Where to have sex when living at home

LegacyUser

Ok, i know there must be people in the same boat as myself. Seeing a girl kinda on off, dont want to get into too much detail on that score but when were out having a few drinks or what have you we inevitably want to have sex (make love whatever) but weve nowhere to go, we both live at home as its impossible to move out (21 y.o. student, shes the same 22 y.o. student) apart from the odd time weve free houses its just not happying. Ive a high sex drive and the older i get the more this annoys me. Does anyone have any ideas, my friends say i should book a hotel but thats pricey and i dont have a credit card.

The ideal night/situation for both of us would be to meet up in town, few drinks maybe some food then head somewhere for a romp for an hour or two then home on the nightlink (we both live on different sides of the city). Any ideas? Looking at maybe a hostel, but dont know if you can like book in for a couple of hours, then again id pay for the night. Also anyone heard of the shagging hotel, heard on Adrian Kenneddy phone show a year ago that there was a rumour that one was being opened here, like an american motel which are great.

Ickle Magoo

Have you spoken to your g/f about it? She may have some ideas about where you can both go....and she may have preferences about where you don't go...like a "shagging motel"! :eek::)

Sleipnir

Round by the bins at the back of McDonalds, you old honeydripper you.

seamus

Bushes, your cars, secluded beaches etc are all great. Bear in mind though that it's technically illegal. Half of the fun of being that young is finding yourself alone in the house for only a hour and scrambling to get the other person to you.

Sleipnir

Sleipnir wrote:

Round by the bins at the back of McDonalds, you old honeydripper you.

Ha Ha this reminds me of a story, one of sister mates was caught in the toilets of a Mc Donalds this paddys day
Definitly rosemantic all the way hehe
I sypathise with you but unless you have a older brother or sister or a mate with a house your fcuked (or in this case not)
but yeah try the usuals, beaches parks indutrial estates etc
If you want ideas for places check out that graden of eden safe sex advertisement they have plenty of ideas but remeber safe sex etc

Travelodge is a decent enough price for the night cost about the same as a night out
60-70 euro, a couple of bottle's of wine and a room for the night once a week theres your problem sorted

अधिनायक

Hiace mattress mirror towel ball-gag spliff.

ianmc38

coolsmileygirl wrote:

This reminds me of a story, one of sister mates was caught in the toilets of a Mc Donalds this paddys day

Touch-o-class

ianmc38

dying for it wrote:

Ok, i know there must be people in the same boat as myself. Seeing a girl kinda on off, dont want to get into too much detail on that score but when were out having a few drinks or what have you we inevitably want to have sex (make love whatever) but weve nowhere to go, we both live at home as its impossible to move out (21 y.o. student, shes the same 22 y.o. student) apart from the odd time weve free houses its just not happying. Ive a high sex drive and the older i get the more this annoys me. Does anyone have any ideas, my friends say i should book a hotel but thats pricey and i dont have a credit card.

The ideal night/situation for both of us would be to meet up in town, few drinks maybe some food then head somewhere for a romp for an hour or two then home on the nightlink (we both live on different sides of the city). Any ideas? Looking at maybe a hostel, but dont know if you can like book in for a couple of hours, then again id pay for the night. Also anyone heard of the shagging hotel, heard on Adrian Kenneddy phone show a year ago that there was a rumour that one was being opened here, like an american motel which are great.

Hey Casanova, a good romp at the shagging hotel, followed by the nightlink home sounds like a nice romantic evening for all involved.

If a restaraunt and hotel is a little pricy, then save yourself a few quid. Bring her to McDonalds get a happy meal each, a milkshake (2 straws) and then bring her upstairs to the toilets for a quicky. May as well kill two birds with the one stone and it'll save ya some €€€ too.

ianmc38

ianmc38 wrote:

Touch-o-class

True true but what can expect from 16 years old they also sneaked all their drink into the toilets and drank it there thats what probably led to the friskyness:)

also you sound mature and grown up enough to discuss this with your parents
If they are resonable enough they will let you have the house to yourself for the evening a couple of times a month rather than see you in a park/field/ ditch hehe
You'd be surprised, I was anyway if your in a relationship they should understand

EWheelChair

Why can't you just take her back to your house after a night out? Let her stay there or get a taxi home in the wee hours. You're 21, your parents would hardly ask questions?

I've been bringing girls back to my house after being out on the piss since i was 17/18.

ianmc38

EWheelChair wrote:

Why can't you just take her back to your house after a night out? Let her stay there or get a taxi home in the wee hours. You're 21, your parents would hardly ask questions?

I've been bringing girls back to my house after being out on the piss since i was 17/18.

Some parents aren't keen on it, mine included unfortunately.

6th

Where has she gone with past boyfriends? try ask her.

ando

coolsmileygirl wrote:

discuss this with your parents

OH MY GOD !!!!!??!!!!!!

"here ma, do you mind going out with dad tonight, I wana bring the bird back for a good shag" My mum would never ever do that for me...

Ickle Magoo

ando wrote:

OH MY GOD !!!!!??!!!!!!

"here ma, do you mind going out with dad tonight, I wana bring the bird back for a good shag" My mum would never ever do that for me...

Erm, no, but...

"here ma, do you mind going out with dad tonight, I wana bring the bird back for a romantic meal" may be more acceptable?!

ando

Ickle Magoo wrote:

"here ma, do you mind going out with dad tonight, I wana bring the bird back for a romantic meal" may be more acceptable?!

ahaa, I have a lot to learn

The_B_Man

my god, im in the exact same situation. this has been on me mind the last while. im totally finished college now and gonna be in need of some privacy over the summer and beyond, until i get me own place. might ring that fella off the telly to "get me outta here". my parents would make my gf sleep in the spare room so they're not good for discussin it either.

OP, what i'm gonna do is just wait til theyre asleep and do the dirty then. One night stands are more difficult coz u have to sneak her out the next mornin without the parents seein her.

i dont liek the idea of sex motels either coz how often are the sheets changed? u could probably be shaggin in someone else juices! bleurgh!

Ruu_Old

Maybe book a meal for your mam and dad, while they are away bring her on over and have your fun. You dont have to rush her off or anything, watch a film or something and your parents will come back and you can introduce her.
"x came over and wanted to watch a film, hope it was ok"

LegacyUser

coolsmileygirl wrote:

True true but what can expect from 16 years old they also sneaked all their drink into the toilets and drank it there thats what probably led to the friskyness:)

Scumbags. Jesus Christ. That's just filth.

OP, i recommend you get a credit card and book a hotel room! Otherwise it's going to be wrecking ur head. U could both just split it...and it's cheaper than going for a meal!

Going Demented

My parents are the same, no way in hell was my boyfriend allowed in my room. He used have to sleep on the couch. So just waited till everyone was gone to bed and did it there. Same scenario when i stayed in his house. Only got caught once, and told to keep it down by his parents twice. Just wait till everyone is gone to bed and pray to God no one gets up for water! And the car of course. Other than that i dunno apart from forking out for a hotel room, which is gonna add up

Zebra3

Going Demented wrote:

My parents are the same, no way in hell was my boyfriend allowed in my room. He used have to sleep on the couch. So just waited till everyone was gone to bed and did it there. Same scenario when i stayed in his house. Only got caught once, and told to keep it down by his parents twice. Just wait till everyone is gone to bed and pray to God no one gets up for water! And the car of course. Other than that i dunno apart from forking out for a hotel room, which is gonna add up

Yeah, used to that with a bird I went out with when I lived at home. She'd stay in our house and me being the gentleman would give up my room and sleep on the couch. Get back from clubbing at 3.30am when everyone (fingers crossed) would be asleep and nail her in the front room before sending her off to bed. (Put the duvet on the floor and do it there, the couch can be very noisy in the middle of the night).

The great thing about this is that there is nothing strange about her being in your room. That's her room for the night/weekend. So be the gentleman and check the next morning that she's ok. If you're quiet/quick enough, you can have round 2. Even better if your folks are gone to do Saturday morning shopping or Sunday morning mass!!!!

Enjoy, cos as someone else posted, it's half the fun of being young. Simply dying for the next piece of action.

*Starts to feel old*

Going Demented

You're right. It was half the fun. When we moved in together and had all the privacy in the world we just weren't bothered.

The good old days.

To the OP: hope you find sort of solution.

Selik

When I was living at home (back in the day!) I used to just take my girlfriend to my room (if my bro was away, I shared it with him :eek: ). That or downstairs on the sofa or on a duvet on the floor. Never got totally busted although there was a few close calls. Funnily enough my Mum must've known but she never said anything really and neither did I! Car's also good if you have one and you know some good parking spots.

Ya gotta do what ya gotta do bro!

elivsvonchiaing

If she's up for it - take her home after your folks are in bed. Put the kettle on make two cups of tea (looks good ) - pour out a bowl of peanuts/whatever.

Both keep your clothes on - if they walk in on you shagging - No - embarassment; Just "Jesus I think she's alergic to.../she choking on... quick call an ambulance!"

Manolo Blahnik

Find a field somewhere
Bus station Unisex Bathroom
Or just go round one of yere back gardens at night who's gonna see

ThankGod I never had that problem

LegacyUser

whats the stupid big deal with kids from dublin suburbs not moving out of their parents house as soon as they get their first job? in all fairness. grow up. just rent a house/flat like a normal person and get on with things. i'm lucky enough not to bump into these kinds of people very often, i guess most of my friends have moved to dublin from elsewhere or are smart enough to realise that if u havent moved out of your parents gaff by the time you're 24 you're missing out on a lot in life - this issue in particular.

other than that, my parents never had a problem with my boyfriends staying over once i was 18, and a few times before that. at first it was a bit expected he'd sleep in the spare room, but that was mostly just me thinking it, after a few months that got old, and he'd just stay in my room with me. if its something u dont want to discuss with them, u can always just be like "oh yeah, we're watching a film in my room" wait til they're gone to bed, fool around, fall asleep/whatever, then they get up go to work, no one knows where anyone was. depends on your house set up i guess. but i'd say most parents would be just as embarrased to bring up the subject of where u both slept last night, so everones likely to just shut up and pretend they dont know.

but i just think it stupid that people go on for so long not moving out of their parents house, cause i dunno, they think they're too good for rented accomodation or its too much of a risk something. cop on.

renting houses is deadly: u get to move around every year or so. you're not stuck with some long term commitment/mortgage. you learn stuff about the real world and paying bills and so on. you meet new people and/or get to live with your friends, and learn stuff about living with people and being independant. and.. YOU GET TO HAVE SEX AND SPEND THE NIGHT WITH YOUR PARTNER. regular like. thus you learn more and get way more mature about adult relationships, and so are more likely to be a well balanced individual.

end rant.. sorry.

Beruthiel

dying for it wrote:

but weve nowhere to go, we both live at home as its impossible to move out (21 y.o. student, shes the same 22 y.o. student).

have you asked your parents if it's ok for her to stay over?

Sam Vimes

grownups wrote:

whats the stupid big deal with kids from dublin suburbs not moving out of their parents house as soon as they get their first job? in all fairness. grow up. just rent a house/flat like a normal person and get on with things.

tell you what, i'll move out if you pay the 70000000000 euro a month it costs to rent a place in dublin. and unlike in the sticks, our colleges are within a short commute so moving out is an unnecessary expense.

to the OP, the best way is when the parents are either downstairs or in bed. it adds to the excitement when you know you can get caught my dad was once had the living room door half open and i had to close it in his face so he didn't see my girlfriend naked

Talliesin

Just ask your parents if you can have your gf stay over.

Leave the issue of where she'll be sleeping unspoken unless they actually ask you "which one of you is taking the sofa?".

Your parents may be already aware of the fact that many 22 and 21 year olds have sex.

Unless they're very green, or think you're very green, they probably assume you do anyway.

azezil

Talliesin wrote:

Just ask your parents if you can have your gf stay over.

Leave the issue of where she'll be sleeping unspoken unless they actually ask you "which one of you is taking the sofa?".

Your parents may be already aware of the fact that many 22 and 21 year olds have sex.

Unless they're very green, or think you're very green, they probably assume you do anyway.

Yeah I say just bring her over, parents never like it but get over it.

I know what worked with my family was to first tell them I'm seeing someone, introduce them... then after a few visits, I'm sure they'll have no problem with her staying over.

Same here, though its usually not an issue for me since I live in the middle of nowhere and anyone coming to visit is a big deal, plus he has a house
In any case, bring her over a few times, let the family get used, then at some point they'll be ok with her staying in your room

LegacyUser

Move out like a man. Get some **** room for e70 a week and split the costs. Thats the price you pay for sex.

LegacyUser

A word of warning re the car thing:

I was recently in the same situation as yourself (ie no place to go)

Decided after being out for a couple with the gf to go back to my car (had driven to the pub having picked up the gf - planned to leave the car down town (not Dublin) and walk to pick it up tomorrow) as it was the only place we could go (both live with parents, both 20)

Wasn't planning on driving as had had a few... however after we were finished we were cold so I switched on the engine for the heater - Garda car arrived from nowhere and proceeded to tell me that being over the limit and having keys <b>in the car, not even in the ignition</b> was enough to be done for drink driving. So watch that I was lucky that the guard was sound and believed that I had no intention to drive...

Lucky he hadn't come by 5 mins earlier though

Nevyn

well be careful

people in cars can cause accidents,
accidents in cars can cause people.

Always be as safe as you can.

LegacyUser

Commander Vimes wrote:

tell you what, i'll move out if you pay the 70000000000 euro a month it costs to rent a place in dublin. and unlike in the sticks, our colleges are within a short commute so moving out is an unnecessary expense.

dude, all kinds of people manage to pay rent in dublin. i think moving out of your parents is a really necessary step in the direction of becoming a well adjusted mature adult. heres a list of unnecessary expenses all those dublin college kids and their parents are probably wasting money on everyday instead of moving out:


-playstations/xbox/whatevers (to distract you in the evenings from the fact that you are over 18 and still living at home - you delve into an immature fantasy world)

-ipods (to listen to while you take 2 different buses and walk 30 mins to get to college, cause obviously your parents dont live in the city center/near your college)

-cars (cause where your parents live is actually wicklow/kildare/an hours commute away from college)

-loads of over priced drinks in clubs/pubs (cause u can't exactaly have a session with your friends in your parents house)

-designer clothes (so you can try and look like you're important, even though u feel like a child)

-dvds (movies - where all the cool people don't live with their parents)



and its bad enough if you're still in college living at home, if you've finished college and are STILL living at home, then my god...

Moojuice

Ah leave th OP alone. I was stuck at home after college as I couldn't find a job. As soon as I did though I was out of there and have not looked back. Its great. Just recently moved in with my GF.

OP, look for a job and after you have been earning for a month or two move out. Dont take the first ****ty job that comes your way just so that you can move out, get one you like and pays well enough.

Some months are tight but mostly I get by fine. I dont smoke or drink though so that obviously makes a huge difference to my cash flow.

Moo

LegacyUser

Just have sex anywhere, there are plenty of alleyways available in Dublin I'm sure, not classy by any means, but it's great fun. Or a park or something!! If you want a marathon session get a hotel room but besides that enjoy the quickies, they're great fun. Honestly I went through it for a while with my Ex, until ye sort out ye're own place enjoy the excitement. Sorry Mam!!

Dudess

Zebra3 wrote:

nail her in the front room before sending her off to bed.

Zebra3 wrote:

If you're quiet/quick enough, you can have round 2.

That's so beautiful...:o *wipes away a tear of emotion at the beauty of two young people in love*

Zebra3

Dudess wrote:

That's so beautiful...:o *wipes away a tear of emotion at the beauty of two young people in love*

Who said anything about being in love?

I'd guess from the OP's posts that it's as much about lust as love.

Dudess

Zebra3 wrote:

Who said anything about being in love?

I'd guess from the OP's posts that it's as much about lust as love.

I'm only messing with you, ffs! Your choice of language was rather, how should I put it, not exactly imbued with tenderness...

Zebra3

No bother, but the language did reflect the way things were back then. For both of us.

Now I need to find a girl who is still living at home to bring those 'emotions' back again.

crazy days

Book a two week holiday in the sun .....and go wild!

Other things you could do is go on short breaks at weekend and spend some quality time together.

Dudess

Zebra3 wrote:

No bother, but the language did reflect the way things were back then. For both of us.

Now I need to find a girl who is still living at home to bring those 'emotions' back again.

Tee hee! When you're, not to put too fine a point on it, gagging for some action I suppose there's no point in being coy with the old language.:)

OP, what about your mates' houses (as in, those who are living in rented accommodation). That's what I used for nookie when I was living at home. Most of the time, people are pretty happy to oblige. Now it's not going to be a regular thing, but most weekends are ok. It's kind of what happens anyway when there are parties going on and stuff.

LegacyUser

Moojuice wrote:

Ah leave th OP alone. I was stuck at home after college as I couldn't find a job. As soon as I did though I was out of there and have not looked back. Its great. Just recently moved in with my GF.

OP, look for a job and after you have been earning for a month or two move out. Dont take the first ****ty job that comes your way just so that you can move out, get one you like and pays well enough.

Some months are tight but mostly I get by fine. I dont smoke or drink though so that obviously makes a huge difference to my cash flow.

Moo

as soon as you finish college, you move out. if you can't find a job right away, its grand, just sign on the dole. they give you 165 a week plus rent allowance (which is whatever your rent costs).

really, i can't see how you can spend more than 165 a week unless you're really dumb with your money, or you're buying loads of really stupid stuff. i even managed to save money when i was on the dole, and i wasn't even gettin rent allowance. and i drink/go to parties at least 2 nights a week.

life's so much better when you don't live with your mother. you've only got a short amount of time where you can be young and stupid and cool, don't waste your twenties in the same house you grew up in.

cornbb

I feel your pain OP. You mentioned you're both students. Colleges have empty remote corridors and bathrooms at night. I know thats not the most romantic thing anyone's ever come up with, but desperate times call for desperate measures, and the risk element can be fun

LegacyUser

I used to have this problem a few years ago and reading some of the posts just brought it all back home again! We used to take a trip up the Dublin Mountains at night, up past the Hell Fire Club Car Park on the way to Glencree and pull in on the road on the left just a few minutes before Glencree village, it's very remote up there, loads of peace and quiet for sweet luvin!

Von Manstein

Your parents bed while there in work

fatherdougalmag

Sex with each other or sex with other people?

seamus

Glencree wrote:

I used to have this problem a few years ago and reading some of the posts just brought it all back home again! We used to take a trip up the Dublin Mountains at night, up past the Hell Fire Club Car Park on the way to Glencree and pull in on the road on the left just a few minutes before Glencree village, it's very remote up there, loads of peace and quiet for sweet luvin!

Be careful. Years ago my brother used this trick (in that exact area), only to have the the driver's window of my Mum's car smashed in with a baseball bat, and all their money robbed from them. As best I remember, he never scored with that particualr girl

Motley Crue

dying for it wrote:

Also anyone heard of the shagging hotel, heard on Adrian Kenneddy phone show a year ago that there was a rumour that one was being opened here, like an american motel which are great.

why does it not suprise me that you listen to this show talking the way you do. as for this place, ive never heard about it, but why dont you look into a friend letting you stay at their house (double dating would be pref, and both couples could go back to the house at the same time and not mind each other) and you can have sex, or maybe under a bridge or in a park, me and the missus used to do that quite a lot

Motley Crue

Von Manstein wrote:

Your parents bed while there in work

done that