Mr Ideal...

Ginny

I know we have a celeb appreciation thread, but what qualities in general does your ideal man have?

Mine would have to be at least 6ft, not blonde and be quite well built (now not muscley but just bigger then me), oh and he has to have nice forearms and shoes.
Other then that I would just like someone who is intelligent, mature, has a direction in life, and gets me...if you know what I mean.

The Recliner

GinnyJo wrote: »

I know we have a celeb appreciation thread, but what qualities in general does your ideal man have?

Mine would have to be at least 6ft, not blonde and be quite well built (now not muscley but just bigger then me), oh and he has to have nice forearms and shoes.
Other then that I would just like someone who is intelligent, mature, has a direction in life, and gets me...if you know what I mean.

I will have to stop stalking you now, according to this I am too short for you

Perfect in every other way though :P

Crumble Froo

i tend to be very much on the personality thing.. a lot of people that i mightnt find attractive by photos or whatever, i find once i get to know them, they just shine,and their qualities that i mightn't have liked previously become very attractive.

anyway, that aside, to go for a standard answer... hair is awesome! preferably dark, no shorter than shoulder length, and if possible, with dreads please. eyes, green, height, at least 2inches taller than me, style.. 'rocker' type clothes are pretty hawt too.

edit: teeth = teh awesome.

Ginny

Sooooo close.:D
Although the list is not a complete one, going by that even Lurch could be Mr Ideal:D

Yeah narco I only starting thinking about it as my friends were asking what I'd be looking for, and none of my Exs are anyway similar.
Personality is always the winner, but for some unknown reason I'm not attracted to blonde men, I've tried and nadda, and I like men to be taller then me.

Clare Bear

Ah God I always used to have my ideal type down to a tee but even he turned out to be very wrong for me a few years ago so now I have more of an open mind...

I still and always will go for the pretty boys though, I just can't help it. Damn them and their prettiness

Crumble Froo

urgh. i can't stand pretty boys in general. particularly teh ones you see in american films...

Ginny

No pretty Boys! forgot that one:D
I'm supposed to be the girl in the relationship!

monkeyfudge

narco wrote: »

urgh. i can't stand pretty boys in general. particularly teh ones you see in american films...

What about Vince Noir?

Ginny

He's not pretty, he's stunning!

I think everyone you meet has qualities that you can learn from. So I would much rather be open to potential life enhancing characters than caught up in a self driven ideal.

I have a Chandler block about lady hands and chinlessness though.

Clare Bear

Believe me I wish I didn't go for pretty boys, they always turn out to be headwreckers! Yet everytime I go crawling back for more.

Yet again, damn them and their prettiness!!!!! :mad:

Crumble Froo

GinnyJo wrote: »

Sooooo close.:D
Although the list is not a complete one, going by that even Lurch could be Mr Ideal:D

Yeah narco I only starting thinking about it as my friends were asking what I'd be looking for, and none of my Exs are anyway similar.
Personality is always the winner, but for some unknown reason I'm not attracted to blonde men, I've tried and nadda, and I like men to be taller then me.

haha, i think only one of my exes didnt have the required hair length...

my b/f now though is a good bit taller than me, green eyes, *used* to have really long dreads, green eyes, and the right clothes :cool:

oh, and monkeyfudge, i didnt find noel at all attractive at first. but... how can you not love anyone who smiles that much?!

Red Hand

A window into the female mind. It will be disturbing but ultimately enlightening.:p

The Recliner

Damn my lack of height

Skinny, tall, pretty.
That's just the looks anyway...

Personality/other traits wise, there's a longer list.

Ginny

Ha!
So you're from Ant and Dec man factory then?

The Recliner

GinnyJo wrote: »

Ha!
So you're from Ant and Dec man factory then?

Sadly yes

I am 5'8

Most girls go for tall blokes it seems and I don't blame them for that

Still it would be no fun trying to get a girls attention if it were easy

Ginny

See now my height thing really revolves around my shoes, one pair has 6 inch heels and I'm 5'6 so....

The Recliner

GinnyJo wrote: »

See now my height thing really revolves around my shoes, one pair has 6 inch heels and I'm 5'6 so....

Damn women with their shoe fetish

Clare Bear

The Recliner wrote: »

Sadly yes

I am 5'8

Most girls go for tall blokes it seems and I don't blame them for that

Still it would be no fun trying to get a girls attention if it were easy

Height is never really something I'd notice in a big way....my last bloke was around that height I reckon, though I do usually go for tall blokes but it's never an issue, if they're cute they're cute, I don't care what height they are.... is 5'8 "small" ?

¬_¬

He'd be over 6ft, but not appear tall.
He'd be well-built but not too big. He'd have to have muscles but they can't be too big.
He'd be about 6.4" in length and just the right girth...not too much though... ugh!
He'd have brown hair but not too light or too dark and he'd have to be willing to dye it.
He'd be rich but not make a big deal about money either.
He'd have a sense of fashion and style but not too much or I'd fear he's gay or he'd be the prettier of us. I hate that.
He'd be a good listener but able to talk plenth.

The Recliner

Clare Bear wrote: »

Height is never really something I'd notice in a big way....my last bloke was around that height I reckon, though I do usually go for tall blokes but it's never an issue, if they're cute they're cute, I don't care what height they are.... is 5'8 "small" ?

It is below average height for a bloke

I think 5'10 is around the norm for a bloke

So I am a short arse, doesn't bother me too much though

Gordon

Would the ladies here answering this question automatically ditch their current man for a man with the stated perfect qualities of Mr. Ideal? And a second question, would the ladies here hold out without dating anyone until they met their Mr. Ideal?

I'm glad to see some mention of traits other than external characteristics being the definition of a perfect match for them. By ideal, you mean your perfect partner right? Or is this topic about sex?

magooly

Gordon wrote: »

would the ladies here hold out without dating anyone until they met their Mr. Ideal?

On the nose Gordon, that would make an interesting poll ...

gcgirl

There is no such thing as Mr Ideal we're just chasing a fantasy here!:mad:

Crumble Froo

Gordon wrote: »

Would the ladies here answering this question automatically ditch their current man for a man with the stated perfect qualities of Mr. Ideal?

not a chance. it's like... ideally, i would love a job that pays 5 times more than the care work i have been doing. but i wouldnt quit the carework to take a job in a big business/office type situation, even if the money was perfect, because i love my job and all the relationships and time and energy that i put in and can also take from it.

And a second question, would the ladies here hold out without dating anyone until they met their Mr. Ideal?

like i said in my first post here, i do find that people's personalities tend to shine through for me, making things i woudlnt have initially found attractive very attractive. so no, not a chance. it'd be ridiculous to narrow down all your choices like that. personally, if you'd asked me 3/4 years ago about the age etc of my 'ideal man', i woudlnt have gone more than 5 years older than myself. but i have since met an amazing man, much older than that, and things between us are awesome. just take life and people as they come, it hink.

I'm glad to see some mention of traits other than external characteristics being the definition of a perfect match for them. By ideal, you mean your perfect partner right? Or is this topic about sex?

well, i was thinking of the perfect partner, assuming sex would probably happen, but not consciously thinking of it.

Reku

Tall does seem to be a common theme, guess that stereotyping holds quite a bit of truth in it. At least it means I get left alone by shallow (as in those for whom the physical appearance and attributes are the be all and end all) girls so I'm happy with it (a lowly 5'6":o).:)

Crumble Froo

im about the same height as you, farohar, and have gone out with guys shorter than me. like i said earlier, the above things tend to be an 'ideal' factor, but at the end of the day, personality is a big thing,and does make the other features stand out.

cuckoo

Hmmmm...'k here goes:

-a nice smile that makes me want to smile along too
-good sense of humour
-intelligent
-kind
-imaginative, and responsive, in bed

Height isn't really an issue for me.

Wibbs

The Recliner wrote: »

It is below average height for a bloke

I think 5'10 is around the norm for a bloke

I'm not so sure. Like willy size men tend to over egg their height or judge it worng. Put it this way, I'm only 5' 11" and I would be at the upper end heightwise of most of the guys I know. If I'm out and about there are more guys shorter than taller than me. The amount of guys I've known that say they're 6 ft when they're slightly shorter or the same height as me, so I would say that 5' 6 to 5 8 would be more the average in Ireland. In Europe it varies all over the place. Spanish, Italian and French blokes appear smaller to me. The Dutch are huuuge though.

PS I like the way ¬_¬ puts in her spec for willy size. Very precise too.:D

Crumble Froo

i particularly liked this one...

nd he'd have to be willing to dye it.

Ginny

In fairness one of my exs claimed he was 6ft and it wasn't until one day at Witness when I was wearing flats and we had been standing side by side for ages that i looked up and copped he was over exaggerating his height.

In response to Gordon no of course I wouldn't leave someone I was happy with if my "Mr Ideal" came along.....the hint is in the title...ideal...not requisite.
Since the lads had a thread on this over in BGRH I just thought it would be a bit of fun to see a girls point of view.:D

G86

Colin Farrelll...hmmm

Well yes to the forearms...and they always look better with a few wrist bands/beads

Dark hair, any colour eyes, tallish ( at least my height 5'9'), broad shoulders, nice calves, footballer thighs....

Messy hair is good - I hate the clean cut,boyband,pretty boy look

And I must say I never appreciated a 6 pack as much as I have since the last guy I was kinda seein....oooh hotness!!!!!

Oh and he has to have good fashion sense..loving the whole blazer/tshirt and jeans look right now - add in a beanie for good

Personality wise he'd have to be sweet but not a walkover and well able to stand up to me. He'd do the little things like buy me a single rose for no reason at all, or arrange a night out to surprise me, or even just meet me after work to walk me home.

He'd have to be ambitious, independent, fun, and have a mind and a life of his own, separate to mine.

Basically he'd just have to be great!!

SMM

G86 wrote: »

Colin Farrelll...hmmm

Well yes to the forearms...and they always look better with a few wrist bands/beads

Dark hair, any colour eyes, tallish ( at least my height 5'9'), broad shoulders, nice calves, footballer thighs....

Messy hair is good - I hate the clean cut,boyband,pretty boy look

And I must say I never appreciated a 6 pack as much as I have since the last guy I was kinda seein....oooh hotness!!!!!

+1. A sense of humour is everything, as well as being nice (but not too nice. Has to keep me interested)

Tragedy

This seems like the closest thread I'll find: the last girl I was interested in(and who was interested in me) got very, very drunk one night and said a couple of times how pretty I am and how she had a crush on me, what does it mean when a girl calls a guy "pretty"? Is it even a compliment?

Ginny

Tragedy wrote: »

she had a crush on me,

See this?
this is the important bit, pretty can mean different things to different people, but if she finds you pretty and has a crush on you, well then thats a good thing.

Gordon

OK, thanks for the clarification. "Ideal" as in "Ideal world" as opposed to "Ideal conditions". An unattainable perfection as opposed to a man that you would slay herds of endangered species just to be with for the day.

If people here wouldn't give up their current man for Mr. Ideal, or wait until he came along then obviously Mr. Ideal never gets a look in unless he's in the lucky position of meeting a woman while in between partners, or if she's a virgin.

Poor old Mr. Ideal I say! The perfect man for someone and he has chances of slim to none to actually be with his perfect match.

Pyjamarama

narco wrote: »

oh, and monkeyfudge, i didnt find noel at all attractive at first. but... how can you not love anyone who smiles that much?!

Exactly ... *drifts off into Boosh happy land with Electro Boy playing in the background*

I wouldn't say 5 8" is short either, I wouldn't call it tall but not short either if you know what I mean! I wouldn't like a guy to be shorter than me but if I liked him I'd get over it.

Looks wise I have a soft spot for dark hair and blue eyes, don't really like blonde hair but again depends on the person. I like stuble too.
Don't like really muscley guys (this is a good thing living in Ireland!)
Has to be able to make me laugh, be intelligent, be opinionated (not necessarily have the same opinions on stuff as me!) and can have a good debate about stuff, be caring and thoughtful, be confident. My boy has all this stuff so I guess if an 'ideal' exists then he qualifies!

I used to have a stereotypical type that I thought was my ideal but really this type is just based more on looks and not particularly related to reality so would never really impose this fictious type on someone now as no-one can live up to crazy ideals. I'm rambling ... lalala

tallaght01

gcgirl wrote: »

There is no such thing as Mr Ideal we're just chasing a fantasy here!:mad:

It's true, even perfect male physical specimens like me sometimes have a bad hair day

btw recliner man, 5"8 is roughly average for an Irish male. Though, as always is the case with average heights, they're increasing. So, by the time you're 90 you may well be a short arse

Babette08

Have to say I'm a sucker for the darker guys. Height not a big deal 4 me though as most spanish/french quite small anyway. It's all about the eyes/smile. I'm very small so maybe that's it - not hard to tower over me . Love french men, they have IT in every way - most of them know it unfortunately though!!
I'm not a slave to type though & can sometimes be pleasantly surprised

cuckoo

Gordon wrote: »

OK, thanks for the clarification. "Ideal" as in "Ideal world" as opposed to "Ideal conditions". An unattainable perfection as opposed to a man that you would slay herds of endangered species just to be with for the day.

Well, i think pandas are kind of over rated and would probably be ok with taking them all out for one (very) wild day (and night) with Colin Farrell.

There's just something about him, a sort of twinkle in the eye that says to me that i would be left tired, satisfied and wondering how to get those handcuffs off the head board the next day....

Crumble Froo

monkeyfudge

cuckoo wrote: »

Hmmmm...'k here goes:

-a nice smile that makes me want to smile along too
-good sense of humour
-intelligent
-kind
-imaginative, and responsive, in bed

Height isn't really an issue for me.

Ah well done. Not one mention of height, hair or the shoes he wears. This woman knows where priorities should lie.

EDIT: oh wait... just read about the panda culling... perhaps I should take that back...

rain on

Personality-wise: smart, fun, ambitious, talented, compassionate.

Looks-wise: medium height to tallish, longish hair, facial hair (not too much but a bit), general scruffiness.

All pretty vague really. I don't like laying down rules because then you meet someone amazing who meets none of your requirements and then you realise how arbitrary they were.

gcgirl

gcgirl wrote: »

There is no such thing as Mr Ideal we're just chasing a fantasy here!:mad:

Chasing? I wouldn't say I was chasing
just things to keep in mind based on previous experience

Gordon: I wouldn't end a relationship unless I was unhappy with it in itself, rather than because I wanted someone else.

SarahSassy

I like clean cut guys, clear sallow skin and probably dark blonde hair. Nice teeth and a medium physique. I'm pretty petite but have generally been drawn to guys minimum 5' 10.

As for personality (which I tend to go for), i like the natural comedian, slightly off beat, open minded, easy going and caring.

echosound

I'm going to roll out the vomit inducing line here but -
ideal man for me = my husband.

I go for personality over everything else - has to have a wicked sense of humour(preferably filthy), be intelligent, an individual thinker, talented, artistic, caring, trustworthy, loving, share similar interests, etc etc etc.

Extra bonus points on top of that if the looks are hot too, and luckily for me, they are

checked every box there too - gorgeous dark eyes, bearded (not Dubliner stylee, rather metal stylee) perfect height (just a smidge taller than me), perfect skin (pale, clear), well built but not musclebound wierdo, sexy cheeky smile that seems to melt everyone, young, old, male or female, and means he can get away with murder if he wants so long as he rolls out the smile.

"Fashion" wise, also perfect - tattoos, piercings, scruffy/metal look, but also scrubs up well in a suit when necessary (for weddings etc). Lots of black shirts and spiffing crisp white shirts too, so that's a bonus (abhor stripey or otherwise patterned/coloured shirts). Not afraid to change up hairstyles either - has been long, short, shaved, dyed black, you name it, all have looked good.

Reckon I'm pretty lucky to have found Mr Ideal. Now, you can all go barf your lungs up at that line!:)

walt0r

6'5". Any takers? Only tall women need apply lolz
boobies gone

monkeyfudge

It's Johnny Bravo!

MayMay

It is!!! Ha ha ha ha.

walt0r

hahahaha johnny bravo i like that