Ever had a bi experience?

Tha Gopher

PeakOutput wrote: »

i kissed a guy by mistake before.........seriously

i was going to lick his cheek(in a straight sort of way ) and he turned at just the wrong time to do the same man it was embarassin but **** happens.

LOL Takes me back, in the old days when we were 14 odd and there wasnt a whole load of money, to get the max out of a joint people would resort to "blowbacks", basically someone puts the front end of the spliff in their mouth and cups their hands around someone elses, join heads and the other person inhales the blown smoke.

The frst time someone suggested I do one with him I jumped back 10 feet, thought he was trying to kiss me :eek::eek:


Im intrigued as to where these multitudes of straight men who kiiss each other are, and why you therefore define them as being straight I remember some of the goths in school were meant to, but they were pretty scary folks by default anyway, god knows what type of sh1t they got up to.

MissThing

I kissed a girl once. She kissed me and I didn't beat her off. I was totally off my face, then we bumped into our boyfriends and were shocked back into reality. The next day we all laughed about it.

Don't beat yourself up about it, there's a little bit of bi in all of us.

The only issue here is that (like me) you were involved with someone else at the time. If you want to experiment with these feelings its best that you leave your girlfriend. No point in sticking lables on yourself before that time.

Its natural to be attracted to people of the same sex, sometimes there's just one person you'd 'do'. ALL of my female friends would 'do' Angela Jolie, and Brad Pitt and the same lot are straight.

Vegetarians like the aroma of a stake house....Gosh that's the most profound thing I've ever said.

MT

bilbo79

as a straight man i'd say Yeah your defo bi or bi curious, thats my label for you anyway-based on the information you gave us.

All the gay people have the problem with labels for some reason, im straight and that is my sexual label, im also fit and thats my fitness label, labels dont have to be a bad thing and can change too.

LegacyUser

To the OP:

It's really not worth worrying about too much. Sexuality is definitely not as clearly defined as "gay" or "straight" there is a lot in between and there is also a lot of 'settling' goes on before you're sure which you prefer!

I'd suggest perhaps cool it with the g/f and break up, you can't just cheat on her with a guy (or a girl) that's just unfair and has nothing to do with your sexuality it's just common decency!

However, if you're bi, or even think you might prefer men just go with it. There's really nothing to be ashamed of / embarrassed or worried about. You'll generally find that you'll be happier once you're comfortable with your sexuality. The main thing is don't ever let yourself be forced into a situation where you're being straight or gay just because that's what you're 'expected' to be by your peers / social group.

Basically, I really wouldn't worry too much about it - go with whatever you think you should be and don't get too worried about whether you're gay/straight.

spurious

bilbo79 wrote: »

All the gay people have the problem with labels for some reason,

They do?

The op kissed someone of the same gender, it made him wonder - it's life, it doesn't make him gay or straight or bi or anything.

I saw a programme about Laos once - it was engaging and interesting and it made me wonder for a moment what it would be like to live there - I'm not charging off and the world has not ended.

I hope people don't know I thought about Laos by looking at me.

MIN2511

We've all been curious about our sexuality at some stage in our lives, mine was about 3 somes(2 straight guys and a me)
OP, it doesn't label you as anything yet. You are still curious, it might be a once off with this fella and that would be the end of it or you might fancy other guys in future. Don't be pissed or upset at yourself, it's no big deal if you are gay, straight, bi, black, white, blue... it's all in accepting yourself for who you are.

JMCD

cowzerp wrote: »

i'd never kiss 1 of my mates apart from a slobber on the cheek when im locked and liverpool have just won the champions league!!

Ewwwwwwww.Liverpool winning the champion league!!!!! Disgusting!!!
:D:D

Nevyn

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LegacyUser

op I would consider you bi curious.

I would probably consider myself the same. I don't have any interest in kissing guys or even anal sex, yet I'm really interested in penises, and fantasize about giving fellatio all the time. Id love to try it some time and the thought really turns me on.

Yet im not "attracted" to guys at all.... Im wierd

Chucky the tree

MissThing wrote: »

I kissed a girl once. She kissed me and I didn't beat her off. I was totally off my face, then we bumped into our boyfriends and were shocked back into reality. The next day we all laughed about it.

Don't beat yourself up about it, there's a little bit of bi in all of us.

The only issue here is that (like me) you were involved with someone else at the time. If you want to experiment with these feelings its best that you leave your girlfriend. No point in sticking lables on yourself before that time.

Its natural to be attracted to people of the same sex, sometimes there's just one person you'd 'do'. ALL of my female friends would 'do' Angela Jolie, and Brad Pitt and the same lot are straight.

Vegetarians like the aroma of a stake house....Gosh that's the most profound thing I've ever said.

MT

eh, no offense. But your kinda ignoring a huge chunk of the OP's story when you give a reply like this. Both your situations are nothing alike.

JMCD

Thaedydal sorry about that.Wont happen again.
Cheers.

Tha Gopher

Chucky the tree wrote: »

eh, no offense. But your kinda ignoring a huge chunk of the OP's story when you give a reply like this. Both your situations are nothing alike.

Indeed. Pretty much every girl does it, usually in her teens when drunk for a laugh. Nowehere near the stigma. Young girls view it as a laugh, boys see it as an in the flesh realisation of their fantasies from watching the Adult Channel 5 minute freeview on the hour every hour.

I saw maybe 8 more girl on girl kissing from when I was 13-18 than I have afterwards.

Im still **** on the memories.....:eek:

TerrorFirmer

It's not as black and white as straight, gay, and bisexual. You can be straight and have certain tendencies, but it does not mean you're decisively bisexual. After all, bisexual means to be attracted to both sexes, but the OP clearly stated that this is the first time something like this has ever happened to him. I'm not saying he's conclusively not bisexual, but rather just to say that you can enjoy something with the same sex and still consider yourself generally straight. That in itself isn't the problem here though, if you enjoyed it, it's no big deal in itself(maybe apart from the fear of certain social conditionings to bisexual people being actually stronger then that towards gay people) but the fact that you've a girlfriend does make it a big deal. You can't change the past, but you can make sure that it never happens again, and after that, decide whether or not to tell your girlfriend.

Nevyn

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McGinty

Hi Op

When I read your post op it struck a very deep cord, I know a lot of posters here have tried to box people into a set categories, ie: straight/bi/gay but I don't know if human sexuality can be boxed into three seperate categories, sorry but judging from personal experience I don't think it can. Anyhow Op I have decided to tell my story so you don't feel so ****ed up, like you I made friends with an amazing person I admired (by the way I am female) I fancied her and she fancied me, we kept it under wraps and didn't express it for a long time, we just enjoyed the vibe, and that was the first aspect of your post, you enjoyed the vibe with your friend. Later I kissed my friend and our moments together were innocent but also we just expressed our attraction to one another. The thing is Op there are all these black and white rules and life doesn't fit into them. I am predominately into men, but there is the occasional woman that I think phew I'd love to be with, I don't know if that makes me bisexaul to be honest I don't give a damn about lables I just know I fancy a said person. Maybe that is you and maybe your friend lifts your heart, I say go with it, enjoy and please don't judge yourself according to soceity, it wont work.

spinandscribble

i dont get why ppl are telling him to "go with it"... he has a gf. wait til you are single again.

nacho libre

Agreed.

It doesn't matter if you are Trisexual, Bisexual, Lesbian, Gay or Heterosexual 'going for it' while still involved with someone else is cheating.

Faith

I'm in the "greyscale" camp, so to speak. You can't define people as "gay, straight, or bisexual". There's a huge variety of sexualities.

I've kissed two girls in my life, and that was a long time ago, when it was a case of "let's practice so we'll know what we're doing when boys come along". I'm straight, but that's not to say I don't wonder about other women. If I kissed one of my female friends, I wouldn't even give it a second thought to be honest. I certainly wouldn't assume we were both now gay or bi! In fact, I nearly scored with my best friend while really drunk last week, and I laugh at the memory.

OP, don't worry about it. If you're still with your girlfriend, grand. I wouldn't cut contact with the guy. Remain friends, and see how things go. It might emerge that you want a relationship with him, or the whole thing might be forgotten about. Just don't freak out about it.

axer

Faith wrote: »

OP, don't worry about it. If you're still with your girlfriend, grand. I wouldn't cut contact with the guy. Remain friends, and see how things go. It might emerge that you want a relationship with him, or the whole thing might be forgotten about. Just don't freak out about it.

Would you say the same thing if the OP had said he had kissed another girl and not a guy?

If the OP is still with his girlfriend he should decide whether he wants to explore his sexuality further or not and if he decides he wants to explore then he should be honest with his girlfriend as cheating is cheating.

SimpleSam06

+1 on the shades of grey comments. Its all a big mess really, we have the "straight" religious and moral cliche, the flamboyantly gay Oscar Wilde impersonators, the "closet cases" hiding from one side or the other as if there was something to be ashamed of, and so on. Its mostly artificial social constructs, in my opinion.

As regards the OP, you should keep in mind that theres nothing really that makes someone "gay" or "bi" genetically, its not hardwired (again in my opinion, I won't get into a debate about it here), just people doing what people do. You shouldn't be doing it when you have a girlfriend however. Either don't do it again or tell her about it if its weighing on your mind - who knows, she might enjoy it!

patrickolee

i think u should take a leaf out of your 'friends' book and just go with the flow. Don't let people box you and most certainly don't box yourself. If you can bring yourself to considering going down on him and then probably is something there! Fenar fenar.

Go for it, you only live once.

jt_dublin

OP,

You are only 21 and you have been with your girlfriend since you were 18. Most guys your age go thru a number of relationships, learning about different partners and learning about themselves.

I know that you do not want to hurt your girlfriend but the first person in this world that you need to be true to is yourself. You need to honour your own feelings.

Best of luck,
JT.

WhiteWashMan

MEH, if the OP enjoyed it and wants more, then he should dump his girlfriend.
Who gives a fig what his sexuality is?