Revenge

ChillyS

Revenge, how far would you/ have you ever gone?

Personally once I get mad, i'm dangerous and will do whatever i can!(hmm maybe anger management courses might be in order)

Dragan

*pleads the 5th*

LadyJ

Don't think I've ever had the guts to seek revenge.

I'm all about maintaining the pride and not letting anyone know that what they've done has actually bothered me.

Nothingcompares

Revenge is a dish most often served by the petty.

Revenge for what? get over it... move on...

Dragan

Nothingcompares wrote:

Revenge is a dish most often served by the petty.

Revenge is an option often ignored by the weak????

I'm not sure which clever little saying is cooler....maybe we should make a poll?:)

ChillyS

ah come on ye can't say there's never been a time when you've wanted revenge on somebody?

delop

I filled the boss' car with Balloons b4 he had to drive a client somewhere, he wasnt impressed...

KamiKazi

delop wrote:

I filled the boss' car with Balloons b4 he had to drive a client somewhere, he wasnt impressed...

good man

delop

delop wrote:

I filled the boss' car with Balloons b4 he had to drive a client somewhere, he wasnt impressed...

I hope there was ketchup in those balloons.

ChillyS

a at the time recent ex once called me fat, so i got a friend to chat him up online, get him on webcam to strip, and recorded it. I put on my webcam and when he'd stripped i let him see my laughing face and pointing finger:D still brings a smile to his face, i think women are more revenge inclined.

ChillyS

ChillyS wrote:

ah come on ye can't say there's never been a time when you've wanted revenge on somebody?

Yeah, I can...

a at the time recent ex once called me fat, so i got a friend to chat him up online, get him on webcam to strip, and recorded it. I put on my webcam and when he'd stripped i let him see my laughing face and pointing finger still brings a smile to his face, i think women are more revenge inclined.

Didn't you have anything better to do

petes

bluewolf wrote:

Yeah, I can...


Didn't you have anything better to do

Take the moral highground much?

petes

petes wrote:

Take the moral highground much?

It just sounds a little lame, tbh...

haunted-room

bluewolf wrote:

Yeah, I can...


Didn't you have anything better to do

get over yourself!

And none of this "it takes a bigger man to walk away" crap!! The reason most people dont seek revenge is because they are scared

dudara

Take the moral high ground for 6-12 months, then when everything is nice and quiet, then you take your revenge. Mwa Ha Ha!!

haunted-room

haunted-room wrote:

get over yourself!

And none of this "it takes a bigger man to walk away" crap!! The reason most people dont seek revenge is because they are scared

Scared of what? Moving on? ¬.¬

Let's have some examples - revenge for what kinds of stuff?

Sarky

haunted-room wrote:

get over yourself!

And none of this "it takes a bigger man to walk away" crap!! The reason most people dont seek revenge is because they are scared

Maybe they're just better than you.

haunted-room

Sarky wrote:

Maybe they're just better than you.

Better at being stuck up their own arse maybe

Sarky

Of course. How silly of me to think that refusing to descend to petty vengeance is somehow worthwhile or noble, or god(s) forbid, even the right thing to do. From here on in, it's an eye for an eye. Thank you, haunted-room, you've saved me from a life of nobility and respect!

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

ChillyS wrote:

a at the time recent ex once called me fat, so i got a friend to chat him up online, get him on webcam to strip, and recorded it. I put on my webcam and when he'd stripped i let him see my laughing face and pointing finger:D still brings a smile to his face, i think women are more revenge inclined.

Women, in my experience, can simply not let something be. I think it's a vanity/insecurity thing. They don;t wnat other wome ntalking about them behind their back.

Out of interest, why did you feel the need to do what you did? Was it that hard to walk away?

haunted-room

Sarky wrote:

Of course. How silly of me to think that refusing to descend to petty vengeance is somehow worthwhile or noble, or god(s) forbid, even the right thing to do. From here on in, it's an eye for an eye. Thank you, haunted-room, you've saved me from a life of nobility and respect!

Nobility!!? ha ha!! See, you obviously think you are far greater than others who dont repress this human nature. My point was about people thinking they are better people for not seeking revenge. You have just proved my point

Ruu_Old

LadyJ wrote:

Don't think I've ever had the guts to seek revenge.

I'm all about maintaining the pride and not letting anyone know that what they've done has actually bothered me.

Ditto, I let karma deal with the other person.

Shinners23

Well It really depends what been done to be honest. I think everyone should live by the rule of three;

Ever mind the Rule of Three
Three times what thou givest returns to thee
This lesson well, thou must learn
Thee only gets what thou dost earn!

So get over it and believe in Karma - you don't have to lift a finger!!!

And this lesson was brought to you by Shinners!!

ChillyS

Ikky Poo2 wrote:

Women, in my experience, can simply not let something be. I think it's a vanity/insecurity thing. They don;t wnat other wome ntalking about them behind their back.

Out of interest, why did you feel the need to do what you did? Was it that hard to walk away?

at the time he was giving me an awful lot of hassle.. it put an end to it.

LadyJ

Ikky Poo2 wrote:

Women, in my experience, can simply not let something be. I think it's a vanity/insecurity thing. They don;t wnat other wome ntalking about them behind their back.

You could be right but I persoanally don't know any women who'd seek revenge on an ex or on anyone in general.

I'd hate to think that anyone was talking about me behind my back but if I went out of my way to get revenge on an ex then I'd feel like I'd be giving people something to talk about.

When I got dumped I was in bits but I'd never let anyone know that I was too bothered by the whole thing (well,apart from my close friends) because I was more concerned about saving face.

If I'd tried to make my ex's life hell then I'd have looked like a loser and it would have seemed like I cared.

Maybe that's vainity/insecurity but it's just the way I see it.

Sarky

haunted-room wrote:

Nobility!!? ha ha!! See, you obviously think you are far greater than others who dont repress this human nature. My point was about people thinking they are better people for not seeking revenge. You have just proved my point

And you have just proved mine. Good work that man.

Dragan

It strikes me that everyone is making the assumption that your revenge would be for someone you are going out with, or attracted to spurning you?

Can't say i'd be bothered to be honest.

But i have done things when friends of mine have been on the wrong end of a few digs, or when people have publically humiliated them out of spite or something!

Karma is great and all, but even Karma needs tools!

haunted-room

Sarky wrote:

And you have just proved mine. Good work that man.

:rolleyes: care to elaborate on that....

Sarky

haunted-room wrote:

:rolleyes: care to elaborate on that....

If I don't will you feel vengeful towards me?

haunted-room

Sarky wrote:

If I don't will you feel vengeful towards me?

i expected that response. You know what, dont bother, i dont really care anyway

Sarky

See? You're rising above it all already. Before you know it you'll be turning every cheek you have. HOORAY!

Shinners23

Shinners23 wrote:

Well It really depends what been done to be honest. I think everyone should live by the rule of three;

Ever mind the Rule of Three
Three times what thou givest returns to thee
This lesson well, thou must learn
Thee only gets what thou dost earn!

So get over it and believe in Karma - you don't have to lift a finger!!!

And this lesson was brought to you by Shinners!!

Em.
That's not what karma is.
Could you stop muddling up various religions please.

Dragan

Shinners23 wrote:

Ever mind the Rule of Three
Three times what thou givest returns to thee
This lesson well, thou must learn
Thee only gets what thou dost earn!

I had been happily unaware of this up until Bluewolf quoting it.

All i can say is, of course, your right, in the whole history of the universe absolutely everyone has always received exactly what they deserve.

How could i be so foolish??? :rolleyes:

LadyJ

Isn't karma when you do something bad and it comes back to bite you in the next life,not this life?

LadyJ

LadyJ wrote:

Isn't karma when you do something bad and it comes back to bite you in the next life,not this life?

Karma means action. Actions have various consequences. Some are short reaching - in this life - and some are longer reaching - another life.

http://www.buddhanet.net/fundbud9.htm this might help ^^

fly_agaric

ChillyS wrote:

Personally once I get mad, i'm dangerous and will do whatever i can!(hmm maybe anger management courses might be in order)

Yes. I think you should talk to a professional before you seriously hurt someone else or perhaps even harm yourself as a result of your stupid and petty thirst for vengence.:(

You'll be in my prayers...

fly_agaric

Ikky Poo2 wrote:

Women, in my experience, can simply not let something be.

Maybe women tend to be somewhat keener on dishing out revenge because they think they can get away with it without suffering consequences? The same way they can often be braver than men (IMO) when it comes to standing up to street thuggery and harassment.

monkey tennis

ChillyS wrote:

a at the time recent ex once called me fat, so i got a friend to chat him up online, get him on webcam to strip, and recorded it. I put on my webcam and when he'd stripped i let him see my laughing face and pointing finger:D still brings a smile to his face

Did it make you any thinner?

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

fly_agaric wrote:

Maybe women tend to be somewhat keener on dishing out revenge because they think they can get away with it without suffering consequences? The same way they can often be braver than men (IMO) when it comes to standing up to street thuggery and harassment.

Interesting theory... but I think they tend to act on emotion rather than brains. Certainly, my reasons for not going after revenge are not fear of consequences.

smk135

monkey tennis wrote:

Did it make you any thinner?

hahahha excellent!!

personally i think that whatever you want to call it, Karma or whatever, i definitely beleive that what goes around comes around. In the good and the bad sense.

i think seeking revenge is not only petty but also more self-destructive than anything.

if you can manage to feel "love", so to say, for every person that you would otherwise feel anger towards or hate or a negative emotion, you will in fact be a much better person in yourself. for those who think I'm waffling hippy ****e, it's been proven that people who think "positive thoughts" come out better in the long run for everything (health etc..)

thats my humble opinion anyway!

pbsuxok1znja4r

To hell with revenge, TBH. It's for sad, petty, bitter people who have nothing and no-one better to turn to when someone screws them over.

I'm far more inclined to take action against someone who professes their support for revenge than against someone who did something shitty but doesn't believe in revenge.

Pffft @ the 'rule of three'. All rules of three. People citing such 'rules' sound utterly brainwashed.

Sarky and LadyJ are dead right. I feel sorry for anyone who is controlled by revenge.

Dragan

*thinks* I wouldn't mind getting into this a little more, but won't be at a comp all weekend, so will leave my Q's till Monday morning if that is cool?

CathyMoran

I think that the best form of revenge is to move on and be a sucess and let karma deal with the rest...having said that I have been genuinelly upset when bad things have happened to people who hurt me (it was not me!)

Nightwish

I shredded my ex's application form when he applied for a job in the place where I work.

EOA_Mushy

Destroy their job, relations with their family, destroy their possetions & befriend them.

When they come to tell you their problems as the last person they can turn to.... Punch them in the nose and close the door.:mad:

But in reality

CathyMoran wrote:

I think that the best form of revenge is to move on and be a sucess and let karma deal with the rest...

pred racer

directly after an incident, Id be thinking Im gonna get that ba$tard, but normally I calm down and dont bother.

i did take a teachers bike apart and put it back together on the canteen roof,
(3 stories high with only a small opening to get out onto the roof)
Does that count?;)

LadyJ

Just remembered something insane!

Went to college with this lunatic who (after being dumped by him) tampered with her ex's CAO form and put down forestry or something. He was about 22 at the time and had finally decided what he wanted to do in college and she fcuked it up for him.

Now,she told me this herself,but it could be bullsh!t because,like,I say,she was a lunatic. However,what a b!tch! Now that was uncalled for. I mean,her boyf was a right cúnt but still...bit extreme.

theTinker

I wouldnt mind this thread having some more valid discussion (read no personal attacking)

Someone mentioned that revenge is a normal emotional response that shouldn't be repressed. After a few minutes thought, I agreed with that.

*some ****ing bird in my chimney screaming for 20 mins now, im gonna kill it i swear. It even woke me up ffs.*

Back to point, After more thinking I concluded that, in my opinion revenge desire is a way your body simply tells you that you feel like you were wronged but you didn't resolve the situation or protect yourself from it happening/(happening again). Do people agree with this? It seems like good natural warning system imo.

If this is the case, then basing my memories on this, I dont ever remember feeling the need to take revenge for an issue when I've properly confronted the offending person about it. If somebody pisses me off, I usually get angry and feel petty, but when I confront them maturely and directly and then resolve the situation to a good level, I usually dont feel the need to be petty or revenge at all. I guess then that I think revenge is only something people take when they have not resolved a situation satisfactorially enough for thier.... emotional self? Like revenge only stays a desire when their mind/body/etc still feel like the situation wasn't resolved? get me?

Im still thinking about the what revenge is when it comes to a situation where the other person wont let you confront them so there is not available resolution opportunity..thats a toughy.
PS: people say my writing sucks so forgive the lack the readability, i tried!

Sam Vimes

haunted-room wrote:

get over yourself!

And none of this "it takes a bigger man to walk away" crap!! The reason most people dont seek revenge is because they are scared

revenge is petty. just because you feel the need to act like a child doesn't mean everyone else does. if someone wrongs me, they get added to my "bad people" list and i just do my best to avoid them from then on so they can't so it again.

Dragan

Now then, as i said at the in an earlier post i am genuinely curious about a few of the responses in this thread. To be honest, the people who assume they would not seek out revenge have been put into one set of stereotype in my head, while the people who would seek out revenge have been put into another and as such i apologise for that. It's just the way my thoughts have ended up wandering on this subject and i am curious to see if i am right, or wrong.

First of all, to those who have posted that the would seek revenge in this thread. All your threads seem to be aimed at "the dreaded ex" or at least the assumption that some kind of physical or emotional advancement was spurned or a relationship came to an end in a way that you felt was bad for you. Am i right with this, no one else seems to have offered any reason other reason for seeking revenge.

To the group who would NOT seek out revenge as it is offered in this thread ( i.e due to a relationship going wrong ) , is this once again the only reason you could think of for needing revenge? Has nothing else ever occured to you that would make you want to seek vengeance for something?

Now then, lets look at the meaning of the word revenge

revenge : to exact punishment or expiation for a wrong on behalf of, esp. in a resentful or vindictive spirit - as we can see, the very use of the word would indicate, but not provide the absolute proof, that the action taken was vindictive....it should be noted however that vindictive does not automatically imply petty.

I have sought revenge at 3 times over the course of my life. All these occured back in my darker days, when i was, quite simply, a different person to who i am now. It should be noted that i believe in revenge in it's finest form. Only sought after a very, very serious crime has been comitted against me or one of mine.

On the first occasion, a good friend of mine, who had finally taken the steps and found the courage to break up with her physically abusive boyfriend was beaten by him to pretty much within an inch of her life.

On the second, a friend of mine was shot and killed.

On the third, a friend of mine was stabbed and killed.

Now then, while the above three instances are pretty extreme, and i would never wish there happening upon anyone....can you be so certain, that over the course of your live nothing will ever happen that would make you wish for revenge?

Can you be so certain, that to wish a return of harm upon another will always seem petty to you?