Valentines Day- for all you Valentines Questions and Comments

whiskeyman

Ok, I know it's well early, but it's at the back of many peoples heads at the moment.
What do yee girlies expect from yer fella at Valentines?
Do you expect flowers and meal as standard? What if he forgot flowers?
Would you definately expect more if it was your first Valentines together?
Are other presents acceptable?

I know lots of yee will say 'oh, I don't care for it... as long as we know we love each other blah blah'... well b*llix to that, as I know you'd love to get flowers or feel really left out as everyone else gets them...
It's gonna be my first with my g/f this year (anniversery is shortly after), but I hate the idea of Valentines. It's like we all have to confirm and do the same thing. I've always liked to be different and original in my relationship with her, and would consider just bringing her out for a meal the night before to show this! I can't exactly not get her flowers either, no much how she'd agree...
Meh, guess this has turned into a bit of a rant.

So, what's your expectations this Valentines?

Fremen

Cover all your bases: bring her out for a meal of chocolate-covered flowers

metaoblivia

Nothing - no Valentine in sight for me. And compared to the Valentine's I had last year, I'll gladly take nothing.

spinandscribble

tbh i love flowers and little tokens of affection.
i dont know why they need to be limited to valentines, its just another day in the year. saying that i cant help but feel the need to give my bf something and tbh i'd feel sad if i got nothing on the day. plus if my bf goes out of his way to get silly fluffy things for the day it just feels like he loves me enough to let me be my stupid girly self.
before anyone says it i do little things all year round for my bf so its not a one way street

watna

Since I read this thread I've been racking my brains to try and remember what me and the OH did for Valentine's day last year. I honestly can't remember. I have no recollection of cards or dinner or anything. We may have stayed in, I can't be sure! I think that this shows that it's not really important after all!

Crazy Catlady

The best present was.... when I was handed a bag of steak to cook for our romantic valentines dinner.
He was a real keeper. I miss him.:rolleyes:

Cathmandooo

I expect sweet FA I wouldn't hold my breath on getting anything! If I had a hot man I'd love nothing more than a romantic night in together with a dvd or something, I'm not into the whole gift and flowers giving, do that any other time of the year

rain on

The last time I was going out with someone on Valentine's Day neither of us were into it at all; I gave him a UCD newsletter and he gave me a three-pack of sponges.
With the current fella we'll probably do nothing, or celebrate it the way we celebrate everything else: eating everything in sight, getting langers and listening to High On Fire

Nevyn

Roses and orgasms.

Quality

Thank you for reminding me,,, Must book restaurant today...

We usually go out for a nice quiet meal, just the two of us. I get a lovely card and flowers as well. A ride at the end of the night usually puts the icing on the cake for me!!

pow wow

Just orgasms for me, preferably without battery aided assistance

I hope you're reading...lol

On a more serious note (because clearly I am overreaching with my expectations) I'd say something special, a little out of the ordinary. If you're always getting her flowers you'll need to up your game if you know what I mean. I have to say I'd like to stay in and eat rather than go out, and then...well.....

citytillidie

Loved should be shown all year round not on one day for card companies to make money

Piste

I'l be skiing in Itlay for Valentines day :(:( (I know, life's so hard isn't it?!)



So we'll just be celebrating before.




And after.

Papillon87

This will be my first "real" Valentine's day...i.e. as part of a couple. I don't know how he feels about it, and I don't really know how I feel about it either. I can take or leave the flowers and chocolate or meal out...I'd like to get something sweet and thougtful; more a token than some big gift. However I have no clue what to get him in return. Ideas?!?!

DubLegs

I am sooo jealous of all you going for ur meals, orgasm and general affection you'll get this year - my other half has decided to join his folks on holidays this year. I'm all on my todd!!

On the pressie kind of stuff - we usually get practical stuff like vouchers for something we want etc. I don't go for the whole spending a fortune on flowers and chocolates when it can be done any other time of the year. I'd actually prefer flowers for my bday or anniversary, just not Valentines.

Cathmandooo

Papillon87 wrote: »

This will be my first "real" Valentine's day...i.e. as part of a couple. I don't know how he feels about it, and I don't really know how I feel about it either. I can take or leave the flowers and chocolate or meal out...I'd like to get something sweet and thougtful; more a token than some big gift. However I have no clue what to get him in return. Ideas?!?!

If you go over to the mens forum I'm sure they'd suggest steak and blowjob day (sorry I'm too much of a lady to say that out loud

John Mason

whiskeyman wrote: »

Ok, I know it's well early, but it's at the back of many peoples heads at the moment.
What do yee girlies expect from yer fella at Valentines?
Do you expect flowers and meal as standard? What if he forgot flowers?
Would you definately expect more if it was your first Valentines together?
Are other presents acceptable?

I know lots of yee will say 'oh, I don't care for it... as long as we know we love each other blah blah'... well b*llix to that, as I know you'd love to get flowers or feel really left out as everyone else gets them...
It's gonna be my first with my g/f this year (anniversery is shortly after), but I hate the idea of Valentines. It's like we all have to confirm and do the same thing. I've always liked to be different and original in my relationship with her, and would consider just bringing her out for a meal the night before to show this! I can't exactly not get her flowers either, no much how she'd agree...
Meh, guess this has turned into a bit of a rant.

So, what's your expectations this Valentines?

absolutely nothing, if you love someone why do you have to wait for a made up holiday to tell them???

citytillidie

This is while corny but couple of years ago for Valentines day I sent my then gf a rose each day from the 2nd of Feb so she would have a dozen roses on the 14th.

whiskeyman

irishbird wrote: »

absolutely nothing, if you love someone why do you have to wait for a made up holiday to tell them???

ah, that's all well and good in fluffy land...

Seriously though, I totally agree, and I know my OH agrees, but she's in a small office with nearly all girls (all others have b/fs) and do you honestly think she won't mind if she's the only one not getting flowers?

She'd probably tell me she wouldn't, but I secretly know she'd love them.
Mind you, I do all this kind of stuff all through the year and love doing it(romantic men do exist!!) but it's just the whole 'I have to do it today, or else!!' thing I hate.

Cathmandooo

whiskeyman wrote: »

ah, that's all well and good in fluffy land...

Seriously though, I totally agree, and I know my OH agrees, but she's in a small office with nearly all girls (all others have b/fs) and do you honestly think she won't mind if she's the only one not getting flowers?

She'd probably tell me she wouldn't, but I secretly know she'd love them.
Mind you, I do all this kind of stuff all through the year and love doing it(romantic men do exist!!) but it's just the whole 'I have to do it today, or else!!' thing I hate.

Send a bunch a week or two before valentines day then!

Mr. Incognito

January 7th.................this is like Christmas decorations in September- does the extortion ever stop?

Papillon87

Cathooo wrote: »

If you go over to the mens forum I'm sure they'd suggest steak and blowjob day (sorry I'm too much of a lady to say that out loud

Oh dear.....

I'm much too innocent to go to that forum me thinks!

Jay P

Too early!!! Jeeez, maybe its my man's intuition (and yes I know this is the Ladies Lounge) but its not for another month! We just got over Christmas, and even talking of that a monthe beforehand is too much, have some sympathy!!!!

whiskeyman

SetantaL wrote: »

January 7th.................this is like Christmas decorations in September- does the extortion ever stop?

Hell no.
You do realise some shops have Easter Eggs on sale already?

watna

Jay P wrote: »

Too early!!! Jeeez, maybe its my man's intuition (and yes I know this is the Ladies Lounge) but its not for another month! We just got over Christmas, and even talking of that a monthe beforehand is too much, have some sympathy!!!!

But the OP is male! Well I'm presuming so or else he'd be called Whiskeywoman!

Edit: mmm Easter Eggs!

monkeyfudge

Don't think I've ever celebrated Valentines day... This is mostly down to the fact that I've dated mostly women from countries that don't do it.

I have celebrated Dia dos Namorados many times though. It's much better than Valentines if you ask me..

RubyXI

Bigger problem.... what do we get the guys???? its easy for them, flowers, chocolates, jewellery, perfume. but what do they expect back???

Papillon87

phi3 wrote: »

Bigger problem.... what do we get the guys???? its easy for them, flowers, chocolates, jewellery, perfume. but what do they expect back???

Yes I also raised this query! Help me!

DubLegs

god no don't send to the office unless she drops the hints!

IMHO - i'd be mortified if he sent them to the office! But then again my place in here would just slag the life out of me and too much for me to try bring them home on the luas.

Send them before or well after Valentines.

watna

phi3 wrote: »

Bigger problem.... what do we get the guys???? its easy for them, flowers, chocolates, jewellery, perfume. but what do they expect back???

Did you not see the steak and blow jobs comment?!

Sleepy

OP - not a female opinion but my tactic of flowers the week before has always gone down well. I'm not the type to celebrate Valentines Day and I don't believe that flowers (or steak and blowjobs for that matter) should be reserved for one day a year!

monkeyfudge

watna wrote: »

Did you not see the steak and blow jobs comment?!

I'm not a huge fan of either of those things...

Although that crayon drawing of the zoo mentioned in another thread has me intrigued...

watna

monkeyfudge wrote: »

I'm not a huge fan of either of those things...

Although that crayon drawing of the zoo mentioned in another thread has me intrigued...

I saw that too, it was quite sweet. But presumably for you it would have to have a lot of monkeys in it?!

monkeyfudge

Well little creative things like that are much nicer than stuff that is just bought, cooked or sucked...

watna

monkeyfudge wrote: »

Well little creative things like that are much nicer than stuff that is just bought, cooked or sucked...

True, maybe I'll get my artistic skills out this year.

Tee hee: sucked! For some reason that made me laugh!

Kazobel

phi3 wrote: »

Bigger problem.... what do we get the guys???? its easy for them, flowers, chocolates, jewellery, perfume. but what do they expect back???

Men don't like Valentines Day, seriously it's a lot of stress for them worrying about what to get, how much to spend, how much did you spend (Because he doesn't want to look cheap handing you a CD when you've gotten him an iPod) and they feel like planks looking for all that lovey-dovey cr*p while the shop assistants look at him with pity as he sweats trying to decide what to get you so just buy him something small (Book,CD etc) cook him his favorite meal, Have a few beers chilling and get some new underwear and shag his brains out at the end of the night. With minimum effort and no stress on your part you'll have given him all his favorite things, he'll be relieve that he didn't look like a cheapskate I swear to God he'll love you for it. Trust me I know how men think

Lola123

whiskeyman wrote: »

ah, that's all well and good in fluffy land...

Seriously though, I totally agree, and I know my OH agrees, but she's in a small office with nearly all girls (all others have b/fs) and do you honestly think she won't mind if she's the only one not getting flowers?

She'd probably tell me she wouldn't, but I secretly know she'd love them.
Mind you, I do all this kind of stuff all through the year and love doing it(romantic men do exist!!) but it's just the whole 'I have to do it today, or else!!' thing I hate.

My, how clever you are! I reckon you're dead right.This is exactly the kind of thing most girls (including myself) would say... but secretly we'd be disappointed if we got nothing. Reason we don't say we want something is cos you're supposed to "want" to do it.
If you don't wanna send the usual flowers, why not send balloons instead or if you wanna be really flash... get one of those groups that will go into her office and sing her a song or somethin!

monkeyfudge

Stress? Putting thought into getting a present for someone you like is a lot of fun...

Maybe I'm just a freak...

Rhiannon14

I think the expectation of receiving something needs to be eliminated. Valentine's or not. If you love someone then you should feel free to do something loving for them with no strings attached. Granted, it's hard to avoid feelings of disappointment if you get nothing, but it's important to remember that those feelings are ultimately immature and have no place in a relationship. Guys forget specific dates, so what? Think about all the other wonderful things they do for you every single day.

I still need to figure out what to do for my OH this year, as it's our first, eek!

Cheiftan

LAYDEEZZZZZ , Its the 7th of Jan. Good things come to those who wait. Calm down till the end of Jan, good girls;);)

Crumble Froo

yes, puttign thought into prsesent for loved one is fun and all...

but ive got anniversary, birthday and valentines day in the space of a week!

dammit, wehn we were 13,000 miles away, all we had to do was send ****ing e-cards!

whatsgoinon

In Asia they have the right idea:
Feb 14th girls give chocolates to the boys
March 14th boys give chocolates to the girls (white day)
April 14th all the singletons go for dinner and eat noodles with black bean sauce (Black day)

valentines is a commercial event dreamed up by hallmark. you don't need a special day to know that someone loves you, it's the little things they do on their own rather than the expectation of receiving something that I love.

i was single last year and this year for 'it' doesn't bother me in the slightest, i went for dinner with my friends and had a laugh. i know of people who send themselves flowers, lunacy.

monkeyfudge

At the last boards beers I was asked to look into organising an anti-valentines boards.ie event.

I must look into that further...

Nevyn

monkeyfudge wrote: »

At the last boards beers I was asked to look into organising an anti-valentines boards.ie event.

I must look into that further...

Please do.

monkeyfudge

Thaedydal wrote: »

Please do.

Only if there can be monkeys... and I get to dress up as a boosh character...

watna

Cheiftan wrote: »

LAYDEEZZZZZ , Its the 7th of Jan. Good things come to those who wait. Calm down till the end of Jan, good girls;);)

And as I said earlier to another poster, think about it, the OP is male. He asked! We didn't bring it up!

Crumble Froo

edgar and chrissy will attend.

and we've all beenw aiting to meet old gregg.

monkeyfudge

narco wrote: »

edgar and chrissy will attend.

and we've all beenw aiting to meet old gregg.

But just imagine me as the Crack Fox... it won't require any huge leap of imagination though..

Crumble Froo

ok. so long as you do old gregg in september.

i so much want to be naboo.

CathyMoran

Last year I was recovering from major surgery on Valentines day so daddy and Shane both gave me roses in ICU (they allowed them for the day that was in it), I had a meal a few days before hand with my hubby and he got me a Swatch watch with roses on it (I was totally spoiled last year!) This year will be a more sedate affair - going to Portugal with my hubby but will probably still get roses and a romantic meal out on the day - I believe in love every day of the year, not just Valentines.

Blush_01

I'm expecting another single Valentines day again this year, and it doesn't bother me in the slightest. I dislike people's ferocity towards the day, especially people who condemn it as a Hallmark holiday. The way I see it is this: We should tell the people who matter to us most that we love them every day, but in reality we don't. February 14th is now recognised as a day for expressing your affection for someone - nobody ever said that had to cost much money. My friends and I used to make Valentines cards for eachother out of pieces of paper or card (they HAD to be handmade, no bought cards could be used) and exchanged them, whether in relationships or not, as a token of the affection we felt for eachother. The year before last, I cooked my single housemates a meal - just a stirfry. Valentines, like anything else, is what you make it. I see it as an excuse to remind the people who matter to you that, however much you might or might not say it throughout the year, they mean a lot to you, and you love them.

If I was with someone, I'd hate the whole roses and dinner thing, unless it was a quiet dinner at home. The idea of breaking the bank for a present annoys me too. Does giving a gift that has a price tag of thousands of euros mean you feel thousands of times the sentiment that an inexpensive present implies? I don't think so. Something thoughtful means more to me than something sparkly and impressive to the masses. Memories are priceless anyway.