Disatrous first date, need second date Ideas

LegacyUser

Need advice on a second date. Here's howthe first one went down. Her - fourty five minutes late. Missed play. Me - drunk sitting after sitting in the Pub for Three hours before hand. Her - Not drinking cause she's on painkillers and Anti Biotics. WE go to the cinema. I continue drinking, a bottle of brandy I have stashed in my pocket. As you can gather I knew at this stage the night was not going to end well. Film ends we leave I get another drink and try to get her to start. She says best mate is on here own and asks can we cut things short so she can go over to here. Me Fine with this. Her - Ask when we should meet upp again she's going to spain for three weeks and would like to meet up chen she comes back. I drunk and annoyed and tell her I'am off to olso the week she gets back but Ill meet up the following week. Ie This week. No kiss on cheek, no hug or shaking hands. I write her speach off as plesentrys and go to the next bar on my way home. At 0730 the following morning I get a text apologising and saying she cant wait to meet up. Need Dates Ideas. Cant let this one go tits up. Have to ring here Wensday

Lorri_L

Why don't you try do something different, maybe just start off with dinner only, and maybe try not to drink much. I'm not judging you but if you were as drunk as you say, she couldn't have enjoyed herself a huge amount.

A tip would be treat her like a queen, worm you way in!

Mr E

Hcram - Were you drunk typing the above post too?

Cut down on the drink. Nothing wrong with a little dutch courage, but getting langers won't help. She is obviously into you if she put up with that.......

LundiMardi

Hcram wrote:

Need advice on a second date. Here's howthe first one went down. Her - fourty five minutes late. Missed play. Me - drunk sitting after sitting in the Pub for Three hours before hand. Her - Not drinking cause she's on painkillers and Anti Biotics. WE go to the cinema. I continue drinking, a bottle of brandy I have stashed in my pocket. As you can gather I knew at this stage the night was not going to end well. Film ends we leave I get another drink and try to get her to start. She says best mate is on here own and asks can we cut things short so she can go over to here. Me Fine with this. Her - Ask when we should meet upp again she's going to spain for three weeks and would like to meet up chen she comes back. I drunk and annoyed and tell her I'am off to olso the week she gets back but Ill meet up the following week. Ie This week. No kiss on cheek, no hug or shaking hands. I write her speach off as plesentrys and go to the next bar on my way home. At 0730 the following morning I get a text apologising and saying she cant wait to meet up. Need Dates Ideas. Cant let this one go tits up. Have to ring here Wensday

what the hell were you drinking for? And who in gods name sneaks a bottle of brandy to the fúcking cinema!!?? I'm surprised she wants to see you again tbh.

seamus

My advice for next time is to take it seriously. Even if she was on time and drinking, you would have been half cut when she arrived and trollied by the end of night.

On the first few dates, heavy drinking beforehand is a no-no, and you should always share drinks - that is, if you're out for dinner get a bottle of wine between you. If you go to a pub afterwards, don't keep knocking back the pints, pace yourself and match her drink-for-drink. You're guaranteed that you'll be always very slightly more sober than she is, and you don't come off as a drunk.

LegacyUser

i'm supprised you got a second date after that carry on.

cinema's a bad first date, cinema locked, and on the knacker...... i'm not even sure if this is a legit post.

idea's for a second date, try and show a little class and not act like an alco muppet.

that said, i don't think you'll have to do much, her standards obviously aren't that high.

chump

TBH I doubt very much she'll answer your calls.

Why would she after your last performance?

Fanny Cradock

that was pretty shameful behaviour. no excuses for getting that drunk before a date even begins. continuing to drink after you knew she wasn't drinking was just rude!

assuming she actually does meet you again, avoiding any sort of alcohol may be a way of redeeming yourself. actually, maybe staying off the booze full stop would be an idea. and i'm not trying to be a smart arse there!

Blisterman

Try going to a restaurant, and maybe a romantic walk somewhere.

Dave!

Why would you sneak a bottle of brandy into the cinema? What's the point? Getting drunk on your own -- fun...

cotwold

Your first date sounded fine anyone she probably saw that you had a few cause she was late although you might want to keep away from drinking in the cinema, or any public place for that matter and especially brandy (it screams alcoholic):o

Faith

The whole thing just sounds horrendous. If I turned up to meet a guy who was already drunk and yet he CONTINUED to drink, I'd write him off as an alcoholic and never contact him again. I cannot imagine why she would want to meet you again.

Like everyone says, if by some bizarre occurence, you actually do see her again, don't even dream of drinking, ESPECIALLY if she's not!

fletch

You sound like an alco to me.....I'm quite surprised she said she was interested in meeting up again.....you must be drop dead gorgeous or summit....
I once met up with someone in a club and they were yoked off their head...needless to say, they got no text from me again.

LegacyUser

Hcram wrote:

...WE go to the cinema. I continue drinking, a bottle of brandy I have stashed in my pocket. ...

What? Who does that? She fancies you anyway and you should drink less.

As for the next date meet early saturday, mooch around and then go for dinner.

Forget the cinema and theatre.

And don't drink.

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crosstownk

I'd say you blew it.

AngryBadger

man...you make it hard for me to fight your corner when you spend 3 hours drinking before a date, and then continue drinking from a stash of brandy you have hidden on your person.

I'd say invite her to dinner somewhere nice. it'll offset you making a total prick of yourself on the first date.

Also, why was she 45 minutes late? Just to balance things out a little

rsynnott

Possibly consider doing something not involving alcohol next time (not that a trip to the cinema would normally do so...) But to be honest you're terribly lucky to be getting the second date.

metrovelvet

Alcoholics Anonymous

gsand

erm

Im not feeling as scathing as everyone else.

She was a fair bit late (altho 15-30 is not terribly unusual in the circumstances imo) and you were probably nervous, keen to be cool and not shaky so you had a few drinks. No biggie there once you can handle it and not be crazy. I dont think id be too impressed if she was late, missed play then bailed...unless that was just an excuse to escape.

bottle of brandy stashed is questionable and quite strange but ive heard worse i suppose.

id recommend diner in a nice spot, couple of drinks, then walk/drive her home. if shes keen maybe some drinks the next night and work from there.

Esel

gsand wrote:

...id recommend diner in a nice spot, couple of drinks, then walk/drive her home....

Nice advice there.

The OP

LundiMardi wrote:

what the hell were you drinking for? And who in gods name sneaks a bottle of brandy to the fúcking cinema!!??

A loser does.

danger mouse

I remember bringing Beer into the cinema, when I was 14-15. would'nt think about doing it now.The OP sounds like he may be in trouble with the drink. To even think about bring a stash of brandy on a date should turn set of alarm bells in any normal drinkers head.

LegacyUser

She was late because she feel asleep and only woke when I rang her. This girl is no saint either. She is VERY good a manipulating men and has knowinly let me drive her homw when I have had drink on me. She also spends 6 out of 7 of her nights in casinos. TBH I had written a second date off and only consideredn it when she sent me a text. Iam just trying to figure out if she was just being polite or not

LegacyUser

I should also point out that I only wipped out the bottle after the film, which was the horrible chich flick Casanova. The girls Iseal man is a mix of Richard Harris, Jack Nicolson and Pete Doherty. She wasnt to shocked when I pulled out he ottle and suggested that I should buy hip flask cause it would be "cool" she's 18 Iam 21

justsomebloke

hmmmmmmmmm, although both of yous sound perfect for each other, in a i've taken to much prosac sort of way. I think this realtionship is going to end in failure as yous are both bringing to many problems to the relationship and neither of yous will be able to be a support tool for each other

jubi lee

eh hcram i don't think there will be a scond date. sorry but if she has any sense she won't even answer your call.

if a guy turned up to a first date with me drunk, that'd be it, i wouldn't have even bothered sitting thru the cineama. The smell of drink off you must not have been too attractive. And asking to cut things short to go see her friend??? that was a way of getting out of it!

LundiMardi

Hcram wrote:

She is VERY good a manipulating men and has knowinly let me drive her homw when I have had drink on me.

Are you a fúcking retard or something? Cop on!

shroomfox

Next time, get twice as drunk.

And tell her to "Shut the hell up!" when she doesn't say anything.

Nevyn

Personal abuse is no allowed in this forum reguardless of how clueless the poster is.

Hcram my suggestion to you is that you try going on a date sober that you
show the girl at least that much respect and that you go and use the wonders of the internet too look up good manners and how to behave on a date.

Lindaloo

If the girl is a manipulator and you know it, why do you want to go out with her again?

With regards the drinking, cut it out, I know if I met a fella for a first date and he was locked it would make me slightly wary (I would take nerve into consideration to a point) but if he pulled out a bottle in the cinema, I wouldn't want to meet him again because it would signify big problems down the road.

You obviously aren't into the girl if you had written off a 2nd date, it was only when she suggested it that you thought about it. Move on to someone who isn't a manipulator and start afresh, without the drink.

Zulu

shroomfox wrote:

Next time, get twice as drunk.

And tell her to "Shut the hell up!" when she doesn't say anything.

Nevyn

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Thaedydal

slumped

OP may have thought of that old saying

Brandy, Brandy,
Makes you Randy:D

Seriously, alcohol can affect people in so many different ways. Try a sober date, then you will know exactly what she is like, AND vice versa.

S

scargill

shroomfox wrote:

Next time, get twice as drunk.

And tell her to "Shut the hell up!" when she doesn't say anything.

oh good god. I haven't laughed as loud in work in a long time

LegacyUser

Lindaloo wrote:

If the girl is a manipulator and you know it, why do you want to go out with her again?

With regards the drinking, cut it out, I know if I met a fella for a first date and he was locked it would make me slightly wary (I would take nerve into consideration to a point) but if he pulled out a bottle in the cinema, I wouldn't want to meet him again because it would signify big problems down the road.

You obviously aren't into the girl if you had written off a 2nd date, it was only when she suggested it that you thought about it. Move on to someone who isn't a manipulator and start afresh, without the drink.

I really do like this girl. Apparently she really likes the fact that its very hard for her to manipulate me

mountainyman

Hcram wrote:

... She is VERY good a manipulating men and has knowinly let me drive her homw when I have had drink on me. She also spends 6 out of 7 of her nights in casinos...

Is she a croupier?

MM

shroomfox

Apparently she really likes the fact that its very hard for her to manipulate me

Hmm. Does she say this as you handbrake wildly into dustbins and grannies with a bottle of whiskey in one hand?

Tim06

guys the op asking a question in his first mail.. fair enough not really everyones cup of tea, getting hammered and going to the pictures certainly wouldn't be mine but no reason to crucify him.

I dunno, if she was off the painkillers would she like to go to the pub. You say that she goes to the casino 6nights a week. Maybe you should take her there for a night out. Most girls i know would run a mile at the suggestion of that for a date but everyone to their own.

LegacyUser

Still woiting on some firm Ideas....... Anyone