masturbating mrs

LegacyUser

Hey, don’t know why im posting, not really my thing, but lookin for some advice. Long story blah blah but here goes. I have been seeing my gf for 2.5 years now, but it has been an on/off relationship. I work one end of the country her the other, she has an 8 year old kid and with me working on Saturdays we were doing well to see eachother 2 weekends a month. Obviously this took its toll and we split. A couple of weeks after the split she phoned to tell me she was 6 weeks pregnant (forgot to take the pill!!) anyway after a couple of hard months wee Claire arrived and my world is fantastic. We are back together and everything was great, I thought. Until sat nite!
We went out together with some friends for the first time since Claire arrived, really enjoyed it, great nite but when we got to bed I got the impression there wud be no sex, so kiss and a cuddle, sex in the morning, fine. But I woke during the nite to hear her masturbating beside me. It kinda got to me, not because she was masturbating but that she was while I lay beside her. Sex has been really good of late. Im not insecure but this has rattled me a bit. Im 99% sure Claire is mine but this has sown some seed that I cant get out of my mind.
Am I reading too much into this, paranoid, or am I being taken for one hell of a ride!!

jellie

maybe she just didnt wanna wake you??

Owen

Completely normal!

John Mason

why would her masturbating make you think the kids isnt yours? am i missing something here? sometimes you just need to do it for yourself without anyone else being involved,

LegacyUser

I do it and my sex life is pretty good! Its just sometimes I just want to get the orgasm without all that goes with it!! Woke my fella up one night,he thought there was something wrong with me. I nearly burst trying not to laugh.

metrovelvet

I dont get how masturbating is connected to paternity doubts. Did I miss something in sex ed?

OP- masturbation cant make you pregnant.

AnonoBoy

So because your girlfriend masturbated one night while you were there you're doubting whether the baby is yours? That makes no sense.

Maybe she was half-asleep and the thought of waking you for sex didn't cross her mind. It's not a big deal at all, is it?

aidan_walsh

metrovelvet wrote:

I dont get how masturbating is connected to paternity doubts. Did I miss something in sex ed?

OP- masturbation cant make you pregnant.

I would imagine the logic leaps work something along the lines of

she's masturbating, therefore she's not satisfied, therefore she's likely been sleeping with others, therefore the kids may not be his.

At least, thats the only way I can see the logic working.

Mr. Presentable

headinaspin wrote:

But I woke during the nite to hear her masturbating

How loud was she?

Apart from that, there's nothing to read into it except she didn't want to disturb you.

PeakOutput

i dont see a problem so shes more sexually "free"(cant think of a better way to say it) than you thought take advantage of that imo

drdre

irishbird wrote:

why would her masturbating make you think the kids isnt yours? am i missing something here? sometimes you just need to do it for yourself without anyone else being involved,

I agree with you there.

Steoob

what made you think it was her who didn't want sex? maybe she got the no sex vibe off of you and then she decided to masturbate?

Floppybits

I would see nothing wrong with waking up and find my other half going at it, I would actually find that a bit of turn on. But hey thats me.

As was said in a previous post sometimes there is just a need for some DIY action.:D

Marksie

and sometimes guys do it when their partners are asleep tbh. Perfectly natural.

It is also entirely posisble that she wasn't fully awake or even awake at all but having an erotic dream.

next time: just ask nicely to join, in or kiss her and say please continue :-).

As for the paternity: total paranoia there i am afraid

metrovelvet

aidan_walsh wrote:

I would imagine the logic leaps work something along the lines of

she's masturbating, therefore she's not satisfied, therefore she's likely been sleeping with others, therefore the kids may not be his.

At least, thats the only way I can see the logic working.

Wow. And they say women are crazy?:rolleyes:

Marksie

metrovelvet wrote:

Wow. And they say women are crazy?:rolleyes:

most people are regardless of gender, its what makes life interesting

PinkPrincess26

This is perfectly normal.........


Im 99% sure Claire is mine but this has sown some seed that I cant get out of my mind.

Im not seeing the relevance to the above though, Why would your girldfriends fiddlen.... make you question whether your child is biologically yours.....

tbh

PinkPrincess26 wrote:

This is perfectly normal.........


Im 99% sure Claire is mine but this has sown some seed that I cant get out of my mind.

Im not seeing the relevance to the above though, Why would your girldfriends fiddlen.... make you question whether your child is biologically yours.....

I think - I THINK - that the OP took a ride on the following train of thought:

My g/f masturbates - normal girls don't masturbate - my g/f likes sex more than normal girls - my g/f can't control her urge for sex - my g/f would probably sleep with other blokes.

that's the only logical train of thought for having the doubts that the OP is having, and of course I would say, OP, you should have changed at station 2

edit: that's so weird. I missed Aidans post and wrote the same thing practically word for word. Must have been subconcious. Sorry Aidan!

LegacyUser

well thanks everybody for reinforcing my own thoughts. probably a touch of paronoia after the weekend and monday mornin blues. but an ex of mine used to masturbate in bed with me all the time. suppose at the weekend it just felt wrong as i hadnt seen her for 2 weeks. reckon its all down to weather i trust her or not and i dont think yous can help me there!! thanks again

seahorse

Jaysus... I'll think twice before the next time I have a **** lyin beside my bloke after readin this thread!

randylonghorn

aidan_walsh wrote:

I would imagine the logic leaps work something along the lines of

she's masturbating, therefore she's not satisfied, therefore she's likely been sleeping with others, therefore the kids may not be his.

At least, thats the only way I can see the logic working.

I'd say your guess is right, Aidan, but I'd avoid using the word logic, personally, because there's absolutely none involved!

OP, unless you have other reasons to worry, forget about it, because this sure as hell isn't a reason to do so.

metrovelvet

seahorse wrote:

Jaysus... I'll think twice before the next time I have a **** lyin beside my bloke after readin this thread!

Or use protection. Just so he doesnt think your finger or your toy got you pregnant.

Zillah

Everyone seems to be thinking very positive thoughts...

Does it not seem likely that she only got back with him because she was pregnant and she satisfies herself because she's not really happy with the OP...?

seahorse

Zillah wrote:

...Does it not seem likely that she only got back with him because she was pregnant and she satisfies herself because she's not really happy with the OP...?

Ah give over! Please say you were being sarcastic there and just forgot to use the smilie?!

seahorse

metrovelvet wrote:

Or use protection. Just so he doesnt think your finger or your toy got you pregnant.

Oh yeah, slathered with plenty of spermacide also just to be sure. You cant be safe enough thesedays!

little miss

She probably just had a hot dream and was feeling horny. Fair play on her! I just don't understand why the OP didn't join in...

Smiley012

i really think you're jumping the gun OP cos like, have you never run off to have a sneaky **** even when the missus is around?

if u are worried, voice ur concerns, say, next time after sex, ask her if u satisfy her enough? showin a bit of vulnerability is never a bad thing.

but can i just say like, ur seriously jumpin to conclusions. you should have joined in, or even have rolled over to watch! she's doin it, in the bed beside you, like, hello! you have a right to watch!

its hot!:D

tSubh Dearg

Maybe she's like me and finds that a bit of masturbation relaxes her if she is finding it hard to get to sleep.

randylonghorn

tSubh Dearg wrote:

Maybe she's like me and finds that a bit of masturbation relaxes her if she is finding it hard to get to sleep.

Hmmm ... seems like this is a non-gender-specific aid to sleep, so ...

Talliesin

headinaspin wrote:

Am I reading too much into this

"Reading too much into this" would normally mean that there was some slight circumstantial evidence that was being made too much of.

You aren't reading "too much", you're reading something that isn't there at all.

She had a ****, big deal. You might never masturbate, but the vast majority of people do.

chuci

maybe she didnt want to have sex she did just have a baby and things can be quite sore after so my masturbation was the bast least painful way for her to climax and she didnt want to wake up incase you started hounding her for sex???
i think i may have also missed something in sex ed bout masturbation and pregnancy.

TwoShedsJackson

headinaspin wrote:

A couple of weeks after the split she phoned to tell me she was 6 weeks pregnant (forgot to take the pill!!) anyway after a couple of hard months wee Claire arrived and my world is fantastic.

If the child was born after three and a half months you should probably be ringing the Guinness Book of Records.

Stark

headinaspin wrote:

But I woke during the nite to hear her masturbating beside me. It kinda got to me, not because she was masturbating but that she was while I lay beside her. Sex has been really good of late. Im not insecure but this has rattled me a bit. Im 99% sure Claire is mine but this has sown some seed that I cant get out of my mind.

Does Claire look like this?

TwoShedsJackson wrote:

If the child was born after three and a half months you should probably be ringing the Guinness Book of Records.

It's an Irish thing. "A couple" can mean "a few" in Hibernian English (Due to the English word "couple" sounding very similar to the Irish word for "a few" which is "cúpla").

Idbatterim

I cant believe she just forgot to take the pill, the consequence you are stuck with a child you may not have wanted, what if you had got with another woman in the mean time, what if the kid was severely handicapped? Youd want to be pretty sure and how sure can you ever be, that if your with a girl/woman and shes on the pill, shes not a nutter, and there are alot of them. I would not cum inside a girl or girlfriend even if she was on the pill, in addition i would want proof of paternity, how do you know its not someone elses and she dosnt know it or does and thought you would be the better provider or father?

seahorse

Idbatterim wrote:

I cant believe she just forgot to take the pill, the consequence you are stuck with a child you may not have wanted, what if you had got with another woman in the mean time, what if the kid was severely handicapped? Youd want to be pretty sure and how sure can you ever be, that if your with a girl/woman and shes on the pill, shes not a nutter, and there are alot of them. I would not cum inside a girl or girlfriend even if she was on the pill, in addition i would want proof of paternity, how do you know its not someone elses and she dosnt know it or does and thought you would be the better provider or father?

Excuse me, but this is nonsense. I was on the pill when I got pregnant and the last thing I wanted at that time was a baby. Contraception is not infallible, and there is nothing on this thread to suggest that the OP's baby is not his. All you're doing with this advice is fanning the flames of an irrational fear. Grow up.

Jesus Wept

Idbatterim wrote:

what if the kid was severely handicapped? Youd want to be pretty sure

That won't go over well. I think you should want to be sure before the birth, not want to be more sure if the child has a mental or physical problem.

AngryBadger

Marksie wrote:

most people are regardless of gender, its what makes life interesting

Quoted for truth.

FMG

Seriously though.yer one ditched you !gave you a shout when things were looking daddyless and reckon that her having a **** is a sign that you might have been duped ,boy have you got to sit down with her and finger things out!!!

antodeco

FMG wrote:

sit down with her and finger things out!!!

I think she was doing that by herself..

Nevyn

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louisecm

Masturbating is different to sex with a man. Sometimes you just want a quick orgasm, and can sort yourself out in a few minutes, while a whole session with the bloke will take much longer! Also, a different kind of orgasm.

metrovelvet

^ Plus OP may not know the drill. Not uncommon for women to have to finish themselves off.

You know what they say... if you want something done right do it yourself.

louisecm

metrovelvet wrote:

^ Plus OP may not know the drill. Not uncommon for women to have to finish themselves off.

You know what they say... if you want something done right do it yourself.

Yup.

Marksie

[QUOTE=metrovelvetYou know what they say... if you want something done right do it yourself.[/QUOTE]

Personally no, but then thats me

Faith

My friend drunkenly informed me recently that she masturbates every night, regardless of whether or not she's just had sex with her boyfriend. Usually she does it when he's asleep next to her and he doesn't know about it.

It's completely normal, as has been stated here already!

Kaizan

Have to say I masturbate every night and every morning regardless of who's beside me in bed. I know my body and I know my needs - I need to have sex at least twice a day and to be honest, I have only met one man in my lifetime who wanted to / was able to keep up with that agenda. It's perfectly acceptable to go at it with your man asleep beside you and in fact it can add to the eroticisism of the expience if he's asleep inches from you when you're working out. Mind you, I've never yet become pregnant from masturbation. Maybe I'm doing it wrong:rolleyes:

nacho libre

headinaspin wrote:

Hey, don’t know why im posting, not really my thing, but lookin for some advice. Long story blah blah but here goes. I have been seeing my gf for 2.5 years now, but it has been an on/off relationship. I work one end of the country her the other, she has an 8 year old kid and with me working on Saturdays we were doing well to see eachother 2 weekends a month. Obviously this took its toll and we split. A couple of weeks after the split she phoned to tell me she was 6 weeks pregnant (forgot to take the pill!!) anyway after a couple of hard months wee Claire arrived and my world is fantastic. We are back together and everything was great, I thought. Until sat nite!
We went out together with some friends for the first time since Claire arrived, really enjoyed it, great nite but when we got to bed I got the impression there wud be no sex, so kiss and a cuddle, sex in the morning, fine. But I woke during the nite to hear her masturbating beside me. It kinda got to me, not because she was masturbating but that she was while I lay beside her. Sex has been really good of late. Im not insecure but this has rattled me a bit. Im 99% sure Claire is mine but this has sown some seed that I cant get out of my mind.
Am I reading too much into this, paranoid, or am I being taken for one hell of a ride!!

To many people here your anxiety is illogical and unfounded. However, you could indeed be right. Opinions are like assholes and everybody has one as the saying goes. So, with that in mind i suggest you swallow your pride and air your concerns. It's the most constructive thing to do. She will not appreciate your query at first but if she loves you any ill-feeling will quickly subside.

Stark

Poor woman. Thank god things aren't that complicated for me when I decide to have a ****.

Oryx

The problem isnt really that shes masturbating, its that maybe all the while youve had this niggling doubt in your mind about whether your Claire's father. Your gfs masturbating just made you think and brought that doubt to the fore. Cos, I may be wrong but generally wouldn't you think, damn - shes doing it without me, not damn - my kids arent mine?

If youre concerned tell her, talk about it and hopefully end your worries. Or if you really think this is just paranoia, and you can forget about it, do.

Slutmonkey57b

Faith wrote:

My friend drunkenly informed me recently that she masturbates every night, regardless of whether or not she's just had sex with her boyfriend. Usually she does it when he's asleep next to her and he doesn't know about it.

It's completely normal, as has been stated here already!

Quoted for truth, and also because I like hearing about women masturbating. Please go into further detail to set the OP's mind at ease regarding women's sex needs.

Nevyn

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