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12-02-2008 4:27pm#1
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It can be very sweet and so much better than the drunk method, it's a lot more genuine! But you don't wanna scare her off thinking you've been watching / stalking her. I say if you like someone (even a stranger) then go for it, lifes too short sure
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yeah. wouldnt bother me. i'd be surprised in a good way!!
i've seen blokes in Random places before and have been really tempted to do something. i never do though. probably coz i'm sober im afraid!!
Personally would have no problem with it. It's better than getting creepy PMs on here! By the way, does anyone know how to block someone who keeps sending you messages. I said something earlier this afternoon and this guy just won't stop sending me messages.0 -
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Personally would have no problem with it. It's better than getting creepy PMs on here! By the way, does anyone know how to block someone who keeps sending you messages. I said something earlier this afternoon and this guy just won't stop sending me messages.
Damn i havent got one of those yet. Where have i gone wrong? hehe.
...But back on Topic.
its a pity most people can only do the chatting up thing when theres drink on Board! i suppose its the rejection and the courage to actually do it that the booze helps.
God if i'd had the bottle i'd have chatted up the hottie in Xtravision that time.....
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God if i'd had the bottle i'd have chatted up the hottie in Xtravision that time.....
Perfect time when you wouldn't need a bottle Niamho...
This is when stalking could come into play! Check out the same DVD/Game aisle as them, ask what they think of DVD/Game or "have you seen this one" etc.. If they look horrified at you speaking to them then its a no. If not...who knows?!0 -
its a pity most people can only do the chatting up thing when theres drink on Board! i suppose its the rejection and the courage to actually do it that the booze helps.
Pretty valid point i think! A few years ago my confidence would have been very low and i would not have been that happy with myself at all! Booze would really have been the only way i could have worked up the courage to chat up a lass that i like!
The last couple of years have really seen my confidence grow and now i'll talk to the wall when i'm sober and will happily ask someone i feel might interest me out for a drink regardless of the circumstances!
The whole fear of rejection thing is a big hill to climb, but once you get the simple realisation that not everyone will find you to their taste and thats not a bad thing.....then it all just becomes fun!
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He was finding out how much he'd get for games. and i looked a bit rough. lol. see thats another thing. guaranteed to see a hottie when i look a state. :mad:
For some reason i thought that was the other way around and you were the punter!
Must be my own experience coming back to haunt me! This really pretty lass who works in the Xtra-vision just up from me! The horrible blue tshirt and the fact that she wears really baggy pants does nothing except hide the fact that she is fit as hell and i'd pay good money just to see her with her hair down instead of up as i reckon it would be a total knock out!
She's about the only lass i keep bottling it with these days!
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Yes, following her around shows how much you care.
Perhaps quit your job so you can take it up 24 hours a day.
She'll be well impressed to know that as she sleeps, eats, works, exercises, bathes, socialises you'll be within earshot, touching yourself. I meant for the OP to try to make some sort of eye contact within the shop. Not hound the woman.
I didn't mention find out where she sleeps, eats, works, exercises, bathes, socialises, or listen to her while masturbating.0 -
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I meant for the OP to try to make some sort of eye contact within the shop. Not hound the woman.
I didn't mention find out where she sleeps, eats, works, exercises, bathes, socialises, or listen to her while masturbating.
Ah I know I wasn't being serious.
I didn't start drinking until I was 21 so I never really saw asking a girl out as a difficult problem because I didn't realise it was easier with drink. (Although I would now think it is).
I would disagree with you in trying to make an issue of "knowing" her before you ask her out though. Best bet is just go for it. Worst that can happen is rejection but at least in her hindsight she won't be thinking of all the times you were floating around. I would see that as far more embarrassing if you meet her again.
Sure I asked my girlfriend out for the first time after meeting her on a bus and we're together six years now.
Some women will of course be totally freaked out but you have to take the rough with the smooth. 0 -
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She's about the only lass i keep bottling it with these days!
Reason enough to go for it! Seriously! Pronto!
One of my friends is now in a relationship with someone who spotted her through a window while at work, and chased after her down the street.
He has a million and one brownie points with every female who ever heard the story.
I think in Ireland you have more chances of sucess by asking in daylight hours.
Because women aren't used to it, so it knocks them off guard. Thereby cutting through the arsehole defense shield system, that the lads in after hours complain about so much.0 -
Im too much of a chicken sh1t to ask a woman out when im sober.
Drink ftw!
I was out in Athlone over christmas and the club was full of miserable looking single people avoiding each other....and one drunken sleaze trying to make contact with everyone.
Have no idea how you repopulate there.0 -
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SarahSassy wrote: »I think it would just be nice to be asked out
Honestly Sarah, if a guy (complete stranger) just came up to you in a shop, restaurant, airport, street or any public place asked you out or gave you his number, what would your reaction be?0 -
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He was finding out how much he'd get for games. and i looked a bit rough. lol. see thats another thing. guaranteed to see a hottie when i look a state. :mad:
I've always wanted to be one of those women that are just meticulous at all times! Never happens with me though!
I've only ever had one guy try it while he was sober. I actually legged it! It wasn't exactly random, I'd bumped straight into him one day and he'd caught me, apologised and we laughed at each other. I'd thought "What a babe" and went on to tell my best mate when I met up with her. We seen each other a couple more times, Eye contact, shy smiles, the whole lot. Then one day I was walking up through an arcade in town and seen him in a shop and when he spotted me he waved and started walking over to me. Of course I panicked!! :rolleyes: I waved back and legged it! Seen him a few more times but he never tried to stop me again and I never had the guts to stop him! I kicked myself black and blue for months after!
Of course he did come up to me in a net cafe about a year later and ask me out but I was with my OH and living in Limerick so was just visiting home at the time. :mad:
I think it would be different now, I'd be pleasantly suprised and flattered! It's so much more genuine when sober!0 -
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I asked a couple of girls out in the UCD library, oh the shame!
Kept seeing this girl, myself and my friend kept calling her lollipop girl ashs eh always had one in her mouth, anyway after weeks of drooling over her i popped a not on her desk, she knew who it was from she txt me a while later, but in the end nothing came of it
Another girl i just kept literally bumping into around campus, seen her on the bus one day and we got off at UCD i asked her out she said no and never seen her again!
I was in dundalk a few years ago and coming back for a 21st on the saturday evening train and sat across the carriage from a girl there were loads of old northern guys hammered making a racket so she leans over the aisle and offers me her ipod in a jokey way, we flirted non stop all the way to connolly, her bf was waiting at the platform
There's been a few times that i've felt a spark with a total stranger whether its on the bus/luas/plane but i'm attached so i never ask0 -
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SarahSassy wrote: »I think it would just be nice to be asked outHonestly Sarah, if a guy (complete stranger) just came up to you in a shop, restaurant, airport, street or any public place asked you out or gave you his number, what would your reaction be?SarahSassy wrote: »Hmmmm, if I am to be honest I would doubt his motives given the number of looney's Ive met over the years.... But in saying that I would like to think I would at least have a coffee with him there and then if he seemed normal (and someone I could possibly be attracted to). I would not give him my number though.
I'd have to agree with SarahSassy, it'd be nice to be asked out by a sober gent for a change....
In response to MaxSmart's question, if I may, as SS said, depending on the guy whether I'd say yes but if there was some kind of spark I'd definitely take his number and seriously think about dropping him a line, because basically if he's seen you sober you don't have to worry about beer-goggles:D
at the moment I've the opposite problem - the guy I like keeps asking me out when he's drunk so I told him to ask me when he's sober....but he hasn't:rolleyes:
So yes lads I think ye should definitely take the plunge with the girlies - sure what's the worse that can happen??!!;):)0 -
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cold_filter wrote: »I asked a couple of girls out in the UCD library, oh the shame!
Classic procastination skillset. 0 -
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This is why men find it so hard to ask out women during the day!!! This isnt the first time Ive heard this story. Ive had 2 friends get asked out and they were both like "He was cute ,but he could have been anyone, I didnt know what to say", and usually finish with the excuse that they have a boyfriend.I've only ever had one guy try it while he was sober. I actually legged it! It wasn't exactly random, I'd bumped straight into him one day and he'd caught me, apologised and we laughed at each other. I'd thought "What a babe" and went on to tell my best mate when I met up with her. We seen each other a couple more times, Eye contact, shy smiles, the whole lot. Then one day I was walking up through an arcade in town and seen him in a shop and when he spotted me he waved and started walking over to me. Of course I panicked!! :rolleyes: I waved back and legged it! Seen him a few more times but he never tried to stop me again and I never had the guts to stop him! I kicked myself black and blue for months after! 0 -
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For the ladies i would ask what is the logic behind the "he could be anyone" argument! It's not as if pubs and clubs and such have a vetting system that only lets in suitable and sane possible partners.
If that was the case they would be empty.
Whenever i approach a lass in an unconventional situation i.e. NOT in the pub etc it's always because there is something about you that is very, very interesting and attractive.
The next time it happens to any of the ladies here remember that you have just been paid quite the compliment. 0 -
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lots of replies!
i have asked girls out in the shops whatever.
asked one from xtra vision out a couple years back, she said no, so i joined chartbusters
i went to spain last summer and in the boarding area was this hot spanish girl. didnt say anything, but then when i was getting my retrun flight she was on that too. she smiled to me on the plane, so when i landed i caught up with her and had a chat. i got her number, only to find out she had a bf. boo urns.
the best was when i asked a girl out on grafton street, she was handing out those crap scratch cards. this one actaully said yes
nothing came of it tho
i was just kinda wondering what the general consenus was.
seems to be all positive.
well say its nots a shop, say its on the bus or luas or something?
the fear of rejection is then much greater cos it will be in front of everyone.
would you girls feel weirded out?
Dragan fair play for asking a girl out on the luas, take cajones.0 -
Dragan fair play for asking a girl out on the luas, take cajones.
THe lesson was learned the hard way as i let this fantastic looking lass who was just WAITING for me to start talking to her slip through my fingers ( actually had a post on After Hours at one point about it would you believe ) and felt miserable about that so said, never again.
See a beautiful girl?
Talk to her. 0 -
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