So... would you ever ask a man to marry you??

Niamho!

....or do you think its his job, and theres no way you'd ever do it?

Niamho!

Balls i was supposed to put a poll on this. crap.

We had a little debate in work and it was a bit surprising!

Mrs_Doyle

I answered no. I'm a bit of a traditionalist at heart.

Donegal Lass

not if hell froze over would I ask...

Id be faaar too scared of rejection!

but seriously, I like it being the boys thing!

feck it, we have periods, carry children for 9 months, go through labour, look good on our wedding day, manage the household, cook, clean...the least they can do is get down on a knee!

Niamho!

Hahaha. good point.

I would though. if i was in the position that i felt i could obviously.
I wouldn't get down on one knee. it'd probably be more "So we gettin married or Wha!?" lol

Donegal Lass

I sent my BF a text earlier saying "Will you marry me?"

he simply replied " of course, seeing as you asked so nicely!!"

Eire 4Ever

No its the male thing to do

Mrs_Doyle

Donegal Lass wrote: »

I sent my BF a text earlier saying "Will you marry me?"

he simply replied " of course, seeing as you asked so nicely!!"

So are ye engaged for real now?????????? :eek::D

LadyJ

Mrs_Doyle wrote: »

So are ye engaged for real now?????????? :eek::D

Of course they are! He can't back out now, she has it in writing!

ofc i'd ask if i wanted

Donegal Lass

Mrs_Doyle wrote: »

So are ye engaged for real now?????????? :eek::D

yea...

ive been wearing a jelly ring on my finger since approx 11:37...

its all sticky now

Mrs_Doyle

LadyJ wrote: »

Of course they are! He can't back out now, she has it in writing!

Ha, she should get all Bride-zilla on him, text him to say her mam's delighted with the good news, and has already had a word with the parish priest about marrying them some time this summer!

watna

I wouldn't really want to ask but then again, I'm sure most engagements don't come as a surprise before it happens. Most couples will have talked about marriage and the future anyway and know that that's the way they're headed.

Todoquetengo

I'd never ask, I'd hint or talk about it as something we'd do at some stage but I wouldn't do the official asking. It's his job!! Maybe I'm old fashioned or too much of a romantic

watna

Mrs_Doyle wrote: »

Ha, she should get all Bride-zilla on him, text him to say her mam's delighted with the good news, and has already had a word with the parish priest about marrying them some time this summer!

and had picked out a dress, that costs 10 grand!

Donegal Lass

Mrs_Doyle wrote: »

Ha, she should get all Bride-zilla on him, text him to say her mam's delighted with the good news, and has already had a word with the parish priest about marrying them some time this summer!

:eek: Genius!!

he freaks out easily at the best of times!!

Il say that iv made an appointment at the jewellers!

Im going to have fun tonight! Oh OH.. maybe il say now that I want to practice celibacy until we get hitched!!

Unaton

I'd leave that to my man. I'm kinda traditional when it comes to stuff like this. We've talked about marriage so he knows he'll have to get down on his knee sooner or later

Kazobel

Mrs_Doyle wrote: »

Ha, she should get all Bride-zilla on him, text him to say her mam's delighted with the good news, and has already had a word with the parish priest about marrying them some time this summer!

If she really wants to freak him out she should reply "We better start the arrangments now then because I want to be married before the baby is born"

watna

Donegal Lass wrote: »

:eek: Genius!!

he freaks out easily at the best of times!!

Il say that iv made an appointment at the jewellers!

Im going to have fun tonight! Oh OH.. maybe il say now that I want to practice celibacy until we get hitched!!

Yeah, that'd be hilarious! Tell him you've told all your mates and you've already made a guest list for 500 people.

Can we all come to your fake wedding please? I give good fake presents!

Todoquetengo

Donegal Lass wrote: »

Oh OH.. maybe il say now that I want to practice celibacy until we get hitched!!

Now that's just mean

Mrs_Doyle

Donegal Lass wrote: »

:eek: Genius!!

he freaks out easily at the best of times!!

Il say that iv made an appointment at the jewellers!

Im going to have fun tonight! Oh OH.. maybe il say now that I want to practice celibacy until we get hitched!!

Definitely, say ya did a bit of research which says a sex ban in the run up to the big day is great for a relationship.
Tell him you are so happy he said yes, that you hardly slept a wink last night what with all the excitement and that you can't wait to go ring shopping and dress hunting!

Donegal Lass

watna wrote: »

Yeah, that'd be hilarious! Tell him you've told all your mates and you've already made a guest list for 500 people.

Can we all come to your fake wedding please? I give good fake presents!

I LOVE fake presents! :eek:


and il also slip in that ive organised the pre-marriage course for next wknd as they had a cancellation!

by the time im finished with him he'll be shaking!! lol

watna

Mrs_Doyle wrote: »

Definitely, say ya did a bit of research which says a sex ban in the run up to the big day is great for a relationship.
Tell him you are so happy he said yes, that you hardly slept a wink last night what with all the excitement and that you can't wait to go ring shopping and dress hunting!

Donegal Lass wrote: »

I LOVE fake presents! :eek:

by the time im finished with him he'll be shaking!! lol

We are all evil! (need evil smiley now!)

Donegal Lass

evilness rules!

watna

Donegal Lass wrote: »

evilness rules!

Mwah hah hah hah hah hah!

/considers doing something to my OH now

Niamho!

I'm the only one!? "Oh scarleh!"

Niamho!

Niamho! wrote: »

Hahaha. good point.

I would though. if i was in the position that i felt i could obviously.
I wouldn't get down on one knee. it'd probably be more "So we gettin married or Wha!?" lol

Some girls encourage their OH's into askin by making hints! thats how it works, i saw it directly! One of my mates proposed after havin about 500 not so sublt hints thrown his way as well as the OH sayin "we'll worry about that when we're married" all the time!

So while they dont ask directly they provoke the question so to speak!

Todoquetengo

Deleted User wrote: »

Some girls bully their OH's into askin by making hints! thats how it works, i saw it directly! One of my mates proposed after havin about 500 not so sublt hints thrown his way as well as the OH sayin "we'll worry about that when we're married" all the time!

So while they dont ask directly they provoke the question so to speak!

Bully is a bit strong, sounds like she's making him do something he doesn't want to :rolleyes:

I would agree that hints are given and all my friends who got engaged had talked about it but the actual proposal was left to the guy to do. I'd be happy with that

Rob_l

I think the reason that asking for a hand in marriage was left to the man goes back to proper catholic times where you only got one chance no do-overs and obviously something as sensitive a matter as that could hardly be left to crazy women folk to be left at

Todoquetengo

Todoquetengo wrote: »

Bully is a bit strong, sounds like she's making him do something he doesn't want to :rolleyes:

I would agree that hints are given and all my friends who got engaged had talked about it but the actual proposal was left to the guy to do. I'd be happy with that

Dont fool yourself, im sure this happens from time to time!!! But yes bully was the wrong word...I should have said "encourage".



Corrected!

cch

Definitely something the man should do, only for the reason that if he asks that means he's thought about it for more than 5 seconds beforehand and came to the conclusion that it's an ok idea!
Also if the woman asks, I'm sure the thought going through a guys head would be "If I don't say yes straight away she'll cry..."

She Devil

My boyfriend told me the other day not to worry if i ask him today he will say yes !!!! I nearly choked laughing! No bloody way in hell would i ask ... its the one thing a woman has ... i want his proposal to me to be romantic and thought about, and to have asked my dad beforehand .. i want it done all traditional and i want to be proud of looking back on the memory!

Rob_l

She Devil wrote: »

My boyfriend told me the other day not to worry if i ask him today he will say yes !!!! I nearly choked laughing! No bloody way in hell would i ask ... its the one thing a woman has ... i want his proposal to me to be romantic and thought about, and to have asked my dad beforehand .. i want it done all traditional and i want to be proud of looking back on the memory!

I thought the traditional way was to get her knocked up then marry her out of fear of sullying your families good name :D:D

Donegal Lass

my BF would die if he thought he'd have to ask my Dad...

Kazobel

She Devil wrote: »

My boyfriend told me the other day not to worry if i ask him today he will say yes !!!! I nearly choked laughing! No bloody way in hell would i ask ... its the one thing a woman has ... i want his proposal to me to be romantic and thought about, and to have asked my dad beforehand .. i want it done all traditional and i want to be proud of looking back on the memory!

Seriously? :eek:

She Devil

Yip, my boyfriend is aware of it, and dreading it! ... I would hate to get married without him carrying out this tradition .. i think its all part of it ...

pampers1

My BF must ask my dad for my hand in marriage also and he knows this. I joked that maybe i'd propose to him today and he seriously replied "I wouldn't if I was you" so that put me in my place. I think i'll be waiting longer that I had initially hoped!!!

watna

I asked my bf by email. He told me to stop messing and asked if I want a Chinese takeaway for dinner... I think that's a no. What do you think?

I used to say I'd want my bf to ask my dad for my hand in marriage til I realised that

a) that's ridiculous. I'm not my dad's to give away. i don't live at home and he doesn't support me.

b) they would both be so awkward doing it that it wouldn't be fair to make them!

Drift

watna wrote: »

b) they would both be so awkward doing it that it wouldn't be fair to make them!

Surely thats a reason for it rather than against it ...... evil laugh

watna

Drift wrote: »

Surely thats a reason for it rather than against it ...... evil laugh

True, we're all very evil to our boys in here today, aren't we!

Mrs_Doyle

watna wrote: »

a) that's ridiculous. I'm not my dad's to give away. i don't live at home and he doesn't support me.

b) they would both be so awkward doing it that it wouldn't be fair to make them!

My boyfriend asked my dad the night before he proposed to me.
My Dad was all emotional and said he realised it was an old fashioned thing to do, but that it meant a lot, and he really appreciated being asked.
I was kinda delighted when my BF told me he had met up with my Dad beforehand, because I know my Dad is an old fashioned auld sod and is really into that kinda thing.
My BF wasn't worried about my Dad saying no, as he gets on really well with my family.

watna

Mrs_Doyle wrote: »

My boyfriend asked my dad the night before he proposed to me.
My Dad was all emotional and said he realised it was an old fashioned thing to do, but that it meant a lot, and he really appreciated being asked.
I was kinda delighted when my BF told me he had met up with my Dad beforehand, because I know my Dad is an old fashioned auld sod and is really into that kinda thing.
My BF wasn't worried about my Dad saying no, as he gets on really well with my family.

That's fair enough. My dad would just be embarassed!

What would you have done if your dad said no(hypothetically, as you said they get on very well)? Get married anyway?

Congrats on the engagement by the way. I heard it was recent enough!

Mrs_Doyle

watna wrote: »

What would you have done if your dad said no(hypothetically, as you said they get on very well)? Get married anyway?

Congrats on the engagement by the way. I heard it was recent enough!

Thanks a million! It was 2 weeks and 1 day ago, but whose counting?:o

Yeah, to be honest, asking my Dad was a nice, traditional, old fashioned thing to do, but ultimately, had he (my dad) have said no, I'm fairly confident my BF would have told him firmly, but politely, that it was unfortunate that he(my dad) felt that way, but that his intention was to ask me anyhow, and allow me to make up my own mind.

I would have been a bit upset to learn that my Dad didn't approve, but I am a grown woman, and I would have said yes anyway, and tried to improve relations between them afterward.

FruitLover

Eire 4Ever wrote: »

No its the male thing to do

Yes, like being a doctor or driving a car. Or voting!

*pats head condescendingly

Geranium

Sure why not? If I wanted that there's no point waiting around for it to happen, he may never ask, you'd be wasting your time.

Pyr0

I made it clear to teh laydee if we were ever to tie the knot years down the line that i'd want it to be her to ask me ! Cause I like being a bast@rd like that, not fufilling her life long dream of a man getting down on one knee etc

Luu

FruitLover wrote: »

Yes, like being a doctor or driving a car. Or voting!

*pats head condescendingly

LOL (and for once its true!)

watna

watna wrote: »

I asked my bf by email. He told me to stop messing and asked if I want a Chinese takeaway for dinner... I think that's a no. What do you think?

Mine asked where his ring was
I did ask by text though since he was at work

Nightwish

I wouldnt because I know he wouldnt take it seriously and I think its his job to ask me anyway.

LivingDeadGirl

Pyr0 wrote: »

I made it clear to teh laydee if we were ever to tie the knot years down the line that i'd want it to be her to ask me ! Cause I like being a bast@rd like that, not fufilling her life long dream of a man getting down on one knee etc

I hate you, you ruined my dream

Pyr0

Keeping you on yer toes baby.