Sisters Boyfriend

LegacyUser

Hi all,

Im only looking for opinions on this one, because theres not a whole lot I can do. OK here goes,

Im living at home with my parents, my sister and her boyfriend. The rest of my siblings have flown the nest. Im 27 and they are both 23. My sister and her boyfriend are living with us for the past 8 months and will be there for another 3 or 4 months, as they are building a house and its not finished yet. Now they dont pay rent at home, cos my parents are helping them save for the new house. They dont contribute to groceries, bills, absolutely nothing.

The thing is , he drives me insane. He's rude, obnoxious, arrogant, etc. Some examples:

He burps after everyhting he drinks (Not a little burp, one that I'd say the neighbours can also hear). He's also very proud of his burping talent!!

If anyone is watching a program on tv and the ad breaks come on, he will grab the remote and turn on the soccer until the ads are over.

He grunts at my sister every now and again to make him a cup of tea.(Bigger eejit she is).

He eats everything I buy (eg, frozen pizzas, yoghurts, etc..)

He drinks my beer in the fridge. Very rarely buys his own, and when he does he buys the cheapest of beer. (P**s water)

He does no work around the house. Its a struggle for him to make the bed.

At the weekends he does not move from the sofa.

This one really drives me nuts: He fills the kettle (now I mean nearly to the top) for a cup of tea, wanders off for about 10 minutes. Comes back. Boils it up again. Wanders off again. After boiling it maybe 4 times, he'll decide to actually make a cup of tea.

He uses my PC whenever Im not around. Im after deleting more crap from him looking at dodgy sites.

He leaves lights on, taps running, stereo on day & night, might forget 5 days of the week to lock the front door behind him, always late going to work (Always), the list goes on & on & on & on............................


Funnily enough besides the fact that he's a lazy ass scratcher, he's a nice guy. Dont ask me how, but he is. My sis thinks hes the Beez Neez

Im just get really mad sometimes. Anyone living with one of these?

Skyuser

You just don't like him and every little thing that he does annoys you, no matter what it is. But why don't you like him? Are you jealous of his and yours sisters relationship?

The Clown Man

He sounds like a laugh.

Velvet Vocals

Gosh, he sound just lovely!:rolleyes:
What an di*k Head!!! obviously your not jealous of your sisters relationship, who wants to be grunted at to make the tea that is when he's not burping or farting!
No, you'll just have to say it to your sister and get her to deal with it, I mean they are living in your space! Whatever about the burps and stuff you might not be able to get him to stop doing that, but you can get him to stop eating your food, drink your beer and using your pc!!! I mean FFS!

Diamondmaker

Thats sharing ehhh!!

Only thing you can do is talk to him about the larger issues:

Leaving the door open
taking your stuff etc..

And hopefully he can do something about it.

Tell him it IS only fair he chips in around the house tidying wise..get Sis to back you up.

Not much you can do about ones habits though , belching etc. Just gotta live with them. Im sure you have habits that annoy him.

You asre being a bit harsh moaning about him squeezing in his football viewing during the adds of your show and well... the kettle issue, hes obviously a bit daft but you are worse for thinking about it too much. Really whats so bad about either of these?

Its all part of the merry tapestry of life and different people, I thoguht I got over it all when I bought my own place but my GF has as many habits as any one else ever did!:D

Reckless_Joe

he sounds like most lads out there. Your probably just seeing the worst of him. Just grin and bear it for the next few months and password protect your pc.

damo

All the things youve mentioned there arent exactly deadly serious issues. I've been in that situation before where the person i lived with really got on top of me and every little thing he did got on my nerves. Unfortunately the only solution is one of you moving out.

zAbbo

Options:

#1 - Move out and find yourself somewhere to live, you are 27
#2 - Confront him/her about it.
#3 - Ride out the 3/4 months, then you can be only child again.

DOLEMAN

Raging wrote:

He burps after everyhting he drinks (Not a little burp, one that I'd say the neighbours can also hear). He's also very proud of his burping talent!!

Not a problem.

Raging wrote:

If anyone is watching a program on tv and the ad breaks come on, he will grab the remote and turn on the soccer until the ads are over.

Not a problem.

Raging wrote:

He grunts at my sister every now and again to make him a cup of tea.(Bigger eejit she is).

Not a problem.

Raging wrote:

He eats everything I buy (eg, frozen pizzas, yoghurts, etc..)

Are you exaggerating here? Could you tell him to stop?

Raging wrote:

He drinks my beer in the fridge. Very rarely buys his own, and when he does he buys the cheapest of beer. (P**s water)

Are you exaggerating here? Could you tell him to stop?

Raging wrote:

He does no work around the house. Its a struggle for him to make the bed.

OK. He should pull his weight. I don't see how his bed is your problem though...

Raging wrote:

At the weekends he does not move from the sofa.

Not a problem.

Raging wrote:

This one really drives me nuts: He fills the kettle (now I mean nearly to the top) for a cup of tea, wanders off for about 10 minutes. Comes back. Boils it up again. Wanders off again. After boiling it maybe 4 times, he'll decide to actually make a cup of tea.

Not a problem.

Raging wrote:

He uses my PC whenever Im not around. Im after deleting more crap from him looking at dodgy sites.

Are you exaggerating here? Could you tell him to stop?

Raging wrote:

He leaves lights on, taps running, stereo on day & night, might forget 5 days of the week to lock the front door behind him, always late going to work (Always), the list goes on & on & on & on............................

Hmmm. Sure...

I think the problem is you TBH. Yes it sounds like he could pull his weight a bit more, but this is hardly a reason to hate someone... I think maybe you are confusing being sick of seeing him all the time with him actually being a major problem...

Corben Dallas

LOL

Eats your food, uses your PC, is a TV remote Dictator, drinks your beer (and when shamed into replacing it) then replaces with 4 cans of 'Dutch Gold' LOL

Man u need to lay down the law here, hes using u, your family, u sister and everyone else u visits yur house as doormats and his personal servants.

>gave me a laugh reading it tho.
btw *the 'boiling the kettle 4 times B4 he actually gets round to making a cuppa' lark is him hoping that some ramdom person will see the boiling kettle and make him a coffee.

LOL

chuckles30

Move out and share with people of your own age for a couple of years - he'll seem perfectly normal after that!!

But if moving out is not an option, just ask him to leave your stuff alone. Everything else you just have to live with.

Nevyn

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Have a nice day.
Thaedydal

Zombrex

Raging wrote:

Hi all,

Im only looking for opinions on this one, because theres not a whole lot I can do. OK here goes,

He sounds like a bit of a scum bag (or used to having people look after him). I feel sorry for your sister

Tell him to stop taking your fecking stuff (if anyone I've shared a house with eat my food or drank my beer I would be raging .. and it has happened with this fecking arrogant idiot I lived with for a year in college) :mad:

Otherwise just hang on till they move out or move out yourself. Also maybe talk to your parents about it.

TerrorFirmer

Set this thread as your homepage for the next time he logs onto your pc

BeardyGit

Come on, what's this all about? Is this really a personal issue or is it just a bit of a whinge about someone?

I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt here and assume you really do see this as a terrible problem - Something that's causing you stress and generally become a real issue. Ready for it?

Your parents call the shots at the house in which you live - You don't. It's up to them to make the rules and enforce them, not you. They set the boundaries, not you. And you know what, you're not in any way in control and you never should be when it comes to how your sister and her partner behave. It wouldn't be right if he just ate and drank his way through the freezer but I doubt that's what's really happening. If you're coming here to look for advice about this, I'd guess you haven't even said it to him yourself, have you?

You're a 27 year old adult, still living at home (I bet you're a bloke), moaning about someone who's 4 years younger than you, who's not just 'dating' your sister in 'your' house, drinking your beer and eating all your pizza's (give me a break) and...here's the kicker....Buying his own house, with your sister, where he'll do the exact same things there.

You know what the fix to this one is? Move out and/or get over yourself. From what you've written, I'd say you need to think about getting yourself either a girlfriend (I'm guessing here - But you're giving me the clues) or a hobby - Because right now it's pretty obvious you have too much time on your hands.

Come on, will you? You're an adult for crying out loud......

DOLEMAN

HavoK wrote:

Set this thread as your homepage for the next time he logs onto your pc

haha that's actually a very funny idea!

Although I'm sure a polite chat with him/your sister could solve the problems...

Tobias Greeshman

I promote HavoKs idea

My god what a fecking lazy p**** to have to live with. Have you're parents not being p***ed off with his behavour, I know if my sisters bf acted like this he'd be shown the door.

I think it's about time you had a chat to your parents or your sister about his behavour. Hopefully that should be enough to sort it.

BeardyGit

Ah, okay, I'm not finished - Everyone's picturing Onslow from Keeping up Appearances, aren't they?

Think about this, they're in the process of building a house. Think about the amount of work you have to do to afford that. Think how skint you are in the lead up to buying a house. There's no way he's sitting around in his vest, scratching his nads and throwing peanuts at the mother in law to make him a cuppa and a bacon sandwich, is there?

The question the OP needs to ask is simply whether or not his sister is happy with this guy. If she is, he should be happy and simply put up with what's going on for another few months if that's at all possible. If this bloke was fleecing from his wallet, swearing at his mother, kicking the dog or bringing his drunken mates home for a feed from the pub, he'd have reason to complain.

But he doesn't. It takes all sorts - A popular and rather true saying. You say yourself that he's a nice bloke aside from these irritating 'qualities', true?

I don't think you're a muppet, okay? - I just think you should count your blessings instead of whinging about a few inconveniences. If he's a good bloke, give him the benefit of the doubt - Maybe consider that he's leaving every cent in the bank because he has to to get the mortgage signed off on completion of the house. It's not necessarily that he's a sponger - He may simply not realise that he's causing you some grief.....

I'm not saying you should take everything lying down - But decide if it's really worth having a go at someone instead of just rising above the situation and maybe seeing that it's circumstances that are causing him to 'nick' your beer and pizza, so to speak.

Gil

Vegeta

oh my god OP you know me???? only kidding

To be honest with you, you have 2 choices, put up with it until they move into their house or move out, after all you are 27

Cake Fiend

Have you told him that these things bother you?

layke

Sico wrote:

Have you told him that these things bother you?

What he said x 10.

It's not going to change unless you roll up the sleeves and put the knuckle dusters on.

Also, have you told your sis?

Static M.e.

If he drinks your beer he should replace your beer, same brand. if I came home and found my (Acholol beverage) repeatedly missing I would honestly freak out and I would consider myself a very calm person. Its just plain bad manners, and if someone had replaced with some p*** water I think that would just annoy me more.

Food wise, take your own shelf in the freezer and tell him and your sister you dont want them taking from it.

Apart from that you probably just need a break from living with them. It can be quite annoying having people move back into "your" house (Your parents place) after you having it to yourself for so long.

Win the important fights with them and you'll be fine. Thats food and Drink btw

LegacyUser

Im Female, not male, and no I dont fancy him or Im not jealous of my sister in any way.

OK I know im 27 but Im in college and not in any position to move out.

Yes it had been said to him a couple of times when they moved in at the start, to start pulling his weight or he would have to go. But as they say, a leopard never changes his spots!

I said it to him about 2 months ago about the food and drink thing. It stopped for about a week and a half but now he's back to his good old self.

Yea things might be tight while they are saving for the house, but things are tight for me too being a student and all that. If I couldnt afford to replace something I ate or drink, I would'nt consume it in the first place.

How can some people see this as perfectly normal behaviour? Can you honestly say that this wouldnt drive you mad.

LegacyUser

Oh, and no DOLEMAN, none of what I have said about him has been exaggerated. All very much true.

LikeOhMyGawd!

I think you may be in love with him but are in denial about it. If he didn't matter so much to you, you wouldn't notice his annyoing habits.

6th

Go to your mum and tell her you found that he'd been looking at REALLY dodgy sh*t! And that you had to delete it in case the gaurds got involved. Tell her not to say anything and watch her hit the roof. Cry if you can and say that what you saw really affected you - if you like make an appointment with ur GP and ask ur mum to go with you for support.

Problem solved!

Static M.e.

Dunno, I think your right, its bad manners basically.

Face the facts its not HIS house, its his GFs House. He has no rights and dont deserve any special treatment just because he is going out with her sister. It should be the exact opposite.

He should be helping around the house
Keeping his room tidy (5 year olds know to put the toys away)
Eating and drinking, grand he has too but constantly taking her drink which he has been told NOT to, is bang out of order.

Im quite sure he is a nice guy and he makes your sister happy which is very important and saving for the house which means no holidays or lavish spending. But not buying food or drink? thats just miserly espically considering how much he is saving living with her parents.

It baffles me how people dont see it.

LikeOhMyGawd!

6th wrote:

Go to your mum and tell her you found that he'd been looking at REALLY dodgy sh*t! And that you had to delete it in case the gaurds got involved. Tell her not to say anything and watch her hit the roof. Cry if you can and say that what you saw really affected you - if you like make an appointment with ur GP and ask ur mum to go with you for support.

Problem solved!

And don't forget to mention he's been using an Ouija board too

6th

LikeOhMyGawd! wrote:

And don't forget to mention he's been using an Ouija board too

Yep a pink Ouija Board with pictures of naked men on it!

Seriously my advice will solve the problem, might make a few more but he wont be living there anymore or he may just behave.

Velvet Vocals

Raging wrote:

Im Female, not male, and no I dont fancy him or Im not jealous of my sister in any way.

OK I know im 27 but Im in college and not in any position to move out.

Yes it had been said to him a couple of times when they moved in at the start, to start pulling his weight or he would have to go. But as they say, a leopard never changes his spots!

I said it to him about 2 months ago about the food and drink thing. It stopped for about a week and a half but now he's back to his good old self.

Yea things might be tight while they are saving for the house, but things are tight for me too being a student and all that. If I couldnt afford to replace something I ate or drink, I would'nt consume it in the first place.

How can some people see this as perfectly normal behaviour? Can you honestly say that this wouldnt drive you mad.

This would all drive me insane! I think your very good not to have hit him with something large by now! To be honest I'm as surprised as you are that no one else seems to be taking you seriously..... maybe that means there's something wrong with us:rolleyes:
But honestly, talk to your sister, say that you've reached the end of your tether and you don't think you can stand it for the remaining few months, try and be diplomatic about because you don't want to start a family fewd or anything! But say that he just has to either stop taking your things or at the very least replace what he's taken. In no way is he to use your PC without asking..... with that you could have a word with him on the side and say that you'll tell your sister about the stuff he's been looking at if he doesn't give it a rest!

Failing that girl, you'll just have to take it on the chin! Just keep telling yourself, it's only for a few more months, then they'll be in there new place and he'll be free to play couch commando while going commando, drinking his own beer and farting to his hearts content

6th

6th wrote:

Go to your mum and tell her you found that he'd been looking at REALLY dodgy sh*t! And that you had to delete it in case the gaurds got involved. Tell her not to say anything and watch her hit the roof. Cry if you can and say that what you saw really affected you - if you like make an appointment with ur GP and ask ur mum to go with you for support.

Problem solved!

i was taking it seriously when i posted the above.