmmm....can't say I'm a huge fan of them myself....even with my nephew and nieces, they're hilarious and I can see how much joy they bring my sister but I'd be happier with a few dogs to be honest, I'm much more of an animal person. Current beau doesn't really like kids either. Score ha ha!

John Mason

latchyco wrote: »

Thats the main worry apart from being an old parent brining up babies .

exactly i would consider myself too old now to have kids plus the fact, i could afford them. it would be a case of one of us not eating or getting clothes etc. and it wont be me

Femelade

mine is ticking big time.
I'm nearly 28
i have a 6yr old daughter
with my current boyfriend for a yr and a half..cant wait to have more kids, but dont want to pressure the poor guy.

watna

irishbird wrote: »

exactly i would consider myself too old now to have kids plus the fact, i could afford them. it would be a case of one of us not eating or getting clothes etc. and it wont be me

It's the money thing that always gets me too. If i had a baby I'd have to spend my hard earned yoyos on nappies instead of lipsticks and shoes. I'm too selfish for that at the moment!

Nightwish

I dont like children. I am not maternal and I plan to stay childless.

Crazy Catlady

I have a ten year old. I was married and thought there'd be more.
We separated nearly 7 years ago now and I honestly thought I'd have met someone and had more.
Instead I met someone who has some We've plenty between us, but I will always wish there had been another along the way.

Ivicia

I just cannot undertsand the gooing and gaaing over other peoples babies. I doono how many time soemone has jumped in front of me to announce

"Mary just had a little girl 11 pounds etc - 10 fingers 10 toes etc etc.

ME I generally "oh thats nice - who's Mary again" ?
JUMPER "oh she on the 3rd floor, works with Joan"
ME " who's Joan"
JUMPER "oh she has blond hair secreatry to so and so and she had a baby girl last year"

Goes on and on.....I really don't care...

Peared

This thread should be reopened every 3 years to see how many of the young wans who are never having kids end up having kids. My reckoning is about 90%

Quality

I agree peared,

and again maybe in ten years time.. for those who say they wont start there family till they are in their 30's and then plan to have 3 or 4.


I suppose I would have wanted kids at some stage I could not imagine being old and grey and having no one to come and visit me in the home I end up in..

irishbird

irishbird wrote: »

exactly i would consider myself too old now to have kids plus the fact, i could afford them. it would be a case of one of us not eating or getting clothes etc. and it wont be me

Didn't you say your like 33?
The average first time mother is 32....well at least in my county.

It is one thing not wanting kids, but if I was working my ass off and I/we honestly couldn't afford a kid...I'd quit and sit on the dole for the rest of life.
The point of working is to be able to have a decent quality of life, not just make money for your bosses.

gidget

I would love to have children - just have to find a boyfriend/hubby first . Getting worried now because i'll be 28 this year. As for how many, I'd be happy with however many I'm blessed with - even if it's only the one.

- not trying to be too dramatic but a person could say how many they would love to have ideally, but can end up finding it difficult to have that target range when it comes to the likes of difficulty in getting pregnant. In my line of work we used to deal with couples who were adopting from abroad - if you could only have witnessed how they were so desperate for that child to be one of their own, after trying for a biological one for so long.

I'll actually give you a story of one - we once had a couple who after having experienced 10 miscarraiges they decided to adopt a child of a few months of age from abroad, half way through the adoption process they discovered the child in question had a twin - so they came to the decision to adopt both to save seperating them. So they bring the twins back for a medical review from our boss and as they were saying their goodbyes she informed us that she was 4 months pregnant herself with would you believe Twins. Life works in the most mysterious of ways!!