Would you date some a lot older or younger that you?

The reason i ask is my friend had a date last night and he was 14 years older than her, she wont see him again as she says he is much too old for her... I have dated someone 20 years older than me and dont have a problem with ... so what the greatest age difference plus or mines your own age you would accept

depends on the person really doesnt it
i went out with someone 11 years older and he was the most immature idiot i've been with
i'd be hesitant about anyone at all younger than me but that's probably because i'm still so young

so there you go

AckwelFoley

i love older women. I dont know why.. i know a woman in her mid 30's early 40's at most with short grey hair, i think shes soo hott!

I like younger women too... and women my own age...

hmmm...

listermint

Sounds Greedy to me my friend.... sorry for the off topic. Personally i have no preference depends on the individual.

kittensoft1984

ive dated someone a lot older than me .....like 30 years older than me.

also recently dated someone 17 years older than me.

i dont think age matters to be honest. depends on whether you have things in common....

embee

I dated a guy 11 years older than me, once. It didn't work out, but that was nothing to do with his age.

He was a stupid bastard.

milli

I think it depends on the maturity of both involved! My sister is going out with someone 14 years older than her and they're happy one year on. You'd never think he was that much older, and I think thats what makes it work.
Personally I'd be reluctant to go out with anyone more than 2 or 3 years younger than me, and probably no more than 4 or 5 years older than me. But never say never and all that.

Crumble Froo

my boyfriend is 19 years older than me, and has a son 4 years younger than me.

depends on the individuals involved. entirely. so long as it's all legal and stuff, obviously.

Oryx

snyper wrote: »

i love older women. I dont know why.. i know a woman in her mid 30's early 40's at most with short grey hair, i think shes soo hott!

hmmm...

Duh. I hate having to realise Im now officially an older woman.

Older than me, yes. Not a problem. Now figuring my age that would make him late 40s to 50 which might make younger women go ffs.... but ya cant underestimate experience.:)

Younger? I suppose, but to be honest, its the maturity that matters rather than what age they are, or sexy pecs.

Star Lord

KtK wrote: »

...or sexy pecs.

Lol!

I've just turned 28 and my gf is 20... Doesn't really make much difference I've found, it's all down to how you both click

rain on

A (female) friend of mine is 23 and is going out with a 37-year-old.. that wouldn't be my cup of tea at all. Mind you I never really say never.. or to be more accurate I do and then I swallow my words! I always swore I'd never go out with someone younger than me or someone who didn't live near me.. and now I'm going out with a guy who lives 150 miles away and is 4 years younger than me, and I couldn't be happier. So as far as the age thing goes, I could never rule anything out really.

Ginny

I've only ever gone out with people in and around my own age, I think the biggest difference was him being 4 years older then me.
I think I'd probably go out with someone up to about 8 years older then me and maybe 3 years younger then me, but then again its all about being in the same place mentally and both of your outlooks on life.

Karen_*

I'd only go out with someone older than me.

misswex

I really don't think its an age thing, its how well ye click. The oldest I've gone out with was a guy who was 9 years older and the youngest would be 3 years younger.

Crazy Catlady

I don't think I've ever dated anyone more than a year or 2 older than me. Not intentionally, just worked out that way.
I did date someone a lot younger than me (half my age plus 7 at the time:D)but he didn;t get my references and made me feel ancient.
I think clicking is the most important thing tho. Age really is irrelevant when someone just gets you.

Ginny

Jesus half my age plus 7 makes them 21, I really don't think i'd have much in common with a 21 year old, doing the maths the other way around I could see a 44 year old.

Lux23

I have done in the past with older men and more recently with young men but think my ideal age in a man is about 31/32. In my experience men in their twenties are still tto selfish to really care about a woman not to mention that they are generally still ****e in bed.

cas_k

In my head I'd prefer to date an older man.... but look at a younger man!!!!

Just call me a greedy b*tch!!!!

I have a vintage, I have always had relationships with men 6 years older.
In theory I don't have a problem with dating any age from 20-50.
But once someone is over the age of 35 and they havent had a sucessful realtionship you have to wonder why. It reminds of that ad for BT when I was small and if it wasn't good enough for Ms. Jones it wasn't good enough for her.

SarahSassy

Yeah i definitely would.. It wont make much differnece when I am 84 and he is 98.....;)

misslt

:Lately I've only gone for men around 10 years older than me...don't know why tho, it's not a maturity thing because one of them is as mature as a 5 year old..:rolleyes:

McGinty

On the whole I don't mind, I have dated/had relationships with men both older and younger than me. The largest age gap was 24 years, I was very young, he was much older and I doubt I would go out with someone of that age gap again. My ex was 16 years older than me, for him he felt awkward but I didn't mind. Two men I went out with were five years younger than me and again we got on really well. I think though I would be wary of dating a much younger men, ie: more than 10 years age difference but that is not absolute, I just think at certain ages people have different values.

jellie

does 7 months younger than me count as a lot?

i dunno if age matters so much as life stages.. if that makes sense? like someone in 1st year college is at a different life stage to someone whos just started their 1st job, there could be very few years between them but theyre lives would just be very different.

in the same way someone just leaving college might be at a stage where they want to work for a bit & then travel for a year or so whereas someone older mightve done all that & be ready to settle down.

Rattlehead_ie

My last relationship was with someone 9 yrs older than me 24 v 33, she also had 2 kids. We went out for almost a year and we had a great time together, still great friends and have still meet up go ou with our friends have a laugh. It really depends, to me anyway, how you get on with the person, what you have in common, not only things to talk about but if you do want it to go on v long term you need to be at the same place in your life.

G86

I met my ex when I was 16, he was 23. We were together for 5 years and I can honestly say the age gap had very little to do with our breakup. I don't think age is an issue unless you make it an issue.

The Recliner

sar84 wrote: »

in the same way someone just leaving college might be at a stage where they want to work for a bit & then travel for a year or so whereas someone older mightve done all that & be ready to settle down.

This is very true and seems to be the reason that myself and my ex broke up

We started going out when she was 19 and we went out for 5 years. I am 5 years older than her and after much soul searching it seems we broke up because we were at different stages in our lives

We wont be getting back together because of that but the sad thing is I know that if we had never been going out and met in a year or two that we would be perfect for each other

I wouldn't trade the time we had together for anything but sometimes life and timing sucks

Blush_01

I jokingly said to the girls last week that as long as he had his own teeth, I was happy. I don't think they got the joke.

Echoing what other people have said, age is just a number, it's all about maturity and clicking. At the age of 17 one of my best friends rivalled me for the title of most grossly immature, and he was 35. It really depends on the person.

mollybird

well girls the oldest i dated was 20 years older than me. it was great. besides one or two things. the man was as frugle as **** and he never went out with me and my mates. met him while i was living over in the states and ended up cheating on him a load and got caught 3 weeks before i moved home and it was on thanksgiving. was going mad. i wouldn't do it again. the youngest i went out with was nearly three years younger than me and god but he was/is still as immature as ever!!

Star Lord

Question there is why did you stay with him instead of leaving him?
That's what I don't understand about people cheating, if you're not happy, leave. Don't treat the person like crap by cheating on them!

John Mason

my friend is going out with someone who is 13 years older then her, and they get on brilliantly, you wouldnt have an idea that there was such on an age difference at all.

personally, i wouldnt go out with anyone younger then me

mollybird

don't ask why i did. i still don't know i put it down to living it up while abroad. i was one of the youngest there. we were great friends. we have kept touch some what over the years. and when he came over ot me in ireland we were together. it was great.

G86

Well my ex was 7 yrs older than me and I met him when I was 16. That said though, I would have been alot more mature at that age that alot of 16yr olds I know now. A guy I was seeing more recently was 32 - 11 years older than me - but you wouldn't have known it at all. I think it just depends on the people involved.

SW81

G86 wrote: »

Well my ex was 7 yrs older than me and I met him when I was 16. That said though, I would have been alot more mature at that age that alot of 16yr olds I know now. A guy I was seeing more recently was 32 - 11 years older than me - but you wouldn't have known it at all. I think it just depends on the people involved.

Yeah definitely.

I hate it though when people think it's grand for a girl to go out with a much older guy but if it's the other way around it's seen as wrong, why?!

lolli

I'm 23 my boyfriend is 31, we have been together almost 3 years. I have no problem with someones age. Have dated people a lot older than me. Although i do find it rather scary when they are almost the same age as my Dad.

gcgirl

i've tended to stay around guys my own age(32) give or take a year or 2! not really in to older guys but who's saying i might not like somebody that little bit older down the line, or 25 i'd say would be the youngest i'd go for !

Jules

I always thought i would end up with someone older than me. But my happiest relationship is with some one 3 years younger... go figure!

Age is only a number!

ellenmelon

when i was...16? i went out with a guy around my age. total eejit. i wondered why he never introduced me to his friends..was because i wasnt his 'main' girlfriend ie he was cheating on me (and the other girl!).

when i was 18 i had a short thing with a guy who was 22. he was lovely but it was very short as i moved overseas. that was a nice age gap i reckon.

now, ive been going out with my boyfriend for 4 years. we met when i was 19 and he was 26. my mum was a bit :eek: but she got over it! my dad 'loves' him lol. me and my sister are always like "if you love him so much, why dont you marry him!"

it totally depends on how you get on..some age gaps dont work and some work great!

Dudess

Yeah, I would date a guy who's a lot older than me or a lot younger than me if I was attracted to him. Why not? To hell with what other people think. I'm seeing a guy who's considerably older than me and I've been with a few guys before him who were also a good bit older. I've never been with a younger guy but you never know.
We're only talking about dating here - maybe it might be problematic in a long-term relationship, but that bridge can be crossed later on.

Weidii

The person furthest from my ge who I've been with was a year and 4 months younger than me, I always hated those four months when it seemed like he was 2 years younger :P (was only a teen at the time)

Also, you gotta wonder why people so much older, like 20 years olderor something, would have to go out with someone so much younger.

Dudess

I do sometimes wonder why a person in their 30s would go out with a person in their late teens all right, but I suppose it depends on the individuals involved.

azezil

I've a date this Friday with someone whose 8 years younger than me, if I'm perfectly honest I don't think its going to go anywhere, I've tried dating guys this much younger before and it's never worked, at that age they're just to immature. (I'm 27)

As for someone a lot older, I don't honestly know, the closest I came was with a guy who chatted me up in the Front Lounge one evening, physically oh hell no, but he was quite interesting to talk to!

First post in the Ladies lounge for me . Very intimidating :eek:

Anyway, my little sister who is 18 is seeing a 22 year old. Im 22 myself and this freaks me & my dad out. Shes had a boyfriend before and he was her age & the perfect fella for a little sister(he boxed & didnt drink/smoke). Now shes seeing this guy who I kind of know. He used to be a bit of a messer back when we were 18 & the last thing I want is my sister to get with some guy that wont look after her properly! Help!?

Dudess

I'm nearly 30 and from my perspective there's barely any difference between 18 and 22.

Why do people keep giving me that answer! Maybe its because its my little sis and I kind of know the guy. I dont know but shes not that mature yet so me & the da worry. I dunno

Clare Bear

You'll probably just have to leave your little sister make her own mistakes, there's not much you can do. Hopefully he's changed and is a nice guy and will treat her right but if you try to push her away from him you know that will make her like him even more. I know she's your little sis so you want to look after her and she might get her heart broken but she has to learn for herself, you can't protect her from mean boys forever.

Jackz

KaG1888 wrote: »

Why do people keep giving me that answer! Maybe its because its my little sis and I kind of know the guy. I dont know but shes not that mature yet so me & the da worry. I dunno

If he's a asshole she will find that out for herself your objections may only make it last longer than it otherwise would have.

Hellm0

I'm 22 and my OH is 19 now, its a minor difference really. I love her to bits and I'm pretty sure she feels the same way.

That said a member of my family is involved with a man the same age as my father nearly. I find that repulsive even by my liberal standards. Nice guy though.


I'd say as long as there is no personality clash I dont see a problem. Some people are born older than others and their choice of mate sometimes reflects this. Live and let live etc...

Grand,
Yeah the girls I know told me to deal with it that way because me and my dad's objections will probably make her closer to this guy. Ah well, just dont want her getting hurt but if she does I'll kim him!

Dudess

Do any girls out there feel the need to protect (read: control) their younger brothers from nasty females?

gcgirl

Dudess wrote: »

Do any girls out there feel the need to protect (read: control) their younger brothers from nasty females?

nope

Dudess

Dudess wrote: »

Do any girls out there feel the need to protect (read: control) their younger brothers from nasty females?

Tis different Dudess and you know it!