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Advice needed for old timer

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  • #32
    dublinlawyer
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43 ✭dublinlawyer


    McGinty wrote: »
    my experience has been so far 1) I meet men I like but they don't like me 2) I meet men who like me, and I really, really like them on a pasionate level but... their lifestyle is not good for me on an emotional level ie: they are attached. 3) I meet a nice guy, he is respectable, kind, passionless, boring and I DON'T FANCY HIM. These kind of men are kind, respectable, I know I should fancy them, they are good men ...its like I meet a nice guy and I cant handle it, I tend to attract perverts or prudes and I just want to meet middle of the road men.

    First I wouldn't put men into categories. Everyone is different. But using the categories you have 1, 2, and 3. 1 and 2 are not use. You cant make someone like you and theres no point in being with someone who is attached.
    That leaves people who dont fall into category 1 and 2 which you presume only means "a guy, he is respectable, kind, passionless, boring and I DON'T FANCY HIM." whereas it in fact means anyone who likes you and you like them and isnt attached ie someone whos isnt in category 1 or 2.
    And it seems the qualities you go for are for him to be respectable, kind and passionate, exciting. But you cant presume that the only people who will have these qualities will be either attached or will not like you. Keep the faith. The best things come to those who wait.


  • #33
    SarahSassy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,145 ✭✭✭SarahSassy


    joJoe90 wrote: »
    ah now.... I've ended up having passionate and lengthy relationships with people who I didn't fancy when I met them, but ended up fancying the pants off them as I got to know them. It's not always there at the beginning! I'd always give someone the benefit of the doubt - and a couple of dates - if I liked them; BUT if I recoil from the peck on the cheek at the end of the night, maybe not then.
    +1


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