Seduction - Size doesn't matter

LundiMardi

Anyone see this the other night? (This isn't a topic about the show, more about what the show was about etc... you'll see).

It was about 3 different guys with absolutely zero confidence in scoring girls and basically didn't have a clue where to start. All had issues relating to their appearance... one was 6' 6'' was extremely uncomfortable with it. One was very overweight and presumably uncomfortable with it, and the other was a ''little person''. Only 5' 3''.

Basically 2 ''experts'' were showing that size doesn't matter, and that ANY guy could have ANY girl. They were put to the test, as in, all had to just go up to a stranger in the street and basically start chatting to em. They were told about body language etc... and were even given the test to tell a girl she's sexy within minutes of meeting her.
Obviously, this was quite cringe worthy and i did actually have to turn over the channel on a couple of occasions haha...

Anyway, i guess i'm just curious if many people here actively do this, as in, go up to women in random places, chat away, even if you are a person with low confidence, and do any women do it? Or do we all stick to places such as bars, clubs, parties etc...

If you're a women, would you be freaked out if a guy just came over to you while in the street and just started chatting to you?

Gone West

LundiMardi wrote:

Anyway, i guess i'm just curious if many people here actively do this, as in, go up to women in random places, chat away,

Yeah If I'm bored.
why not.

Sounds like an allright show, that.
Confidence (and money*) can be enough to compensate for almost anything.

*oooh controversial! But you know it's true.

spanner

I think humans are generally attracted to healthy looking bodies, weather they be cuvery, smaller or anything else as long as it is healthy. If you want to have a body to attract the opposite sex just lead a healthy lifestyle

Huggles

LundiMardi wrote:

Anyway, i guess i'm just curious if many people here actively do this, as in, go up to women in random places, chat away, even if you are a person with low confidence, and do any women do it? Or do we all stick to places such as bars, clubs, parties etc...

If you're a women, would you be freaked out if a guy just came over to you while in the street and just started chatting to you?

Yes I am a woman and I do it. I find some guys are chuffed and some are morto (especially if they are out with friends)

I would love it if more non-scary random guys chatted to me in the street/bus/supermarket!

Tha Gopher

Jesus Lundi, talk abpout leaving us hanging. You never mentioned whether it worked, whether the girls got afraid and told them to fcuk off....god dammit I wanna know!

Anyway the answer is when Im sober rarely, when Im pissed all the tme, with varying success.

LundiMardi

TheGooner wrote:

Yes I am a woman and I do it. I find some guys are chuffed and some are morto (especially if they are out with friends)

I would love it if more non-scary random guys chatted to me in the street/bus/supermarket!

define non scary?

Actually, i'm more intrigued to see if a woman would have time for a man who did this who would be considered ''ugly''(not scarred for life or anything), but someone who they wouldn't normally find atractive. Would ya just blank him and run away?

cornbb

TheGooner wrote:

I would love it if more non-scary random guys chatted to me in the street/bus/supermarket!

Hmmm, intriguing... but how many women feel this way?

ferdi

the doctor says any more Mace in my eyes will leave me with a periment visual impairment, so i dont do it anymore.

Huggles

LundiMardi wrote:

define non scary?

Actually, i'm more intrigued to see if a woman would have time for a man who did this who would be considered ''ugly''(not scarred for life or anything), but someone who they wouldn't normally find atractive. Would ya just blank him and run away?

non-scary=not a junkie/not carrying a weapon/not threatening/menacing in anyway

TBH it doesnt matter what a fella looks like as long as he is sound as, is able to string two words together and likes a good laugh!

ferdi

TheGooner wrote:

I would love it if more non-scary random guys chatted to me in the street/bus/supermarket!

cornbb wrote:

Hmmm, intriguing... but how many women feel this way?

you have to remember that when a woman say "non-scary" they actually mean "Good Looking"....or at very least a silver tounged devil who is confident, charming and generally good with words.

EDIT:

TheGooner wrote:

TBH it doesnt matter what a fella looks like as long as he is sound as, is able to string two words together and likes a good laugh!

sorry but...BS.

Pepe LeFrits

TheGooner wrote:

Yes I am a woman!

:eek:

Come on then Lundi, what happened?

LundiMardi

TheGooner wrote:

non-scary=not a junkie/not carrying a weapon/not threatening/menacing in anyway

TBH it doesnt matter what a fella looks like as long as he is sound as, is able to string two words together and likes a good laugh!

mmmm, interesting... and which establishments would you normally be found on the average day... a picture would be nice too hahaha

LundiMardi

ferdi wrote:

you have to remember that when a woman say "non-scary" they actually mean "Good Looking"....or at very least a silver tounged devil who is confident, charming and generally good with words.

my thoughts exactly.

Huggles

ferdi wrote:

you have to remember that when a woman say "non-scary" they actually mean "Good Looking"....or at very least a silver tounged devil who is confident, charming and generally good with words.

LOL ferdi I didnt say what you quoted me as saying!! shame on you!

Huggles

ferdi wrote:

you have to remember that when a woman say "non-scary" they actually mean "Good Looking"....or at very least a silver tounged devil who is confident, charming and generally good with words.

EDIT:

sorry but...BS.

No its not bull**** that is how I feel!!! Not all women are shallow that way! :mad:

LundiMardi

Pepe LeFrits wrote:

:eek:

Come on then Lundi, what happened?

well.. just incase people have it recorded, or want to catch the repeat...

One of the guys, the 6' 6'' one actually scored a girl on the last night out, he was actually the more nervous out of all of them, he really had a tough time approaching the ladies. But it worked out for him...

The big guy didn't score, but got a couple of phone numbers etc...

The little guy also didn't score, but did get on with the ladies...

Come to think of it, not too much happened, but all the guys had a big boost in confidence by the end...

The two experts were cool though, they weren't by any means brad pitts,, but they actually showed how it's ''done'', and went up to randomers on the street and they had the ladies eating out the palm of their hands hahaha!!!!, bastards!!:)

ferdi

its not shallow dear...its just genetics, no need to get defensive

Huggles

ferdi wrote:

its not shallow dear...its just genetics, no need to get defensive

I am getting defensive because your claiming that my general outlook in matters of relationships/men is BS...how else am i supposed to react LOL

Ruu_Old

TheGooner wrote:

I am getting defensive because your claiming that my general outlook in matters of relationships/men is BS...how else am i supposed to react LOL

What are you doing online anyway? You should be washing that stack of dishes and making my tea by around now. *runs*

ferdi

TheGooner wrote:

I am getting defensive because your claiming that my general outlook in matters of relationships/men is BS...how else am i supposed to react LOL

by letting me take you out for a drink tonight, meet you at half 9 outside hogans?

Huggles

Ruu wrote:

What are you doing online anyway? You should be washing that stack of dishes and making my tea by around now. *runs*

LMFAO! ***Biitchslaps Ruu***

Huggles

ferdi wrote:

by letting me take you out for a drink tonight, meet you at half 9 outside hogans?

Heheh Sorry Ferdi am in negotiations with another non-scary male

LundiMardi

TheGooner wrote:

Heheh Sorry Ferdi am in negotiations with another non-scary male

Me?

Yes, this is quite pathetic, but sure fúck it haha:D

Huggles

Of course Lundi, its only ever you

LundiMardi

TheGooner wrote:

Of course Lundi, its only ever you

That's right, say my name bítch..... Oh dear. haha

Huggles

LundiMardi wrote:

That's right, say my name bítch..... Oh dear. haha

Hee hee, so I guess you weren't actually paying attention to teh tv show then?

Ruu_Old

TheGooner wrote:

LMFAO! ***Biitchslaps Ruu***

Unf! I take it thats a no then?:) "Am wastin away!"

LundiMardi

show? what show? haha...

Tha Gopher

Lundi- you mention they went on a night out. Id assumed by approach, you just meant plain middle of the day girl is walking down the street and the lad saunters over and attempts to get her into convo. Hell, if its talking to birds on a night out even when stone cold sober (if its early like) then yeah, Id say everyone does it, and there arent too many women who would be afraid if you said something to them in the queue for the ATM in an attempt to start a convo.

However, if you did the same in the daytime, or sat right beside a bird on an otherwise empty bus, Id imagine theyd get freaked.

LundiMardi

the last night was a night out, the other times it was just in the street... Daytime, stone cold sober...

neoB

I don't mind guys coming to chat me up wherever. I think it's funny, it's unexpected and a decent change from boredom :P.
when I feel like it, and just feel spontaneous hell yes I'll chat up some dude just to pep up my day/evening. I don't mind if he is short uber tall or plain looking. You got personality, you got my attention.

Tusky

is it repeated ?

LundiMardi

Tusky wrote:

is it repeated ?

it's channel 4, so i'd say so... it will probably be on more 4 soon enough too if you have that.

monkeyfudge

If someone came up and flirted with me on the street I'd automatically assume they wanted my bank account details for Sight Savers.

takola

monkeyfudge wrote:

If someone came up and flirted with me on the street I'd automatically assume they wanted my bank account details for Sight Savers.

Was just thinking that!

slipss

LundiMardi wrote:

Anyway, i guess i'm just curious if many people here actively do this, as in, go up to women in random places, chat away, even if you are a person with low confidence, and do any women do it? Or do we all stick to places such as bars, clubs, parties etc...

Yeah I do it all the time, why not? I just can't get my head around people that will say, sit at a bus stop beside a girl and just stare out at the traffic. It's not nescesarily that I walk up to girls and start trying to chat them up, I just talk to them. But if I'm out and I see a girl that I fancy I will usually get talking to them. I'm not particularly confident or anything but I mean whats the worst that can happen. I have had a few moany bitches just give me one word awnsers like they don't want to talk to me, so I'd just say goodbye and walk off. But in general most girls are sound and will chat away happily. I've had a one night stands with girls I've met in bars and clubs ect. But any girlfriends I've ever had that I didn't already know socially I've met in day to day settings and just started talking to them, like sitting on a bus or just walking around town.

cooperguy

slipss wrote:

Yeah I do it all the time, why not? I just can't get my head around people that will say, sit at a bus stop beside a girl and just stare out at the traffic. It's not nescesarily that I walk up to girls and start trying to chat them up, I just talk to them. But if I'm out and I see a girl that I fancy I will usually get talking to them. I'm not particularly confident or anything but I mean whats the worst that can happen. I have had a few moany bitches just give me one word awnsers like they don't want to talk to me, so I'd just say goodbye and walk off. But in general most girls are sound and will chat away happily. I've had a one night stands with girls I've met in bars and clubs ect. But any girlfriends I've ever had that I didn't already know socially I've met in day to day settings and just started talking to them, like sitting on a bus or just walking around town.

Ya but how the f*ck do you start up a conversation with a randomer sitting across from you in the bus etc. All id come up with would be "Er hello......Whats your name" and that wouldnt get you very far

daveyjoe

cooperguy wrote:

Ya but how the f*ck do you start up a conversation with a randomer sitting across from you in the bus etc. All id come up with would be "Er hello......Whats your name" and that wouldnt get you very far

I do it sometimes, not even to chat girls up but just to be friendly. Best conversation opener is a compliment, something like "You have a lovely smile". It's innocent enough and it will make the girl feel at ease.

If your sitting next to a girl at a bus stop then make sure that you say 'hi' straight away, if you're sitting beside her for a while and come out with a 'hi' then it will probably be a bit uncomfortable.

Lust4Life

posted by LundiMardi:
Anyway, i guess i'm just curious if many people here actively do this, as in, go up to women in random places, chat away, even if you are a person with low confidence, and do any women do it? Or do we all stick to places such as bars, clubs, parties etc...

If you're a women, would you be freaked out if a guy just came over to you while in the street and just started chatting to you?

I'm a people person. I like striking up conversations with people. Isn't that what life is all about? Interacting with everyone else?
If someone were to randomly approach me and start up a conversation, it wouldn't freak me out at all.

L4L

LundiMardi

Yes but depends on his approach or how much stuff is going on in my mind if i'm busy thinking about a deadline in work or stressed or anything he'll be told to **** right off!!! *or something more nice and polite because i'm just like that!!!!

I wouldnt do it myself though!!!

LundiMardi wrote:

Anyone see this the other night? (This isn't a topic about the show, more about what the show was about etc... you'll see).

It was about 3 different guys with absolutely zero confidence in scoring girls and basically didn't have a clue where to start. All had issues relating to their appearance... one was 6' 6'' was extremely uncomfortable with it. One was very overweight and presumably uncomfortable with it, and the other was a ''little person''. Only 5' 3''.

Basically 2 ''experts'' were showing that size doesn't matter, and that ANY guy could have ANY girl. They were put to the test, as in, all had to just go up to a stranger in the street and basically start chatting to em. They were told about body language etc... and were even given the test to tell a girl she's sexy within minutes of meeting her.
Obviously, this was quite cringe worthy and i did actually have to turn over the channel on a couple of occasions haha...

Anyway, i guess i'm just curious if many people here actively do this, as in, go up to women in random places, chat away, even if you are a person with low confidence, and do any women do it? Or do we all stick to places such as bars, clubs, parties etc...

If you're a women, would you be freaked out if a guy just came over to you while in the street and just started chatting to you?

^CwAzY^

daveyjoe wrote:

a compliment, something like "You have a lovely smile". It's innocent enough and it will make the girl feel at ease.

wtf r u talkin about??? dats would scare the crap out of most girls, i wouldnt even say dat to my gf, ders sum right freaks on here tbh

Lust4Life

Gotta say, I used to work with a midget. And although he was nice and all, he always had to get a hug from all of us gals at the end of the shift.

Totally taking advantage of his size! He was Chest-High to all of us! Gave me the creeps!

monkeyfudge

Lust4Life wrote:

Gotta say, I used to work with a midget. And although he was nice and all, he always had to get a hug from all of us gals at the end of the shift.

Totally taking advantage of his size! He was Chest-High to all of us! Gave me the creeps!

Chest high isn't so small.. it's the crotch high ones you have to watch out for.

Jumpy

^CwAzY^ wrote:

wtf r u talkin about??? dats would scare the crap out of most girls, i wouldnt even say dat to my gf, ders sum right freaks on here tbh

Talk to your hand a lot do you?

Type properly. Text speak wont get you very far.

Lust4Life

Posted by Monkeyfudge:
Chest high isn't so small.. it's the crotch high ones you have to watch out for.

HA!
yes, those are the ones who ask what kind of shampoo you use... oh, I just don't have the heart to finish that line!:p

takola

^CwAzY^ wrote:

wtf r u talkin about??? dats would scare the crap out of most girls, i wouldnt even say dat to my gf, ders sum right freaks on here tbh

I have to admit that I agree here. If some guy came up and just said something like that to me I would be freaked out! I would probably say thanks and decide to walk wherever I was going! :eek:

daveyjoe

^CwAzY^ wrote:

wtf r u talkin about??? dats would scare the crap out of most girls, i wouldnt even say dat to my gf, ders sum right freaks on here tbh

You wouldn't tell your girlfriend that she has a nice smile?

To be honest, I don't go around telling girls that they have a nice smile but if I say hi to her and she has a nice smile then why not say it, as long as you don't sound like a weirdo.

If your uncomfortable saying it then the girl will feel uncomfortable too.

I'm not talking about coming on to a girl either, I'm just talking about making conversation. Girls feel more relaxed if you smile and they will warm to you if you pay them a compliment - fact.

LundiMardi

daveyjoe wrote:

You wouldn't tell your girlfriend that she has a nice smile?

To be honest, I don't go around telling girls that they have a nice smile but if I say hi to her and she has a nice smile then why not say it, as long as you don't sound like a weirdo.

If your uncomfortable saying it then the girl will feel uncomfortable too.

I'm not talking about coming on to a girl either, I'm just talking about making conversation. Girls feel more relaxed if you smile and they will warm to you if you pay them a compliment - fact.

you think telling a girl she has a nice smile ISN'T coming on to her?

Chucky the tree

Saw this program aswell, i also had to change the channel and few times. Awful cringe worthy indeed. Especially sending them to talk to 3 girls outside a cafe. Bad enough trying to chat with someone on their own, but with 3 of them would of been tough.

The fat lad came out with some gems when he was trying it.

AngryBadger

I don't think you can expect people to honestly tell you how they'd respond to that, for the simple reason that they can't possibly know until it happens.

Sure there are people here saying they've done it, and would again, but saying it doesn't make it so. I have no problem going up and starting a convo with someone(s) if i want to, but whether or not i do depends on a million little fibres (factors), the same goes for how I respond. Usually I'll at least thank someone, and more often i'll have a conversation with them since i appreciate the guts of someone starting on a stranger. But depending on my mood I could respond totally differently, I may not even be aware someone is flirting with, or complimenting me, (terribly self-absorbed).

Bottom line, there's no way to know how someone will respond from either side of this proposition, you can definitely take a best guess but that's all it is.

Honestly, I think this is just a smaller part of the much bigger (and older) question "How can i be guaranteed to score?", and there ain't no such animal.

daveyjoe

LundiMardi wrote:

you think telling a girl she has a nice smile ISN'T coming on to her?

It doesn't have to be, you're not telling her that she has 'a bangable ass' (my friend told a girl that once when he was drunk) or anything. It's a harmless compliment, if she gives you a dirty look then you can just pretend to be gay and keep calling her fabulous. While we're on the subject, did you ever wonder why girls get on so well with gay guys? One of the reasons is because they are always very complimentary of girls.

You can usually tell which girls are more outgoing and will respond better.

Why do so many people think that compliments should be reserved for when you're coming on to a girl?